Author: Cooper S. Beckett

About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.

“Is monogamy dead?” is a question being asked by almost every major news publication and magazine over the last two years. Awareness of alternatives to traditional monogamy is at an all time high, as more people are seeking resources to intelligently explore swinging, open relationships, and polyamory. Life on the Swingset strives to bring together the many different flavors of ethical non-monogamy. We do this by emphasizing inclusiveness of safe, sane, and consensual activities, highlighting the similarities that bring us together as a true community, and demonstrating the value of a life less monotonous, a life less monogamous. The Life…

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We all know that the Tenga Egg may be the best bang for your buck sex toy as far as yours truly is concerned. It’s inexpensive, it feels like God’s hand, and it’s got a lifespan of about 10-20 uses despite being called a one use toy. So let’s take this as fact. (he says, declaring it.) To those who don’t know what the Tenga Egg is, check out my review, I shant waste my 500 words repeating myself. Now as a lot of our readers are women, (something like half, doncha know) I find myself thinking: but how could…

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We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q. My wife of 18 years and I are new to the lifestyle. We are both loving the hell out of it and feel great about what it is doing for us and our life. We have a couple we play with and have become great friends as well. We have a million things in common and hang out with them in all aspects of our life. We have managed to check just about everything off of your…

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CatalystCon West will be my third Sex Positive conference. My third time amongst throngs of people who feel the way I do. At least on the subject of sex being a right, sex being awesome, and sex needing more positivity surrounding it. That’s it, right? Why we do what we do? To educate, and enlighten, to demystify hedonism, to showcase the reality that the world lives in every day, that a great many people decide, post marriage, ethically or not, that they’d like to have the sex with people they don’t call the spouse. That growing numbers of people are…

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Oh, my. The things I do for science. And I’m using “things I do” in its full colloquial literal sense here, as I’ve just “done” the “Perfect Woman.” Not so long ago IRL, but at the very beginning of Life on the Swingset, I happily accepted then the strangest toy I’ve ever interacted with outside a toy store. (Like the coy nature of that sentence?) Hannah Harper’s Titty-Fuck-Her was literally a set of 2/3rd scale tits with a pussy in the center. And that’s it. This toy was bad for so many reasons, notably its bulky awkwardness, and serial killer…

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It’s possible that I’ve used the KinkLab Power Tripper add-on for the spectacular Neon Wand product in a way that (while I’d never say nobody) few ever have before. But I should back up. About a year ago, during a long evening of great food, great conversation, and great wine, I was introduced to the Neon Wand. This device is the less powerful younger cousin of the Violet Wand; a device that flings electricity through glass attachments and zaps whomever is on the other end with an adjustable level of juice. Yes, this is a toy for electricity play. I’ll…

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Teledildonics is one of those things that seems like the greatest idea in the world, and has for the last…fifteen years or so…somehow never seemed to materialize. We the nerdy, we the geeky, we the occasionally lonely, fantasized about a future where we could plug something into our computer and it would get us off. After all, we’ve all wanted to fuck our computer, haven’t we? Maybe? A little? It also takes us one step closer to that strange fever dream of robotic sex. So, a roundabout entry into this review. But be forewarned, I was SKEPTICAL, with a capital…

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What can be said about the nJoy Eleven other than this lovingly crafted steel monolith is simply perfect. The Eleven may not be for everyone on account of its girth and imposing appearance, but those who’ve experienced it are nearly always blown away by its magnificence. I was first introduced to nJoy’s toy line by our old friend Sasha Darling, who had a Pure Wand (which I called the Comma). After getting to see the effectiveness of a ball of steel directly against the gspot of several friends (coaxing gushing orgasms out of nearly all of them) I was a…

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It’s been a while since I got to try out a new butt toy. And really, that’s my own damned fault, since I seem to be incapable of finishing reviews in timely fashion. But behold I have (and have had) a butt plug to review, the Quattro plug from Fuze. This little plug initially made me “hrm” (in the fashion of Rorschach, doncha know) because, well, it’s tiny. Way back when I first started butt-toy-play, I bought a few small butt plugs, and they were all too small and without a small enough neck so they just sorta slide their…

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I see the word revolutionary tossed around a lot when it comes to sex toys for men. It’s interesting that since there are so few QUALITY sex toys for penises, everybody starts screaming “¡Viva la Revolución!” when something remotely different comes down the pike. So, the VerSpanken looked different, and promised something different, I’ll admit to being mildly hopeful that this revolution wasn’t so much like number nine (You know, Revolution #9. That shitty “song” that ended The White Album. It’s just nonsense. Stupid Yoko.) and was more like the OTHER one. Is it possible for a product to be…

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