Life on the Swingset: The Podcast

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

The Gentleperverts' Social Club

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

Intellectual Foreplay

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

Sex Ed A Go Go

Sex Ed A Go-Go is one part sex q&a, one part comedy show and a whole lot of fun. Get the ins and outs of in between the sheets naughtiness from Lola and the Pussy Posse!

The Don't Panic Podcast

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

Tell Me Something Good

A live sexy storytelling event in Toronto and a Swingset.FM podcast, both created and organized by Sophie Delancey and Samantha Fraser. We believe that storytelling brings people together. Whether it's from revealing shared experiences or opening eyes to new ways of thinking, TMSG storytelling is honest, it's raw, and it's sexy.

Multiamory

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

The Kinky Geeks

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

Pedestrian Polyamory

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

Eat The Rudecast – A Podcast about Hannibal

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

A Damn Good Podcast about Twin Peaks

Life on the Swingset is a podcast and website about swinging, polyamory, and open relationships from the trenches. Through debates, interviews, and sexy discussions, The Swingset Crew tackles sex, relationships, and their accompanying accoutrements, and what it means to be open sexually in a world that’s often closed.

#401 – Kissing is Taboo Again? – Elevator Speeches & Safety

How did kissing become so complicated... again? Swinger culture still features a choice, to kiss or not to kiss, that other non-monogamous folk don't usually make. These days, the stakes around kissing are higher, and that's complicated things as simple as kissing to say hello . Ginger, Prof, Tonia, Dylan, Lunabelle, Tonya, and Tyler get

#400 – ReEmergence

Dylan, Ginger, Tonia, and Prof get back together to properly toast Life on the Swingset's 400th episode! The crew invites back Lunabelle, Tyler, and Tonya, and welcomes D into the fold to discuss ReEmergence and discovering intimacy... again. The crew discusses what returning to normal might look like during a time ... very much not

SS 399: We Go Meta on Swinging and Making the Sausage… and talk Sex Toys – from Friday Night Delights from February 5th, 2021

Ginger, Prof, Tonia, and Dylan get together on a normal Friday in February 2021 to plan a podcast about swinging... and almost fall into the trap of talking about swinging. Swingset gets meta, discussing swinging as a verb, swinger as a noun, new england accents, and ...talking about Sportsheets and sex toys and restraints. a

SS 398: Swingset as a Place… with Princess Vi

Princess Vi and I talk about what it means to build pop-up inclusive, welcoming, and sex friendly communities, and we wander about discussing what goes into that secret sauce... and what it feels like when you get it right, and ... when you don't have it. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make

SS 397: …and at least one amorous bird on this resort. – Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 2

Continuing on from Part 1 of our live podcast on our trip in Cancun, Ginger initiates a tonal shift, Keeley makes sure everyone knows that more than gang bangs happen, Cooper talks about birds, Prof shares more deep thoughts, Tonia shares joy while serving the people, Ginger makes sure everyone knows that gang bangs happen,

SS 396: …what sets us apart, brings us together. – Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 1

Swingset is a place, at least that's how we think of it today. We created the Swingset Community for the tenth time at Desire Resort in Cancun, QR, MX, and gathered our attendees to listen to Keeley, Cooper, Ginger, Tonia, Ryan AKA The Professor, and Dylan get together and talk about the trip up until

SS 395: The Trouble with Tribbing, a Sexy Story Share

Ginger, The Professor, Mike Joseph, Tonia, and Dylan get together for a Friday Night Delights recorded on June 25th to share some sexy stories and talk about growing relationships and sharing managing multiple identities, Also... big gong energy and tribbing. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels

SS 394: Camp Swingset Live! – At the Half-Baked Homestead

Tonia and Dylan sat down at the Half-Baked Homestead, lovingly put together by Rapunzel, Colin, and Oengus, to talk about what Swingset gatherings mean (if anything) and what we try to do when we put temporary community together. Talk touches on current events - the attack on trans familities rights to exist, a post roe

SS 393: Swingset Takes Desire 2021 LIVE in Cancún!

Life on the Swingset returns to Cancún to retake Desire in 2021!  Special guests Eve Rickert and Lyndzi and co-hosts Mike Joseph and Keeley join Cooper, Tonia, and Dylan to talk about their experiences on-resort after choosing to defer the 2020 trip, and invite audience members to comment, cheer, and jeer!   You can find

SS 392: Personal Stories on Changing Intimacy Over the Last Two Years – A Friday Night Delights Conversation with Catherine

We continue the conversation from SS 388: The Power of Witness in Relationship Therapy, by sliding into how intimacy has changed over the last couple of years. Dylan, Ryan, and Ginger continues to welcome Catherine of Expansive Connection while Tonia joins in on the fun! Also... more love for Gestalt therapy! Help support Life on

SS 391: The Desire Mid-Week Check-In, featuring Co-Hosts Mike Joseph and Keeley!

We made it to Desire in 2021 and decided to take the temperature of the room... the very, very hot room that we couldn't turn the air conditioning on in because it would have ruined the recording environment. Cooper, Dylan, and Tonia along with guest co-hosts Mike Joseph and Keeley get together and check in

SS 390: “Things can be messy, but things don't have to be toxic.”

With this episode, we emerge from our reduced pandemic release schedule where our focus was on virtual Swingset community events to connect and sustain us through challenging times, and refocus on the podcast. We invited Eve, Marissa, Celeste, Rose, and Melanie with an intimate conversation about navigating toxic relationships. We're grateful for these five courageous

SS 389: Nerdy Banter with Simone and Malcolm – The Pragmatist's Guide to Sexuality

Join Dylan, Ryan aka Prof, and Ginger in a nerdy discussion about sexuality data and human behavior. Simone and Malcolm Collins, the authors of The Pragmatist’s Guide series, take to the Swingset to talk all manner of intriguing and confounding sexiness. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live

SS 388: The Power of Witness in Relationship Therapy with Catherine

Join Dylan, Ryan, and Ginger as they host Catherine of Expansive Connection. Catherine offers her perspective on relationship therapy and her Power of Witness experience. It can be a challenge for those in polyamorous, open, and multipartnered relationships to find qualified helping professionals who not just tolerate nontraditional relationships, but elevate and celebrate the strengths

SS 387: Euretic Consent with Shawn Coleman and Kevin Patterson

Shawn Coleman and Kevin Patterson join Ginger Bentham, Ryan Bentham, and Dylan Thomas, to discuss consent. They talk practicing consent in every day life. "Consent has to exist in our every day lives and not just be a concept in the legal system." The concept of euretic consent, a term Shawn Coleman has offered the

SS 386: Thank You Betty Dodson – On Bodysex and More – Friday Night Delights – 2020-08-14 (Part 2)

Tonia, Dylan, Ryan the Prof, and Ginger unwind with the Swingsetters after a busy workweek to delight in the Delights on a Friday night for an eclectic array of conversations. Ginger gets on a roll sharing about her double mastectomy and DIEP flap reconstruction, and then doubles (heh) down to worship Betty Fucking Dodson and

SS 385: The Shame of Desire, the Consideration of Risk – Friday Night Delights

Ginger, Tonia, Ryan aka Prof, and Dylan get together for a night of Friday Night Drinking and Delights and accidentally have a deep conversation about desire, shame, selfishness, risk-aware relative to sex and COVID-19, exposure networks and the complication of the return of feelings of jealousy and selfishness, but not before engaging in discussion on:

SS 384: A is for Adequate – Friday Night Delights with Cooper, Bradford, and Angela – 2020-06-26

Shame kinks. Pubic hair. Quarantine Partners. Australia. We're covering all our bases today with Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, The Professor, and Angela and Bradford from the By the Bi podcast! Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us

SS 383: Black and Poly in These Times

Ruby Johnson LCSW takes over Life on the Swingset and brings Dr. Justin Clardy, Thomas of wearibukun.com and Vision By Thomas,  Charita Marie, and Jhen from the Monogamish Podcast to offer their experiences being black and polyamorous in the midst of covid and the uprising. You can find Ruby Johnson LCSW on Twitter and Instagram

SS 382: My Damn Gangbang Got Cancelled By COVID – Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-17

It's clear from Life on the Swingset reviews that the first episode people listen to greatly shape opinions about the show. If this is your first, getting angry over gangbangs being cancelled, talking about Con Air (the movie) and hair dye is par for the course. Enjoy listening to Dylan Thomas, Tonia Thomas, Ginger Bentham,

SS 381: COVID-19 and STI Stigma, with Ella Dawson – Friday Night Delights – 2020-05-22

Ella Dawson joins Ginger, the Professor, and Dylan to discuss reactions to people with / without COVID-19, and how it may affect public discussion surrounding STIs and stigma surrounding people living with STIs. Ella Dawson gave a TEDx Talk about how STIs aren't a consequence, they're inevitable. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to

SS 380.5 – An Edible Sized Multiorgasmic Nonejaculatory Minisode – Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-10 (Part 2)

Coming off an episode about snowballs, needles in clits, and edibles, Ginger, Prof, and Dylan attempt to drink more and largely fail as Ginger's computer died, Prof laughed, and Dylan couldn't pronounce words. Welcome to the minisode! Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into

SS 380: A Sensual Snowball Behind My Back – Friday Night Delights 2020-04-10 (Part One)

Another night in April, another Friday Night Delights! Dylan, Ginger, and The Professor get together and talk butt stuff, pins in clits, drinks and edibles, and somehow find ways to come to profound understandings of each other in the current context of the world. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and

SS 379: The Hangover – The Krazy Winter Nights Steakhouse Postshow

Dylan, Cooper, Ryan, and Ginger found their way out into the frozen landscape of Omaha in January in search of meat, tantalizing steaks that is. During this Swingset field trip during Krazy Winter Nights, the foursome relaxes into a feast paired with cocktails and delicious conversation. Recording on location at the steak house means just like

SS 378: Don't Invest in the Rest, Invest in… the Sex. Also Malört. – Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-03, Part 3

Our April 3rd Friday Night Delights with the Swingset has proven quite fertile. Mr. and Mrs. H (@BedHoppersUK) sign off after fucking while podcasting while Tonia (@tonia_swingset) signs on.  Dylan (@DylantheThomas / @DylantheThomas@Swingset.Social), Lunabelle (@Ninjasexology) and Bradford, Angela, and Ian the Gentlemen (@BytheBiPodcast) reminisce about good times at Desire 2019 (and a desire for a

SS 377: Shaving with Straight Razors and Podcasting HARDER, Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-03, Part 2

Our April 3rd Friday Night Lights with the Swingset episode continues featuring Dylan Thomas, Mr. and Mrs. H (The Bedhoppers), Angela, Bradford and Ian (By the Bi), and Lunabelle. Out of this group of seven, one and a half adults appear. "GO ON, PODCAST HARDER" - Mr. H "It's my goal to get married couples

IF 022: Flogging and Magic – Part II

While the world has indeed shifted since Ginger and Ryan recorded this meandering conversation about plans for 2020, the commitment to personal growth is as important as ever. Enjoy this second half of their deep and optimistic musings on one lovely Sunday afternoon.     Send feedback or suggestions for topics to Ginger and Prof!

SS 376: The British Commonwealth Bidet Invasion – Friday Night Delights – 2020-04-03

Today's episode was recorded live in front of a Patron supporter live audience! As part of our Friday Night Delights series, Mister and Mrs H, Angela, Bradford, and Ian The Gentlemen joined Dylan for an accidental pre-show for our regularly scheduled Friday Night Delights episode on April 3rd, 2020. It's possible we've hit peak anus,

SS 375: Connection and Love During Unprecedented Times – Friday Night Delights with the Swingset

Ginger Bentham and Dylan Thomas get together with Swingset patrons to connect about connection, both with the people around us and in our communities. In uncertain times, we're making changes to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID-19 while still finding ways to be human to each other... and kind to ourselves. They also get

SS 374: Unf_ck Your Polyamory with Dr. Liz and Kevin Patterson

Dylan and Ginger host Kevin Patterson and Dr. Liz Powell to discuss their new educational project: Unf_ck Your Polyamory. Whether it is relating to metamours, balancing time with partners, or communication, communication, communication, sustaining fulfilling polyamorous relationships requires a commitment to personal growth. Kevin and Dr. Liz are here to help! Help support Life on

SS 373: Pushing Your Boundaries – Live at Krazy Winter Nights 2020!

Ginger Bentham, Ryan (The Professor) Bentham, Dylan Thomas, and Cooper S. Beckett braved the great white northern territories of Maine and Chicago to travel to the great white northern territory of Omaha, NE to attend Krazy Winter Nights 2020! Their session, Pushing Your Boundaries, featured each member of the Swingset Crew relaying both their early

IF 021: Flogging and Magic – Part I

It's a Sunday morning, well, afternoon actually after an especially adventurous night. Ginger and Ryan are lounging in the afterglow. The conversation then turns deep and introspective as they explore where their paths have taken them over the last year. From flogging to magic to future intentions, join Gin and Prof as they contemplate how

SS 372: Finding Quality Information About Open Relationships with Emma and Fin

Dylan, Ryan, and Ginger invite Emma and Fin from Normalizing Non-monogamy onto the Swingset to discuss finding quality information about how to open your relationship. When getting started in consensual non-monogamy, it is easy to get overwhelmed by the volume of information available. This discussion includes strategies and advice for finding quality guidance, as well

SS 371: The Whole Damn Preshow – Live before Krazy Winter Nights 2020!

Ginger, Ryan, Dylan, and Cooper get together on Krazy Winter Nights 2020 eve, grab some Denny's, and ... a convertrainwreck follows. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live panels and shows into the future! Throw us a dollar (or a few) each time we release an episode on

SS 370: Parenting While Solo Polyamorous and More

Dylan and Ginger invite Lunabelle and Tikva, of Kimchi Cuddles, to talk parenting: what it is like to parent solo when you are polyamorous and what it's like to be solo polyamorous as a parent. Inspired by a listener question, the group dives deeper into the the practicalities and the the lived experience of parenting

SS 369: A Sex Toy Story

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan the Prof, and Lunabelle share their experiences with incorporating sex toys into play. The weird, the intimidating, the playful, and the practical, all have a place in the action if everyone is agreeable. The group talks about when things have gone awry and when the toys made play transcendent. Climb up

SS 368: Gangbang the Mailbag 40: More Action with Bex and Kevin

Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson join Dylan and Ginger on the Swingset to give perspectives on some listener questions. From sharing you are polyamorous with your partner for the first time, to thoughts for an adventurous "unicorn," to navigating group sex, these listeners asked and the Swingset answered. And buy Kevin's fantastic new book, "For

OTWC 39 – Texting, Sexting, and Messaging

There's a certain art to crafting the right kind of message to convey what we're feeling via characters on a screen. Since so much of modern communication is done on said screens it can be a lot of work figuring out your personal style and mode of messaging. Non-monogamous people spend extra time communicating with

SS 367: Gangbang the Mailbag 39 with Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson

That Swingset mailbag we all know and love was getting pretty full of listener questions. And since there is always a swing available on the Swingset, Dylan and Ginger invited Bex Caputo and Kevin Patterson to share their wisdom. The foursome takes on questions about mono-polyam relationship sustainability, supporting your partner's dating life, and finds

SS 366: Swingset Takes Desire 8.0, Live at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancún!

A resort full of Swingsetters walks into an oceanside gazebo...as you may imagine chaos and heartfelt moments ensue. Amidst the sea of sexies, Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper reflect on the eighth annual Desire Riviera Maya takeover with one magical night yet ahead. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on

SS 365: Podcast Gangbang in Paradise! (feat. By the Bi and The Bedhoppers)

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan, Ophelia, and Cooper arrive early to the gorgeous ocean-side live podcast venue. They host Mr and Mrs H, the Bedhoppers, and Angela and Bradford of the By the Bi podcast for paradise-fueled, freeform, live podcast foreplay. As the gazebo starts to fill with Swingsetters, this large and motley crew discuss the

SS 364: Dispatches from Desire

Dylan, Tonia, Ryan the Prof, and Ginger fall into a few stolen moments on the eighth annual Swingset Takes Desire trip. With the sounds of the ocean and the hot tub in the background, they each take turns waxing philosophical about whatever topic seems to float through their paradise-addled minds. Not quite a bad cast,

IF 020: Creating Smooth Sailing in Relationship Communication

Ginger and Ryan take you for another sail while they reflect on communication in relationships. Healthy and unhealthy, effective and ineffective, and strategies for moving through the simultaneity of emotion and challenging communication. In this longer episode the first fifteen minutes of the journey are breezier than usual, but hang with it, dear listeners, sailing

OTWC 38 – Accountability and Consent – On The Wet Coast

Accountability and Consent can feel like the least fun topics to discuss when it comes to sexy lifestyles but when we really focus on building these factors in a way that lets go of the definitions used by the justice system and focuses on the subjective experiences of the parties, our kink and sexytimes can

SS 363: Premature Desirejaculation

Join Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, Ryan (aka Prof), and the Swinger Doc as they storytell and anticipate the eighth Swingset Takes Desire trip. This annual bacchanal brings with it the excitement of anticipation (read: foreplay) and the exhilaration of dreams come true. As reminiscences morph into future possibilities, listen in as desires are laid bare. And really

SS 362: Keeping the Sexy in Risk Aware Sex

Dylan, Tonia, Ginger, and Ryan (aka Prof) are excited to invite the Swinger Doc back onto the Swingset. As the Swinger Doc says, "Be safe but be sexy!" Stewarding your sexual health and deciding for yourself what risk aware means for you are facets of living in the consensually non-monogamous world. The crew discusses all

IF 019: Coming About and About Coming

Ginger and Ryan get frisky and talk orgasms while sailing. While orgasms obtained by any method are delightful, some climaxes create a little more toe curlin' than others. Ginger puts Ryan on the spot to name his top five ways to orgasm and she returns the favor. Come aboard! (Heh.)   Send feedback or suggestions

OTWC 037 – Disappointing Dates – On The Wet Coast

It's no secret that On The Wet Coast, we love our sex toys. Using those toys for strap-on sex is one of our favourite ways to engage with partners, or watch our partners engage with others. Though in some ways it is as simple as popping a dildo in a harness and getting to work,

SS 360: Sustaining Open Relationships Through Life's Challenges (Part One), Live at #Naughty2019

Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan present live in front of an audience at Naughty in N'awlins. Not your typical swinger convention topic, the trio share their heartfelt stories about loss, health and medical trauma, and facing death. It's not often on the Swingset that the crew shares about such heavy and activating topics, so choose wisely

SS 361: Sustaining Open Relationships Through Life's Challenges (Part Two), Live at #Naughty2019

Dylan, Ginger, and Ryan present live in front of an audience at Naughty in N'awlins for part two of their panel, Sustaining Open Relationships through Life's Challenges. Not your typical swinger convention topic, the trio share their heartfelt stories about loss, health and medical trauma, and facing death. It's not often on the Swingset that

SS 359: Reviews and Riffin'

Dylan and Ginger hang out with the Swingset patrons for a live podcast of reviews, listener questions, and some ridiculousness. Ryan The Professor makes his way into this episode like a wrecking ball to share his thoughts. From solo polyamorous parenting to fluid-bonding, these three climb up on the Swingset to riff. And riff they

SS 358: Pushing Your Edge – Personal Growth Through Sexual Adventure, Live at #Naughty2019

Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper presented in front of a live audience at Naughty in N'awlins 2019 about how sexual adventure impacts one's personal growth. Sharing stories, lessons they've learned, and strategies they've employed during their sexual adventuring, the Swingset crew invites you to explore your own personal growth. Pushing your edge and being curious about

IF 018: Intimacy Through Technology (and Sexy Storytime!)

Ginger and Ryan invite you onto the deck in the sunshine as they opine about one of their favorite sex positions! Eventually they get to talking about different apps, media, and technology that cultivate intimacy between the two of them and also among their whole polycule. One part saucy storytelling, one part tech discussion, and

SS 357: Swingset Origin Stories, Recorded Live at #Naughty2019!

Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper visited New Orleans for Naughty in N'awlins 2019! Among the the sexiness and debauchery, Naughty offers educational sessions and demonstrations, and spaces for panel discussions. in this episode, the Swingset crew relays their origin stories: Where they are, where they were, and how they got there. Tristan Taormino is coming to

SS 356: The New Swinger Experience!

We all start somewhere in the lifestyle and the Swingset is an ideal place to access that welcoming hand! Dylan and Ginger are joined by two wise, experienced, and fantastically fun couples: Diana and Keiland, party hosts from Dallas Texas, and Tori and Soul of the Torrid Souls podcast. This dynamic discussion covers practical topics

OTWC 036 – Strapping It On – On The Wet Coast

It's no secret that On The Wet Coast, we love our sex toys. Using those toys for strap-on sex is one of our favourite ways to engage with partners, or watch our partners engage with others. Though in some ways it is as simple as popping a dildo in a harness and getting to work,

IF 017: Getting Naughty!

In the first ever episode with guests, Ginger and Ryan are joined by Dr. Dave and Dylan in a bedcast from our trip to Naughty in N'awlins after a stellar dinner and then a creative round one of sexy time. All manner of New Orleans reflection including delicious food, drinks, and desserts parlay back into round two of sexy time for the evening. Prepare to find yourselves hot and bothered not only by the spicy conversation, but also the incidental pleasure sounds from the stage bed in that Naughty in N’awlins penthouse. While this episode may still be considered intellectual, it is heavy on the foreplay, sapiosexuals. Prepare yourselves accordingly.

SS 355: The BBW Experience, w/Carly and Ronda

Dylan and Ginger enjoy a conversation with Carly and Ronda about the Big, Beautiful Woman (BBW) experience. In a powerful and vulnerable discussion, Carly and Ronda share their journeys and the source of their personal power. As voluptuous, fat bitches, they generously share their strategies for everyone, especially the BBWs, to navigate the world with

OTWC 035 – Sexual Confidence – On The Wet Coast

We're always told that confidence is sexy, but how do we find the confidence to be our true sexual selves? How do we embrace our bodies and our kinks so we can enjoy the kinds of sex we desire? Finding the confidence in ourselves while living in a society that is all about tearing us

IF 016: Examining our Relationship(s)

Ginger and Ryan dig deep into their own relationship, as well as their current and past poly relationships, and explore what's worked for them and where they've fallen short. They call this process ‘holding up the mirror' for each other to reflect back to each other the real thoughts and emotions they've experienced in their own relationship, as well as with their poly partners. Ginger courageously owns her own past mistakes around “re-entry” from when Ryan had sexual experiences that didn't include her.

SS 354: LOTS x Sex Out Loud @ Pleasure Chest Chicago! (Part 2)

Tristan Taormino brings Sex Out Loud and Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper bring Life on the Swingset to the Pleasure Chest Chicago for a two hour chat and attendee Q&A about: Bisexual Male Acceptance Swinging and community Welcoming People, including Racially Diverse, people into the community White Supremacy, Fragility, Shame Spirals, and Erasure Single Men and

IF 015: Our Becoming and Truthtelling

Ginger and Ryan pickup from the story of his multiple strokes in Episode 14 and discuss how it's impacted their relationship and life perspectives. (Part 2 of 2)

IF 014: Back from the Edge

Ginger and Ryan (aka Prof) reveal the story of Prof’s multiple strokes and the myriad ways that this near death experience has shifted both their perspectives and impacted their relationship. (Part 1 of 2)

SS 353: LOTS x Sex Out Loud @ Pleasure Chest Chicago! (Part 1)

Tristan Taormino brings Sex Out Loud and Dylan, Ginger, and Cooper bring Life on the Swingset to the Pleasure Chest Chicago for a two hour chat and attendee Q&A about: Bisexual Acceptance Kink, including Tristan's stories from Twisted Tryst Single men at sexy and kink events How to find community ...and more! Would you like

OTWC 034 – Chosen Family – On The Wet Coast

Finding your people can be one of the most important things you do as you make your way in the world, and when you find them, it feels like coming home. Feels like family. Many of us have found a group or groups of people we consider to be family. Chosen family as opposed to

SS 352: Away With Our Partners!

Dylan Thomas and Ginger Bentham are both without their partners. Dylan and Ginger decide that it's more fun to cope with their traveling partners by dragging them kicking and streaming onto the Swingset! The Swingset welcomes back Tonia Thomas and Ryan, also known as... The Professor! Would you like 20% off on an award winning

SS 351: Parenting is F*cking Hard

Parenting is fucking hard... so Ginger Bentham, Lunabelle and Dylan Thomas get together to talk about it. They discuss working around child sitting, showing affection to partners, how open to be at various ages, and more. Would you like 20% off on an award winning line of restraints, sexual position devices, sex toys, and more?

OTWC 033 – Get Your Flirt On – On The Wet Coast

Figuring out how to express our interest in someone can be one of the most challenging things in dating, especially if we find them really attractive, fun, or interesting. What do we say? What if they're not into it? Why is it so hard to express ourselves in a fun, clear, non-creepy way? If what

MA 218: I've HALTed. Now What? – Multiamory

We had a good ranting session during recording the previous episode in regard to gender specific experiences when it comes to having arguments and yelling. We chat about how raising voices and expressing ones self differs by gender and how it is percieved can be gender specific as well. We compare how yelling is percieved

MA 217: Commitment in Non-Monogamy – Multiamory

Commitment is so often misunderstood when it comes to non-monogamy. We discuss definitions of commitment and identifying the traditional markers of commitment we've all grown up with. We realize that it can be difficult defining what it means exactly within the confines of non-monogamy as it doesn't necessarily fit the stereotypical mold (but that is

THE 350TH EPISODE SWINGALONG SPECTACULAR!

The Life on the Swingset crew, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Mister Pent... and maybe even, could it really be, Cooper S. Beckett, get together and enjoy each other's company for the 350th episode of Life on the Swingset! Tristan Taormino is coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this

MA 216: What is Emotional Support? – Multiamory

So what exactly is emotional support. How do you ask for it? How do you go about learning what kind of emotional support that you need. What kind does your partner need? Even not knowing what kind of support you need in the moment and admitting it can go a long way! On this episode,

OTWC 032 – Sex Work Matters – On The Wet Coast

Since the passage of FOSTA/SESTA in the US, sexual content on the internet has been progressively quashed, starting with shutting down places sex workers could advertise but flowing forward until Tumblr was all but shuttered when they were no longer allowed to have sexual content. Various agencies drop the scare words ‘sex trafficking’ and the

SS 349: Ginger and Dylan Catch Up and Rediscover Themselves

Ginger Bentham and Dylan Thomas sit down together and catch up! They've had a lot of life happen in a very short amount of time. Ginger relays her experience in the desert, Dylan talks about moving through swinger spaces at takeovers and clubs, and they read and comment on lots of listener reviews! Tristan Taormino

MA 215: The Science of Jealousy – Multiamory

Jealousy happens in all types of relationships, but what is the science behind why we respond with jealousy to certain situations. What happens inside our bodies and minds in response things that make us feel jealousy. On this episode, we explore the scientific why behind jealousy and some ways to combat that internal struggle. If

MA 214: Ghosts of Normativity Past – Multiamory

Are you suffering from a Monogamy Hangover? We'll give you a dose of medicine to help cure what ails you. Many of us have been given a set of relationship expectations growing up and with changing those expectations, some pieces of those old beliefs and expectations are still left over. On this episode, we talk

SS 348: Sex Out Loud at Swingset Takes Desire 2018

Tristan Taormino hosts Sex Out Loud, LIVE, at Life on the Swingset Takes Desire 2018, in Cancún, with co-hosts Cooper S. Beckett and Ginger Bentham! Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this 2019 for Life on the Swingset’s eighth trip to Desire! Visit swingsetdesire.com

OTWC 031 – Libido & Desire – On The Wet Coast

Our desire for sexual experiences–both solo and with a partner or partners–fluctuates for countless reasons. Stress, fatigue, hormones, depression, body image, and connectivity are just a few of the things that can affect a person’s libido. Since we live in such a sex negative society talking about negative impacts on libido are considered frivolous since

SS 347: Squishing Off – Getting Experimental with our Genitals

Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, and Lunabelle of Ninja Sexology dive deep into the many ways genitals love stimulation and chat about being experimental with genitals. Lunabelle talks about Squishing Off, the Tantus Anaconda, and the Tantus Hoss. Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this

MA 211: Thinking Critically about Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity – Multiamory

What does Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity actually mean? There is a lot of confusion surrounding these terms. People have a tendancy to throw these terms around with little to no explanation which just seems to add to the confusion. On this episode, we attempt to help define these two terms as best as we

MA 210: Take the Fight Out of Your Fights – Multiamory

Conflict is inevitable, but conflict can be productive. Everyone gets into fights and arguments but that doesn't mean your relationship is unhealthy or in trouble. On this episode, we talk about fighting fair instead of fighting dirty. Some of us fight with the misconception that we MUST win the fight to succeed. Sometimes we fight

SS 346: Gang Bang the Mailbag 38 – Ideas about Size, Smooth Divorce, and BBWs

Tonight the Swingset opens the mailbag... but does so carefully, as it's -20F outside. Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Bex Caputo, and Lunabelle answer your listener questions! Question 1: My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. We have amazing sex, but I can't seem to get satisfied sexually. We have sex/oral sex at

MA 209: To Cohabitate or Not to Cohabitate, that IS the Question – Multiamory

Are you currently living together? Thinking about moving in? Why do you want to move in together? On this episode, we tackle some of the situations & questions that arise when cohabitation is on the table as well as statistics about living together for couples. We cover questions to ask yourself, actionable items to make

SS 345: Infinite Ways to Love and Play – A Nonmonogamy Panel

Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Lyndzi Miller, along with Kayla moderating, discuss nonmonogamy in a panel titled: Infinite Ways to Love and Play. This was recorded LIVE at the Tool Shed, An Erotic Boutique, in MIlwaukee, Wisconsin. Bradford and Angela are coming to Desire… are you? Join us from November 2nd through the 9th this

MA 208: Failure Is An Option – Multiamory

Failure is always an option, but it doesn't have to be the end of the world. We hear about failure quite a bit when it comes to schooling and even jobs/career but failure doesn't always get talked about in regard to relationships. It seems to be a dirty word when it comes to relationships because

MA 207: Self-Sabotage – Multiamory

Listen all ya'll, it's a sabotage! Okay this episode isn't really about the famous Beastie Boy song, it's about something much more serious. Self-Sabotage can be a vicious cycle. On this episode, we tackle self-Sabotage in relationships and in life. Procrastination, addiction, self-worth issues and so much more. We also provide some insight on how

OTWC 030 – Building Community – On The Wet Coast

If you're lucky, the place where you're living has a thriving sex -positive community and it takes little effort to find and take part in events such as meet-ups, workshops, and conventions. Most likely, that's not the case and either there isn't much of a community or the community that is there doesn't align with

MA 206: Attraction Perceptions & Misconceptions – Multiamory

What exactly IS attraction? How important is attraction? Why are we attracted to certain people or attributes? There are a lot of myths and misconceptions floating around out there. On this episode, we tackle what attraction is, how it affects who we choose as partners and even how attraction is related to sex drive. We

SS 344: Kira Royale and Mike – A Café Swingset Interview

Kira Royale and Mike joined us in 2018 for our trip to paradise, and when Dylan Thomas put the call out for interviews, they physically jumped at the opportunity. They discuss swinger spaces and what makes a space truly great, connecting with other people, and their experiences in the lifestyle. Join us in Paradise from

MA 205: Anger is Good for You – Multiamory

Anger is usually viewed as bad or something that should be stifled from a very young age. However, anger can be a force for good too! A lot of folks tend to repress their anger or express it in unhealthy ways. In this episode, we cover how to use your anger in a more positive

MA 204: Metamour Troubles & Struggles – Multiamory

What happens when you don't get along with your metamours? Or perhaps one of your metamours doesn't like you and you feel stuck in the middle. Today, we cover some of the struggles you might face in your polyamorous relationship(s). Things won't always go perfect, so we cover ways on how to properly deal with

BTB 142: 50 Shades of Crap – By the Bi

Welcome back, dear listener. Since we've started podcasting, we have had so so many people ask us what our thoughts are about the Fifty Shades of Grey movie. Recently, we FINALLY sat down with our notebooks to watch this movie. Oh wow... why did we agree to do this? If you HAVE seen the movie

SS 343: Total Desire Recall 2, Part 2!

