Author: Cooper S. Beckett

About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.

Somehow, in all this time, I’ve never held a penis pump in my hands. I’m not sure how that’s possible. I’ve seen really every manor of sex toy from the strange onacup single use jerk cups to the appalling $300 limbless torso fuck dolls. But never a penis pump. Even in my pre-sex positive days where I might have considered myself inadequate enough to believe the rather obviously untrue assertion that usage of said pumps will add the big two: length and girth. When Zoe told me she could get me a penis pump for review, I said hell yes.…

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1,000 That’s the number of published posts on this website. And that is amazing. I’m not bragging, I’m legitimately amazed that we’ve gotten here. There were such humble beginnings, when Swingset launched, its first two weeks were incredibly short product reviews. Reviews of stuff we just had around the house. Really because we had no idea what things would look like yet, and we were having scheduling problems getting to record our first episode of the podcast. We didn’t even know if the website would HAVE much content besides the podcast back then. What if no one read the site…

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My wife is a gusher.

And I don’t mean she squirts a little bit. I’ve been with girls who squirt a little bit. Sometimes I wind up squirting more than them. But Marilyn is different. I’ve never seen anyone do what she does. Neither have our friends. We’re all sort of amazed at watching her go. When we go to people’s houses for the first time, I’ll tell them to have towels ready. They’ll laugh and say no problem, but then when we arrive, we’ll find them with one, maybe two towels.

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“Yes, Sir. Thank you, Sir.” Those words. They make me smile. She forgets them until I put my fingers to my ear and prompt: “and you say?” The prompt causes her to widen her already enormous eyes and respond with the titular phrase, the one that makes me smile, the one that causes me to…hunger. She returns with wine, cheese, baguettes that she baked for us, sausage. She bends to set these things down on chairs forming makeshift tables next to the black leather chaise lounge that the Mistress and I have draped ourselves across. As our little whore bends…

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I’m a fan of giving pleasure. I know that’s the kind of thing that people like to brag about because it makes them look good, but lately I’ve really started to enjoy giving massages. I’m nowhere near the massage guru that Dylan is, but I’ve been enjoying the process. Another bit of Cooper trivia now: I’m weird about lubes and oils. When I use lube I try to use lubes with pump tops because I really don’t want it on my hands…I must admit to discretely wiping my hands off on the Liberator Throe beneath my partner when I do…

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There is so much to be thankful for, and I must beg the indulgence of my international friends…and those that think Thanksgiving as a holiday is in poor taste be it for political, religious, or genocide related reasons. All I’ll say is that the gang bang of holidays that go on in this, the last fiscal quarter of the year, often give me the warm fuzzies and have me looking back and reflecting on the good in my life. And you are all a great good in my life. (How’s THAT for a dumb-ass sentence?) In January, Life on the…

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Greetings from Paradise! At this moment, I sit naked on a swinging bed near the lobby bar at Desire Resort and Spa on the Riviera Maya. Wish you were here! I really do. I wish I could share this with all of you. In the months leading up to this trip, through our forum posts and web chats, and individually chatting (and flirting [and maybe some webcam fun]) with our guests, I came to realize that the group we had assembled was really something interesting. We have a cadre from Northern California who all came together (and then again, and…

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Often I come across things out on the web that are simply the best information I’ve seen. I’d been wanting to collect data into a great safer sex guide for quite some time and then the Authoritative Guide to Safer Sex was pointed out to me from the good folks over at Online Dating University. Rather than attempt to do my own and pale in comparison, I present the opening paragraphs below and then take you right into their guide. We here at Online Dating are thrilled to welcome you to “The Authoritative Guide to Safer Sex.” As anyone sexually…

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It has been quite a while since last I got to explore a new prostate stimulator. I’ve run the gamut from cheap jelly butt plugs (hey, I was a noob, I didn’t know!) to the stainless steel monster that is the nJoy Pure Plug 2.0 (which sits on my bedside table mocking me with its size). Often I find myself feeling that, well, perhaps they’re trying too hard. Prostates are simple nerve clusters. They don’t even really need rubbing, just pressure. I often get the sense that companies making butt toys are just turning their vagina toys on their side…

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There may be some ideal to aspire to where there are no rules and boundaries and instead the desire to do right by each other manages to push aside any issues, conflict. Or perhaps it’s simply that when those issues and conflict arise, it’s because that’s truly the relationship trajectory. Is this like poly Nirvana? The true apex of understanding and faith in yourself and your partner(s). Perhaps. But I’m not there yet. In fact there’s only one person I know who is actively living the above ideal. It’s working for her. I continue to be impressed. For now, I…

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