A few months ago, we were both surprised to find that we were extremely turned on by the idea of a full swap. Initially, the concept of full-on sex with someone else was a little intimidating and not quite an option for us. It wasn’t off-limits to discuss, but neither of us were quite comfortable with the idea just yet.
Author Suzy Softy
Suzy is your average, 20-something city dweller. She likes shopping for shoes, yoga, sipping cappuccinos, and the occasional foursome. She and Mr. Softy are fairly new to the swinging lifestyle but are ready to try new and exciting things. Most of all, they are excited to blog about it!
As much as I am enjoying the lifestyle, it is starting to become a huge pain. I’m having an issue with one aspect of the life that I never even thought of at the beginning. I thought I might have some jealousy issues. I thought I might get weirded out by meeting people for sex. I worried about health and safety risks of screwing random people. I thought of creepy guys at swinger clubs hitting on me and having really awkward encounters with people we just weren’t in to. I never thought the biggest frustration would be cleaning!
We had heard great things about this “underground” group that hosts parties in our area. They don’t advertise on the usual sites – news travels by word-of-mouth only. It all sounded very Eyes-Wide-Shutty sans the blindfolded pianist and cultish atmosphere.
Initially, I planned to just give girls a try. It isn’t that I’ve never thought of women sexually before, I just hadn’t given it much thought. I’ve always thought girls were pretty and the female body was attractive. So, I thought, let’s see what happens.When we filled out our on-line profile I labeled myself “bi-curious”.
When we decided to give this swinging thing a try, I never realized just how much work it would actually be. I’m not quite sure how I thought we would meet people. I guess I assumed the perfect couple would just show up naked at our door, ready to go. It’s a lot harder than that. (That’s what she said…)
Suzy Softly comes to the realization that the swinging lifestyle isn’t just about sex, but about the connections and friendships you make.
Mr. and Mrs. Softy are new to swinging. Read about how they first got the idea to play with other couples.