JV Altharas, and Shara Bono once again join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas to continue discussing the debauchery and delight that was... Life on the Swingset takes Desire 2018. Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already over 45% booked so get those early

SS 342: Polyamorous Authors and Representation, with Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan

Authors of the new Paperback, For Hire: Operator, Alana Phelan and Kevin Patterson, join Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, and Ginger Bentham to talk about being polyamorous authors and writing with an eye on representation and being true to ourselves. Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already

MA 203: Tackling Insecurities – Multiamory

Today we tackle insecurities. Insecurities tend to affect our relationships and ultimately overall our happiness. We open up and share some of our own personal insecurities that we are currently dealing with. But don't fret, we provide ways to alleviate those insecurities while still maintaining your sense of humility and not compromising boundaries. If you

BTB 141: Orgylicious – By the Bi

This episode is all about orgies! We being with talk about the health and safety aspects, play style conflicts, and some of the things we have learned from multiple orgies that we have experienced. In the second half, we tell some of our favorite recent orgy stories. Some of our experiences from MMMF to MFMFMF

OTWC 029 – Consent – On The Wet Coast

Consent is a topic that has been an essential part of the non-monogamy experience, though not everyone is great at asking for or respecting it, and some feel like we talk about enthusiastic consent too much. In monogamous dating, it has only recently become a more nuanced discussion than the No Means No message that

BTB 140: Live from Desire Riviera Maya! – By the Bi

Hello and welcome wonderful listeners. In this episode, we proudly present our first ever podcast recorded in front of a live audience. We recorded this midway through our week at Desire with the Life on the Swingset takeover and we had already had MANY firsts that we discuss. We sit with the Swingset crew and

SS 341: Total Desire Recall 2

Tristan Taormino, JV Altharas, and Shara Bono join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas in reveling in the debauchery and delight that was... Life on the Swingset takes Desire 2018. Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked so get those early bird

MA 202: Polyamorous Superhero Fiction – Multiamory

We speak to Kevin Patterson & Alana Phelan author's of For Hire: Operator. The book is an all encompassing love story and super hero novel all wrapped into one. 2 women of color with super human powers whose story touches on subjects on consent, polyamory, gender-non-conformity, safe sex practices, sex clubs and more! These super

BTB 139: Welcome to 20BiTeen!!! – By the Bi

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Welcome not to 2019 but to 20BiTeen!   In this episode, we interview the masterminds behind Bi+ Visibility, BiCONIC, and the #Bseen movement. We talk about each of these extremely important movements for the bisexual communities. We'll talk about the birth of these platforms and also the recent work we did with

SS 340 – Tay, Jay, Lara and Patrick – A Café Swingset Interview

Life on the Swingset takes Desire 2018 was a rousing and rejuvenating success. During the trip, Dylan put out a call: Would you like to be interviewed? If so, bug me! Patrick, Lara, Jay, and Tay answered immediately and couldn't wait to get on, so... pull up a seat in Café Swingset and listen in

BTB 138: The Swingers of Christmas Past, Present, and Future – By the Bi

Merry Christmas constant listener and new listeners alike! In this episode, we go on a Christmas Carolesque journey of our own swinger selves from the past, the present, and the future. We discuss how our styles have changed, what we look for in peoples/partners, and how we meet the folks that we play with. Thank

SS 339: Just the Three of Us – A Café Swingset Chat

Uneven, difficult, unique, surprising, evolving, exceptional. These are all words that describe Cooper's, Dylan's, and Ginger's lives on the Swingset.  Tonight they turn down the lights, sit across the table, and chat... "Just the three of us." Join us in Paradise from November 2-9, 2019 for Swingset Takes Desire 2019! We are already 30% booked

BTB 137: Desire Resort Full Recap (Part 2) – By the Bi

We have had so many questions about our recent trip to The Desire Resorts in Cancun Mexico and we were trying to decide the best way to answer them all, so we asked The Gentleman to come over and interview us about the experiences. We've split the interview into two episodes. In this one, the

MA 201: Are you ready to be polyamorous? – Multiamory

Is anyone really ever ready? This week we delve into the different signs that determine if you are ready to become polyamorous…or not. We talk about personal attributes that are helpful to have when beginning a new relationship style, red flags to watch out for when you are starting out, and our own personal experiences

OTWC 028 – Have You Met Flick? – On The Wet Coast

We're doing something a little different on this episode. Many of you know a whole lot about Kat Stark thanks to their blog posts and book Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut. Their co-host, co-conspirator, and true love is more of a mystery since he doesn't blurt his shit all

BTB 136: Desire Resort Full Recap (Part 1) – By the Bi

We have had so many questions about our recent trip to The Desire Resorts in Cancun Mexico and we were trying to decide the best way to answer them all, so we asked The Gentleman to come over and interview us about the experiences. We've split the interview into two episodes. In this one, the

MA 200: 200 Epsiodes Later – Multiamory

It's Multiamory's milestone 200th episode! We take part in a veritable retrospective hootenanny – sharing which tools, research, and lessons from creating the show that have had the most long lasting effects on our relationships and ourselves. Turns out that talking about sex, relationships, and communication every week for 200 weeks has some interesting outcomes!

BTB 135: Passion, Pendulum, and Parties – By the Bi

In this episode, we take you to Passion in Paradise in FNQ. We talk about the experiences that we had at PiP including the 2 classes we presented (blow jobs and cock massage & nuru massage). Next, we talk about our most recent Pendulum Party (Number 7 for those keeping count!) and it was definitely

SS 338: My Dinner With Swingset in Paradise – A Dinnercast

Join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas, and Ophilia Tesla, The Professor, and Antonia Thomas, as they chat for nearly two hours over dinner at Sahlo, a restaurant at Desire Riviera Maya. We're thrilled to announce that we are ALREADY BOOKING for 2019's Desire trip! Join us from November 2nd through the 9th, 2019 for Life

MA 199: Visibility and Worthiness with Kat Blaque – Multiamory

This week we're joined by transgender rights activist and YouTube sensation Kat Blaque. We talk about outness and visibility, handling criticism and backlash online, worthiness in relationships, and navigating polyamorous dating while trans and black. You can find Kat's youtube channel at youtube.com/katblaque and her new blog on polyamory at agirlnamedkathryn.com. If you want to

SS 337: Relationship Struggles: Emotional Black Holes

Relationships are often worth the effort. People are worth the effort... until they're not. Tonight, Bex Caputo and Lunabelle join Dylan Thomas and Ginger Bentham to discuss when the people we like stop putting in the effort to be with us, and when the effort we send their way feels like it falls into a

BTB 134: Desire Resort Comparison – By the Bi

Having had the luxury of spending back to back weeks at Desire Riviera Maya and Desire Pearl in Mexico we thought we would do a direct side by side comparison of the two resorts. We try as best as our brains can to remember every up and down of both locations. Note, that this is

MA 198: Supporting a Partner through Loss – Multiamory

We all experience loss – the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, being let go from a job. This week we discuss helping a partner through grief, how to care for yourself while you're caring for someone else, and also the particular challenges non-monogamous relationships present when coping with loss. If

BTB 132: Bad Flirts & Bad Dates (Recorded at PiP) – By the Bi

Whilst at Passion in Paradise in Far North Queensland, we asked folks to sit down and chat with us to rate their flirting skills and then to tell us their worst swinger fails. Boy were we surprised by what folks had to offer... We have tales of people abusing family heirlooms to folks who claim

MA 197: HIV with Liz Sutherland – Multiamory

For many people. the very topic of HIV is quite scary, but not so for our guest this week, Liz Sutherland of Positive Life New South Wales. We chat with Liz about the vast wealth of information that most of us don't know about HIV. including how it's epidemiology is changing, effective methods for treatment

OTWC 027: Jealousy Revisited – On The Wet Coast

Jealousy is a complex emotion that usually arises when we feel threatened or like we're not getting our needs met. It is almost always the reason people cite when they state that they couldn't ever be non-monogamous yet plenty of non-monogamous and polyamorous people experience jealousy regularly. The various circumstances that lead to jealousy tend

SS 336: The Swingset Takes Desire – Year Seven Live!

Much as the Harry Potter series did when they reached Year Seven, we go long, overstuffed, earnest, and sometimes brash. Our annual trip to Desire Resort Riviera Maya is here, and Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas sat down with a wonderful group of Swingsetters in the courtyard of the resort to podcast live! We also give

BTB 131: Swingcations (Planning & Pitfalls) – By the Bi

In this episode we've gotten The Gentleman back (by very popular demand) to sit with us and talk about planning a swingcation with play partners. We discuss what goes into selecting a location, timing, who to go with, and what to do. You'll get the whens, the wheres, the whys, and the hows of putting

MA 196: Am I Still Polyamorous If… – Multiamory

Fortunately, there's no Polyamory Board of Directors who decides who makes the cut or not. However, that doesn't prevent many people from worrying about whether or not they can claim a polyamorous identity. On this episode, we discuss identity, gatekeeping, and common questions that we get: “Am I still polyamorous if I still feel jealousy?”

BTB 130: Return of the Bisexual Last Crusade – By the Bi

This week we finish our multi-part deep dive series dissecting Bisexuality. As you may recall, a few months ago we had a listener send us a series of research papers regarding bisexual peoples. We dug through those papers and are attempting to give you an overview of all of the amazing scientific information inside. This

MA 195: Wellbeing and Online Dating – Multiamory

Online dating presents a wealth of opportunities to connect with like-minded people, but it also introduces the potential for endless frustration. If you're feeling discouraged from rejection, confused about how to write a good profile, or just plain burnt out from the whole process, check out our tips for maintaining your mental health and emotional

BTB 129: TaBOO Fetishes A – Z – By the Bi

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!! BOO!!!Do you ever think about what scares you... sexually? In this special extended episode, we aim to push boundaries and limits in a safe and secure space. We go through a whole list of fetishes and discuss our thoughts and experiences with them! We want to note that we do not intend to

MA 194: Recovering from Infidelity – Multiamory

We get a lot of questions related to infidelity: can you even “cheat” when you're consensually non-monogamous? If my partner cheats on me, should we transition into an open relationship in order to stay together? Is it possible to heal a relationship after infidelity? Tune in for the answers to these questions, as well as

SS 335: Blowjobs²

Who doesn't love talking about blow-jobs? Bex Caputo from the Dildorks Podcast rejoins Dylan Thomas, Cooper S. Beckett, and Ginger Bentham to continue on for a whole new episode, doing a deeper dive into giving and receiving blowjobs, cock-worship, and dildos. Help support Life on the Swingset continue to make podcasts, and put on live

SEAGG 038: The Fuck SESTA/FOSTA Episode – Sex Ed A Go-Go

Consultant in sexual health for the UN and free Union Square Park sex advisor, Francisco Ramirez, and online Domme and burlesque performer, Lulu Kramer, join Lola onstage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on March 31st, 2018 for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola and

BTB 128: Pet Play – By the Bi

Hello again!!! In this episode, we brought The Gentleman back to discuss Pet Play. In the not too distant past, he came over to play and Mr. Atom was in full puppy mode. We talk with him about the mindset of puppy play, the actions involved, and exactly about what he thought about the evening.

MA 193: Making Long Distance Relationships Work – Multiamory

Long distance relationships are pretty common in non-monogamous communities, and they are becoming even easier to maintain with modern technology. This week, we share the latest statistics on on the success of long distance relationships as well as fundamental practices to keep your LDR running smooth. If you want to support our show, the best

SS 334: Gettin' Some While on the Road!

One of the difficulties of being in a community like non-monogamy is that your people are spread all over the country and the world. Often we travel to travel to see them, and sometimes when traveling for other reasons, it's nice to send up the beacon and see who answers. Join Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham,

MA 192: Self-Esteem Boost – Multiamory

Forget participation trophies! This week we're talking about self-esteem. We all have our highs and lows, but did you know that having greater self-esteem is associated with better health and a better social life? We'll talk about the easiest ways to get a lasting self-esteem boost, whether it's possible to have self-esteem that's too high,

BTB 127: Pre-Vacation or How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Swingcations – By the Bi

ZOMG!!!!! Tomorrow we go on VaCaTiOn!!!! We are off to Passion in Paradise before going off to Desire Mexico. In this podcast, we talk about how to properly prepare to go on a swinger vacation. We discuss the planning that we did for the sexy theme nights and the calmer days. Should you get there

BTB 126: Another Deep Dive into Bisexuality – By the Bi

We start this week with an amazing date that we had with a very sexy couple. A couple we both thought were way out of our league. (Spoiler alert: We were apparently wrong!) Also this week we continue our multi-part deep dive series dissecting Bisexuality. As you may recall, a few months ago we had

OTWC 026: Sex, Geeks, and Sexy Geekery – On The Wet Coast

Geekery & non-monogamy crossover in so many ways. So many of the people we've met, connected with, and sexed up have been fellow geeks that enjoy much of the same pop culture that we do, whether it's movies, tv shows, books, musical theatre, roleplaying games, or video games. You need to have something to talk

BTB 125: Hey Yeah Yeah Yeah, What's Going on? – By the Bi

In this episode, we catch up on some of the things we've done recently, including a discussion over the recent "Club V", a wedding, and a few of our dates and such. We also go through some listener questions that have come across our desks recently. Find us on social media!!! On Twitter @BytheBiPodcast On Facebook @BytheBiPodcast

SS 333: Giving and Receiving Amazing Blowjobs

Tonight Bex Caputo from The Dildorks podcast joins Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, and Ginger Bentham to talk about giving and receiving amazing blowjobs. The crew offers tips, tricks, recount personal techniques, and more! Bex mentions that his favorite dildo is the Vixskin Gambler... a truly impressive dildo. Tristan Taormino’s #AllIn for Desire… are you?

MA 191: Toxic Relationships – Multiamory

Are your relationships a dumping ground for toxic waste? This week we talk about the hallmarks of toxicity in relationships. Whether you've got a toxic metamour, romantic partner, co-worker, or friend, tune in to learn how to recognize the signs and break free. If you want to support our show, the best way is to

BTB 124: A Deep Dive into Bisexuality- By the Bi

This week we start a multi-part deep dive series dissecting Bisexuality. A few months ago we had a listener send us a series of research papers regarding bisexual peoples. We dug through those papers and are attempting to give you an overview of all of the amazing scientific information inside. This week, in part one,

MA 190: Surviving and Thriving in NRE – Multiamory

Do you feel like you can do anything? Are your palms sweaty and your stomach butterfly…ish? You may be feeling New Relationship Energy (NRE). This week we talk about the chemical overload your brain gives you when you're first falling in love, as well as strategies to stay grounded and care for other relationships even

MA 189: Handling Backlash – Multiamory

When you start talking to people about non-traditional relationships, the reaction isn't always pretty. This week dicuss what motivates negative reactions to non-monogamy, as well as practical tips for handling the haters and rocking tough conversations with grace and ease. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of

SS 332: Revisiting Soft Swap & Full Swap – Styles of Swinging

Fin and Emma from the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast join Cooper, Dylan, Chris, and Lola to revisit Soft Swap vs. Full Swap and connect on why there's still a useful distinction to make... and why that distinction is only so useful. Tristan Taormino’s #AllIn for Desire… are you? Join us from November 3rd through the 10th

MA 188: What Hierarchy Means to Me – Multiamory

Some people think polyamory can only function with a primary-secondary hierarchy. Others think it's a recipe for disaster. On this episode, we want to dive into the nuances of hierarchy — how it has affected our lives personally, when it's been beneficial, and when it's been painful. If you want to support our show, the

OTWC 025: Kinky Communication – On The Wet Coast

Sex, particularly kinky sex, is still a taboo subject in our sex negative culture. We're not supposed to talk about it so we don't learn good communication skills around it. It's one of those things that is supposed to just kinda happen. We hang onto a lot of the messages we got about sex growing

SEAGG 037: The Sexual Healing Episode ─ Sex Ed A Go-Go

The trembling flower of submission and BDSM educator, Mollena Williams-Haas, and the beast of burlesque and sex worker rights advocate, Motherfuckin Akynos, join Lola onstage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on October 28th, 2017 for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola and the crew

MA 187: Break Free of Relationship Drama – Multiamory

No one wants a relationship full of drama…or do they? Turns out there are specific roles that many of us actually enjoy to play in any given “drama” situation. This week we talk about how to break the cycle and transform drama into empowerment. If you want to support our show, the best way is

MA 186: Reconnecting When You Don't Want To – Multiamory

Have you ever tensed up when a partner tried to hug you after a fight? What about feeling weird when a partner comes home from a date with someone else? This week we're talking about the best ways to reconnect with a partner after a physical or emotional separation, even when it doesn't feel easy.

MA 185: Can Men Get Along with their Metamours? – Multiamory

On this episode we speak with Dr. Alex Bove about the findings of his recently published research on metamours and masculinity, titled: “Meta, More or Less? A Phenomenological Study of Polyamorous Men’s Relationships with Their Male Metamours.” Tune in to find out more about the three phases of the metamour relationship, as well as the

SS 331: Swinging and Polyamory when Broke AF

A lot of the people are pretty broke, though most are willing to add the caveat of privilege being able to basic niceties and even engage in a little treat every once in a while. Some of the trappings that go along with swinging and polyamory, namely the frequent outings, overnight stays at hotels and

MA 184: Multiamory Answers Your Questions Vol. 3 (Live from Lake Tahoe) – Multiamory

This week we're coming at ya live from our first ever patreon retreat in Lake Tahoe, CA! We answer questions from our Patreon supporters, discussing how to avoid scarcity mindset, preventing burnout, fostering inclusivity, Emily's goddess voice, and more! If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our

SS 330: Gang Bang the Mailbag 37 – Pet Play, Wallflowers, Canadian Clubs

Tonight's Gang Bang the Mailbag is the crew's 37th, and they're doing it in force! Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Dirty Lola, Mister Pent, and Dr. Liz Powell get together to answer your questions! You can send them questions to answer by calling 573-55-SWING (573-557-9464) or sending them an email! Question 1: I have

OTWC 024: More/Better Sex – On The Wet Coast

Click-baity title aside, many people would like to figure out how to get more sex and better sex in their lives. It's not a priority for everyone, and isn't required to be, but for those who are looking to get more sex in their lives, it can be a struggle. We're here to tell you

SEAGG 036: The Cherry Poppin Show – Sex Ed A Go-Go

Expert bra fitter and body positive media content creator, Kimmay Caldwell, and the human tornado of burlesque and Switch and Play Drag collective member, Divina Gransparkle, joined Lola onstage for the first time at Otto’s Shrunken Head on September 30th, 2017 for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this episode of

MA 183: Equal and Equitable Relationships – Multiamory

What does it mean to have a relationship that feels “equal”? Is it a fair division of labor? Mutual trust and respect? Treating every partner exactly the same? This week we dive in to equal and inequal relationships, as well as how the concept of equity can help to bring balance to your love life.

MA 182: Gamify Your Life – Multiamory

If you've listened to this podcast for a while, you're aware that the Multiamory crew are a bunch of gaming nerds. This week, we dive into the principles and psychology behind gamification, as well as how you can gamify your way to self-improvement and better relationships. If you want to support our show, the best

SS 329: The Importance of Play, with Angelique Luna, Live at Poly Dallas Millennium!

Cooper S. Beckett and Dylan Thomas travel to Dallas for PolyDallas Millennium! There, they join with Angelique Luna (of the Living a Sex Positive Life podcast) to discuss the importance of play, especially during times of struggle. Do you have a sex positive project? Would you be interested in a grant? Visiting the Effing Foundation

MA 181: Kim Tallbear – Multiamory

We're extra excited to speak to Professor Kim Tallbear. Dr. Tallbear is the author of The Critical Polyamorist blog, as well as several books, articles, and talks on settler sexuality, Indigenous peoples, technology, and relationships. We dig into the details of what settler sexuality is, how it influences our relationships, and the many different ways

SS 328: Getting Back on the Horse

In an episode recorded September 22nd, 2017, Dr. Liz Powell, Dylan Thomas, and Mike Joseph get together to talk about getting back on the horse after loss, or anything else that may have taken them out of dating and playing with people for an extended period of time. Dylan almost didn't release this episode, but

MA 180: The Mono/Poly Paradox – Multiamory

It's a questions we've gotten since starting the podcast — can mono/poly relationships work? We're joined by Phoebe Phillips, author of the Polyammering blog and creator of the “Monocorn Sanctuary” group on Facebook. Phi shares her own experience as the mono side of a long-term polyamorous relationship as well as her guidance for people considering

MA 179: Anxiety and Relationships – Multiamory

Anxiety can rear its head in the form of some weird gut feelings or nervousness, or it can be a full blown panic attack. This week we talk about the full spectrum of how anxiety and anxiety disorders show up in our relationships, how to cope with them, and how to comfort a partner who

OTWC 023: Dating During Upheaval – On The Wet Coast

Ideally, when we’re meeting, dating, and sexing on people we want to be our best selves. We want to be feeling stable and settled and able to be present and focused for all the newness that might be coming our way. Unfortunately, circumstances are almost never ideal. Life constantly hits us with the unexpected–job loss,

MA 178: The Basics of Boundaries – Multiamory

Let's look at the fundamentals of boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most powerful and important tools for having healthy relationships, but it’s one that is often misunderstood and misused. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to

MA 177: This is Your Brain on Love – Multiamory

This is your brain. And this is your brain on love. We’re talking about your brain on relationships — how the different parts of your brain affect how we relate to our partners, and how we can use that to build better relationships. This week's episode was inspired in part by Wired for Love by

MA 176: Christianity and Polyamory – Multiamory

“Peace be with you! This week we're sitting down with Rev. Austin Adkinson and theologian J.D. Mechelke to dive into the tricky topic of polyamory and Christianity. How is the Christian church handling shifting values around sexuality and non-traditional relationships? What about the church's bad track record with sex positivity? And what the heck is

SS 327: Being Sex Positive in a Sex Negative World – A Panel Discussion at Camp Ravish

This week on The Swingset, we return to the scorching 107 degree heat of Austin, Texas, where Ginger and Cooper attended and presented at Camp Ravish. On the last day of Camp, they sat down with several other presenters there, including The Two Knotty Boys, Melissa Jones, Bella LaVey, Rihannon Ixchel, and Miss O Kissed,

MA 175: Adventures in Online Arguments – Multiamory

The Internet: making you get in fights with strangers since the 90s! This week we dive into online arguments: how they happen, how to avoid them, and how to most effectively communicate when you find yourself in the thick of it. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one

OTWC 022: Flirting, Sexting, and Dirty Talk – On The Wet Coast

Nearly everyone we know claims to be bad at flirting, the two of us included, but somehow many of us are scoring dates and getting laid. How do we get over our own brains to send that first message or turn a chat into something sexy and sassy? And once we're in a sexy space,

SS 326: Coloring Outside the Lines in Sexuality & Kink – Cooper & Ginger Live at Camp Ravish, Austin

This past weekend, Cooper S. Beckett and Ginger Bentham flew down to the balmy state of Texas, which greeted them with a 107 degree heat index. But the temperature wasn't the only thing that was hot that weekend because they were in town for Camp Ravish just outside of Austin - three days and two

MA 174: Numerous Non-Binary Identities (with therapist Dara Hoffman-Fox) – Multiamory

Author and gender therapist Dara Hoffman-Fox joins us once again to talk about gender, identity, and the full spectrum that lies outside the traditional binary. We discuss terminology, misconceptions, and the important journey of discovering one's self identity. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons

SS 325: Gang Bang the Mailbag 36 – Swinging while Broken, Addiction and Swinger Culture, and More!

The Swingset crew is back with another Gang Bang the Mailbag! Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, Dirty Lola, and Mister Pent answer listener voicemails and emails! Voicemailbag Question #1 Summary How can my husband better navigate swinger culture after coming clean from an alcohol addiction? Voicemailbag Question #2 Summary How can I

MA 173: Transitioning Relationships – Multiamory

Can you stay close with an ex after a breakup? Multiamory proves that it is possible! In this episode, Jase and Emily explore the subtle nuances of transitioning your relationship from romantic to platonic, the necessary time it takes to transition, and how sometimes it isn't always worth it to try to stay in each

SS 324: From Poo to Lactation – A Swingset Business Episode

The Swingset crew banked so many episodes that they hadn't recorded for almost two months. For their first night back, they decided to give each other... the business. In addition to talking about tall skinny dudes with big dicks and fisting, they end up discussing poop... a lot. They also talk about lactation, breeding fantasy,

MA 172: Polyamory in Movies and TV (Live Show) – Multiamory

In this live show episode from our 2018 tour, we're surveying how pop culture has treated polyamory and other non-monogamous relationships in the past year. We look at clips from She's Gotta Have It, Professor Marston & the Wonder Women, Steven Universe, and many more. For the full experience, be sure to check out this

SS 323: Gang Bang The Mailbag 35: Dental Dams, Straight Women, Aspergers & Swinging

Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, and Ginger Bentham know that the mailbag won't gang bang itself, so they've sat down to answer listener submitted questions for the 35th time! Question 1: Great podcast, I enjoy listening to you guys. My boyfriend and I are in an open relationship and it is going very well. My

MA 171: Polyamory, Family, and Children (with Dr. Eli Sheff) – Multiamory

We're pleased to have Dr. Eli Sheff back on the show to talk about her 15+ years of research into polyamorous families with children. Sheff shares the shifting trends she has seen over the course of her study as well as some practical tips for polyamorous people looking to cohabit or raise children with multiple

SEAGG 035: The So Much Pride Show – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

Sex educator of “Bex Talks Sex”, Bex Caputo, and go-go dancer and stage kitten, Vera Safire, join Lola onstage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on June 24th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this special episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola and the crew celebrate NYC Pride. The Pussy Posse

SS 322: They Came For the Titties, They Stayed For the Knowledge – A Playground Bedcast

The Life on the Swingset crew traveled to Playground 2018: Come Together, and decided to sit together and record one of our traditional "Swingset Bedcast" episodes. Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Chris Pent sat on two beds, close enough to sweat on, spit on, and

MA 170: Taking for Your Pleasure (with Melissa Mango and Cosmo Meens) – Multiamory

Multiamory made some new friends at RelateCon! We sit down with Cosmo Meens and Melissa Mango to discuss their work in consent, pleasure-based touching, and how objectifying your partner can actually be really, really sexy. You can find more of their work at sexlovesoul.com and at happytouch.ca If you want to support our show, the

MA 169: Unapolygetic – Multiamory

This week we’re talking about how to be open, honest, and unafraid when talking to other people about your relationships, whether they are someone you are dating, a new acquaintance, or an old friend. — a little something that we call being unapolygetic. Check out Dara Hoffman-Fox's worksheet for coming out here: http://darahoffmanfox.com/comingoutworksheet/ If you

SS 321: On the Power of Touch… and on Touch Deficits

Touch is powerful. Touch signals and communicates, touch comforts and supports, Touch can be thoughtful...touch can hurt. We feel it when we have it, we feel its absence when we don't, and sometimes we do things that result in us not getting enough of it. Tonight, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike

MA 168: Communication Hacks: Booster Pack – Multiamory

We’re opening our Communication Hacks: Booster Pack! The Multiamory crew walks each other through a communication tip that we recently discovered and thought was super awesome. Learn how switch-tracking, bids, and micro scripts can take your relationship communication to the next level. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become

OTWC 021: Non-Monogamy and SCIENCE! – On The Wet Coast

Endless amounts of research has been done on the topic of love and relationships – generally focused on the heteronormative pair bonding that is the norm in our western culture. A few books such as Sex at Dawn and Mating in Captivity have been the go to tomes for the non-monogamous looking for science that

SS 320: Diversity in Sexuality Conferences and Sex Therapy with Ruby Bouie Johnson of PolyDallas Millennium

A fair critique of most sex positive gatherings, especially sexuality conferences, is that they are predominantly white. Over the years, significant progress has been made, and PolyDallas Millennium this July 13-15 is on the forefront of programming diversity and encouraging wider ranges of voices. Tonight Ruby Bouie Johnson joins Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dirty

MA 167: Polyamory and the Law – Multiamory

On this episode of the Multiamory podcast we’re at the first annual Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, Arizona speaking with lawyer Jonathan Lane, who specializes in family and immigration law for the polyamorous, kinky, and LGBTQ communities If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory.

