Author: Zoe

Zoe first described herself as "bad at monogamy" until about five years ago when she and her husband discovered the term that actually described her: polyamorous. Since then they have opened their family to other partners. Zoe is currently juggling relationships with her husband, their two kids, her husband's girlfriend, and a slew of friends/loves that she calls her tribal poly family. She can be reached on facebook or on twitter @ZoeHanis

Iroha is a new line of vibrators designed by Tenga. Best known for their male masturbatories, Eggs and Cups, Tenga has finally decided to try their hand at the female market with the introduction of the iroha line of vibrators. When I first saw the pictures, I was confused. They didn’t look like anything else on the market; they didn’t even look like vibrators. They reminded me of some of the strange Japanese anime characters that my children are so fond of. I knew that we here at Swingset needed to review them. Tenga was nice enough to send us…

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I didn’t think that I could love anything as much as my Crystal Delight’s Crystal Minx Tail Plug, especially now that I have ears that coordinate. I have worn it several times: to a party, to a friend’s house, even around my house to do my laundry. It feels wonderfully sexy. I was purr-fectly content. That was before Crystal Delights sent me a Crystal Minx Magnetic Bunny Tail Plug. It is as soft as a bunny; but that shouldn’t be a surprise since it is made from real rabbit fur. And the tail is my favorite color, black. Dare I…

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“Tell me about the loss of potential. What does that mean?” It’s been over two months since Guy and I “transitioned” from emotionally intimate to something far less – perhaps penpals. It took a lot of time to deal with the residual resentment and feelings of being rejected and replaced. Which surprised me as the break up was mutual. But in working through the feelings of anger and hurt, I came to realize that it was not him, per say, that I was upset over losing. It was the loss of potential. When people meet and begin to form an…

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The nJoy Pure Wand is the most wonderful manual g-spot toy on the planet. (The Stronic Eins being the most wonderful automatic one). Of course, this is just my opinion, but I am sure that there are many people out there that would echo such a sentiment. The Pure Wand looks like a comma: a sleek flawless medical-grade stainless steal 10” comma with balls on each end. The smaller ball has a diameter of 1” while the larger has a diameter of 1.5”. The Pure Wand is rather heavy, weighing in at 24 ounces. But it is perfectly balanced for…

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My name is Zoe Hanis and I recently had a fabulous experience. Most people who keep up with the sex positive or even the more odd news stories, have heard about the infamous fucksaw incident at NorthwesternUniversity. If you haven’t, I’ll give you a brief recap. On February 21, 2011, a live demonstration was given to students attending an optional lecture for a Human Sexuality class at Northwestern University. Although neither the students attending the lecture nor the professor, who had given permission for the demo to occur, complained, a media uproar ensued. The media and people that were not…

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My name is Zoe Hanis and this is the continuing story of my first BDSM play party. Over Memorial Day weekend, the Chicago area gets extremely busy for the sex positive crowd: both Shibaricon and International Mister Leather (IML) hold weekend long conventions and Vespertine (a Women’s BDSM Play Party) is held. Vespertine began in 2006 as an event that fulfilled a need. Apparently while women and transgendered folk attend IML, only boys were allowed to play. This was unacceptable to Daddy Sky Cotton, who decided to throw an annual play party where women and transfolk could engage in and…

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Over the last several years, I have been doing kegel exercises daily. It started as a necessity to regain bladder control after the birth of my second child, and has remained something that is important to stave off urinary incontinence. When I heard that there was a product that would help me to exercise my pelvic floor while I go about my normal day, I knew I had to try it. But Marilyn had already done a thorough review of LELO’s Luna Beads a couple of years ago. Luckily, LELO recently introduced their newest addition to the Luna Bead line: the…

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One of the things that I dislike about my Hitachi Magic Wand (now called the Original Magic Wand) is that the head is not silicone making it more difficult to clean. (The other complaint was the noise if you were wondering.) So when our friends at Babeland told us they were sending us the Gee-Whiz by Vixen Creations for review, I was ecstatic. Though once I unboxed it, I couldn’t stop laughing. Inside the usual clear plastic Vixen Creation tube was one of the strangest looking things I have seen. It is a convex dome with a dildo attached. Due…

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Icicles by Pipedream Products are a line of hand-blown borosilicate (pyrex) glass massagers. Each of the 41 available styles is unique in its beauty and shape. Having not found a glass dildo that could get me off, I was skeptical when the Icicles No. 31 showed up at the office. I had thought to hand it over to a member of my staff, but there was something about it that called out to try it myself. I am not sure if it was the beautiful blue color, the fact that both ends looked functional or that one end looked like…

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My name is Zoe Hanis and for as long as I can remember, the very idea of BDSM has fascinated and repulsed me. The connection between pain and pleasure had already established in my mind from a young age; though it was primarily his pleasure and my pain (or indifference). The year following my first orgasm, I read The Story of O, Exit to Eden and The Sleeping Beauty books. And I was fascinated. Having someone tell me what to do to please them would be so much easier than constantly reading their reactions. But my mind rebelled. I had…

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