MA 166: Impromptu Bible Study – Multiamory

What's the Bible have to say about polyamory? Spoiler alert: it mostly has things to say about questionable polygamy. Join us for an impromptu study on multi-partner relationships and Judeo-Christian values. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue

SS 319: Total Desire Recall with Tristan Taormino, JV Altharas, and Shara Bono

Every November for the last six year, the Life on the Swingset has led a motley crew of wayward hedonists to Desire Resort on the Riviera Maya in Cancun. Tonight the hosts of our 2017 takeover, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, JV Altharas, Shara Bono, and Tristan Taormino, talk about that trip; what

MA 165: Polyamory Finishing School – Multiamory

“Pinky out! We’re going to polyamory finishing school! Connecting with a polyamorous community is an important first step on someone’s journey so we’re covering the things that will give you a huge advantage at your first meetup. Come learn how to ensure you’ll have the best possible time and set yourself up for success. ”

MA 164: The Relationship Escalator & Solo Polyamory (with author Amy Gahran – Multiamory

We get to pick the brain of Amy Gahran a.k.a. Aggie Sez about her book, Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator. We explore the social norms for how most people assume intimate relationships are supposed to work, as well as the many ways that people are stepping off the relationship escalator to live and love on

SS 318: The Art of the Compliment

Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, and Dr. Liz Powell sit down together to talk about the art of the compliment: how to compliment someone in a way that it will be accepted in the spirit it's given, how to compliment someone without a goal, and how to treat compliments as small gifts that require no reciprocation.

MA 163: Inspiring Relationships – Part 2 – Multiamory

Can you think of any relationships that inspire you? Perplexed by this question, the Multiamory crew investigates what truly makes for healthy, stable, and inspiring relationships, inspired by the research and writings of Esther Perel. Be sure to check out part 1 first! If you want to support our show, the best way is to

SS 317: The Polyamorous Furry Community w/ Viro the Science Collie & Metriko Oni

There's a community that Life on the Swingset hasn't found occasion to speak with much: the polyamorous furry community. Tonight, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mike Joseph invite Metriko Oni and Viro the Science Collie, of the Feral Attraction podcast, to talk about the fandom and to how we can find more common ground

MA 162: Inspiring Relationships – Part 1 – Multiamory

Can you think of any relationships that inspire you? Perplexed by this question, the Multiamory crew investigates what truly makes for healthy, stable, and inspiring relationships, inspired by the research and writings of Esther Perel, Simone de Beauvoir, and Mark Manson. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one

OTWC 020: Attraction – On The Wet Coast

Attraction is a mysterious thing. There are physical and personality characteristics in people we're almost always attracted to: perhaps a certain body type or sense of humour. Other times it can be harder to nail down why a certain person hits all the yes buttons for you, or what makes us override our usual “dealbreakers”.

MA 161: Love is Not Colorblind with Kevin Patterson – Multiamory

This week we're talking with Kevin Patterson, creator of the Poly Role Models blog and author of the upcoming book Love Is Not Colorblind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities. If you're interested in creating a polyamory discussion group, meet-up, or other inclusive event, this is required reading! You can find more

SEAGG 034: The Playground LIVE Show – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

Sex educators Luna Matatas of Peg the Patriarchy fame and Taylor J. Mace of Feisty Fox Films and burlesque performer / producer, Zyra Lee Vanity, join Lola onstage at the Playground Conference on February 24th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     This episode was so good that it skipped the line

SS 316: Shiny Beacons of Slutty Hope – Live at Playground Conference 2018 in Toronto, Canada!

Life on the Swingset came together for Playground 2018: Come Together, a Sex-Positive, Inclusive, Intersectional Event. It was the largest gathering of Swingset co-hosts ever, and the first such gathering of all co-hosts since 2015! Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Chris Pent sat in front

MA 160: Find Your Biases, Have Better Relationships – Multiamory

Get ready to question reality! This week we cover the fundamentals of biased thinking, some common ways that it can show up in your relationships, and how you can get around them in order to have happier and healthier connections to your partners and to yourself. If you want to support our show, the best

SS 315: Letting Your Kinks Run Wild with Sunny Megatron & Ken Melvoin-Berg

Paths to kink vary pretty wildly. From occasional giggles and smacks on the bottom, to role-playing as students in a classroom begging to be good for the principal, to full suspensions in front of hundreds of people, following our minds and bodies can lead us places we never thought we could go. Tonight, Sunny Megatron

MA 159: The Triforce of Communication: DLC Expansion Pack – Multiamory

The Triforce of Communication is back! This is yet another one of our favorite communication tools, and this week we're revisiting it with much more knowledge and experience using it in our daily lives. Learn how to get what you want in conversations with your partner, and how to avoid common miscommunication pitfalls with this

MA 158: Beyond Blue and Pink – Multiamory

The Multiamory crew loves talking about gender, so we' were both excited and intimidated by tackling such a broad topic this week. Gender identity and expression has come into mainstream conversation, and in this episode we're tackling the basics of everything you need to know: language, avoiding bias and stereotypes, and how gender effects your

OTWC 019: Building Your Ideal Relationship – On The Wet Coast

Many of us in non-monogamy land started out in monogamous relationships. Not necessarily because those were right for us, but because they were the default. We didn’t even know that there were other relationship options. Once we start exploring ethical non-monogamy we discover countless variations on the big 3: SwInger, Open, Polyamory. Some people have

SS 314: How to Make Hot Kinky Play Actually Happen w/ Marcia Baczynski & Midori

Tonight, guests Midori and Marcia Baczynski join Cooper Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dirty Lola to talk about making hot kinky play actually happen. They'll also discuss the Wanted Man Intensive course to help good guys work on becoming better guys. Marcia B's Resources: Marcia's Site: AskingForWhatYouWant.com   Midori's Resources: Protip! Questions You

MA 157: Disability After Dark with Andrew Gurza – Multiamory

This week we had the pleasure of talking to “Disability After Dark” podcast host Andrew Gurza! Andrew gave us an amazingly funny and candid interview on the 101 of sex and disability and dove into some deeper topics regarding language, intersectionality and his Huffington Post Article, “4 things you should never say to a Queer

SS 313: Mutual Masturbation – Giving Each Other a Hand

One of Life on the Swingset's most popular episodes is Masturbation - Our Touching Origins. Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell, and Mister Pent sit together to talk about handing the job off, as it were. Whether masturbating in front of another person or playing with them while they play with

MA 156: How To Get Over Your Ex – Multiamory

Break-ups may sting, but it’s the healing process afterwards that can truly hurt for a long time. It’s especially difficult if you find yourself still thinking about your ex-partner and plagued with questions: Should I try to win her back? Where did we go wrong? Why can’t I just forget about it? This week, we

SS 312: Sexually Relevant Grooming Habits

Nail Clipping! Facial, Genital, and Ass Hair Maintenance! Keeping it Clean... or Not! Tonight, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, Dr. Liz Powell, Dirty Lola,  and Mister Pent discuss sexually relevant grooming habits, and why we do, or don't participate in them! Join Dylan, Cooper, Dr. Liz, Mister Pent, Dirty Lola, and Mike Joseph at Playground 2018!   You can support us

MA 155: How to Build Trust in a Relationship – Multiamory

Trust in a relationship — easy to lose, difficult to regain. If there's been a major breach of trust in your relationship, is there any hope that it could be rebuilt? This week, we discuss the many different ways that trust can look, and what to expect if you and your partner are trying to

MA 154: Getting Real about Sexual Health – Multiamory

How many people would you need to have unprotected sex with in order to catch an STI? 4? 50? 1000? This week we get real about the language we use around sexual health as well as your real-world chances of catching an STI (hint: you probably already have one.) If you want to support our

OTWC 018: Fantasies – On The Wet Coast

Fantasizing is big part of most healthy sex lives. We fantasize about things we’d like to have done to us and/or what we’d like to do to others. We also fantasize about things that scare, horrify, or even kind of (or completely) disgust us. All these things are part of healthy sexual brain activity. “Is

MA 153: Building Consent Culture (with author Kitty Stryker) – Multiamory

We are so pleased to be speaking with Kitty Stryker — feminist writer, queer activist, and author of Ask: Building Consent Culture. In this episode we talk about how consent affects our lives outside the bedroom as well as the difficult task of holding space for people who have been called out on boundary violations.

SS 311: Foresight and Hindsight (Amber) – Goodbye 2017, Hello 2018

It's been a year, hasn't it? On this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, we're going to reflect, not on the horrors of the year that everybody among us so well knows, but what this year specifically has shown us, in our sexuality, in our interpersonal interactions, in our lifestyles, and then we'll

MA 152: Polyamory: The Most Common Questions – Multiamory

In this episode, we're getting back to our roots! The Multiamory crew was interviewed about the basics of polyamory and our personal experiences for a radio project. If you're a polyamory beginner, or if you need some inspiration for answering all the questions your family and friends are throwing at you, check out this episode.

SS 310: Aging and Sexuality with Ken Haslam, Belle Sheperd, Joel Kann, and Duncan – Recorded Live at Desire Resort

Those of us young in the world and in non-monogamy don't spend a lot of time thinking about aging and in how it affects our play partners, our relationships, and our own sexuality as we progress. During Life on the Swingset's takeover of Desire Resort, Dylan Thomas sat down with Belle Shepherd, Joel Kann, Ken

MA 151: Conflict Crash Course – Multiamory

Conflict and disagreements are unavoidable in relationships, but they don't have to cause pain, negativity, or destruction. In this episode we cover a collection of tools to use before, after, and during fights you have with your partner in order to find constructive resolution and reconnection. If you want to support our show, the best

SEAGG 033: The Poly Revolution Show – Sex Ed A Go-Go

Freelance writer and cohost of podcast “The Jheri Curl Chronicles”, Mike Joseph, and the tiny dancer of burlesque and creator of YouTube series “Superboob”, Tiny D, join Lola onstage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on May 27th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola

SS 309: The Most Valuable Sexual Lessons We Ever Learned

Nearly everything of value Cooper learned about sex was learned after opening up. He's unashamed to admit, his sex was thoroughly mediocre. Thankfully, he met many people who were much better at sex and he studied at their feet and other parts, learning vast and valuable lessons. Tonight, on Life on the Swingset The Podcast,

MA 150: Relationship Anarchy 101 – Multiamory

Relationship Anarchy: what is it? Who invented it? Does it mean overthrowing the relationship government? This week we're looking at the original relationship anarchy manifesto written by Andie Nordgren and discussing what it all means and how it can apply to your relationships. If you want to support our show, the best way is to

MA 149: One is (Not) The Loneliest Number – Multiamory

This week we're talking about consciously choosing to stay single! Can staying single be just as emotionally valuable as being in a relationship? We have some surprising statistics as well as a look at how “single” can have a different meaning when you are a relationship anarchist or even if you're polyamorous. If you want

OTWC 017: Butt Stuff – On The Wet Coast

Butt stuff! It’s not just anal sex anymore, but a whole spectrum of ass play. What’s the appeal and the fascination? In our lifetime, it’s gone from being a secret perversion to borderline mainstream, referenced and discussed in pop culture both frankly and humorously. And some people feel increasingly pressured to make anal sex part

SS 308: Sexual Oddballs in a Vanilla World

As Lydia Deetz once said, "I myself am strange and unusual." Swingsetters are merry misfits who don't hew to society's traditional norms. Tonight, Ginger Bentham, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, and Dr. Liz Powell discuss navigating the vanilla world as sexual oddballs, and the unique sets of perks and challenges that includes. Shoutout to

MA 148: Your Narcissistic Ex (Is Probably Not a Narcissist) – Multiamory

This week we’re talking about your narcissistic ex. To be more specific, we’re talking about narcissism — the word that seems to come out of everyone’s mouth when describing their ex. Today we’re going to explore what narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) really is, why everyone's talking about it, and why your ex was probably a

SS 307: It's Called Polyamory – With Rebecca Hiles and Tamara Pincus

The Swingset invites Tamara Pincus and Rebecca Hiles, authors of the new book "It's Called Polyamory" onto the show to discuss the many things people both new and experienced to nonmonogamy, specifically, polyamory, may encounter. They join Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Chris Pent. Find Tamara Pincus' and Rebecca Hiles' new book, It's Called

MA 147: Relationship RADAR: Scrum 2.0 – Multiamory

After a whole year of experimenting with applying agile scrum to relationships, the Multiamory crew is proud to present our new and improved relationship check-in model: RADAR! Learn about the benefits of establishing a regular monthly check-in for your relationships, plus follow our easy step-by-step process for creating a safe, supportive, and productive way to

SEAGG 032: The Very Kinky Birthday Show – Sex Ed A Go-Go

Boudoir photographer and costar of “Sex Talk with Kenyon and Chris”, Chris Comfort, and the Grace Jones of burlesque, Sweet Lorraine, joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on July 22nd for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     On this episode of special birthday edition of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola

MA 146: Fear of Missing Out – Multiamory

We all know what it feels like to experience FOMO — fear of missing out. Whether it's scrolling through Facebook and seeing how much more fun everyone else seems to be having, or it's sitting at home watching a partner head out on an exciting date with a new partner, FOMO can make us feel

SS 306: Live at Desire, A Restatement of Values – #ssdesire

Ginger Bentham, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas return to Desire Resort & Spa for Swingset's second full resort takeover and for their sixth annual pilgrimage to the sexiest place on earth. While the tequila flows, they take time to examine why pleasure, gratitude, compassion, and love are supremely important, and they take time to defiantly

MA 145: Why Gratitude Isn't Bullshit (#Blessed) – Multiamory

“We've all heard the saying, “”You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.”” But is that actually true? This week, the Multiamory crew explores positive psychology, gratitude, and fostering personal wellbeing in your relationships. Myers-Briggs vs VIA: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-matters-most/201405/myers-briggs-or-survey-character-strengths www.AuthenticHappiness.org ” If you want to support our show, the best way is to

MA 144: Multi-Cultural Dating and Culturally Intelligent Relationships (Live Show in Tokyo) / 東京マルチアモリーライブショー – Multiamory

The Multiamory crew is in Tokyo! In this very special live episode recorded at Good Heavens British Pub in Setagaya, we discuss how increasing your cultural intelligence can boost your understanding and communication, particularly when dating someone from a very different culture. マルチアモリーの仲間が、東京にやってきました!ポリアモリー、セクシュアリティ、キンク、リレーションシップについての示唆に富んだ議論を楽しみ、参加者と交流し、ポッドキャストのライブ収録の機会にご参加ください。マルチアモリーのミッションは、倫理的な非一夫一婦制の実践についての知識と教育を、楽しく親しみやすい内容を通して提供することです。Multiamory.com は、Emily Matlack、Jase Lindgren、そして「The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory」の著者であるDedeker Winstonによる、情報リソース、ブログ、ポッドキャストです。意識的な一夫一婦制から、倫理的ポリアモニー、そして急進的なリレーションシップアナーキーまで、愛の多様な形式について、新しいアイデアやアドバイスを提供します。私たちの長年にわたる個人的な経験と、現在利用可能な最高の情報を組み合わせ、それを楽しく示唆に富んだ、そしてあなたのリレーションシップに簡単に適用できる方法で提案します。 With Interpreter: Without

OTWC 016: Sex Toys – On The Wet Coast

We on the Wet Coast are huge fans of sex toys. We have a large collection and use them regularly both in solo play and with our partners. We've tried a lot of different things and have learned through extensive trial and error what types of toys work best for us, since not every toy

SS 305: Designing Your Perfect Relationship, with Dr. NerdLove

We've all spent a big chunks of our your lives trying to transform relationships from "kind of okay" into "good". Most of us wait to have big conversations about what our relationships will look like until, well, long after they're already a problem, but what if we could, instead, do that work early instead of

MA 143: Mindful Sex and Ethical Porn (with author Jessica Graham) – Multiamory

The Multiamory crew is excited to welcome Jessica Graham, meditation teacher, mindfulness coach, and author of the new book Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out. Jessica answers all of our questions about mindful sex, ethical porn, naturally boosting your sex drive, and much more. If you want to support our show, the best way

SS 304: Pants Feelings – Things That Make You Go Mmmmmm

Attraction. Chemistry, Urges. Biting our lower lip. Pants Feelings. *grunt* Join Dirty Lola, Mike Joseph, Mister Pent, and Dylan Thomas as they welcome back Bex from The Dildorks as they all talk about what turns them on! You can support us while you buy great sex toys and products from our favorite online retailer SheVibe

MA 142: Do You Have Healthy Relationship Expectations? – Multiamory

This week we are talking about expectations — a force for both good and evil! The expectations we bring to a relationship can have a significant effect on how happy or unhappy we are as the relationship unfolds. In this episode we'll uncover both unhealthy and healthy expectations to have for a relationship or a

MA 141: Solving Sexual Incompatibility – Multiamory

This week we are talking about sexual incompatibility and infidelity. Opening up about sex is often a challenging and vulnerable part of any relationship, and it can cause some relationships to implode. Today we are going to offer some stits and stats regarding sexual incompatibility, sexual changes over time, and how non-monogamy can shape and help

SS 303: Low Value Dick and Accessible Messaging

We've answered the same question a lot lately: How do single men navigate the lifestyle? We've rightfully mentioned the mountain most single men must climb to be successful, In discussing how to raise everyone's game we focused on the fact that many single cis straight men ruin it for everyone as they're everywhere and generally

MA 140: The Jealousy Survival Guide (with author Kitty Chambliss) – Multiamory

This week we're speaking with Kitty Chambliss, coach, speaker, and author of the soon to be released Jealousy Survival Guide. Kitty shares with us the lessons she's learned as a polyamorous person who still struggles with jealousy and offers her insight and techniques for managing jealousy as it occurs in the moment with grace, ease,

SS 302: Making Room in Life for the Things That Matter

Sometimes we lose sight of some of the people and some of the things that matter in ourlives. Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Dylan Thomas get together and figure out how to recognize it, how it happens, and how to pull everything back together. Dr. Liz also takes some time to relay some con

OTWC 015: Getting Things Started – On The Wet Coast

Getting things started is not always easy. Sending that first message on a dating site. Putting yourself out there with your romantic or sexy interest. Asking for that first kiss. Or even knowing how to flip that switch from social time to sexytime in a dating scenario – or play party. On this episode of

MA 139: Love is (Not) All You Need – Multiamory

Multiamory loves The Beatles, but we take issue with the assertion that love is all you need. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of what is traditionally “magical” thinking surrounding love and relationships. If you're in a relationship that is dysfunctional, codependent, or making you miserable all in the name of love, here's where

MA 138: Conscious Monogamy – Multiamory

What is conscious monogamy? The term gets thrown around on many polyamory and non-monogamy blogs, but there isn't really a set definition for it. This week, we examine the nature of being conscious in one's relationships, whether you're monogamous or not. In contrast, we also highlight a few of the unhealthy forms of traditional monogamy,

SS 301: Gang Bang the Mailbag 34 – Inquiring Swingers Want to Know

Tonight, Madam Fierce joins the Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, and Dylan to re-open the mailbag once again to give it the gang bang it deserves. The crew answers questions on the difference between swinging and polyamory, breaking up with another swing couple, swinging with too much enthusiasm, single male swingers, and first time swinging hiccups.

MA 137: Intersectionality and Polyamorous Communities (with therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson) – Multiamory

We're very pleased to speak with Ruby Bouie Johnson, sex therapist and founder of PolyDallas Millennium, an annual symposium of presentations and workshops on polyamory with a focus on centering people of color, queer, and gender fluid voices. Ruby shares with us her thoughts on the need for an intersectional focus in poly communities, handling

SS 1: Dipping a Toe In – How To Start Swinging – Transcript

In our first podcast (all the way back from 2010!) we discuss the very beginnings of what to do when you think you may want to have an open relationship. We talk in detail about dealing with that idea yourself and deciding if opening up is right for you. We also deal with the first

MA 136: Healing Old Wounds and Resentment in Relationships – Multiamory

Long-term relationships can be fertile ground for wonderful things like deep bonding and silly in-jokes. But they can also come with their fair share of old hurts, repetetive arguments, and growing resentment. If you find your partner holding the past against you, feeling hurt and upset even after you've apologized for something in the past,

OTWC 014: Fitting In – On The Wet Coast

Like so many things in our lives, non-monogamous activity can be cyclical. There are times when we're out there dating a ton and boning all the sexy people, when we have the time and energy to enjoy the sexy connections we have made and will make. Yet there are other times when we need to

SS 300: Live, atop Mt. Swingset at the Ski Chalet!

Life on the Swingset gets back together at the ski chalet, high atop Mt. Swingset, except it's August and the air conditioning is on. The chair lifts aren't active so Ginger, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Chris Pent, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Dr. Liz Powell, and Katie Mack had to make their way up the old fashioned

MA 135: What's Your Apology Language? – Multiamory

Our favorite God-doctor Gary Chapman, creator of the 5 Love Languages, has come up with another useful tool for communication: the 5 Apology Languages. Have you ever apologized to your partner for a mistake in the past, only to find that your partner brings it up again a week later, expressing frustration that you never

SS 299: Foreplay and Changing Ideas of Sex

When people think of sex, they generally assume there's penile penetration, probably into a vagina, and that everything leading up to that penetration is foreplay. It's a very narrow view, but it's a view that stubbornly persists into non-monogamy. Tonight, on our #roadto300, we consider this episode on foreplay as foreplay. Dirty Lola, Dr. Liz Powell,

MA 134: Legal Protections for Polyamorous Families (with lawyer Diana Adams) – Multiamory

The Multiamory crew is thrilled to speak with lawyer Diana Adams, who runs a law firm based in New York and Frankfurt that primarily provides family law and mediation services to the LGBTQ community, polyamorous families, same-sex couples, platonic co-parents, and non-nuclear families. In this episode, we got so much helpful information from Diana, including

SEAGG 031: The Pillow Lovers Show – Sex Ed A Go-Go

Burlesque MC and gad about, Bastard Keith and the glamorous performer and sexual rights advocate, Zyra Lee Vanity, joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on April 22nd for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go. Hey loves! Due to technical difficulties beyond our control the audio for this podcast is a bit wonky.

SS 298: Putting Ourselves Out There In Sex & Relationships

It is always risky, telling people what you're into, what you want, that you like them, but as we've found out it's often essential in getting anywhere in non-monogamy and in life. Tonight Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas discuss how to put yourself out there and how to take it

MA 133: 6 Questions You Must Ask Your New Partner – Multiamory

A long list of “glass ceiling questions” has been floating around the polyamorous internet lately. These are questions that are essential to ask a new partner in order to get down to brass tacks on what kind of agreements or rules they have in their other relationships, what they are expecting for their relationship with

MA 132: The Ethical Slut 20th Anniversary with Janet Hardy – Multiamory

The Ethical Slut, long considered to be the “Bible” of polyamory and alternative relationships, is celebrating its 20th anniversary with a new, updated edition! The book had an incredible impact on each of our lives, and we are so excited to be speaking to co-author and educator Janet Hardy. Janet shares with us what's new

SS 297: Pursuing Threesomes

Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dr. Liz Powell get together to discuss threesomes, the bests, the worsts, and the firsts Check out Swinger Safari, the mobile app that has privacy, filter, and geolocation features unlike anything the Swingset has used before! Download the app for free and use the promo code LOTSS to get

MA 131: Dumpster Fire Relationships – Multiamory

The dumpster fire relationship: you know it when you see it. Constant fights, endless drama, and an unmatched level of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion. In this episode, we'll discuss signs that your relationship might be a total dumpster fire, how to evaluate whether or not it's time to leave, plus practical advice on escaping

OTWC 013: Fitting In – On The Wet Coast

People whose identities don't conform to the norms within a community often feel isolated from that community. Figuring out how to fit in when you don't hew to the line of a group is an incredible challenge. Bisexuals don't always feel at home in LGBTQ community and are often deliberately isolated from it. Switches don't

MA 130: Emotional Labor – Multiamory

This week we're digging in to emotional labor — the mental and emotional energy required to maintain a relationship. All interpersonal relationships require some sort of emotional labor, so it's not a bad thing. However, problems arise when one person is giving more emotional labor than they are receiving from the other side. This disproportionately

SS 296: Dick Pics and Dating Profiles w/Cunning Minx

When setting up your dating profile, be it monogamous, poly, or swinger, if you're considering putting a big close up of your dick front and center, you MAY want to reconsider. Tonight the Cunning Minx, host of Polyamory Weekly and co-author of the new book: No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresistible Online

MA 129: Multiamory Answers Your Questions (Vol. II) – Multiamory

This week we are talking about…you! That's right, this week the Multiamory crew tackles the questions that our listeners left on the Multiamory voicemail line. If you want to have a question answered on the air, you too can leave a voicemail for us at 678-MULTI-05. Covered in this episode: — My girlfriend doesn't want

SS 295: Mortality

Most of us, especially when young, hope that death will never come, or at least not for a really really long time, and that can mean being unprepared when it does. Difficulties with visitation, inheritance, and others are issues ignored at our own peril. Dr. Liz Powell talks personally and painfully about Elliot, a partner

MA 128: How to Support Your Partner Through a Break-Up – Multiamory

Break ups suck. They suck a little less if you're not the one going through it, but if it's your partner who's just been dumped, then you may find yourself shouldering the burden of some of their suck as well. In this episode we talk about the ways to care for your partner, your self,

SS 294: Game Changers: When Awesome People Upset our Carefully Planned Lives

Non-monogamy definitely ups the ante on BUSY, which causes many of us to try to organize and plan our lives as carefully as possible. We say things like "I'm not going to date anyone new right now, or like some fool said last week, I'm not going to have long distance relationships anymore." So, Dr.

MA 127: Relationship Agreement Pitfalls – Multiamory

This week we're discussing agreement pitfalls — common relationship agreements that seem reasonable, but which may cause trouble in the long run. The Multiamory crew has a pretty firm stance against strict rules in relationships, but there are many agreements that fall into a debatable grey area. Is it fair to make sure you and

SS 293: Long Distance Relationships & Keeping it Sexy

We have a habit here of finding people fascinating on social media and at conferences, and so often they seem to live so very far away... like many members of the Swingset. Mike Joseph, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas get together to discuss the distance between all us and how we

MA 126: Building Intimacy with Multiamory – Multiamory

This week, the Multiamory crew falls in love with each other! (Just kidding. We were already in love with each other.) But really, we delve into the topic of building intimacy, using the famous list of 36 intimacy questions. We encourage you to use these questions to not only get closer to your romantic partners,

OTWC 012: Impermanence, Breakups, and Relationship Transitions – On The Wet Coast

Not every relationship lasts forever–Whaaa?–turns out that happily ever after was kind of a fraudulent bill of goods we were sold as kids watching Disney movies. Relationships end or sometimes transition into subtly or entirely different forms. Tonight On The Wet Coast, Flick Morrison and Kat Stark are discussing Impermanence, Breakups, and Relationship Transitions. Follow

MA 125: Researching Non-Monogamous Relationships (with researcher Ryan Witherspoon) – Multiamory

This week the Multiamory crew gets to pick the brain of researcher, educator, and Ph.D candidate Ryan Witherpsoon. Ryan has specialized in studying consensual non-monogamy, kink, and BDSM, as well as spearheading several research studies on non-traditional relationships. In this episode, we cover the current state of non-monogamy research, particular challenges that arise when studying

SS 292: Building Our Sexy Community in the Most Pleasurable Place on Earth

Over the last five years, the Swingset has seen first hand the glorious moments and difficulties of building our own community on our trips to the most pleasurable place on earth at Desire Resort in Cancun. This year represents our second takeover, and our sixth trip, and tonight we're joined by all the hosts of

MA 124: The Dating Advice Girl Talks Polyamory – Multiamory

This week we are welcoming special guest Erin Tillman, a.k.a. The Dating Advice Girl. Erin has coached many singles through the process of creating a dating profile and going on dates without getting burnt out in the process. Even better, Erin is tuned in to the polyamorous and queer communities. She shares with us her

SEAGG 030: The Dating and Dicks Show – Sex Ed A Go-Go

Witchy woman and musician, Mima Good and the sensual sensation, Joie Nouveau, joined Dirty Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on March 27th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go. Hey loves! Due to technical difficulties beyond our control the audio for this podcast is a bit wonky. We cleaned it up as

SS 291: Planning an Orgy – The Dynamics of Group Sex

In traditional one on one sex, you pretty much know who you'll be engaging with, but when that complexity deepens to three, four, five or more (which is where we switch to the term orgy) there are a lot more, ahem, moving parts, to contend with. Group sex has a special set of dynamics, so

MA 123: The Science of Happy Relationships – Multiamory

Love and science finally hook up. The results? Sexy. This week we're covering all the things that will make your relationships better, backed by scientific studies. We cover communication, fighting, sex, in-jokes, and more! You can follow along with us here: https://my.happify.com/hd/the-science-behind-a-happy-relationship/ If you want to support our show, the best way is to become

SS 290: Gang Bang the Mailbag 33 – My Wife and I, the Sequel

We're Gang Banging the Mailbag once again, it is in fact our 33rd time! Today, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, Dr. Liz Powell, and Dylan Thomas answer your listener questions! Also, Dylan wants to throw a shoutout to Bex Caputo, aka: @BexTalksSex on Twitter, for their article: Changing What You Love: On Considering Hormones While You're

MA 122: Multiamory Answers Your Questions – Multiamory

This week we are talking about…you! That's right, this week the Multiamory crew tackles the questions that our listeners left on the Multiamory voicemail line. If you want to have a question answered on the air, you too can leave a voicemail for us at 678-MULTI-05. Covered in this episode: — How can a straight,

MA 121: Social Media and Relationships – Multiamory

This week, we're talking about the effects of social media on your relationships, and some of the unique challenges presented to non-monogamous relationships. Whether you're creeping on your metamours, or finding yourself nervous about posting openly about your multiple partners, we're here to help you navigate the tricky etiquette and foibles of social media. If you

SS 289: Gang Bang the Mailbag 32 – “My Wife and I”

Eighteen episodes is the longest we've ever gone without a listener mailbag episode, so tonight we've dug in deep with a new collection of listener questions including a highly coveted voicemail (573-55-SWING folks)! Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas field your questions and dig deep. In addition to fielding a

OTWC 011: Sexy Vacations w Cooper Beckett – On The Wet Coast

Sexy Vacations can be one of the incredibly fun perks of a non-monogamous lifestyle. Going to different cities and countries is always amazing, but going to different places and having sex with people: that takes the amazing factor up to a whole new level. From hitting up locals via a dating site to visiting loves

SS 288: Masturbation – Our Touching Origins!

For many of us, masturbation is one of the first things to go when we're depressed. Tonight we're going to explore the flipside of our full throttled self love. The hows the whys the whens, on this episode we're rubbing one or two or three or more out. Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett,

SS 287: Why In The Butt? The Joy of Anal Sex

We talk about butts bunches. Many of us enjoy putting things in our butts. Some of us wish we enjoyed it. What we don't often get into is the whys of butt play, how to make it better, how to explore it at first, and why anal sex can be awesome, so Dirty Lola, Cooper

MA 118: Helping Your Partner Open Up – Multiamory

Whether you're opening up an existing relationship or beginning a relationship with someone who is new to polyamory, it can be challenging to know the best way to encourage them to feel safe venturing into the world of non-monogamy. In this episode we explore different challenges and discuss what we've found to be the most

SS 286: Making Porn: The Sexy, the Silly, & The Mundane, with Kate Sinclaire

We've talked a lot about porn, often in high falutin ways about its importance (cuz it is important), its ability to change the world (cuz it has that), its danger of extinction (oh my the politics), and its ability to be beautiful. What we haven't discussed much is how sexy it can be, and how

MA 117: Why Do You Want What You Want? – Multiamory

This week we are tackling the complicated task of deconstructing desire. In life, we often set our sights on accomplishing a particular goal or attaining a particular object or status, and the same is true with relationships and sex. In this episode, we dig into the reasons why we want the things that we want,

SS 285: Keeping it Sexy in Unsexy Times

We've all had the experience of life getting in the way of our sexy. Sometimes life pounds us with things that try to compel us to STAY DOWN. Tonight, Ginger Bentham returns and joins Mike Joseph, Dirty Lola, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas to discuss keeping it sexy through the curves life throws at

MA 116: Being Monogamous in a Polyamorous World (Live Show) – Multiamory

In this very special live show, the Multiamory crew digs into the day-to-day foibles of having non-normative relationships in a hetero-mono-normative world. We discuss the uncomfortable consequences of having few outlets and even fewer role models, needing to stay in the closet in order to protect your job or family, and the endless assumptions and

OTWC 010: Female Relationships Part Two – On The Wet Coast

In this episode of the On The Wet Coast podcast, we examine our experiences of public bisexuality through exhibitionism and how it relates to the male gaze, being good allies and supporting those more marginalized than us in the new political climate, and the pros and cons of doing the work of emotional labour in

SEAGG 029: The Black Girl Magic Show – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

Celebrated activist and internet phenomenon, Ericka Hart and the spectacular spectacle, Foxy Squire, joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on February 25th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     We kicked off the fourth season of Sex Ed A Go-Go with two amazing women.  It was a night filled with

SS 284: The Non-Monogamy Renaissance w/ Andre Shakti

Non-monogamy is riding a wave. Recently CNN had a positive article about the fact that more and more young people are choosing some flavor non-monogamy over traditional relationship forms. Awareness continues to grow exponentially, but with that comes the desperate need for a place to go to ask questions. Like us, our guest, the polyamory

MA 115: Cooper S. Beckett on Swinger Resorts and Sexy Vacations – Multiamory

Multiamory is happy to have author, podcast host, and pegging enthusiast Cooper S. Beckett back on the show! Cooper came on our show way back in the early days to discuss his memoir, My Life on the Swingset, and this week we are discussing his brand new novel, Approaching the Swingularity. Join us for a

SS Special: Cooper and Ginger Talk Approaching the Swingularity

Ginger continues the two-year tradition by sitting down with Cooper for a frank and intimate discussion about his new novel Approaching the Swingularity: Tales of Swinging & Polyamory, toxic masculinity, inclusion and diversity, sexuality, and sexy vacations and resorts. You can buy the book now RIGHT HERE at ApproachingTheSwingularity.com/ – use promo code SWINGSET at

MA 114: Privilege and Polyamory – Multiamory

This week, we are discussing privilege and polyamory — the different advantages and disadvantages that we often forget about when approaching non-traditional relationships. This is a hot-button topic that often sparks emotions and defensiveness, but we wanted to open up the conversation, daunting as it is. In this episode, we discuss many different factors that affect

OTWC 009: Female Relationships Part One – On The Wet Coast

The relationships between women in non-monogamy are rarely discussed other than that bisexual babes are hot together. Women have been taught to compete & struggle against even our closest female friends so how can we connect when there are people we love openly together? And how does it work when we're into each other too?

SS 283: Ethical Unicorn Hunting in Swinging & Polyamory – Life on the Swingset

While many people enter into non-monogamy when already “coupled,” there are some ways that folks approach this transition that can make folks like me feel more like prey than people. While there's nothing wrong with enjoying a threesome or wanting to both date the same person, unicorn hunting can quickly become predatory, coercive, and controlling.

MA 113: What is Romantic Love? (with philosopher Carrie Jenkins) – Multiamory

Multiamory is very excited to sit down with philosopher Carrie Jenkins, author of the newly released book What Love Is and What It Could Be. Carrie has been polyamorous for a number of years, and after having her relationships accused of not embodying “real love,” she was inspired to get to the bottom of the

MA 112: Choking on the Red Pill – Multiamory

This week, the Multiamory crew tackles a divisive and controversial subject: the Red Pill movement. The Red Pill movement, in our estimation, is equal parts men's rights and pick-up artistry, sprinkled with a dose of good old-fashioned misogyny. But a growing number of men are finding community, understanding, and confidence in the Red Pill's tenets.

Twin Peaks S02E10-E12 – Dispute Between Brothers, Masked Ball, & The Black Widow – Damn Good Podcast

As we move on from the Laura Palmer storyline, much like Garland Briggs, we go into the wilderness. As Hawk tells us this week, every soul must pass through the Black Lodge on their way to the White, and so we at Damn Good Podcast pass into the darkness of season two's horrible flabby middle.

SS 282: Playing with Disability w/ Andrew Gurza

When we talk about privilege, it's usually a matter of race and class, and boils down to us not seeing or not even knowing to look for the issues that others face. Andrew Gurza, our guest tonight, is a Disability Awareness Consultant and Cripple Content Creator, and they join joins Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz Powell,

SS 281: Finding and Being Community Role Models w/ Kevin Patterson

There is a sort of order from chaos that happens when like minded people discover others like themselves. Individuals become clusters, clusters become groups, and with groups come unavoidable growing pains, issues, conflict, and struggle. Still, there's a certain magic that comes from having a group of diverse and motivated people with a common role come

MA 111: Poly-Friendly Counseling – Multiamory

If you've hit a particularly sticky bump in your relationship, or if you're interested in doing some preventative maintenance and exploration, it is extremely helpful to seek professional guidance. Speaking with a therapist, counselor, or coach can provide many opportunities to open up and uncover deep-seated habits and patterns, plus really giving yourself and your

SS 280: Sharing & Oversharing: Putting Our Sex Lives on Stage with Lucas Brooks & Kinky Jean

After seven years of podcasting, it's rather shocking to us how much we put of our lives out into the ether. A podcast can be very much like a living document in that way. What compels us to share so much of ourselves? Probably some narcissism, but also an innate belief that personal information breeds

Twin Peaks S02E09: Arbitrary Law – Damn Good Podcast

Resolution. When Arbitrary Law originally aired, a lot of the audience for Twin Peaks had already abandoned it, perhaps not accepting the resolution that they'd been shown when Leland/BOB killed Maddy. It's a shame they did, because the performance Ray Wise gives here at the end of this episode is a treasure, as he vacillates

MA 110: Deconstructing Jealousy – Multiamory

We talk a lot about jealousy in the polyamory scene — how to manage it, how to de-program it, how to communicate with your partners about it. But in this episode, we are going to be deconstructing jealousy — categorizing specific triggers and their causes. If you have the tools to identify your jealousy triggers,

OTWC: 008 – Group Sex Part Two – On The Wet Coast

One of the exceedingly fun features of non-monogamy can be group sex. Sexy, sweaty bodies writhing in a naked pile can be an outstanding experience, but it's not without complications. There are different things to take into consideration whether you're navigating a threesome, foursome, fivesome or six plus orgy. On this episode of On The

Twin Peaks S02E08: Drive With A Dead Girl – Damn Good Podcast

We're in a post-Maddy world, now, and the “Who Killed Laura Palmer?” storyline is barrelling toward a conclusion. Ray Wise delivers a terrifying and sublime performance as Leland who may or may not be behind the wheel of his own body. We see him slide between composure, meek Leland, and the anger of BOB. Unfortunately,

MA 109: Ethical Unicorn Hunting (Live Show) – Multiamory

Unicorn hunters (heterosexual couples seeking to add a bisexual woman to their relationship) get a bad rap in the polyamorous community. But is it possible to defy this stereotype and add a third to your relationship in a way that's ethical, kind, and groovy for all parties involved? In this special live show recorded in Los

SS 279: The Allure of Paradise – The Swingset at Desire Resort

Tonight we celebrate two things, first, our 7th anniversary as a podcast, and second our first takeover of Desire Resort last November. It's no secret that there's been some…stuff…happening in the world. As that stuff started on our trip, we've been a little…loath to revisit. But now, to celebrate our anniversary, we have assembled an

Desire Week 2017! ESDA 080: Dungeon Desire DM Roundtable – Ending the Sexual Dark Age

Hello Swingset Fans and welcome to Desire week on the Swingset! The following podcast was recorded at Desire in November 2016 and features Duncan and Mrs. Duncan, Jeff and Francine, Swinger Doc and Sexy Pixie, Ropemaster and his lovely and of course, JV and Shara. If you want to join us in Desire from November

Desire Week 2017! GPSC 014: Closing the Deal, at the Swingset Desire Takeover – The Gentleperverts' Social Club

Hello Swingset Fans and welcome to Desire week on the Swingset! The following podcast was recorded at Desire in November 2016 and features Dr. Liz Powell, Chris aka. Mister Pent, and myself, and it is The Gentleperverts Social Club. If you want to join us in Desire from November 4th to the 11th in 2017,

MA 108: Solo Polyamory (Live Show) – Multiamory

Multiamory is in Portland! In this special, live-audience episode, we explore solo polyamory. The solo poly crowd is an often-misunderstood, yet significant portion of the non-monogamous community at large, and this week we uncover the many different ways solo polyamory can be practiced, examine couple privilege, and learn all about amatonormativity. You can order Dedeker's

Twin Peaks S02E07: Lonely Souls – Damn Good Podcast

Big shit goes down this week in Twin Peaks! We get the answer to the most important question that's been vexing us…just WHO THE HELL IS MR. TOJAMURA?! Well, not really, we also get pretty good idea who actually killed Laura Palmer this week. In addition to that, David Lynch has returned to direct and

Twin Peaks S02E06: Demons – Damn Good Podcast

We return from our extended hiatus to a changed world but choose to stay in the weird 1950s/1990s hybrid that is Twin Peaks. We talk about all the happenings in Peaks land, including The Secret History of Twin Peaks by Mark Frost, and new audiobooks of The Secret Diary of Laura Palmer and “Diane…” The

SS 278: From Dildos to Playrooms – Accessorizing Our Sexy Lives

You're all sexy and sophisticated human beings, You understand your sexuality and you enjoy both giving and receiving pleasure. Once you've figured all that out about yourself, where do you go? What do you do next? Tonight we talk about how to best accessorize your sexy life, from dildos and vibrators, to rolls of saran

MA 107: A Very Poly Valentine's Day (Live Show) – Multiamory

The Multiamory West Coast tour brought the crew to Seattle on February 14th. On this very traditional romantic holiday, we spent some time discussing how people in non-traditional relationships can use this as a time to reflect on the unique qualities each relationship and each partner brings to the table. We also discuss the slightly

OTWC: 007 – Group Sex Part One – On The Wet Coast

One of the exceedingly fun features of non-monogamy can be group sex. Sexy, sweaty bodies writhing in a naked pile can be an outstanding experience, but it's not without complications. There are different things to take into consideration whether you're navigating a threesome, foursome, fivesome or six plus orgy. What do you need to think

SS 277: On Gender, Feminism & Non-Monogamy with Dedeker Winston

It's no secret that women may have dramatically different experiences entering into the non-monogamous world than men, whether it's exploring dating on OkCupid, charting a path through swinger parties, or being a third in a couples' relationship. Dedeker Winston, co-host of Swingset.FM‘s Multiamory, and author of the new book The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory joins Dylan Thomas, Dr.

MA 106 – 7 Habits of Highly Effective Poly People (Live) – Multiamory

This week's episode was recorded during Multiamory's very first stop on their West Coast Tour 2017! Every seat in the house at Octopus Literary Salon in Oakland, California was full as we presented a talk on the 7 habits of highly effective polyamorous people. Drawing inspiration from our mentors and role models, we break down

MA 105: The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory – Multiamory

Our own Dedeker Winston's book, The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory comes out internationally today and we are so excited to be able to interview her about the book and share our own experiences with reading it. Dedeker talks to us about the importance of creating a book that empowers women to have agency in

SS 276: Our Finest Sexy Hours, #EXPLANABRAG

Used to be, we'd talk pretty endlessly about our sexual activity on this podcast, to the point where our MOST NEGATIVE REVIEW EVER called us out for it. But that's ages ago, and it's been quite a while, and we're feeling a little indulgent and want to have some sexy conversation. You may as well

MA 104: Polyamory in Movies and TV (Live Show) – Multiamory

This is a very special live presentation by the Multiamory crew that took place in Santa Monica on January 20th, 2017. In this episode we are discussing the various ways polyamory and non-monogamous relationships are portrayed in fictional movies, TV, and webseries. From hilarious to touching to bizarre, we explore what stories are currently being

SEAGG 028: The Fuck-It List Show – Sex Ed. A Go-Go

Comedic actress Hannah Abney, and the impossibly sexy Joie Nouveau, joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on November 3rd for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     We celebrated our 3rd Anniversary in November! It was a silly night filled with pizza, funfetti vulvas, and classy dick balloons. We celebrated three

OTWC: 006 – Disclosure – On The Wet Coast

All relationships require communication, but good communication is even more essential in ethically non-monogamous relationships where multiple people's needs and wants intersect. Each partnership has its own needs & rules for disclosure. How & when to make new information known can be one of the big challenges in non-monogamy, especially when saddled with baggage from

SS 275: The Myths of Sex & Porn Addiction with Dr. David Ley

It seems to happen like clockwork. Someone cheats, or gets caught in some sort of sex scandal. They have to make amends, show that they're working to fix “the problem” so they can return to their normal lives. While we on the Swingset happen to think that many of their normal lives might've been improved

MA 103: Relationship Agreements with Eri Kardos – Multiamory

This week we are very pleased to speak with Eri Kardos, international speaker, coach, and author of the newly released book Relationship Agreements. Eri takes us through the basic philosophy of using agreements to strengthen your relationships, whether you are polyamorous or monogamous. We also learn how a small, blue, furry monster named Fred can help change

SS 274: Never Finished – Improving Ourselves for Sex & Relationships

It's the New Year, 2017, and for much of our country that means halfhearted resolutions. I'm going to change. I'm going to improve. These resolutions come about because of the arbitrary timeline that defines last year and this year. We are unfinished, and as such, we can strive to always improve. We discuss working on

MA 102: Emotional Responsibility aka Owning Your Shit – Multiamory

If you've ever been in a relationship with a human being, chances are you've encountered some emotions within yourself and the other person. Until the day we are dating Vulcans or robots, our relationships will continue to be sticky, emotional, and not always rational. But all is not lost — a healthy dose of emotional

SS 273: Cybersecurity for our Naughty Bits, aka: Bring on 2017

We've been overdue for for a rapprochement with one of our favorite past topics: Privacy and Security in Swinging & Polyamory.The team of Mister Pent and Dylan Thomas put together information about securing yourself on the internet that a panel also including Dr. Liz Powell, Mike Joseph, and Cooper S. Beckett could discuss, digest, and

MA 101: Gender Non-Conformity 101 – Multiamory

This week on Multiamory, Jase and Emily get all Gender Non-Specific with our special guest, professional cuddliest and dominatrix, Tate Ashley!  Tate helps us explore queer theory, gender “extremes” vs. gender “middle ground,” and language and its inefficiency when referring to gender non-conformity. The three of us also reveal the childhood experiences that helped shape

MA 100: Relationship Resolutions – Multiamory

It's Multiamory's 100th episode! It's a new season! It's a new year! And that means….New Year's Resolutions. Download the worksheet here to use in your own relationships! In this episode we are discussing how to make resolutions for your relationships in 2017. However, this isn't your typical discussion on goal-setting. We are going to be taking you

SS 272: Beyond Kinsey – Sliding Across the Sexuality Spectrum

One of the main reasons that so many of us leave monogamous relationships is the realization that we or our partners may not be as hetero as we thought. Non-monogamy can provide an exceptional opportunity to go beyond Kinsey's Scale, and view the entire spectrum of sexuality that spreads out before us, learning about ourselves

MA 099: I Got 99 Problems but 2016 Ain't One – Multiamory

2016 was a challenging year, but the Multiamory crew is tired of all the doom and gloom. In this episode, we review the good parts of 2016. A lot of great things happened for the Multiamory podcast, for the polyamory community, and for all three of us! Join us in generating some positivity to combat

SEAGG 027: The Bianca and Lola Show – Sex Ed A Go Go

NYC based burlesque performer, art muse, and firecracker, Bianca Dagga joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on September 1st for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go.     We were one guest short for our first show back after a busy summer hiatus, but Bianca and Lola joined forces and the Pussy

SEAGG 026: The Pepperoni and Compromise Show – Sex Ed A Go Go

NYC based Burlesque MC, writer, singer, and gadabout, Bastard Keith and the “Hidden Treasure of Burlesque”  Mandarine Moon-fly, joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on October 6th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go!     Doing a live show in NY can be very tricky. Sometimes you end up with a

SS 271: Gang Bang The Mailbag 31

Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X (plus 1)!  We're recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. As usual, answers have not been edited for content or clarity! If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a

MA 098: Happy Poly-Days Part 2: This Time It's Personal – Multiamory

The holidays are upon us, and so is the holiday stress! This week we are talking about all the aspects of the holidays that makes us fall into a temporary stress-induced insanity. We also give insights on managing the holidays with multiple partners and how to tackle coming out to your family members. But most

Love Will Out – Thoughts From The Brink at the End of 2016

It's really been a year, hasn't it? I know I've been quieter than usual, at least here on the blog. I've been outspoken to the point of blithering loudmouth elsewhere, though. Including a misguided, if impassioned, attempt to reign in someone trolling in a Trump hat on election night at #SSDesire. 

SS 270: Gang Bang The Mail Bag XXX

Welcome to Gang Bang The Mailbag TRIPLE X! That's right, this is our thirtieth listener mailbag episode, and we're recording tonight with a live (and muted) studio audience! As always, questions have been edited for content and clarity. If you have a question for a future listener mailbag, please give us a call at 573-557-9464

MA 097: Agile Scrum Your Relationships – Multiamory

This week we are discussing a unique communication system to try out in your relationships: agile scrum. The agile scrum system was originally developed to be applied to software development, but writer Alanna Krause adapted the system to become a new system for communication in her relationship.  The Multiamory crew tested out holding monthly scrum meetings with

SS 269: Dating on the Outskirts of Sexuality – LGBTQ Matchmaking with Claire Ah

Dating in the heteronormative world is difficult. It's also bizarre enough that hundreds of comedies and dramas are made about dating every year. When you zoom down to that subsection of the culture, the minorities of the LGBTQ community who are seeking others in that same minority, it gets more complicated. Tonight we're joined by

MA 96: Poly Storytelling and Diversity with Jackie Stone – Multiamory

This week we are excited to speak with Jackie Stone, director of the poly-themed web series, Compersion. Jackie shares with us her inspiration to tell the story of a monogamous couple opening up their marriage, and her commitment to bringing gritty realism to her storytelling. We also open up the discussion surrounding race, diversity, and representation

SS 268: Being Sex Positive from Inside the Non-Monogamy Closet

A large percentage of us dwell pretty securely within the non-monogamy closet. Friends and family may know something is different about us, but they rarely know fully what is up. That said, we live in a world where being sex-positive and progressive can make a big difference, as can standing with those who are bravely

MA 95: All About Consent with Sex Nerd Sandra – Multiamory

This week the Multiamory crew is very excited to intereview sex educator and podcast host for The Nerdist, Sex Nerd Sandra! Sandra takes us through the complex world of consent within relationships and sexual encounters. We discuss the education about consent, the ways that men and women both respect and violate consent differently, and also about how

SS 267: Swingset Takes Over Desire

Life on the Swingset hosts its fifth annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancún, right in the heart of the Riviera Maya. Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz, Lyndzi, and Mr. Pent sit under the thatched roof and next to the bar of the rooftop hot tub and talk Fridays, resort staff, about the cosmic

SS 266: Asking For What You Want Leads to Better Sex

Communication. It doesn't need to be said, yet as it's the answer to so many questions we get asked, it really can't be overstated. One of the most important parts of communication when it comes to sexy time, is learning to ask for what you want, so we discuss that in today's episode of Life

MA 93: Being Secondary While Putting Yourself First – Multiamory

At Multiamory, we generally discourage people from building their relationships on a basis of strict, primary-secondary hierarchy. However, primary-secondary relationships are still very common in the polyamorous community. All three of us have engaged in these kind of relationships at one point or another, for better or worse. In this episode, we talk about the

MA 92: Should You Come Out of the Closet? – Multiamory

Coming out to partners, family, friends, or co-workers about being polyamorous is an important decision that could potentially change your life and your relationships, for better or worse. In this episode, we run you through the most important risks and benefits to consider before deciding to come out to someone important. If you want to

MA 91: The Polyamorous Man: Masculinity and Non-Monogamy – Multiamory

What does it mean to “be a man”? What are the classic hallmarks of masculinity, and how are those expectations both hurting and helping us? What's more, we discuss how traditional notions of masculinity sometimes clash with the ideals of polyamory.   If you want to support our show, the best way is to become

SS 265: Bi Invisibility & The Closet

It's no secret that in the pantheon of the LGBT spectrum, bisexual people are looked down upon, told they don't really exist, avoided in dating life. Bisexuals also often feel less pressure to come out, as they can so easily pass as one side or the other. Paradoxically, this leads to bi invisibility and erasure,

OTWC: 005 – Autonomy – On The Wet Coast

On this episode Kat & Flick are discussing autonomy in non-monogamy. How emphasizing autonomy for yourself and your partners serves your relationships, and the tricky situations and consequences that can come up related to owning your independent self. Even if it doesn't seem like it, we choose how much we let other people's needs and wants

MA 90: Poly Processing Groups – Multiamory

Have you ever felt alone on your poly journey? Do your friends or family immediately jump to blaming polyamory for any relationship problems you may have? We've definitely all encountered this and have wished for a better support network. On this episode we talk with two people who created their own Poly Processing Group that

MA 89: Make Poly Great Again – Multiamory

This week, the Multiamory crew is pissed off. The current political climate has inspired us to vent about a number of topical things that get under our skin: toxic masculinity, sexual harassment, the alt right, and more. In particular, we examine how the polyamorous community is not immune to these things, as well as addressing

SS 264: Couples' Privilege & the Notion of the Third

As couples, so often we're looking for the third. The unicorn usually. They're rare, seemingly unobtainable, but when we find them it's just so magical. Except that we're often boxing that unicorn in, that single person who now has to put up with our pre-established couples dynamic and the fact that if we ghosted it'd

SS 263: Let's Get Sexting – Dirty Talk and Naked Pics

We all send dirty comments, dirty pictures, full on sext-travaganzas with our partners, playmates, friends straddling the edge of naughty. Tonight we're joined by the Swinging MILF herself, Sally Swings to talk about sending each other dirty pictures and messages through sexting.     Today's episode of Life on the Swingset is sponsored by Better

MA 087: 5 Mistakes Poly N00bs Make – Multiamory

For a long time there haven't been many public role models to demonstrate healthy, high-functioning polyamory, in contrast to the many demonstrations of monogamy we see every day on TV, movies, and other corners of the media. It's easy to make mistakes when first venturing down the path of non-monogamy. This week, we take you

SS 262: Why We Play With Others

When people consider exploring non-monogamy, we tell them to picture a pretty good but occasionally difficult relationship (ie, every relationship) and then picture it expanding exponentially because you've added more people. Eventually becoming a tesseract of interlocking and interconnected parts. Each of those parts, believe it or not, have a mind of their own. We've

MA 086: Sustainable Relationships – Multiamory

Sustainability means making decisions that address the needs of the present without compromising the needs of the future. The term is most often applied to environmental policy, but how does the concept of sustainability apply to relationships? Are poly relationships more sustainable than monogamous ones? If you want to support our show, the best way is to

SS 261: Mistakes Happen – Processing After Boundary Violations or Safer Sex Failures

It's pretty much a given that, at some point or another in swinging or polyamory, there will be boundary violations, safer sex failures, and other moments you'd talked about and thought about and made rules about. No matter how much hypothetical thought goes into it, though, often being confronted with these things in the real

MA 085: Meeting Your Metamours – Multiamory

Having a positive relationship with your metamours can dramatically improve the quality of your relationship landscape. In this episode we cover the who, what, where, when, why, and how of meeting your metamours and setting yourself up for the best possible outcomes. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become

OTWC 004: Triads – On The Wet Coast

On this episode we be discussing Triad relationships with special guest Iris @irisopens on Twitter Flick & I are podcasting from our first triad getaway (sorry about the unavoidable background noise) with our awesome girlfriend Iris and she's joining us to talk about this unique & challenging non-monogamous relationship style. None of us expected to

Twin Peaks S02E05: The Orchid's Curse – Damn Good Podcast

We reach a shaky point in Twin Peaks history, as a number of the cartoonier plot points begin to draw themselves front and center, with Leo potentially returning home, freakishly strong Nadine's high school memory, and of course more with the Hardy Girls Donna and Maddy. A brief bit of light comes when Lara Flynn

SS 260: Double Penetration and Other Varsity Sexual Moves

There are few acts in the pantheon of sexuality that carry with them so much intrigue, coveting, and fear, as double penetration, and its more advanced siblings double vaginal and double anal. For one thing, these really can't be done in a monogamous relationship. Oh sure, we can use dildos and such things, but that's

MA 084: Zen and the Art of First Dates – Multiamory

If you are new to poly or just opening up your relationship, you may come to a realization that is exciting for some and terrifying for others: time to go on first dates! Going on first dates when you're poly presents a whole host of unique benefits and challenges. In this episode, we lay out

SEAGG 025: The CatalystCon Studio Show – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

Wicked Pictures performer, director and humanitarian, Jessica Drake, and Good Vibrations very own Sex Toy Santa, Andy Duran, joined Lola on stage at Catalyst Con Midwest in Chicago on April 2nd for a special installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go. We were honored to be asked to be a part of Ccon Studios. Recording with

SS 259: Polyamorous as a Person of Color, with Mike Joseph

While we're pretty good on the Swingset at talking about our experiences in polyamory and swinging, We have limits to our shared experience, so we reached out and asked Mike Joseph to join the Swingset and speak to us about his experience navigating dating and polyamory as a person of color. We discussed some of the

MA 083: The Triforce of Communication – Multiamory

It's dangerous to go alone…take this! It's the Triforce of Communication! What is that, you ask? The Triforce of Communication, other than being a nerdy title, are the three primary goals of communication in any given conversation or interaction with a partner. Communication breakdowns often occur when you and your partner have mismatched goals. If

SS 258: Gang Bang The Mailbag 29 – Post-Pregnancy Swinging, Grower vs. Shower

Ginger takes the cords of the mailbag and sits down with Dylan and a LIVE STUDIO AUDIENCE as they answer listener questions for the 29th Gang Bang the Mailbag! The Swinger Doc also sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on risks associated with hot tub sex!     Questions in

MA 082: Multiple Attachment Styles for Multiple Partners – Multiamory

Descriptio This week we are discussing the theory of attachment in adults. That may sound daunting, but it's actually quite simple. Your individual attachment style is how you react when a particular relationship experiences separation, threat, or pressure. Some people react by becoming clingy and impulsive, and others react by pushing the other person away.

SEAGG 024: The Hot Tub in the Woods Show – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

On this episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola and the crew chat about the art of the Pussy Tickle, never being tired of talking about sex, getting your mojo back, Star Trek kinkery, and why hot tubs in the woods can be dangerous things. Seriously. NY poet, author, and educator, Mo Beasley, and the

OTWC 003: Mental Illness – On The Wet Coast- copy

Hey Swingsetters, Cooper here – Today we're running an episode of our new Swingset.FM podcast On The Wet Coast, where I discuss depression and other mental illness with Kat Stark and Serious Flick. If you like what you hear, head over to OnTheWetCoast.com to subscribe. On this episode we'll be discussing mental illness in non-monogamy with

MA 081: Multi-versary: The Sequel – Multiamory

The Multiamory podcast just turned two years old! Welcome to the terrible twos, baby! On this episode, we give a recap of all the things we've accomplished in the past two years, much of it with the inspiration of our wonderful listeners and fans. We also talk about the personal turning points we've each had in

OTWC 003: Mental Illness – On The Wet Coast

On this episode we'll be discussing mental illness in non-monogamy with special guest Cooper S Beckett from Life On The Swingset podcast and www.coopersbeckett.com Those of us in non-monogamous circles spend a unique amount of time relating with others in a very intimate manner. When we let go of the standard social narrative of one partner only

SS 257: On Breasts and Attraction

Cooper gets the night off as Ginger makes herself available to Dylan to discuss his attraction to breasts, and his fear that they are the focus of too much attention and energy. The Swinger Doc sits down for another edition of the Medical Mailbag! In this mailbag he answers a listener question on how to find high quality

MA 80: Multiple Love Languages, Multiple Lovers – Multiamory

Your love language is the way in which you express love and prefer to receive love from your partners. Each person has a unique combination of love languages, some stronger than others.  You may not realize it, but you and your partner may be speaking different love languages, which can lead to confusion and frustration. If

Twin Peaks S02E04: Laura's Secret Diary – Damn Good Podcast

Laura's Diary is revealed, and Leland is held accountable for the murder of Jacques Renault while other shenanigans happen and a very racist character shows up. Cooper is incensed by the lesser elements of this episode, namely Hank and Harold, and discusses the value of clearing out the cast. We talk about why some actors

MA 079: Polyamory and Spirituality – Multiamory

Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Welcome and namaste! This week we are talking about the spiritual side of alternative relationships. Polyamory has long been associated with the free love movement, which in turn has long been associated with the New Age spirituality of hippies. Though modern-day religions tend to condemn polyamorous relationships, there are a number of people in

IF 013: Energy Play – Intellectual Foreplay

Join Prof and Ginger in the bath while they bring you into their world of what they call “energy play.” They discuss ancient traditions, rejection of dogma, sensations, and how it is real for them. Ginger talks more about the practical “how to” for exploring energy play by yourself or with partners. Using mindfulness is

SS 256: Smoothing Re-Entry, When Our Partners Date or Play Without Us

All three of us here on the Swingset have occasionally dated and played independent of our partners, and all three of our partners have dated and played independent of us. A moment that can be tricky, especially early on in the swinging or poly lifestyles, is that moment of re-entry, where our partner (or us)

SEAGG 023: The Prince Show AKA The Bonus Show – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

Actress and filmmaker, Hye Yun Park, and the sultry Vera Safire joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head in New York City on May 5th for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go. This show was originally scheduled to air in May after the death of Prince, but due to technical difficulties and wonky

Twin Peaks S02E03: The Man Behind Glass – Damn Good Podcast

We're disappointed to learn that some of Season Two's…lesser storylines start up this week, with far too little time (though exceptional as it is) given to Ray Wise and Leland. The One Armed Man undergoes a transformation, Maddy laments being thought of like Laura, creepy Harold is creepy, and Lara Flynn Boyle gives an excellent

IF 012: Body Image – Intellectual Foreplay

Prof and Ginger take to the bath to take on body image. The honesty is as naked as Prof and Ginger themselves. A heartfelt, emotional conversation is here for you that is as raw as they have ever been. It’s a marathon Intellectual Foreplay episode, so brace yourself. Every BODY has a story and they

SS 255: People of Color in Kink Communities

We've talked a lot of bout community lately on the Swingset, and while we've specifically made the point that it's not enough to talk about diversity but to take action to seek it out, we've done a poor job of acknowledging that diversity includes diversity of racial background and we've contributed to a deafening silence

MA 077: Life Changes and Polyamory

Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes! Change is an unavoidable part of life but that doesn't keep it from being scary sometimes. We have a lot of personal experience with big life changes like moving to new states or countries, deaths of family or friends, transitioning from monogamy to polyamory, and much more. In this episode we discuss some the

SEAGG 022: The Polyamory Show – Sex Ed A Go-Go

The creator of Poly Role Models, Kevin Patterson, and “The Witty Titty from the Big City”, Ravenessa,  joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head in New York City on June 2nd for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go. On this episode of Sex Ed A Go-Go, Lola and the crew chat about their

MA 076: Emotional Abuse and Polyamorous Relationships – Multiamory

It isn't easy or fun to talk about abuse. Abusive relationships come in many different iterations, and non-monogamous relationships are not exempt from these kinds of unhealthy dynamics. It's difficult for poly folk to speak publicly about abuse, as social stigma discourages many people from sharing any negative or darker aspects of poly relationships. In

OTWC 002: Stress – On The Wet Coast

On this episode we’re discussing Stress in ethical non-monogamy. There are so many positive aspects about open relationships but one of the negatives we’ve discovered is how stressful they can be. Everyone knows that jealousy, self-esteem issues, or mismatched levels of feelings can take their toll, especially when find ourselves managing them poorly or tamping

Twin Peaks S02E02: Coma – Damn Good Podcast

A trigger warning is apt, that image that scarred some of us for life, of BOB crawling over the furniture, is in this episode of Twin Peaks. We find quite a bit to like in this second Lynch directed episode of the season, and are thankful that its shorter run-time made way for a more

SS 254: The Pursuit of Playmates & Lovers in Swinging & Polyamory

How do you find other swingers? How do you find people to date? Those top a list of frequent questions we get on the Swingset. As outsiders looking in, as people curious to get started, we all wonder if we'll be able to do this, because there's that foreign concept in the middle. Finding people

MA 075: Primary Partners and Priority in Polyamory

Whew, that's a lotta P's! After many discussions inspired by our solo polyamory episode a few weeks ago, we decided to revisit the topics of hierarchy and priority. Some people insist that a primary/secondary hierarchy is the only that works for long-term polyamory. After all, if you want a house, kids, and any other number

SS 253: Between Swinging & Polyamory – The Haziness Intensifies

We're back! We took the longest (only) hiatus in Swingset History and each of us has come back rested and ready. Today we discuss the blurring of the line between swinging and polyamory and how things tend to evolve in ways well beyond our expectations. [HAZINESS INTENSIFIES] We recorded this podcast LIVE in front of

MA 074: Sex Positivity, Sex Negativity, Sex Neutrality – Multiamory

This week we are trying to pin down the slippery notion of sex positivity. Does it just mean the absence of sex negativity? Does it mean you have to be enthusiastic about all kinds of sex? What if you don't even have sex? We bandy about what “sex neutrality” might mean, as well as illuminate

OTWC 001: Jealousy – On The Wet Coast

On this episode – originally released on the Gentle Perverts Social Club Podcast Episode 11 on Swingset.fm– we wade into the murky green waters of jealousy. We all know that as non-monogamous perverts, we're completely above jealousy. It's 100% full-time compersion up in here! Except we're not, and it's not. Jealousy affects all our relationships

Twin Peaks S02E01: May The Giant Be With You – Damn Good Podcast

It is happening again…It is happening again… A Damn Good Podcast About Twin Peaks returns, with hosts Cooper, Miko, and Ophilia discussing the Lynchiest Lynchian season premiere that ever Lynched. In a double-length episode that uses its excess time for recapping season one, we get some moments that're truly wonderful, with the peak, of course,

MA 073: Solo Polyamory – Multiamory

What is solo polyamory? Ask anyone in the poly community, and you're bound to get a wide range of answers. Some people see solo polyamorists as “free agents” who keep all relationships at arm's length. Others identify as solo polyamorists because they don't want to be considered part of a couple, or because they don't

MA 072 – Compersion and Open Relationships – Multiamory

  If you've read much about polyamory you've definitely come across the term “compersion.” The word was created in the early 90's to fill a gap in the english language and it means the feeling of joy and happiness you have at experiencing another person's joy and happiness. This is an important feeling to cultivate in

MA 071 – The Naked Episode – Multiamory

We've finally launched our Patreon page! To celebrate, the Multiamory crew is getting naked, figuratively and literally! This week, we bare all for our listeners, sharing our intimately personal stories of good times and bad, sexual exploration, gender identity, losing our virginities, and our favorite cusswords. If you want to watch the video from this

Desire Week – Essays from My Life on the Swingset Audiobook

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast! For

SEAGG 004: Puppy Play, Lube, and Spit * Rain Delay * – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

Dearly Beloved, due to technicial difficulties and life in general, Sex Ed A.Go-Go's Prince tribute episode will be delayed. In its place, we've chosen to run Dirty Lola's favorite fracking episode of all time… so far! Hey it's the Birthday Show!!! This was the birthday to end all birthdays. The Pussy Posse (Francisco Ramirez and

Desire Week – SS 184: Ending the Sexual Dark Age with the Swingset at Desire Resort & Spa

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast! We

Desire Week – SS 209: Swinging For Beginners IX – Sexy Vacations

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast! Vacations.

MA 070: Polyamorous Breakups – Multiamory

No one likes to talk about break-ups. Unless they’ve just broken up with someone, then it’s all they can talk about. Break-ups challenge our beliefs about the enduring quality of true love, but they are an unfortunate reality when having multiple relationships. Unfortunately, having multiple partners does not make break-ups any less difficult. In this

Desire Week – SS 183: A Swinging Vacation – Live from Desire Resort & Spa – Life on the Swingset

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast! Ginger,

Desire Week – SS 230: The Swingset Takes Desire IV – Where We're Going… We Don't Need Clothes

It's Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we're running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you'd like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It's booking fast! Desire.

MA 069 – How to Find Polyamorous Partners Offline

The Multiamory crew have often discussed strategies for finding dating partners through online dating. But what about finding partners in real-life? Can you find poly-friendly partners out at a bar? How do you flirt while also conveying important information about your lifestyle? We give you a collection of our favorite tips for flirting while out

SS 252: Gang Bang The Mailbag 28 – Moving from Swinging to Poly, Introverts & Voyeurs & Swing Clubs, & Playing Separately

Ginger and Cooper continue to gang bang that mailbag! Tonight we answer questions about being given the go ahead to be open and then having it revoked, what it's like to be an introvert at a swing club, if voyeurism is allowed at clubs, difficulties playing separately, and transitioning from a swing relationship to a

MA 068: Open Relationship Rules, Agreements, and Boundaries – Multiamory

At Multiamory, we encourage people to avoid making strict rules when opening up their relationship. However, what about agreements? What about setting boundaries? Are those the same thing as rules? Rules, agreements, and boundaries are all frameworks that can be used to protect yourself within a relationship, but there are subtle differences. On this episode

MA 050: 5 Tactics to Tame Jealousy – Multiamory

Jealousy pops up everywhere in our lives — at work, at home, and in romantic relationships. It can range from slight twinges to full-blown outbursts. No one likes feeling jealous, but it can be hard to avoid when you're in an alternative relationship. The Multiamory crew has gotten intimately acquainted with jealousy many times, and

MA 067: How to Talk to Your Partner about Polyamory – Multiamory

This week, the Multiamory crew addresses question we get from our listeners all the time: how do I broach the subject of opening up my relationship? If you’re currently in a monogamous relationship, and you’re curious about opening it up, even the thought of suggesting it to your significant other may be unnerving. In this

SS 251: Gang Bang The Mailbag 27 – Bi Invisibility, Swinging From Infidelity, & The OPP

We're scaling back a little at The Swingset to allow ourselves to take some needed rest. This has caused Dylan to go off to The Dakotas to hunt mastodon. Meanwhile, Ginger and Cooper hold down the fort, debating whether or not two people can in fact gang bang a mailbag. Tonight we answer questions about

MA 066: Polyamorous and Monogamous Orientation – Multiamory

Are some people purely polyamorous and other people are completely monogamous? How can we reconcile these differences? What should I do about jealousy? What kind of polyamorous relationship is right for me? In our interview with counselor, hypnotherapist, and author Kathy Labriola we get to hear her insights into all of this and more! Some

SEAGG 021: The Mellow Show – Sex Ed A Go Go

The creator and editor of the indie porn mag MATH, Mackenzie, and the sensational self-proclaimed weirdo Vada James joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head in New York City on June 2nd for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go. Not every Sex Ed A Go-Go can be filled with YASSSS and high energy

SS 250: Pegging Experience with Ruby Ryder

“Pegging Enthusiast” isn't just Cooper's motto… it's his mission statement. One of the most specific sex acts, named in a contest by Dan Savage's Savage Love Readers, pegging is when a woman wearing a strap-on fucks a man in the ass. We've talked about it off and on over the years, always couched in the

MA 065: Romance and Polyamory – Multiamory

Our culture is steeped in notions of traditional romance. In so many love songs we hear, “You're the only one for me.” Our movies, TV shows, and dozens of other art forms idolize the couple, the soulmates, the star-crossed lovers. Our notions of “romance” are still heavily tied up to sexual exclusivity. If you have

SS 249: Having Gang Bangs (Real Ones, Not Mailbags)

We've talked of group sex and orgies often, the logistics of sex and play parties, of mfm threesomes, and somehow danced around the actual genesis for our mailbag titles. It so happens that we know Jennifer, a frequent gang bang center of attention, and co planning conspirator, so we discuss the many ins and outs

SS 248: Swingset's Got the D

Today's episode features me, Dylan, speaking with Daisy, Dawn Ardent, Damien, and Duncan as we chat about our community and how we enjoy those of us in the community…thoroughly, being closeted, and loss.     I mentioned we on the Swingset needed a break and it looks like we've gotten it. Soon you'll do away

DP 003: Judaism, Technology, and Don’t You Worry, Sey Hey with Ya el – Don't Panic Podcast!

Hi Swingset Fans! Dylan Theodore Thomas here, (yes we've decided my middle name is Theodore) Over the last six years, Life on the Swingset has grown into more than the sum of its parts. It's a podcast, it's a community, it's a podcasting network, it's a family, One of the best parts of being here

SS 247: Stress, Closets, and Intersections

This isn't a regular episode. Dylan grabs the mic and takes over for a monologue on stress, thinking about being closeted, and intersectionality. In between all that Morgan tells us how Swinging is her stress relief. You can read more about Mississippi's HB1523 on NPR, here. This really sums it up: “the Mississippi legislation protects

SS 246: The One With The Lesbian Swingers

Often our discussion of swinging travels down the traditional “norms” of the subculture, a couple, a man and woman, having sex with other couples. But we all know that any subculture is full of iteration after iteration of variance. Tonight we're going to talk about one of the oft overlooked swinging groups, lesbians. And as

IF 011: Swingset Takes Desire Recap – Intellectual Foreplay

Prof and Ginger sip tequila and espresso Martinis while reliving all the sexiness of Desire with the Swingsetters. Flirting, playing, and maybe a cheese plate or two later, Prof and Ginger resolve to come again and again…back to paradise. Interested in traveling to Desire with Ginger and Prof in April 2016? Email Ginger for details

SS 245: Abuse in Non-Monogamous and Kink Communities

Abuse isn't discussed the same way we discuss other issues in our communities. Otherwise well meaning people sometimes end up working to silence victims of abuse when they need community support the most. People in groups tend to respond poorly when someone or something threatens the group dynamic and often, victims take the brunt of

SEAGG 020: Double P is for Double Penetration Show! – Sex Ed A Go Go

Sex positive actor and ex porn star, Master Avery and “Classic Burlesque’s Quiet Storm, Genie Adagio joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head in New York City on March 3rd for another installment of Sex Ed A Go-Go. Spring hasn't quite sprung in New York, but Lola along with two newly minted members of

SS 244: Cuckolding & Humiliation with Princess Kali

Sometimes it feels great to be really and truly degraded. The humiliation expansion pack for BDSM draws curiosity, ire, and extreme excitement from the world. Another stop, on that same train line is cuckolding, an act that many still try to make an insult, but may unambiguously show someone at once totally comfortable with their

SS 243: The Bitchcast.

Katie Mack and Ginger Bentham are ready to #femmespread like you've never seen before. Talking honestly and earnestly about their experiences as women, Katie and Ginger get unapologetically bitchy. They share their uncensored and unfettered voices on topics like privilege, female socialization, male entitlement, rape culture, consent, and the true experience of owning your power.

SS 242: The Sixth Anniversary Show, with Miko and Shira!

Six years ago, Cooper, Dylan and two other panelists blustered through far too long of an intro and a horrible title and made a thoroughly mediocre hour of podcasting. When we started this thing called the Swingset, we thought we'd do it for a little while and that would be it. Maybe we would inform, and

IF 010: Naming Our Dynamic – Intellectual Foreplay

Prof and Ginger experiment with the nuance of their Dominant/submissive dynamic. Within a solid, long-term, equitable relationship, Prof and Ginger demonstrate that Dominance and submission have a functional effect on keeping a relationship fun and stimulating. As more of the culture is exposed to Fifty Shades of Grey, realistic expression of kink dynamics are informative

SS 241: Men, We Need To Talk.

Hey fellow men… Dylan here. I want to take a moment to express a little sympathy. It can be incredibly hard out there to be a man. We're living in an age inspired by the speed of the internet. Our goalposts of acceptability and common respectability on social issues and on how we relate to

SEAGG 019: Sex Ed A Go-Go’s First Show of 2016!!! – Sex Ed A Go-Go

The co-host of the Body Poscast, Lillian Bustle and the small but might Tiny D, joined Lola on stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head in New York City on February 4th for Sex Ed. A Go-Go’s first live show of 2016! After a short winter hiatus Sex Ed A Go-go returned to its home stage on

IF 009: Smitten – Intellectual Foreplay

Prof and Ginger are completely smitten. This is the genesis story of a fresh, new polyamorous triad. Listen to the classy kiss and tell of how Eli, Prof, and Ginger start to fall for each other. Discussions of communication, synchronicities, and the rarity of connecting with a vanilla unicorn in the wild are here for

SS 240: Eroticizing Safer Sex with The Doctor

As a well known hypochondriac and germophobe who'd just as soon wrap his entire body in the Titan Full Body Condoms from The Naked Gun if only they sold them at The Lucky Bloke, It's no surprise that Cooper thinks a lot about eroticizing safer sex. Thinking about it, talking about it, trying really hard

SS 239: A Life Less Monogamous – Cooper & Ginger Chat About the Book

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his new novel about swinging A Life Less Monogamous, recorded just days before the book launch. After they chat for a while, Cooper shares the first two chapters of the novel's upcoming audiobook version narrated by himself and Kat Stark. You can buy the book

IF 008: Desire Differences – Intellectual Foreplay

Episode 8 is a particularly intimate discussion talking desire in the bath. It’s like you are right there with them as they enjoy their coffee post a Sunday morning tryst. Explore how desire affects how you relate and ask for what you want. Hear about ebbs and flows in who wants what sex when. And

SS 238: Fisting, with Andre Shakti

One finger, two finger, three finger, four…sometimes even that's not enough and you need to go the full five. To fisting! Huzzah! Tonight we're joined by the amazing Andre Shakti to talk about fisting, best practices, intensity, and what it's like to have a full hand inside you.     You can find Andre Shakti

SS 237: Live Porn & Web Camming with Andre Shakti

We discovered tonight's guest Andre Shakti after seeing her in the wonderful adult film Marriage 2.0, naturally smitten, we followed that internet rabbit hole down and discovered her site and the other work she's done. We immediately wanted to have her on the Swingset to talk about a subject we've talked around but never directly

SS 236: Casual Sex and You and Us

We here on the swingset have a lot of sex. #explanabrag. We've spoken at length about how casual that sex may actually be, and that definition has changed over the years for many of us. Tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast we're talking about what casual sex means to us, and debate whether

SS 235: Gang Bang The Mailbag 26 – Warning Before Ejaculating, Who Should Pay, & Feeling Left Out

For our first episode of 2016 we return to the mailbag for another listener question gang bang. We talk about seeking a well endowed man for an MFM threesome, who should pay for the hotel, swinging vs poly, should you warn before ejaulating from a blowjob, newbies and being left out, and toys that'll work

SEAGG 018: The Pornotopia Episode!!! – Sex Ed A Go Go

The owner of Self Serve Toys, Matie Fricker, and not one but TWO awe inspiring dancers, Honey Grinder and Eve, joined Lola on stage at the Guild Cinema in Albuquerque, New Mexico for Pornotopia’s opening night event on November 12, 2015. Sex Ed A Go-Go journeyed to the Land of Enchantment to kick off the

SS 234: Gang Bang The Mailbag 25 – Dating Apps, Changes in Desire, Erectile Dysfunction and Panic Attacks

Today, on this last day of 2015, we commit to one more gang bang… the mailbag episode. We discuss dating apps, changes in desire, situational erectile dysfunction and jealousy and panic attacks. Questions have been edited for time and clarity. If you have a question for The Swingset, please call 573-55 SWING that's 573-557-9464 to

SS 233: In the Ski Chalet High Atop Mount Swingset

Hey, it’s Cooper, and boy, it's the holidays again, and here I sit in the Ski Chalet high atop Mount Swingset, crackling fire, hot chocolate spiked with RumChata, wearing my 10th Doctor onesie and reminiscing. I think about all that's happened this year, the things that changed, my god. The only thing that could make

SS 232: My Partner’s Break-Up – Dealing With Relationship Fluctuations outside your Primary Swinging & Poly Relationships

The degree of complexity in relationship dynamics is exponential in non-monogamy. What that bullshit was trying to say, was that people are complicated, and every time you add one to your life, things get more complicated. One of the most difficult situations in non-monogamy is helping your partner or paramour deal with major life and

SEAGG 017: Geeky Kink Event Special!! – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

The Frisky Fairy herself, Rebecca Hiles, and the intellectual homosexual, Lucas Brooks AKA Lucky charming, joined Lola on stage at the Geeky Kinky Event in Piscataway, N.J. last month and Sex Ed A Go-Go made its very first appearance at Jeff Mach’s Geeky Kink Event Classic on November 6th! Lola and the Double P managed

SS 231: The Physics of Sex – Bodies, Positions, and Objects in Motion

Soooo, hi guys, it’s Dylan, and I have this problem. Sometimes I want to be up close and personal with someone. I want that full body contact. I want to slide right up next to someone while I'm sliding in and out of someone, I want to kiss them gently, I want my hair in

IF 007: Kink – Intellectual Foreplay

Kinky stuff ahead! Prof and Ginger discuss their kinks, how they discovered their kinks, and what they do with their kinks in the world of open relationships. Dominance, submission, sadism, masochism, and mashups of everything kinky can trigger both guilt and shame as well as be a catalyst for letting go of hang ups that

SEAGG 016: Our 2nd Anniversary Show! – Sex Ed A. Go-Go

Force of nature, sex educator, and Whitney Houston enthusiast, Ericka Hart, and the bubbling brown sugar of burlesque, Essence Revealed, joined Lola on stage this month! We almost let it slip by, but Lola and the Double P managed to put on a worthy anniversary show at Otto’s Shrunken Head on November 5th. Fabulous ladies

ESDA 075: Thirty Naked People and a Microphone – Desire 2015 Discussion Group

This year for Swingset Takes Desire we hosted a bunch of kinky events, and a great time was had by all. This discussion-group style episode was recorded live on our last full day at the resort, full of reminiscence of good times had and great ideas for next year’s full-resort takeover. Listen to this episode

SS 230: The Swingset Takes Desire IV – Where We're Going… We Don't Need Clothes

Desire. It's an emotion, raw and real. It's a place, warm and inviting, November 7th through the 14th of 2015, we made it our space. We brought 79 (and a half, thanks to the amazing Kendra Holliday) couples to Cancun, to the Riviera Maya, to Mexico, to the Desire Resort & Spa, and we collectively

SS 229.1: #SSDESIRE Rain Delay

  Hi Swingset Fans! We're in Desire and we don't have a new episode for you this week but we're recharging, recording, and we'll be back next week with another wonderful episode with Crista Anne on The Physics of Sex – Bodies, Positions, Objects in Motion, and Mad Mods. If you want more I suggest

SS 229: Wanting It All – The Curse of Abundance in Swinging & Polyamory

Many of us are easily attracted to other people, That can lead us to wanting to be with ALL of the people. Swinging lends itself to that pretty well but poly, not so much. Of course, as with anything, abundant swinging can go bad and abundant poly can be amazing. When you do non-monogamy right,

IF 006: Fantastic Lovers – Intellectual Foreplay

Everyone is capable of being a fantastic lover. Prof and Ginger chat about what being a fantastic lover means to them. They are on a boat! (Again!) Join them for a saucy sail where they explore the beauty of seduction as well as the intensity of a honed sexual repertoire. Interested in traveling to Desire

SS 228: Aural Sex – Audio Erotica, Phone Sex & Dirty Talk with Rose Caraway

One of the most enjoyable experiences you can have is putting on your headphones, closing your eyes, and listening to Rose Caraway, the Sexy Librarian, breathe some erotica right into your ears. Tonight we're talking with Rose about her audiobook erotica, phone sex, and dirty talk. Support Life on the Swingset by buying a shirt,

IF 005: Fantasy – Intellectual Foreplay

Fantasy is a useful tool and a beautiful way to play together. Exploring through fantasy is worthy of consideration when you are embarking into the world of ethical non-monogamy and multi-partnering because it is a risk-free way to discuss what works, and what doesn’t. Ginger and Prof give you permission to enjoy your fantasies together

SS 227: What Is Sexy? Thoughts on Sexual Attraction

Tonight we're exploring our thoughts on sexual attraction, what it means and why we're attracted to others, why others may be attracted to us and how that feels, and perhaps most important of all, what makes us feel sexy. We discuss attraction to others; what you're attracted to, how that changes over time, what draws

SEAGG 015: The Cozy Show– Sex Ed. A Go-Go

Sexual empowerment coach and co-hostess of the Sex Gets Real podcast, Dawn Serra, and the Intellectual Homosexual himself, Lucas Brooks AKA Lucky Charming, joined Lola on stage this month. As Joaquin threatened to drench NY Lola and the Double P rallied to put on an awesome show at Otto’s Shrunken Head. The crowd may have

SS 226: Sintrovert or Sextrovert – How the Swinging Lifestyle Brings Out the Social Animal In Us All

A while back, though who knows how long, because memory is fluid, like sexuality, Ginger, the coiner of terms, suggested Sintrovert and Sextrovert as two leading categories of sexually explorative folk. These modified versions of introvert and extrovert help to remove the stigma attached, and suggest that however you embrace your sexuality, you're on the

IF 004: Compersion – Intellectual Foreplay

Prof and Ginger take you for a sail and discuss their introduction and experience with compersion. No worries, the boat isn’t the S.S. Minnow. You’ll make it through this half-hour tour with just a bit of breeze blowing in your ears. Asking each other tough questions about how they each cope when compersion is harder

SS 225: Why We Push Our Sexual Boundaries with Guest Tina Horn

“Why Are People Into That” is a question that people around the world ask of many things, often about various sexual kinks, fetishes, and practices. Podcast host Tina Horn asks on a regular basis, as her show deconstructs with a guest why people might be into a certain thing. We decided to turn that question

SS 224: The Genital Spectacle II – Our Bodies, Our Selves, Our Bits

Our discussion of genitals, both our own and those belonging to other people, simply could not be contained by a single episode, so we return to the subject again, this time discussing labiaplasty, penis enlargement, being happy with your genitals as they are, body hair, shaving, and performance issues (ie, am I hard enough, am

IF 003: Open Friendships – Intellectual Foreplay

Prof and Ginger tackle the conundrum that often in heterosexual relationships cross-gender friendships are considered odd, suspect, or even forbidden. Reflecting on their own experiences with sexy and “platonimous” friendships, they deconstruct the damaging cultural expectations for friendship when in relationships. Their take on open friendships means respecting each human deserves their own meaningful connections

SS 223: The Genital Spectacle – Learning to Like Our Bits

Whether you had to find a mirror to see yours or you could just look down and not miss it, we've all had first encounters with our bits, you know, our genitals. In a culture that espouses a specific body ideal, we can't escape wondering if even our most private parts hold up by comparison.

SEAGG 014: The Katie Mack Attack Show – Sex Ed. A Go Go

Lola and the Double P took over the stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on September 3rd. Co-hostess of the Carnalcopia podcast and all around badass Katie Mack and our favorite giver of go-go goodness Sweet Lorraine joined Lola on stage. Katie and Sweets were officially inducted into the Pussy Posse, (Pussy Tickles Ya’ll!! ) and

IF 002: Biggest Fan – Intellectual Foreplay

Ginger and Prof spar a bit and share their strategies during an intimate conversation from bed. Finding escape in each other rather than escape from each other is a key component to being your partner’s biggest fan. This relationship philosophy holds compersion and generosity are necessary gifts to give one another through both challenging and

SS 222: Gang Bang the MailBag 24 – Shy Male Swingers, Just Starting, Couples’ Jealousy, Online Frustration, Christian Swingers

Swingset does as Chicago does with a 3-peat dip into the mailbag! We discuss discuss shy male swingers, just starting out in the lifestyle, couples’ jealousy, frustration with people who don’t read online profiles in their entirety, and Christian swingers! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for

SEAGG 013: The “Blame it on the Parrot” Show – Sex Ed. A Go Go

Lola and the Pussy Posse took over the stage at Otto’s Shrunken Head on August 6th! Double P alumni, Francisco Ramirez and Foxy Squire returned to the show this month, and reminded us why we love having them on as often as we can. We came up with the official greeting of the Pussy Posse

IF 001: Curiosity – Intellectual Foreplay

On this inaugural episode of Intellectual Foreplay, Prof and Ginger discuss curiosity. Remaining curious about one another through their 20+ year relationship has cultivated a deep love and a playful vibe. They share their strategies and motivations in getting to know other people, using a beginners mind in exploring new relationships, and how they cultivate

SS 221: Gang Bang the Mailbag 23 – Ejaculation, Trust in Swinging, Former Swingers & Sex Club Consent

Welcome back to the Life on the Swingset mailbag where we're reading listener questions! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion unlike this podcast. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight we discuss partnering with a

SEAGG 012: The Kinky Tiki Luau Show – Sex Ed. A Go Go

The double P gained three new members this month when the owners of Shag Brooklyn, Sam and Ashley AKA the Shag Gals, and go-go goddess Ooh LaLoba joined us on stage. We kicked off the Fourth of July weekend with a kinky tiki party. We discussed getting your groove back after your long term relationship

SS 220: Gang Bang the Mailbag 22

We're dipping back into the mailbag for another Life on the Swingset gang bang of your listener voicemails and emails. As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. We discuss swinging as

SS 219: Sex Drive – Baby You Can Drive My Swinging & Poly Lifestyle

Everybody's sex drive is different, and it's likely that everybody who has ever had a sex drive has had assumptions made about it. Swingers, polyamorists, and other non-mono practicioners have had loads of assumptions made about their sex drive. So tonight on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast we're going to discuss those assumptions, and

SS 218: White Rocks & Black Rings – Swinger History & Folklore with Dr. Jeana Jorgensen

Do white rocks in front of a house in the suburbs mean there might be swingers inside? Believe it or not, this is still a question we get, without fail, every month or so. This way of picking out swingers is a part of our history. Then history became legend. Legend became myth. And along

SEAGG 011: The Be Prepared Show – Sex Ed. A Go Go

We took over Otto’s Shrunken Head on June 11th! Ericka Hart, Sexual Health Educator, Performing Artist, and Photographer joins the Pussy Posse and Mandarin Moon-Fly graces us with her wonderful Go-Go skill! We discuss summertime sex preparedness (and you can never be too prepared, period sex shenanigans, places to have sex in NYC, back rubs

SS 217: What About Poly Marriage? – Does Marriage Equality Extend to Polyamory

Recently, our own United States of America had a watershed moment. An injustice so deeply ingrained into what we've called society, what we've called family, what we've called “real and respectable” with one fell swoop, became righted as a matter of not just public policy, but as law. The Supreme Court's decision on Obergefell v.

SEAGG 010: The Tribbing and Strap-On Show – Sex Ed. A Go Go

We took over Otto’s Shrunken Head on May 7th and brought The Frisky Fairy into the Pussy Possy and welcomed back Sweet Lorraine for some extra sweet go-go action! We discuss how Millennials are constantly ruining and complicating things by taking, super simple scissoring, and making it into something called “tribbing”. Millenials. Also, we host

SS 216: Dating – Being Right With and Doing Right By Your People

We all go on dates. Maybe it's a play date with another sexy couple. Maybe it's a romantic getaway with a partner we only see every couple months. Maybe it's a night of taking off your clothes and cleaning someone's apartment for them while they watch you barely contain your excitement. We all date, and

SS 215: Successful Disengagement – Stepping Back Gracefully

We've all been in situations that we were really… REALLY eager to be in…. then realize in the moment maybe we don't want to be in this particular situation but you like everyone involved and you don't want to spoil the mood, and you want to step back gracefully and disengage. We discuss learning how

SEAGG 009: The Foreskin, How Does It Work? Show – Sex Ed. A Go-Go

Sex Ed. A Go-Go once again takes over over Otto’s Shrunken Head and invites The Domster and Wali from the I’m Black He’s White podcast and awesome Bonita Boogie into the Pussy Posse! We have a long and hard conversation about the honest truth about coconut oil, we fall into horrible Marlon Brando impressions, we

SS 214: Secrecy & Privacy in Swinging & Polyamory

In the wake of both Fetlife and Adult Friend Finder getting their content and naughty secrets scraped and posted online, there has been a renewed discussion about secrecy and privacy in swinging & polyamory. Katie Mack joins us to discuss these topics and think about what it means to be secretive, how it relates to

SS 213: Gang Bang the Mailbag 21 – MFM in Tokyo, Age Differences in Swinging, & Wanting Out

Welcome to our 21st Gang Bang the Mailbag! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.comAs always we want to remind those of you at home to tweet along with us at #sspodcast We address a “The Professor” callout from

SEAGG 008: The Bra Storage and Masturbation Secret Show – Sex Ed. A Go-Go

We took over Otto’s Shrunken Head on March 18th, 2015 and brought Kelly Frost, founder and editor of Whoopee Magazine into our live show to discuss finding random things in our bras, deep dark masturbation secrets, googling possessive doctor porn, how to get your groove back, and of course… to answer our audience’s questions while

SS 212: Gang Bang the Mailbag 20 – Meeting Before Poly Dates, The First Move at Swing Clubs, & Soft Swap

Believe it or not, our voicemail gang bang overflowed and we were left with extra voicemails. With that in mind, we've collected some listener emails to do our twentieth mailbag gangbang! As always, if you want to ask a question via voicemail or text: 573-55-SWING, that's 573-557-9464, or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. All

SEAGG 007: The Anniversary Show! Sticking things in dicks, Sex Prepardness Kits – Sex Ed. A Go-Go

Sex Ed. A Go-Go turns one with a NEW UNRELEASED LIVESHOW with Francisco Ramirez and Foxy Squire! We spoke about pony play…… again, sticking our dicks in things, sticking things in dicks, slaces to fuck outside in NY during the wintertime, sex preparedness kits , refurbishing your long term relationships, learning about sex from HBO,

SEAGG 006: The Halloween Show! Prostate Massage, STI real talk and the “Internet” with Lucas Brooks and Sophie Delancey – Sex Ed A Go-Go

Sophie Delancey of the Tell Me Something Good Podcast and the Intellectual Homo himself, Lucas Brooks aka “Lucky Charming” join the Pussy Posse for the first time and they wear costumes! Which you can’t see…. Oh well. Sorry. Lola and the double P talk about Snapchat, Dropbox, prostate massage and STI real talk. After a

SS 211: Ghosts of Swingset Past – Life on the Swingset

Holy shit, Shira B. Katz is here! … and she’s causing trouble! … and she starts a wonderful conversation with Ginger about mindfulness! ….and she asks what we’ve been doing with our lives and we update her with an episode almost entirely about “our business” which included the introduction of the term relationship anarchy. It

SS 210: Nina Hartley Talks About All of the Things

Adult film star, author, sex educator, outspoken feminist and advocate for sexual acceptance Nina Hartley joins and honors us with a conversation on the Swingset. Nina was a pioneer of sex positivity before sex positivity was a thing. A prolific performer, an outspoken feminist and an advocate for sexual acceptance (as a board member of

Twin Peaks S01E07: The Last Evening – Damn Good Podcast

For the finale of season one, Twin Peaks borrows a page from Dallas. Mark Frost writes and directs a finale with multiple cliffhangers, uncomfortable moments, great performances from multiple characters, and terrible performances from a few others. This is the last Damn Good Podcast before our hiatus to cover Season 3 of NBC's Hannibal for

SS 209: Swinging For Beginners IX – Sexy Vacations

Vacations. Aren't they great? But you know what's better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who've never been on a sexy

Twin Peaks S01E06: Realization Time – Damn Good Podcast

A beautifully shot and directed penultimate episode of the season from Caleb Deschanel is hampered by an at times underwhelming script by Harley Peyton that seems to take a surprising number of shortcuts. It's still very solid television, leading up to a “come back next week” style cliffhanger, but it pales in comparison with last

SS 208: Evolution – The Porn Industry and from Performer to Educator with jessica drake

Adult film star and filmmaker jessica drake has seen the porn industry through some of its most radical and affecting changes, and has moved herself from star to writer to educator with her jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex Series. Tonight she's joining us to discuss this evolution of an industry. We chat about how

Twin Peaks S01E05: Cooper's Dreams – Damn Good Podcast

We shake things up this episode, getting our least favorite storylines out of the way right off. (Hint, they involve Donna, James, and The Bobber.) This is a superb episode top to bottom though, thanks to director Lesli Linka Glatter and writer Mark Frost. At this late point in the abbreviated first season, it really

SEAGG 005: Keeping It Real: Fapping, Anal Prep, House Boys with Francisco Ramirez and Kristen Lee – Sex Ed A-Go-Go

Show favorite, Francisco Ramirez returns to the Pussy Posse this time with Kristen Lee at his side. Lola and the gang talk about fapping, anal prep AKA cleaning the cat, house boy applications and keeping it real, because that’s the only way to keep it. This show originally aired 9/25/2014 and took place at The Parkside Lounge! We are building

SS 207: Ejaculating Dildos & Simulacrum Genitals with Stephanie Berman

Way back in 2011 Life on the Swingset issued a pleasure quest. Find a quality ejaculating dildo. Over the years, we did NOT find quality dildos, we DID find Miko, though, so it was a win over all. Tonight we have Steph Berman with us, creator of The Semenette, the best ejaculating dildo we've ever

Twin Peaks S01E04: The One-Armed Man – Damn Good Podcast

Writer Robert Engles and director Tim Hunter impress the hell out of us with a dynamic and engaging episode that manages to showcase all the wonderful things about Twin Peaks while sidelining most of the obnoxious elements. That said, this episode does feature the disturbing domino oral fixation and Shelley Johnson trying to sexily rub

SS 206: Swinging For Beginners VIII: Full Swap & Soft Swap

We're back with more Swinging basics in our Swinging for Beginners series! Full Swap and Soft Swap are the two main classifications of swinging, with full swap including traditional PIV/PIA ( penis in vagina/penis in anus ) sex and soft swap not. Tonight on Life on the Swingset the podcast, we're going to be talking

Twin Peaks S01E03: Rest in Pain – Damn Good Podcast

It's Laura Palmer's funeral, and of course Leland has to ruin this too! Not, of course, before Snake and The Bobber throw down against Broody McBroodsalot. We discuss in this episode how there is a lot of crap in Twin Peaks, but what makes the show great is its ability to put truly transcendent material

SEAGG 004: The Birthday Show! Puppy Play, Lube, and Spit with Francisco Ramirez and Sweet Lorraine! – Sex Ed A-Go-Go

The Birthday Show!!! This was the birthday to end all birthdays. The Pussy Posse ( Francisco Ramirez and Sweet Lorraine ) and Lola discuss puppy play, lube and the merits of spit. Sexy crazy fun!! This show originally aired 7/24/2014 and took place at The Parkside Lounge! We are building up to the release of

SS 205: Gang Bang the VoicemailBag – No Kissing Rules, Alcohol & Swinging, & The Lifestyle

We hit the jackpot when it comes to voicemail questions in this episode. In fact, our voicemailbag runneth over. The Swingset crew gathers around to listen to your questions this time around. The crew tackle questions about humans being suited for monogamy, use of alcohol in the lifestyle, defense of the no kissing rule in

SS MyLotSS: Polyamory Weekly Interviews Cooper S. Beckett

Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset is 100 days old today! To celebrate the first of many milestones, we'll be posting two interviews that he did recently. The second of which has Cooper visiting long time friend, and podcast guru Cunning Minx on the Polyamory Weekly podcast. Below is the description of the episode: “Cooper

SS MyLotSS: We Gotta Thing Interviews Cooper S. Beckett

Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset is 100 days old today! To celebrate the first of many milestones, we'll be posting two interviews that he did recently. The first of which has Cooper sitting down with Mr & Mrs Jones of the We Gotta Thing podcast. Below is their description of the episode: “In

SEAGG 003: Pie and Fellatio with Rachel Kramer Bussel and Foxy Squire – Sex Ed A-Go-Go

Rachel Kramer Bussel joins Dirty Lola and the Pussy Posse including Foxy Squire for a discussion about pegging, the 99 cent store kink, fellatio by candlelight, and trying desperately to figure out how to receive pie while giving head. Our raffle was sponsored by SHAG brooklyn!!! This episode originally aired 6/26/14 and took place at The

Twin Peaks S01E02: Zen, or the Skill to Catch a Killer – Damn Good Podcast

Cooper, Miko and Ophilia discuss their disappointment with the recent news that David Lynch will no longer be a part of the upcoming Twin Peaks reboot. They then get into this very exciting episode with some of the most memorable scenes of the series. So much to cover from the uncomfortable silence at the Horne

SS 204: Figuring Out What You Want Sexually & How to Ask For It – Live at CatalystCon East 2015

This podcast was recorded LIVE at Catalyst Con East on March 28, 2015. So many people don’t know what they want or need sexually. Discovering those wants and needs can be a difficult process without some sexual sherpa to guide them. Then they need to be able to turn those wants into requests, so they

SS 203: A New Beginning – Loin on the Swineset, The Bedcast

Hazy insanity, that is all. “It's like Goldschlager, you want to see the chunks.” “When I'm rubbing lube on your cock, I want to feel the chunks.” let me google that for you: pig penis “Is Ginger now the other white meat?” – J.V. Tom Ridge's Color Coding System for Swingset Podcasts “I've got a

Twin Peaks S01E01: Traces to Nowhere – Damn Good Podcast

The crew tackles the first episode of the series proper, addressing the differences in subtlety when David Lynch is directing vs this episode directed by Dwayne Dunham. They continue to hate on Mike and Bobby, especially now that they know their nicknames: Snake & The Bobber. We catch our first glimpse of BOB and Cooper

SEAGG 002: Kinky Q&A with Francisco Ramirez – Sex Ed A-Go-Go

Join us for a very Kinky Q&A with Francisco Ramirez and Bonita Boogie! This episode was recorded live from The Parkside Lounge in NYC on 5/29/14. www.franciscoramirez.org @franciscoNYC www.sexedagogo.com @sexedagogo www.bonitaboogie.com @bonitaboogie

Twin Peaks Pilot: Northwest Passage – Damn Good Podcast

Cooper, Miko, and Ophilia scramble to keep up with the veritable smorgasbord of character introductions in the feature length pilot to Twin Peaks. Entitled Northwest Passage, this first episode of Twin Peaks has the unenviable task of introducing the plot, the style, and the town, all at once. We all love on Special Agent Dale

SEAGG 001: Kinky Q&A: I Heart Sex Edition! – Sex Ed A-Go-Go

Join us for our pre Valentine's Day 2014 bash! Come out and celebrate your love of all things sex!! All kinds of sex!! Yes…..even sex with yourself. This episode was recorded live from The Parkside Lounge in NYC on 4/23/14. www.sexedagogo.com @sexedagogo www.bonitaboogie.com @bonitaboogie  

SS 202: Finding and Creating Sex-Positive Community with Dr. Dick

Humans have been having sex since the beginning of time. And from cave drawings to the Kama Sutra to The Joy of Sex, we have been inventing ways to communicate about the sex we are having. Then Al Gore invented the Internet and everything changed. Tonight we are excited to finally welcome esteemed sexologist, Dr

SS 201: Girl on Girl – Girl Sex 101 with Allison Moon

Girl on girl…the mythology and visual ecstasy live large from Spring Break to Bourbon Street. Girl on girl sex is worthy of being epic. And certainly deserves more respect than main stream culture affords. Girl sex can perhaps be a little less obvious, though no less delicious. We are excited to welcome Allison Moon, author

Twin Peaks Origins – Damn Good Podcast

Welcome to the very first episode of A Damn Good Podcast about Twin Peaks. Cooper, Miko, and Ophilia, hosts of Swingset.FM‘s Hannibal podcast Eat The Rudecast, partnered with Sound On Sight to crawl through the archives and watch Twin Peaks from the very beginning. This first episode introduces the show and the crew, through a

SS 200: Monogamish Life – Exploring New Frontiers With Dan Savage

In two hundred episodes of Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we've seen ethical non-monogamy go from something whispered about into something that's getting cover articles in major publications. The entire idea of the monogamish; alternate relationships, sexual arrangements, and partnering is having a moment. Tonight, we're thrilled to have, as our guest, Dan Savage

SS 199: Reinventing Relationships with Magnus Sullivan, Writer-Producer of Marriage 2point0

All of us living life on the Swingset are well-versed in the passion, communication, and negotiation being consensually non-monogamous requires. Yet it's rare to see our kinds of relationships portrayed in mainstream films. One such film about to be released is Marriage 2.0 written and produced by Magnus Sullivan. In Magnus's movie, we are (quote)

SS 198: Blowjobs, Cunnilingus, and Educational Porn with Sophie Delancey

We've talked at length about the sad fact that many young people in america get the entirety of their sex ed from watching porn. When porn comes that's actually designed to educate, however, it can be revelatory. We're rejoined by old friend (and new Swingset.FM contributor) Sophie Delancey from The Art of Blowjob and the

SS 197: Sexual Expression and Art with Guest Rachel Lark

Those of us who write about sex and speak about sex and sing about sex have stepped into a unique realm in our society. Where sex was always a hush hush don't talk about it subject, we've decided to podcast, and write, and write songs, and express our sexuality into the world for many different

SS 196: Bacchanalia Basics at The Tool Shed in Milwaukee, WI

Cooper, Dylan, and Miko return to Milwaukee, Wisconsin's wonderful Tool Shed to reprise Swingset's discussion on play parties. They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they conjure

SS 195: Swinging For Beginners VII: Threesomes

In our Swinging for Beginners Series thus far, we've taken you through deciding you're open, talking to your partner, setting up your profile, and going on a first date. We think you're ready for the meat of the course now: Threesomes! We discuss the ever-present acronyms fmf, mfm, mmf, different configurations and play styles, thinking

SS 194: Orgasms, Sexuality & Depression – #OrgasmQuest with guest Crista Anne

The Swingset welcomes back Crista Anne to discuss her recent commitment to herself; to find a path back to self-orgasm through once a day masturbation. Through her very personal and public #OrgasmQuest Crista is documenting her navigation through life-long depression, antidepressants, self-care, living and loving life and parenting and today she shares it all with us, and

SS 193: Gang Bang the Mailbag 19 – Broken Rules, Multiple Male Orgasms, My Teenager Knows and Dan Savage

Our mailbag, full of pluck and fancy, keeps coming back with more questions for us to ponder and maybe even eventualy answer! Today we discuss swinging as parents of very young children, broken rules and people set off-limits, multiple male orgasms and never fail erections, “Poly Doesn't Work”, what to do when finding out the

SS 192: Gang Bang The Mailbag 18 – Dirty Talk, A Cyber Sex Orgy, Male Multiple Orgasms, and Does Poly Work?

It's a new year and there are new questions in the mailbag, even a few voicemails! Tonight on Life on the Swingset, the podcast, we gang bang the mailbag as this series turns 18. We discuss some newbie swinger questions in a lightning round style segment, post sti-transmission risk-aware sex and stigma, imbalances in attraction

SS 191: My Life on the Swingset – Ginger Sits Down With Cooper to Talk About The Book Launch

Ginger sits down with Cooper for a one-on-one discussion of his book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory, recorded on the day of launch. Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want your stories, your orgasms, your everything! Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset:

SS 190: Consent is Emotional Lube

Consent shouldn't be something we have to teach, It's the simplest thing in the world, ask before you touch. But beyond that, consent is involved in so many aspects of our non-monogamous lives, that learning how to give and receive enthusiastic consent is one of the most important things we learn early on as we

SS MyLotSS: Ending The Sexual Dark Age Interviews Cooper S. Beckett

Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset is being released today, January 6, 2015! To celebrate the release of the book, we will be posting three podcast interviews that he did. The first of which has JV Altharas and Shara interviewing Cooper on Ending the Sexual Dark Age. Below is their description of the episode: “Cooper Beckett

SS MyLotSS: Full Disclosure Podcast Interviews Cooper S. Beckett

Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset is being released today, January 6, 2015! To celebrate the release of the book, we will be posting three podcast interviews that he did. The first of which has Eric Barry & Mary Zee interviewing Cooper on The Full Disclosure Podcast. Below is their description of the episode: “This week author,

SS MyLotSS: Carnalcopia Interviews Cooper S. Beckett

Cooper's first book My Life on the Swingset is being released today, January 6, 2015! To celebrate the release of the book, we will be posting three podcast interviews that he did. The first of which has Ashley Manta and Crista Anne interviewing Cooper on the Carnalcopia Podcast. Below is their description of the episode: Did you know

SS 189: Another Year on the Swingset – 2014, the Year That Was

We look back at 2014, what was a year of aggressive expansion for The Swingset, to talk about Desire, going to conferences, teaching classes, getting married, using new dildos like the awesome Tantus Echo Handle, writing books, and more in our annual year-end wrap-up. Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464),

SS 188: Ghosts of Non-Monogamy Past – A Swingset Holiday Special

In an episode that has been attempted every year since the beginning, we reflect on days of non-monogamy gone by, talking about our bloopers and issues and funny times and sad times, and recognize all the oddities that come from early days in swinging and polyamory. We're also thrilled to present two holiday songs by

SS 187: Good Men Everywhere

As a lifestyle that is outside the mainstream, ethical non-monogamy tends to attract humans who are outside the mainstream. This certainly goes for the men…men who treat women as equals…men who are self-aware, respectful, and are cognizant of the power they hold in the world. Tonight on Life on The Swingset: The Podcast, we will

SS 186: Women, Sex, and Shame, with Elle Chase

When the topic of sexual shame comes up, nowhere is it greater than the institutionalized shame heaped upon the women of the world, asked to be both hypersexual and aesexual simultaneously. Tonight we're re-joined by our friend Lady Cheeky, Elle Chase, who is featured in upcoming documentary “Inside Her Sex” exploring female sexuality and shame.

SS 185: Swingin' Around the Swingset – Recorded Live at Desire Resort & Spa

Heidi and Danny from the Swingin' Around podcast take Cooper aside for a little chat in the heart of paradise and discuss their experiences during their second visit to the resort. They talk massages, non-consensual choking, hot tubs, Cooper getting married, getting naked and all in all have a great time! Join us in Mexico

SS 184: Ending the Sexual Dark Age with the Swingset at Desire Resort & Spa

We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves

SS 183: A Swinging Vacation – Live from Desire Resort & Spa – Life on the Swingset

Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They've jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for a swinging vacation, the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they've spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness

SS 182: The Worst Sex Toys in the World!!! with Crista Anne and the Redhead Bedhead

We've talked and talked about awesome sex toys are, the tremendous advancements in the field, the glory of stainless steel and silicone, body safe and body conscious products. You know all of that. So, today we're gonna talk about the flip side. The worst sex toys in the woooooorld! #SuchKeithOlbermannMuchClass Crista Anne of Dildology joins

SS 181: Swinging & Polyamory on a Budget – How to Enjoy Your Fabulous Lifestyle For Very Little

We at the Swingset are not wealthy. Despite what some may think, we don't make a fabulous living delivering a free podcast to you folks week after week. Despite that, though, we can afford to go to the occasional party, take the occasional (yearly) trip to Desire, sign up for paying sites. Or at least

SS 180: Gang Bang The Mailbag 17 – Surprise Swinging, Silicone v. Silicone, Jealousy x 2

Gang Bang the Mailbag 17 – Almost Legal. Asked and Answered Swingsetters! We discuss downgrading swing relationships, unexpected kissing jealousy, bi-threesome issues, partners backing out, theoretical jealousy, silicone lube on silicone toys and the most basic of questions… “How do I bring up swinging to my partner?” to which one of our answers is “Never

SS 179: Gang Bang the Mailbag 16 – Unprotected Sex, Lies, Coming Out As Poly and more!

Sweet Gang Bang Sixteen! We've taken your questions and answered them on air! We discuss a single poly woman dating a monogamous guy, being new and a virgin in non-monogamy, coming out as polyamorous to your family, talking to our children, jealousy, and navigating poly relationships when unprotected sex happens. Want to help our friends

SS 178: A Swinging Primer with Cooper Beckett – Live at The Pleasure Chest Los Angeles

Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, covering jealousy, safer sex practices, communication and more. Whether you're brand new to swinging, been doing it for years, or just fascinated by the idea, there's something here for everyone.

SS 177: Erotica – Writing, Reading, Tweeting, Living It with Guest Rachel Kramer Bussel

Tonight we discuss erotica, writing it, reading it, tweeting it, living it with our guest Rachel Kramer Bussel. We discuss Rachel's extensive history in both writing and editing erotica, where erotica fits in every day life, expression, fiction, and reality in erotica, written vs. spoken vs. digital, how erotica lives with other forms of erotic

SS 176: In Bed With The Semi-Nude Swingset

There is much to say about this recording. And also very little. You see it sits in a portion of our minds obscured and hazy, like it sits behind a drop of water, but who are we kidding, it sits behind drink. The foul stuff that has put us in a very boisterous mood to

SS 175: Hump & Circumstance – Talking Group Sex – Live At CatalystCon West

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a live podcast about group sex You know that one thing you can do outside monogamy that you can't do within? You can have group sex. That's right, many people getting naked and sexy together. That's how the non-monogamous do. So today, for our very first

SS 174: Bacchanalia Basics: It's Play Party Time! – Live At CatalystCon West

Life on the Swingset returns to CatalystCon West for a panel discussion about throwing and attending a play party. They’re whispered about, opinions are drawn, expectations are high for both attendees and non. The sex party, the play party, the swinger party, call it what you will, to anyone who’s never been to one they

SS 173: Swinging With Scars – Body Image & Identity After Major Life Changes

Emotional scars, physical scars, both can wreak havoc on your emotional state and body image, especially when you feel different than before. Earlier this year Ginger took a hiatus from the Swingset for a body change, and tonight we're talking about why. Give us a call and leave a voicemail at 573-55-SWING, (573-557-9464), we want

SS 172: Organizing & Travelling with Sex Toys – What To Do With Our Dildos, Vibrators, Lube, Rope, Floggers, & Other Fun Things

The two most non-“how do I start swinging” questions we get on the Swingset is how do you organize your sex toys and how do you travel with sex toy, so we go in depth with advice and suggestions on what to do with your growing piles of sexy at your own house and on

SS 171: Coming Out Kinky with Guest Jean Franzblau

Jean Franzblau, speaker, writer and performer of the one woman show “Coming Out Kinky: A Grown Up Comedy” joins us for a discussion of her show as well as a performed excerpt, and a discussion on being kinky in general and what it means to show that to the world. Give us a call and

SS 170: The Messiness of Speaking Out About Sex and CatalystCon with Guest Dee Dennis

After the explosive finale of last March's CatalystCon East, we bring Dee Dennis back on the show to discuss how hard it often is to get a dialog going about sex without having dissent everywhere. We try to parse the value of community vs being snarky, and Cooper drops the shocking revelation that sometimes he

SS 169: Full Swap – Swingset's Partners Take Over The Show

It's bizarro world and Life on the Swingset is going FULL SWAP. The Professor hosts this round table discussion featuring the partners of the Swingset, Ophilia Tesla, Tonia Thomas, and Ronin Technogeisha. They discuss being behind the scenes, putting up with the Swingset, their experience in the lifestyle, their desires and hopes, and quickly run

SS 168: We Are All In Charge in the Swinging Lifestyle

We're all evangelists for our lifestyles. We're not trying to convince people to try it out, we're there to offer our own experiences, to story tell, to educate when people ask for more information, and when people are ready to hop in, at least for us swingers, we all seem to make the same mistake.

SS 167: Talking Dirty – Turning Your Filthy Thoughts Into Naughty Words

A couple months ago we tackled the topic of flirting, and how it's rather essential to sexy interaction, rather exponentially expanded for non-monogamy. Tonight on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast we're going to turn that flirty talk into sexy talk and discuss talking dirty: how, when, why, and what's too much. We also take

SS 166: Gang Bang The Mailbag 15 – Cheating Males & Unicorns, Girl Girl Play, One Penis Policy, & Bad Swinging Experiences

We get a response from a listener about our DP episode, as well as an eye opening picture (which we refuse to share!) We discuss speaking up in the moment, solo cheating males, unicorns, girl girl only play, the one penis policy, stretch marks, and bad swinging experiences.

SS 165: Gang Bang The Mailbag 14 – Swinging & Fairness, Fluid Bonding, & Oral Herpes Disclosure

We're back, and we gang bang the ever willing mailbag filled with your questions! We talk about chasing the white whale, a potential fluid bonding statute of limitations, cold sores (hsv1) and kissing protocol, and swinging & fairness. Dylan also talks about the “unfuckables”. Visit the Burlesque Toyshop to pick up the equipment to exercise

Eat The Rudecast

We don't have a new Swingset episode this week ‘cuz, reasons. Summer, etc. Moving. You know the drill. That said, Miko, Ophilia, and I have released the first episode of Eat The Rudecast, an Unofficial Podcast about NBC's Hannibal, Hannibal Lecter and the works of Thomas Harris. Since there was no new episode this week,

SS 164: Getting Naked on Camera: Taking Nude Pictures with Guest Elle Chase (Lady Cheeky)

In many ways, swinging is a lot like regular online dating, searching through profiles, reaching out via email. In one way, it's not so much. Naked pictures. Oh, sure, regular online dating involves a lot of naked pictures these days too, but it's rare that you see someone naked BEFORE you decide to contact them.

SS 163: Swinging For Beginners VI: The First Date

Tonight on Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, we’re going back to basics for another episode of Swinging For Dummies. In the series thus far we’ve talked about realizing you’re interested in non-monogamy, talking to your partner, group sex, sexy vacations, and swinging websites. But how about that ever important first date. How to prepare,

SS 162: Don't Forget To Buckle Your Condom – Eroticizing Barriers

We're all well aware of the risks inherent with sex, and we don't always like to use those barriers that keep us safe. From gloves and dental dams to the almighty condom, eroticizing barriers is what helps make them part of our sexuality and safety instead of “this thing we have to do.” Tonight we're

SS 161: Ending The Sexual Dark Age On The Swingset

Here at Life on the Swingset we've had our own little sexual evolutions and those evolutions haven't gone unnoticed. Today, JV and Shara from the Ending the Sexual Dark Age podcast to pose to us a few questions both their audience, and they have been wondering about. We discuss opening up to include the possibility

SS 160: Fumbling Toward Non-Monogamy With Guest Marcia Baczynski

I has been a while since anyone here on the Swingset could consider themselves “new to this” but it behooves us to every once in a while put ourselves back into that new and nervous state, where everything was the first time, and we were discovering as we go. We don't have a lot of

SS 159: Flirting! with Reid Mihalko

Flirting is perhaps the most important aspect of beginning any romantic and sexual relationship. As Swingers you really need to be on top of your flirting. Since we meet so many people in non-monogamy, how do we know when to start flirting, and how do we make it work for us? We're including this as

SS 158: A Primer On Swinging by Cooper Beckett at The Pleasure Chest Chicago

Cooper does a one man show Primer on Swinging recorded live at The Pleasure Chest in Chicago. All audience questions have been replaced by the dulcet tones of our own Dylan Thomas for their protection, and also for the amusement of our listeners. Class description: “Cooper Beckett, from the podcast Life on the Swingset, takes

SS 157: Sex Education for College Students with Megan Andelloux

When as adults we don't know what's going on with our sexuality, it can most often be chalked up to a lack of education. Education about risk, sure, but also education about the awesome things sex can bring. One woman looking to combat in a big way this lack of education is Megan Andelloux who

SS 156: The Single Male Swinger – Messing With The Bull

We still tend to treat the single male swinger as a problem, a pariah, when we host parties we wonder how to limit unpartnered male responses, we tense up at larger events where the male to female ratio may be wildly unbalanced, we are constantly on the lookout for the creep, the man who doesn't

SS 155: Handjobs & Fingering – This Week We're Strokin' Penises & Vulvas

Handjobs and Fingering! Now that we have your attention, we want everyone to remember that there's lots of pleasure to be hand through the wonders of the partnered manual stimulation of someone's genitals with fingers! Now that you're obviously terribly turned on, take a listen and you'll hear us setting a solid definition of what

SS 154: Gang Bang The Mailbag 13 – Erection Issues, Swinging Cliques & Gossip, & Body Types at Swing Clubs

We tie up the mailbag today, after a double dose of answering your questions we're shelving the mailbag (for a bit). We took and answered a question about erections, specifically that even after obtaining a prescription for viagra that a gentlemen still experiences trouble while swinging and that it's resulted in less return couples than

SS 153: Gang Bang The Mailbag 12 – Black Rings, Herpes, Pre-Judgement, and Swinging as a Single Male

Today we stick all our collective hands into our mailbag and pull your questions out! We're back for our twelfth Mailbag Gang Bang! We tackle questions about the black ring right hand movement, about discovering people you work with on swinger sites, on playing spontaneously with STIs, on attempting to open up after cheating, on

SS 152: DP, DVP, and DAP – The Double Penetration Spectacular

DP. DVP. DAP. Today, we discuss double penetration, double vaginal penetration, and double anal penetration, and not just the acts themselves. The act of any sort of double penetration requires thoughtfulness, planning, collaboration, communication, really just enhanced versions of all the skills we learned via trial by fire while finding our own ways into non-monogamy.

SS 151: Sex Work, Education, & Non-Monogamy with Guest Sabrina Morgan

Sabrina Morgan is a tireless advocate for sex workers’ rights and education on sex work. Having experience as a sex worker herself, as well as practicing ethical non-monogamy presents its own unique set of challenges when navigating relationships, and she’s here to talk to us about that. We also answer the age old question “Has Cooper been anally fisted?”

SS 150: Dealing With Shame Around Sexuality, Swinging, & Polyamory With Guest Charlie Glickman

Shame, it creeps up on us, sometimes out of nowhere and sometimes as a slow buildup but it can affect our sexuality in ways we don't expect and don't want. Sometimes tackling shame head on helps, sometimes not addressing it at all helps, but shame when tied in to the wonderful world of non-monogamy can

SS 149: Designing and Defining your Non-Monogamous Relationship

How do you handle new relationships now that you’re non-monogamous? It’s like turning a cruise ship around, climbing a mountain, and a myriad of other metaphors. We have long talked about taking your relationship from a place of monogamy to a place of non-monogamy. How to take something that is already defined and do a

SS 148: Take It Like A Man: An Introduction to Pegging, Recorded Live at the Tool Shed!

Pegging: The act of a female giving anal sex to a male using a strap-on. Some couples enjoy the power reversal of this and some guys simply just like it up the arse. How do we do it? What are the right tools for the job? Does it actually feel good? I'm a straight guy,

SS 147: Build Your Own Orgy – How To Have Sex With Many People at Once

Masturbation is awesome, isn’t it? Sex for two, few would argue, is even better. Threesomes are roundly considered to be one of the epitome’s of the sexual experience. Let’s add a few more to that, shake it right up, and create something spectacular. A writhing mass of sexy, everywhere you look people giving or receiving

SS 146: Sexcations – Travelling to Swing With Friends

Swing With Friends! … except sometimes the distance between those friends is enough to qualify the trip as more of a sexcation instead of a normal date. Whether because we live in less populated areas or because we've struck up online flirtations, sometimes you have people you just want to reach out and touch, but

SS 145: Geeking Out About Sex With Kate McCombs, Founder of Sex Geekdom

Sex is awesome. We’re all on board with that, right? Beyond the act, er, acts, for many of us (in fact I’d wager a large percentage of our listeners) getting information about sex carries with it its own form of titillation and enjoyment. That’s the purview of the sex geek. Tonight we’re lucky enough to

SS 144: The Ebb and Flow of Libido and its Effect on Swinging and Polyamory

We all want to be “on”. We carve out the time, spend some money, clean up the house, groom our fun areas, and make the arrangements with the people we want to see. Sometimes as “the time” gets closer we realize… we're not really up to the task, and while there's still a good time

SS 143: Swinging and Polyamory Resolutions for 2014

Happy New Year everyone! 2013 was a year filled with pain, regret, and some amazing time spend with wonderful people, fans, and at fantastic venues and conventions. 2014 is on course to be a much better year for those of us on the Swingset. We all got together (Cooper, Dylan,  Shira, and Miko) to discuss

SS 142: Looking Back at 2013, Welcoming 2014 – New Years Closer

We decided to have a nice little end of the year chat. We've traveled and spoken so much this year, experienced so many beautiful people, endured intolerable amounts of grief, and come out of it looking forward to 2014. We give a little summary of some of the sexy events we've attended, laugh at The

SS 141: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise – Part 2 – Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun

This is Part 2 of my accidental roundtable discussion put together in the seaside room of one of our guests at Desire – Riviera Maya. We continue the discussion about bi-women, mansplaining, and puppeteering, and move into non-monogamy identifiers and why they were useful, but taking some time to talk with other people in a

SS 140: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise – Part 1 – Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun

Dylan had an idea. He thought it'd be a great idea to sit down, two on one with couples while at Desire and interview them, ask questions about how their vacation was going, get some decent soundbites, and enjoy the calm warmth of good discussion and good company. This was anything but calm. What began

SS 139: Swinging In Paradise – Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun

Midway through Life on the Swingset's second annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Dylan, Ginger, & Cooper sat down with many of the tour guests to record a silly podcast reflecting on the trip so far, and what lifestyle vacations can be. There's a drinking game, there's guests talking about what Desire means to them, there's Dylan and Cooper squaring off the way they always seem to do in person, and there's Ginger continuing to be the heart and soul of the Swingset. With tequila.

SS 138: Risk Aware Sex – Condoms, Dental Dams, & Rebranding Safe Sex with Dr. Antoinette Izzo

We've evolved quite a bit over the last three years, our choices in play preferences, what we're open to, and the people we're open to play with have expanded as well. We've chosen to use safer sex barrier barriers and integrated it with our play. Thinking about it all in the lens of Risk Aware

SS 137: Our Open Agreement – Setting Rules and Boundaries in Swinging & Polyamory with Cat Maness

When preparing to embark on open relationship, or deep within the throes of one, hammering out an open agreement, determining your rules and boundaries, and having those ever important discussions are essential. Today we’re joined by Cat Maness, creator of Our Open Agreement Tool, an online resource for creating your agreements, to discuss why these are

SS 136: Swingset on the Road – Talking Swinging, Polyamory, and Ethical Non-Monogamy IRL

The past two episodes have been live recordings in front of an audience of folks anxious to listen to us talk about non-monogamy and swinging. Our “toury-ness” has brought us to San Francisco, Washington DC, Los Angeles, and Milwaukee. On the road we’ve learned about our audience, we’ve learned about ourselves. Tonight on Life on

SS 135: A Primer On Swinging, Recorded Live at the Tool Shed: An Erotic Boutique!

A Primer on Swinging: How to Meet, Have Sexy Times, & Otherwise Enjoy Your Friends and Neighbors Cooper and Dylan, co-hosts of Life on the Swingset the podcast, take you through the common peaks and valleys of beginning swinging, from the moment that voice in your head tells you that you're different, to when you're

SS 134: Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, Recorded Live at CatalystCon West!

Our second trip to CatalystCon in 2013 yielded our best audience yet, and our most cohesive discussion on what Progressive Swinging truly means. We discuss the importance of community, coming out if you can, safety, and fun, as well as learning about yourself and your partner(s).   From the Catalyst Con program Sex with Benefits:

SS 133: Live Nude Cast – Naked In Bed With The Swingset at CatalystCon West

Chaos. Just chaos. Context: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DAjkUv2Q95o Interested in signing up for our favorite Lifestyle site Kasidie.com? Click here to try it out!

SS 132: Gang Bang the Mailbag 11 – Swing Clubs, BBWs, Unicorns, and Cockrings

We've flipped it in and out, over and under, even hung it up and left it for a while, that mailbag gets a lot of gang bang action… as it should! We take more of your questions (send us more at contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and discuss questions about swing clubs; how to approach couples, whether virgins are

SS 131: Gang Bang the Mailbag 10 – Cream Pies, Allergies, Declining Sex Life, and Blogging

Today we hit the mailbag hard… harder than usual.  We like our mailbag and we received a metric ton of your questions! We talked about cream pies and how to play safer, with a detour about ethical swinging, food allergies and play parties, declining sex lives due to illness, and blogging your experiences on the

SS 130: Back To School: Swinging For Beginners V – Online Swinger Profiles

You don't know any swingers in person. You don't know where any clubs are. You're eager, wide eyed, and ready to explore sexiness with others. Luckily the Swingset has been there and we found our way out! We discuss posting profiles online, we go through the basics of what to include in a profile, how

SS 129: Accidentally Off-Topic! Swingset Updates!

We had every intention about talking about swinger bloopers this episode. It stayed in our heads while we went through business… then went through some more business… then we lost it and ended up talking about “the long game”, some relationship updates, and just general non-monogamy and how living this lifestyle is out in the

SS 128: K-I-S-S-I-N-G

Cooper, Shira, Ginger, and The Professor ™ all get together for a discussion on kissing; why it's a big deal, why some swingers make rules against it, how it feels great… how badly you can screw it up! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the LELO Gigi

SS 127: Impermanence in Non-Monogamy; Learning to Embrace Brevity and Let Go

Shira B. Katz makes her triumphant return with a considerable discussion about impermanence and how the changes in her and both Cooper's relationships statuses have affected their views on non-monogamy and their own sexuality, and how… that is ok. We also worked some Law and Order, Doctor Who, and “cream” as a verb into the

SS 126: In Which Domina Takes over 2: Ride Harder

Riding herd on the Swingset isn't something you forget. Ginger isn't ready to put it behind her, so she holds on to the reigns and rides harder; we discuss our best erotic moments as swingers, explanabrags via managing multiple but separate partner issues, and we watch Cooper devolve into Domina's pet! Check out the Smitten Kitten

SS 125: In Which Domina Takes over and Rides Us Hard

Ginger Bentham takes over the Swingset today to ask questions we may never have directly addressed. Our Domina inquires about condom disasters, our biggest turn-offs, and how to approach a big group of people. We also get to see a peek into Ginger and the Prof's relationship dynamic, it's pretty wonderful! Check out the Smitten Kitten

Swingerpiece Theater Presents: Weinergate 2 – The Embiggening (Featuring Anthony Weiner's Sex Scandal)

In this very special (non)episode of Life on the Swingset, Ginger Bentham and Cooper Beckett do a dramatic reading of the recent Anthony Weiner twitter scandel “reported on” by The Dirty We would again like to insist that this is all alleged, and if Anthony Weiner was on the up and up with all involved,

SS 124: Gang Bang the Mailbag 9 – Swinger Burnout, Keeping Secrets, Bad Dylan, and Callouts (fixed)

We listened to your voicemail (left at 573-55-SWING) and read your e-mail (sent to contact@lifeontheswingset.com) and decided to throw it all in the bag and gang bang it! We attack all your questions starting with questions about whether Dylan and Cooper really practice safe oral sex, chat about Orson Scott Card, listen to someone keep

SS 123: So It's Come To This – Divorce & Non-Monogamy

Everyone on the Swingset has been through an extended period of life where… there's just nothing left to give.  Shira B. Katz has a new job but can't make the time to join us every week (but she will be back!), Ginger, Cooper, AND Dylan have all moved recently. But in between everything, life happens.

SS 122: Feminist Porn with Dylan Ryan

Feminist porn means a lot of things to a lot of people, but what it doesn't do is exclude people based on gender, body type, partner preference or play style. It's, paraphrasing Tristan Taormino, organic, fair trade porn. It's organic because it emerges from performers doing precisely what they choose to do, and fair trade

SS 121: Gender Play & Sex with Dylan Ryan

We invite Dylan Ryan to join us for a conversation about Gender Play, fluidity, partner preferences, and gender dynamics. We look at strap-on play, sissification, power exchanges, efforts at education, and all in all… how much fun you can have fucking your partners while wearing a set of frilly panties. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and

SS 120: Soft Swap: Oral Sex II – Fellatio (Blowjobs & Deep Throating)

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We focus specifically on fellatio today, and … well Cooper's metaphors are terrible but it's ok… we'll keep him busy with a big fat dildo. We

SS 119: Soft Swap: Oral Sex I – Cunnilingus (Labia Licking)

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people's sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We're focusing specifically on cunnilingus today, and while there are many cute metaphors for it, sometimes you just need to come out and say, “I want

SS 118: Playtime Troubleshooting: How To Be Successful Fucking When Details Get In The Way

Lets Fuck. Yeah… that doesn't usually work as a pickup line. But assuming it does, there's a whole host of other things that can happen that require a little more communication than that! We deal with pre-playtime communication, getting all the details out in the open (and out of the way) with elevator speeches and

SS 117: Hypothetical Anal Fisting, Swinging Lust, Bisexual Girl Dating, and More!

Shira B. Katz has rejoined the swingset crew! We celebrate by playing catch up! We talk about whether Cooper has been fisted, talk about where the head space is between swinging and polyamory, about girls dating girls, and really… we just slide organically from one topic to another until we've burrowed so far down into

SS 116: Gang-bang The Mailbag 8 – Swinging With Herpes & Wanting Different Things from Non-Monogamy

We're back! All four of us! That's right! We figured out how to fit Shira B. Katz into a canvas sack so we could all gang bang that mailbag together! We answer questions about couples who have an imbalance in how they play or practice non-monogamy or experience jealousy, swinging with herpes, and take praise

SS 115: How Not to be a Creep – Teaching Consent and Communication with Sex Nerd Sandra

Sometimes it's hard to be awkward and unsure. It can come out as endearing, it can come out as silly, and depending on what's going on, it can come out creepy. Today on Life on the Swingset we explore creepy interactions and how they often originate with subtle but defined non-consensual behavior and that sometimes…

SS 114: Nerding Out! How to be an Educator and Still Maintain Relationships with Sex Nerd Sandra

Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for a discussion on what it means to be an educator, a resource, or some jackass that wants to relay their own experiences as gospel. After Technogeisha and Ginger join us (a bit late) we move into how relationships can get a little complicated for us z-list internet celebrities when

SS 113: CatalystCon East Decompression – Sexy Parties, Porn Stars, and Prostate Orgasms!

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, sucked different cocks, cuddled with different people, met with various porn stars, and created our own breakthrough moments. We also passed up an opportunity to use the latest Njoy prototype. We truly are horrible people. Also, the hotel couldn't wait

SS 112: CatalystCon East Decompression – From Boy Kissing to Blanket Forts

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, kissed different boys, assembled different blanket forts, and… occasionally we all got in the hot tub together, sat in the lounge together, and you know… gave our presentation. We spend the time chatting about all that stuff with a little

SS 111: In Bed With the Swingset II – Recorded Live at CatalystCon East

Cooper, Ginger, Shira, Dylan, Miko, Ophilia, and The Professor ™ all get in one hotel room before their CatalystCon East session, hop on a couple beds, drink some wine, and have a casual conversation of how much they love each other in this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We discuss how consistently

SS 110: Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, Recorded Live at CatalystCon East!

We attended CatalystCon East last week. CatalystCon, as described by Dee Dennis the founder and creator, is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality.  It

SS 109: Reflections on Swingset Kinkery

We brought Miko Technogeisha on for a discussion on our own personal kinks, and… ended up derailed when Dylan inevitably decided to use Ginger's bedroom habits for his own personal scene. Upon attempting to get back on track Cooper sets up a second scene involving some fictional magical characters at a fictional wizardry school and…

Cooper's Mea Culpa

My name is Cooper Beckett, and I am a loudmouth. I'm extremely opinionated, and I use my little podcast as a soap box for my opinions. I'm also a snarky bastard, who enjoys giving shit to all. Just ask Dylan. This weekend, I got two emails, both taking me to task for my grumpery. I

SS 108: Gang-Bang the Mailbag 7 – Politics, Time, Consent, & Swinging

We're taking another dip into the calm waters of the lake of reader submitted questions for our seventh Gang-Bang the MailBag episode! After what seems like thirty minutes of business and random thought salad, we discuss being a discerning connoisseur of swing partners, trying to find time to really meet minds with a group of progressive

SS 107: Parenting & Non-Monogamy: Sex Positive Parenting Continued with Guest Airial Clark

Many of us in the lifestyle are parents and can sometimes feel alone when addressing issues regarding child development and age-appropriate ways of discussing sexuality. Airial Clark wowed us so much the last time she was on, we asked her to come back! Today, Dylan stumbles over trying to figure out how not to repeat

SS 106: It’s Naked Party Time – Throwing a Sexy Party with Guest Reid Mihalko

Cooper and Dylan throw some great swinger parties, but not always by design. Much like their journey into non-monogamy, a combination of moxie, trial and error, and luck has combined to create some wonderful stories. Reid Mihalko on the other hand has spent time and effort learning how carefully crafting group dynamics create the best

SS 105: In The Butt – Prostate Play & Anal Sex – Guests: Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian

We're talking all about the rear, anal sex, from preparation to insertion to orgasm and beyond! Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure join us to chat about anal sex, and what it means for men to be on the receiving end of penetrative sex. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use

SS 104: Confidence Is Like A Magic Wand – Building Confidence and Using It

After Shira tells us a bizarre story of having her upper lip devoured by a creeper at a club, Cooper talks about falling in love. This leads to a discussion on his developing confidence, and then to the broader topic of how to be confident, how to build it, and how to wield it.  

SS 103: Sex & God – Religion, Swinging, Polyamory, & Sin with Darrel Ray

“Hey Cooper… tell us how you really feel!” “Well alright then.” We've discussed organized religion and how it's affected our own relationship with sexuality, how it influences our community as a whole and… at times, indelicately pointed out where we take issue with its monopoly on morality and its right to judge what's acceptable and

SS 102: Sex Positive Community Building & Conferences – Guest Dee Dennis from CatalystCon

Dee Dennis decided to join us for a discussion on building sex positive communities (and the perils within doing so), and how to translate that into a great conference experience! It's apropos as she's also the founder of CatalystCon so… we chat about that just a little bit. 🙂 Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use

SS 101: Introduction to Progressive Swinging

For Episode 101 we thought giving a brief “101” lecture on Progressive Swinging felt right. So, we reintroduce and define what we mean by Progressive Swinging, and give you the very basics; what you need, what to expect, and how to proceed. We've approached the basics before, communication, introductions, prep work, but this time with

SS 100: Looking Back, and Forward to Another 100 Episodes

This… is episode 100. We thank our guests, our previous co-hosts, we yell at each other, unbridled chaos abounds everywhere. It's a full 90 minutes of the four of us enjoying each other. Pure joy, true love… To another 100 episodes we go! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10%

SS Origin Stories: My Journey into Non-Monogamy, a Dylan Story

Not all of you have been listening weekly for three years (probably… maybe) so by extension, not all of you know how we got here and what we lived through before we discovered these lifestyles we lead. So I'm Dylan, and I'm telling you my story, now. It's long, I spend the first ten minutes

SS 99: The Swingset Takes Desire Debrief – Sexy Times In Mexico

After a slight delay, the Swingset crew talk Life on the Swingset's first trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun and squick Shira B. Katz right the hell out. We lament the shortness of our jaunt to paradise, and talk about what we hope to do next time. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use

SS 98: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular 2!

Clare from Smitten Kitten returns to discuss bad toys with us, and our toy wishes for the holiday as we discuss sex toys even more! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!

SS 97: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular!

Hi everybody, it's the Life on the Swingset annual Toytacular event! We're in year three of recommending the best and most interesting toys we've played with, and laughing about the worst and worst designed toys we've suffered with. We bring Claire from the Smitten Kitten Online into the conversation and riff on… oh, something like

SS 96: Sex Positive Parenting with Airial Clark!

Parenting when you're a swinger or a polyamorist isn't easy is most definitely not a topic that's well documented. Luckily Airial Clark has been picking up the slack! She joins us for a conversation on how to be  a parent and straddle the line between too soon and not soon enough. We discuss the advantages

SS 95: The Swingset Takes Desire – Live With Tequila Body Shots

Cooper, Ginger, and Dylan brought Marilyn, The Professor, Tonia, and 35 couples with them to Desire in Cancun, Mexico! 18 months of foreplay result in good feelings, a little crying, lots of sexy time, and a terribly unstructured but incredibly fun to record podcasting session where we discuss introductions, making moves, saying no, and just

Marilyn & The Professor Talk Energy Play

After an intense experience in the hot tub at Desire Resort & Spa with Life on the Swingset, Marilyn and The Professor sit down to talk about the role of energy play and Reiki, a trip to A Touch of Magic Massage by Claudia, and what a skeptic Cooper is in this special recorded in

SS 94: Shira Takes Over the Swingset

When the Swingers are away the Katz will play! Shira B. Katz has taken over the Swingset, and has enlisted her husband of mythical proportions Gavin Katz.  The hosts of Pedestrian Polyamory (cheap plug) aren't necessarily talking about Polyamory this week, but their ventures into a Swinger party.  Comparisons are made between the two cultures, Shira

SS 93: Gang-Bang the Mailbag – Double Penetration II!

We're up for a second round of double penetration! That'd be double, double penetration…. Hmm… Anyway, We're back with questions about what to do about party invitations when you have a couple that breaks up, bringing up the cultivation of poly relationships with swinger friends, long distance relationships, partners leaving the lifestyle and potentially their

SS 92: Gang-Bang the Mailbag – Double Penetration!

Today on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast, we take your questions and give you sweet, delicious, custard filled answers. We talk about metamoures not getting along, reading your partners' e-mails, the struggle to decide whether to let a swing partner cum inside your partner, swinging with a cancer conquering sexy body, our horrible, horrible

The Swingset Has An Orgy With Cunning Minx on Polyamory Weekly

We've long been fans of Cunning Minx here at Life on the Swingset, and her long running podcast Polyamory Weekly. Because of this, we were thrilled to catch up with her at Open SF this past June and even more thrilled to start some cross pollination (that one is for you, Shira B) by first

SS 91: Open Sex Positivity – Spreading the Good Word

Kendra Holliday joins us in a discussion on how to be open and sex positive while still staying friendly and approachable. Our discussion heats up when Dylan suggests that he misses Rick Santorum competing for the Republican presidential nomination because it was such a great opportunity to discuss sex positivity in comparison to the extreme

SS 90: Two Years Out Of The Closet – Kendra Holliday is Open

Two years ago a woman by the name of TBK visited us here on the Swingset to talk about her life, and her website, The Beautiful Kind. We heard back from her after she came out as Kendra Holliday and listened as she described the liberation of being out and the frustration of being under

SS 89: Drama and Unreasonable Requests in Swinging & Polyamory

A listener's story about the unreasonable request from a swing friend for the husband in a couple to impregnate her, leads us into a discussion about what is acceptable and not to ask of your partners in swinging & polyamory, and also what to do when the dreaded drama rears its ugly head.   Join

SS 88: Polysaturation and Swing Overload – Too Much of a Good Thing

Our good friends SFCuties asked us, “Is there a swinger version of PolySaturated, and what would it be called?” We take on this challenge tonight, going through what it feels like to experience polysaturation and smitten with what we call, “swing overload”. Shira B. Katz regales us with tales of her time at Burning Man including good

SS 87: Gangbang the Mailbag IV: Divorce or Cheating, Nuclear Situations, New to Parties, and Escalating Friends with Benefits

Once again Cooper shuffles over to the virtual Internet post office for the arduous job of sifting through all the spam, trolls, and coupon savers so that we can answer your questions as we gangbang the mailbag once more! Tonight we chat about the Bad-Dragon “Medium” sized Anthro-Dragon Dildo, a question about whether divorce or cheating

SS 86: Beautiful Pornography and the Art of the Blowjob

Amidst the endless bang bus, humiliation porn, and ass to mouth videos, one site stands out as something completely different: TheArtOfBlowjob.com, featuring a gorgeous redhead named Camille Crimson giving slow, artistic, fun, and sexy blowjobs to her man. The Art of Blowjob is leading a charge toward a different landscape of porn with more beauty

SS 85: Foreplay, Fiveplay, Sixplay, Orgy!

Foreplay… it's what we sometimes don't have time for, but apparently what we all desperately want more of! Whether it's giving, receiving, taking hours, or taking a few minutes, we take the time to discuss what we like, why we like it, what we do for other people and why we do for other people

SS 84: Cultivating Swinging & Polyamorous Relationships

We explore cultivating relationships from both the swinging perspective and polyamorous perspective. Ginger feels ready to get out there and meet some women to date. Cooper has an important (and easy) relationship discussion with his girlfriend about their involvement level and expanding his dating. Time is a very important factor, as is relationship structuring, but

SS 83: The Pick-Up In Non Monogamy with Cunning Minx

The Pick-up, we discuss vanilla pick-up culture briefly while moving into how to be picked up, how to message people online, and meeting people in real life. The concept of a codex, or a user manual (RTFM!) for potential hookups and dating partners to use comes up and we spend a lot of time figuring

SS 82: Geeksexuality – Making Porn, Bisexual Males, Bush, & Quantum Physics

We are joined by Ned & Maggie Mayhem, geeksexual porn stars whose mantra is to just be themselves in porn. We gush over them a while, Cooper admits their site is the first porn site he's ever paid for. The discussion leads to making porn, bringing toys into the bedroom, male use of the Hitachi

SS 81: Open SF Debrief III – Learning to Speak Up, Browsing SF, and a Farewell Lunch

We finish our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, Dylan laments falling asleep, Cooper explains how The Brown Eyed Girl took them all out for a spin around town and how he learned to ask for what he wants, we break in the middle for a little

SS 80: Open SF Debrief II – Magic Brownies, Presentations, Hot Tubs, Flirting, & Sex

We continue our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, including Charlie Glickman, Tristan Taormino, and the presentation we gave. Cooper gets a magic brownie and tries to pick up a Brown-Eyed Girl, and talks about how incredibly charming The Professor is. The gang goes on a San

SS 79: Open SF Debrief I – Dom/sub, Sex Parties, & San Francisco

The gang begins their full debrief from the Open SF Non-Monogamy conference. Cooper experiences both Dom and sub play in a single night, and processes his feelings on Domination, humiliation, choking, as well as being flogged, spanked, and fondled. Dylan holds court and plays Cards Against Humanity with friends. Ginger and the Prof discover the

SS 78: In Bed With The Swingset – Flirting, Drinking, Safe Words, A Sex Toy Box, & Chaos

The Swingset crew is drinking in bed together at the Open SF conference. For a good long while we giggle and talk of almost nothing. Dylan shamelessly flirts with the ladies. We move on to talking about Dom/sub play, and Cooper's fears getting into it. The discussion leads to relationship safe words and the Get Out

SS 77: Sex With Benefits – Progressive Swinging – Live From The Open SF Conference

The Swingsetters are live in San Francisco at the Open SF Conference on non-monogamy to discuss Progressive Swinging, where swingers are gradually sliding down the spectrum toward long term relationships, and even !!GHASP!! love. We take questions from the audience and Cooper gets all riled up. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10,

SS 76: Gang-Bang The Mailbag III – Jealousy in Open Relationships

We return to the mailbag, still full after last week to discuss a number of jealousy related issues. A newly poly girl is uncomfortable with her husband dating his monogamous ex girlfriend, what is the difference between different flavors of non-monogamy, is jealousy healthy, does it show your partner that you care? Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort

SS 75: Gang-Bang The Mailbag II – Oral Sex & Cum, Bad Swinging Experiences, Drinking, Chemistry, & Primary Partners

To celebrate our 75th episode we go back to gang-banging the mailbag for another listener question episode. We get excited that Shira's transient boy is staying in America and Cooper is narrating Tristan Taormino's radio show. Our ire is raised that the Catholic church is suing about birth control. Then our listeners ask us to

SS 74: Tristan Taormino Talks Kink, Anal Sex, Fisting, Pegging & Her New Project

Tristan Taormino returns to the Swingset to give Cooper some advice on NRE, discuss her new book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and talk about her new project, a weekly live call-in radio show called Sex Out Loud on VoiceAmerica.com starting June 1st. Tristan Taormino: @tristantaormino  PuckerUp.com Tristan Taormino's Radio Show: SexOutLoudRadio.com @sexoutloudradio Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort

SS 73: Sex Positive Education Surrounding Swinging, Polyamory, & Other Non-Monogamy

In this episode, Cooper asks for business and Dylan spills about a poly mismatch… and a breach of protocol. We discuss community around polyamory, forming communities around swinging, and moving into Pepper's experience at various educational workshops and into what's planned for OpenSF. Pepper Mint: @freaksexual, freaksexual.com Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from

SS 72: Hard Kink – Needles, Breath Play, Spanking, & More

Pepper Mint rejoins the Swingset for discussion on hard kink. We open with a discussion about mommy porn and Fifty Shades of Grey and move into discussion about the BDSM and kink communities, plow through into contracts, talk about our actual kinks. Dylan asks about punching, Shira emotes about being punched in the butt, and Cooper

SS 71: Words Matter – Vanilla VS Swinging, Polyamory, and Open

We are joined by The Professor and Boris & Doris of the Boris & Doris Podcast to follow-up on a discussion prompted by Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun on his Facebook page. We discuss the uniqueness of the term “Vanilla” as it relates to open relationships, sex positivity, BDSM crowds, and whether it is,

SS 70: Ginger & The Professor In Paradise at Desire Resort & Spa

Shira talks about sapiosexual foreplay. Cooper discusses building an untraditional family and continues his baby phobia. Ginger and the Professor have just returned from the Swingercast Desire Resort & Spa trip and tell us about their time in paradise. (Ginger spends the VAST majority of this episode giggling.) The Professor paints a beautiful word portrait

SS 69: Oral Sex, Cunnilingus, Rim Jobs, Oh Yes

Oral Sex. Cunnilingus. Rim Jobs. Today we discuss anything and everything oral on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We start with the basics, what we prefer, what we enjoy, and delve into different types of oral play. After a rousing instructional segment on how to suck Dylan's cock, Shira B. Katz

SS 68: Ch-Ch-Changes – Swinging, Polyamory, & Non-Monogamy Explorations

In this show, we talk about one of our favorite subjects… ourselves! We've been steadily evolving and felt like keeping all of you up-to-date on where are we going, why we're moving in that direction, all while throwing in a bit of misdirection with Metroid and Mega Man to keep you guessing. We address two

SS 67: Newly Non-Monogamous – Do We Like New Swingers & Polyamorists?

After a detour involving Prof Stephen Hawking's time spent at a sex club, we discuss new swingers, polyamorists, and non-monogamists. Cooper and Dylan both profess their affection with newbies, while Shira and Ginger confess they make them nervous. After the break we talk about our own experiences being newbies, and get sidetracked again by a discussion of

SS 66: Chemistry – Connections, Pheromones, & Animal Attraction in Non-Monogamy

Dylan launches a custom sexy talk service. We discuss the ethics and reasoning behind wanting or not wanting to date someone you're mentoring. Cooper and Dylan both want to fuck all their friends. We discuss what chemistry means to us all, the surprise of a chemistry blind side, and the difficulty of getting four-way chemistry in

SS 65: Friends & Lovers – Do We Want To Be Friends With These People We Fuck?

JV Altharas and Shara from Ending The Sexual Dark Age join us to discuss the dichotomy of being friends with your swinging playmates, and how we feel that enhances the value of the sex, but also how that can drift into other ares. We get sidetracked by the idea of writing directions on thighs, Cooper updates his Poly experiment, Dylan rants about politics.

SS 64: Kink-O-Rama – Pegging, Voyeurism, Sapiosexuals, & Comfort

We cold open with Cooper having a butt plug (hand crafted by Boris at BnDpodcast.com) inserted by Marilyn, then lead into a discussion of our kinks kicked off by a listener voicemail request. We round robin it for a while, discovering some of our surface kinks, resistance play, certain clothes, BDSM and pegging tops the list. Dylan spends much of the show insisting he doesn't have any kinks before realizing time and again that he does. We also talk about being squicked out by some people's kinks, and the difference between kink and fetish.

SS 63: Swinging For Beginners IV – Relationships, Websites, & Sexy Vacations

We wrap up our “Swinging For Dummies” primer for the swinging lifestyle with the future. We discuss the types of relationships you might want to have with your swinging playmates, how to discuss that with them, how to determine what you're trying to get out of swinging, what websites you might use, and then shamelessly we implore you to join us in Desire this November.

SS 62: Swinging For Beginners III – Rules & Group Sex

We squick Dylan out with talk of dragon sex. Dylan vindicates himself with a listener voicemail about post vasectomy emptiness, then discusses his gigantic balls. Once we establish that Shira is the Dummy of the title, we begin by discussing the difference between soft swap and full swap, same and separate rooms, and group sex. We discuss developing community, not rushing, and rules, how being drunk is a turn-off. You're dating as a team.

SS 61: Swinky – A Very BDSM Show Length Business

The Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we've talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.

SS 60: Swinging For Beginners II – Talking To Your Partner About Non-Monogamy

We continue our “Swinging For Dummies” discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a “deal-breaker” for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it's important to remember that you're going to be okay TOGETHER.

SS 59: Swinging For Beginners I – Realizing You're Non-Monogamous

We go back to basics in the first of our Swinging For Dummies episodes. But first, returning friend The Professor tells us about Ginger's panty-less New Years Eve celebration. We talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

SS 58: Bareback or Condoms: A Bad Swinger Sex Party

After a spirited reading of the suggested uses for the Hitachi Magic Wand, Cooper claims to be the Steward of Gondor, and Dylan and Cooper describe their swing party that went bad.

SS 57: 12 Vibrating Yule Logs – Sex Toys, & The Smitten Kitten

Cooper & Marilyn talk about their reconnecting hiatus, and their usage of Great Sex Games' Unpredictable. The gang discusses some of their favorite sex toys including the nJoy Eleven, the Hitachi Magic Wand, and more with Clare from The Smitten Kitten, who also tells us all about running a sex positive toy shop, shopping for toys, the evolution of the industry and more. Merry Happy everybody as we close down the second season of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast!

SS 56: A Voicemail Gang Bang – Anal Sex Play, Penis Size, & Pregnant Swingers

After Cooper talks about kissing a boy for the first time, the crew answers voicemails about dealing with penis size concerns while swinging, anal sex play for bi males, reactions to pregnant swingers in a party situation, and our biggest surprises in our time as non-monogamous folk.

SS 55: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella II – Swingers, Open Relationships, & Polyamory, 2gether 4 Eva

We continue our discussion with poly activist and organizer Pepper Mint, but first Cooper and Dylan blow a “fight” over the word queer out of proportion. We discuss eroticizing jealousy, Ginger gets hot over the idea of “straddling the line,” Pepper discusses polyamory and gay men. Cooper becomes militant about coming out and rails against the forces of “old and evil.” And of course, we all get silly many times.

SS 54: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella I – Can't Swingers And Polyamorists Get Along?

Pepper Mint, polyamory blogger, activist, & organizer joins us for a dialog on why the swinging and polyamory camps still have trouble getting along. We rant about a swing club that has been shut down by the authorities. Cooper doesn't want to “put baby in the corner” but finds it easy to shuffle Shira off to the poly side, but even she is shocked by the discussion of poly sex parties. Dylan is horrified to find that sometimes people want to move in after a month; and Ginger confesses her origin story involving Pepper.

SS 53: Naked In Paradise II – The Swingset Takes Desire Resort & Spa

We continue our chat with Jim & Char of CharTravel about lifestyle vacations, focusing more on Desire as a whole as Shira asks a number of nitty gritty questions about passports, cost, and the nudity policy. Cooper rants about the foolishness of booking flights with Travelocity. Ginger gets lost in her own little world of Desire fantasies. We discuss food, alcohol, excursions and other things to do at Desire Resort & Spa.

SS 52: Naked In Paradise I – Sexy Vacations and Desire Resort & Spa

Have your vacations lately seemed a bit too dull or full of minors? Well tonight we're talking about vacationing the sexy way and taking a lifestyle trip. We discuss the ins and outs of going on a lifestyle or nude vacation at any level of the sexually open lifestyle, about etiquitte, and how to protect yourself and your relationship. We also thoroughly discuss Desire Resort & Spa and our upcoming trip to this fabulous spot in Cancun, Mexico in November 2012.

SS 51: Our Evolution II – Anal Sex & Male Bisexuality, Getting Flogged & Opening Up

We continue our 50th episode reflection of what we're still learning in the lifestyle when Cooper talks about his first one on one mandate and how he feels it pushed him back to a solid 2 on the Kinsey Scale, and Shira discusses an experience of being flogged, beaten, and spanked and how she's in an exploratory mood lately.

SS 50: Our Evolution – Polyamorous Leanings, Coming Out Sexy

The Swingset crew celebrates their 50th episode with reflections of how we can still learn new things in the lifestyle. We wish Shira a happy Swingset Anniversary. Ginger sends Prof to a sexy party SOLO! Dylan and Tonia explore polyamory and talk to their son about non-monogamy. Ginger yerns to come out as non-monogamous, so we discuss the levels of being out and the normalization of non-monogamy.

SS 49: Unite The Clans! Coming Together on Swinging Sites & Sex Clubs

After Shira horrifies us all by talking about a potential boy-toy's penile subincision, we manage to pull it together and discuss the changing landscape that is online swinger sites and sex clubs along with our special guest Emily from Kasidie.com. We talk a bit about the history of the website, and Emily's role there, but use it as a springboard to discuss the larger themes of how the word is spreading about non-monogamy, and how welcoming and accepting out communities can be.

Special – Pedestrian Polyamory Begins – Meeting Gavin Katz: The Truth about Polyamory for Boys

Introducing Pedestrian Polyamory, the first “Swingset Podcast” spin-off hosted by Shira B. Katz and her husband Gavin. This is the first episode of Pedestrian Polyamory before it spins off to its own feed for additional episodes.

Shira introduces the world to Gavin Katz. Shira interviews Gavin as he reveals his personal and completely honest views about polyamory and the polyamorous lifestyle. In this introductory episode they reveal: turning vanillas to polyamory, dealing with a partner who dates more than you, gender inadequacies in online dating, and being an introvert in an extroverted lifestyle.

SS 48: We're Porn Again – Our Fetishes & Home-Made Porn

Dylan asks Shira how polyamorists feel about one night stands. We all talk about the kind of porn that gets us going, then each of us admits to what our guilty pleasure porn is; Cooper feels very bad about his and insists everybody is judging him. After the break we discuss homemade porn, what we've all made, and why swingers take pictures and video.

SS 47: Naked People Doing Dirty Things – Porn All Around Us

We wonder if pubic hair is making a resurgence, find out that Shira has no tolerance for young people, discuss how we first encountered and discovered porn. We learn that Ginger didn't believe people actually had sex in porn. Shira talks about her past with jealousy over porn. The boys refuse to let Shira go into body negativity mode. Then we all talk about what we've learned from porn.

SS 46: Burning Man '11 Pt 2 – Fear & Loathing on the Playa

Uh oh! You heard the last podcast and were left wanting for juicy details? The second part of our Burning Man shows reveals exactly what happened between Dylan and the Majestic Woman he met at Burning Man 2011. You will also find out if there was love in the air for Shira B. Katz. Emotions run high in this heartfelt episode recorded just one week after Shira and Dylan return home from the Playa.

SS 45: Burning Man '11 Pt 1 – Shira & Dylan's Excellent Adventure

Cooper & Marilyn take a vacation to visit sexy friends from the Great White North. Dylan & Shira B. Katz haven’t been about to shut up about Burning Man and now you finally get to hear why. Listen as the crew discusses what Burning Man has to do with non-monogamy, who they camped with, and what a non-monogamous person can expect on the Playa. Ahoy! Burning Man; land of The Human Car(cass) Wash, The Snack Food Glory Hole, and a place where even the monogamous have an opportunity to open up a little.

SS Special – Dylan Crosses The Rubicon from Swinging to Polyamory at Burning Man 2011

Dylan here – I visited Burning Man this year, and while I fully expected to have a mind-blowing experience, I found myself wrapped up in the loving arms of another woman, and unable to completely handle some of the consequences of that. I had my first little polyamorous experience, a “playawife” for a few days, but I needed to get some of what was on my mind out. So, this recording is me, on-site, at 8am the day after I decided that what I was doing wasn't going to last. Take a listen, and tell me what you think.

SS 44: Fucking Technology – Sexting, Cybersex & Phone Sex

We are living in the golden age of sexual communication. There are so many ways to have sexy conversations and interactions online, it's really rather amazing. We talk about our likes and dislikes, our enthusiasms and wants, and how we all get off online.

SS 43: Flirting as Swingers, Polyamorists, & Non-Monogamists

Flirting! It's like a gateway drug, and that gateway sometimes leads to all manner of sexual exploits. Tonight we discuss the importance and value of flirting and how it has helped shape the panel's sexual lives, as well as how Ginger & Shira flirted their way onto the show. And speaking of that, this is Ginger's anniversary episode, as she's been swinging on the Swingset with us for a full year now. All this, Cooper has sexy house guests, Dylan almost picks up a woman at a buffet line at a bowling alley, dead flies, bottles of wine, and more on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast.

SS 42: Kody Brown & the Polygamy Lawsuit – Legislating the Bedroom

Dylan hosts this episode where we discuss Kody Brown's lawsuit, the fight for polygamy, and “Sister Wives.” Shira has learned the power of selfish sex. Cooper rants against religion and oppression, but what else is new?

SS 41: Breaking Up Is Really Hard To Do For Swingers Too

Cooper tells the crew about the breakup he and Marilyn went through with a unicorn friend of theirs, their struggle with it, and how they've applied their feelings about polyamory and non-monogamy to the situation. The crew uses this as a jumping off point to discuss breakups in general in non-monogamy and how they differ from monogamous breakups. Then Dylan finally discusses his bisexual leanings.

SS 40: Slut Shaming and Anthony Weiner's Penis on Twitter

The crew discusses the fact that girls need to ask permission to touch too, Shira is rejected for the very first time, Dylan talks about massages at strip clubs, and we get deep into the Anthony Weiner sex scandal, discussing whether this is an example of our society's extreme slut shaming, if it's possible he has an open marriage, and how we feel about this type of scandal in general.

SS Special – Ending The Sexual Dark Age Question About Bisexuality

In this short podcast special, the Swingset crew answer a question sent by a listener of the Ending The Sexual Dark Age podcast about how to transition yourself to being a bisexual male in the lifestyle when you'd previously identified as straight.

SS 39: Debauchery at a Swing Club – Couple's Playhouse Swingers Club Near Chicago

Dylan and Cooper return to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago for part two of their discussion and description of their first trip to a swingers club. Shira and Ginger add their own thoughts about swing clubs and other kink friendly clubs. Cooper talks about how odd it is to wander around nude with an erection, and Dylan continues his epic flirt.

SS 38: Our Swingers Club Adventure – Living it up at Chicago Swing Club Couple's Playhouse

After Shira discusses the wonderful world of sex and feeling better that came from having her IUD removed, Ginger talks about the benefits of hers, and Dylan discusses exploring his wife's…for science. Ginger regales us with Prof's solo date with a friend, Cooper and Marilyn take separate dates, and we discuss a wonderful trip to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago, and our experiences within in part one of our two part discussion.

SS 37: Gang Bang The Mailbag – Listener Questions on Swinging, Poly & Open

In our first “Listener Mailbag” episode we answer several questions from voicemail and email, tackling such diverse topics as the hotness of swingers, sexual experience and prowess, how to swing when you have kids, going to swing clubs, male bisexuality, the HIV positive military man swinger, and more.

SS 36: Everybody Loves Orgasms – Swingers, Poly, and Open Cumming Together

While Dylan fills his ass with first a vibrator, then a butt plug, we giggle our way through a discussion of our favorite thing in the whole world, orgasms. We discuss the differences in the many “spot” orgasms (G-Spot, P-Spot C-Spot U-Spot) and what orgasms feel like for us.

SS 35: Safer Sex, The Infections Formerly Known as STDs & Swinging – How Swingers & Polyamorists Handle Safer Sex

One of the most concerning topics for anyone looking to get into the swinging or other non-monogamous lifestyles is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, so we invite Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun, a HIV educator, on to discuss the concept of acceptable risk, how we all need to make the decision for ourselves if our lifestyle is worth the risks inherent in it, and ways to minimize our exposure risks.

SS 34: Breaking it Down – BDSM In The Swinging Lifestyle

Miss Ami, a full time Domme, returns to The Swingset to discuss how BDSM fits into the swinging and non-monogamous lifestyles, how these worlds collide, and being out as a kinky person. And Dylan's curiosity seems to be moving to full blown obsession.

SS 33: Spank My Ass! BDSM, Swinging and You

The Swingset crew invites Miss Ami, a full time Domme to join the discussion about what BDSM stands for, what it means to be Domme/sub, how her lifestyle impacts her life, and why swingers seem to have such difficulty feeling comfortable with those four letters. (Dylan also discovers he might be more interested in exploring this than he thought…)

SS 32: Cooper & Marilyn's Excellent Adventure – Swinging at Desire Resort & Spa

Cooper and Marilyn just got back from Desire, but in between the nonstop playtime and suntanning and hottubbing and drinking and dining, they found time to record a full trip diary detailing their time spent at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun. (Well, they found time to record two out of the three trip reports, the third was recorded, sadly, in cold Chicago.) So here it is, in its entirety, Cooper and Marilyn's Excellent Adventure!

SS 31: Sex on the Swingset is Fun – Live From Desire, The Sexiest Place on Earth with Kidder Kaper & Lorax

In Ep 31, the greatest crossover since The Flintstones met The Jetsons happens as Cooper and Marilyn podcast with Kidder Kaper and Lorax from Sex Is Fun live from an outside bed at Desire in sunny Cancun. They discuss what it's like to be in a world populated by sex positive people, what may be the first publicly accepted bi male blowjob at the resort, the sometimes high tension and heightened drama that can result from such, the sexy times that have been had, first full swaps, newbies, and more!

SS 30: Love Thyself – Masturbation and Non-Monogamy

In Ep 30, we discuss masturbation, which Woody Allen called “sex with someone I love,” and talk about why, in swinging and non-monogamy, we have all the opportunity in the world for sex and we still continue to jack off and jill off (is that a thing?) We discuss discovering masturbation, techniques, toys, and why we love ourselves.

SS 29: Porn, Bisexuals, Anal Sex, Opening Up, and Tristan Taormino

In Ep 29, the Swingset tries very hard not to simply gush over their biggest crush, Tristan Taormino, as she joins us for a discussion of the time writing porn, her thoughts on bisexuality in the lifestyle and in film, her book Opening Up, and putting things in hers and other people's asses.

SS 28: Sexual Erotic Nutrition and Sex At Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 2)

In Ep 28, the Swingset's interview with Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings, continues. We discuss whether or not there's hope for America's dawning sexuality, tours, future books, swinger parties and more.

SS 27: Bonobo Porn and Sex at Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 1)

On Ep 27, the Swingset interviews Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings. We discuss bonobos, a species that sexually is far more similar to us than chimpanzees, and the very porn-like videos of this species enjoying themselves. We postulate that the matriarchal societies described in Sex At Dawn are very reflective of the swinging and polyamorous lifestyles.

SS 26: Auld Lang Syne – An Orgy, A Game, An Epiphany, & A Ritual

Episode 26 is a time of reflection for us as The Swingset celebrates the end of its first year of existence. We discuss what we've learned along the way, talk about the orgy Cooper and Marilyn threw for Ginger and the Professor where the crew beta tested a new game from Great Sex Games, Dylan discusses his swinger epiphanies, Shira shares a New Years Eve ritual, and we enjoy each other's company thoroughly. Join us for the last show of 2010!

SS 25: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys? – Part 2

The Swingset crew discuss their favorite sex toys of the year and the most unusual sex toys they've ever used in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast.

SS 24: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys – Part 1

The Swingset crew discuss their first sex toys and experiences and talk about their favorite sex toys of the year in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast.

SS 23: Coming Out With Kendra Holliday

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast: Ep 23, we spend a long evening with our friend Kendra Holliday, who on National Coming Out day, revealed her identity to the world on her website The Beautiful Kind. Over the course of an hour and a half, we talk with Kendra about the time since she came out to the world, the difficulties she's had with her community and her ex husband, and how it feels to be a source of sex positive information in a difficult world. We then move beyond to our own feelings about coming out as swingers, polyamorous, non-monogamous, or even simply sex positive.

SS 22: Bisexuality and You – Part 2

In Ep 22, we wrap up our big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy

SS 21: Bisexuality and You – Part 1

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, Ep 21, we begin the big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy to be its own subclass.

SS 20: The Sexual Costumes and Masks We Wear

In Ep 20, we talk about how, even in open relationships, even as sex positive people, we often hide our true interests, feelings, ideas from playmates and our partner. We discuss why this might be as well as talk about moving beyond it. We also talk about fetishes and role playing. On this show: Cooper,

SS 19: Anal Sex & Double Penetration for the Non-Monogamous

In Ep 19, we talk about anal sex and its place in non-monogamy, how it's often tokenized for significant other play only, the wonders and joys of double penetration, pegging, and male bisexuality. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kendra Holliday (Formerly TBK) Show notes: Buy the Nexus Maximus, our favorite dual

SS 18: Blurring the Lines Between Polyamory and Swinging – Non Monogamy Cums Together

In Ep 18, we invite two new friends onto the swingset for our discussion of the blurred line between polyamory and swinging. In this discussion we attempt to define the two terms and then break down our own definitions, we expand further with how we relate to friends and lovers. On this show: Cooper, Ginger,

SS 13: Threesomes, Foursomes, & Moresomes – Number Dynamics

In Ep 13, we discuss number dynamics in swing environments, from threesomes, to foursomes, to orgies. Sasha extols the virtues of odd numbers and the big pile, and Dylan discusses the house he wants to buy in a swinger friendly neighborhood, his greed knows no bounds, wanting a 10 seater hot tub. On this show: Cooper, Sasha,

SS 12: Under Pressure – Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Pressure For Swingers

In Ep 12 we talk about pressure, and how pressuring encounters can be as swingers. The first half of our show focuses primarily on male pressure to perform and erectile dysfunction, in the back half we talk about pressure to move beyond your comfort zone, pressure to not use protection and many other things, and

SS 11: Bediquette – In Bed With Swingers

In Ep 11, we discuss the ins and outs of bediquette when it comes to bringing other sexy folk into your bedroom for playtime. We also introduce the newest member of the Swingset family, Ginger!

SS Special – Sex Is Fun Interviews The Swingset

Sex Is Fun, the best sex podcast out there, interviews Dylan and Cooper to discuss swinging in a very enjoyable interview. Check it out!

SS 10: It's Naked Time with a Live Nude Cast

In Episode 10 of Life on the Swingset the cast is naked! Not that it matters, because you can't see them. But just think of their sexy naked bodies….This episode is about being naked and all that goes with it, the nervousness and fun, the excitement and panic, the boys say that any size boobs are great, and Sasha bucks the trend and says size does matter with penises.

SS 9: Ins and Outs of Swinger Parties

In Episode 9 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss attending a swinger party, Kylie admits her nervousness about them and asks questions, and Sasha proves herself to be a swing party guru and gives her hostessing tips. There's strapon play, stadium seating and more in this episode. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, &

SS 8: Looking For Fun & Friends on Swinger Websites

In Episode 8 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss three major swinger dating websites, Adult Friend Finder, Swing Lifestyle, and our personal favorite, and Lifestyle Lounge. We discuss how to decide which site is right for you (despite being biased), how to build a profile, start your search, add pictures and have a great time with online swinger dating. Cooper also talks about using amazon.com to buy condoms.

SS 7: Swinging Couples, Taking One For The Team, & Erectile Dysfunction

In Episode 7, we discuss the difficulties inherent in finding a four way connection between two couples, how taking one for the team and playing with someone you're not interested in can do more harm than good, and going on solo dates.  Cooper also discusses a magical pill he took at his birthday party. On

SS 6: Those Are The Rules – Defining Your Rules as Swingers

In Episode 6, the team discusses the importance of having rules in the swinging lifestyle, what's allowed and what isn't, what needs to be discussed beforehand and what doesn't.  We also talk about what to do when rules are broken, and how to decide you need new rules or have outgrown the old. On this

SS 5: Soft Swap VS Full Swap

In Episode 5, we talk about the two major terms in the swinging community, soft swap (play but no intercourse with the opposite partner) or full (everybody gets laid) and discuss the complexities in defining each, and the pros and cons.  Sasha also talks about her new website: pleasure-parties.com On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, &

SS 4: Compersion VS Jealousy – Swingers Deal With Jealousy

In Episode 4, we discuss compersion, the term that finds you experiencing pleasure because your partner is experiencing pleasure, versus jealousy, a term we all know. The Swingset gang discusses how to overcome jealousy in many situations, all striving for that nirvana called compersion.

SS 3: Sad State of Affairs – Swinging in America

In episode 3 we discuss the sad state of affairs American conciousness is at regarding sexuality, from the RNC's new lesbian-bondage-strippergate, to sex ed, to the pros and cons of staying in the closet as swingers, to sex toys, and the fact that everybody's really just jealous.

SS 2: Birds of a Feather – Finding Other Swingers

In our second episode, we continue our logistics of getting into the lifestyle with a look at finding friends and admitting to them and yourself that you want to…well…have sex with them. We discuss first dates, where to go and most importantly how to be safe when opening yourself up.

SS 1: Dipping a Toe In – How To Start Swinging

In our first podcast we discuss the very beginnings of what to do when you think you may want to have an open relationship. We talk in detail about dealing with that idea yourself and deciding if opening up is right for you. We also deal with the first stages of discussing this with your

SS Zero: Swinging For Beginners I – Realizing You’re Non-Monogamous

Realizing that our first episode doesn't deal with the first thoughts about non-monogamy nearly as well as episode 59, released two years later, we thought we'd rejigger the episodes up and add a Swingset Zero episode. On this episode we talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with