Author: Zoe

Zoe first described herself as "bad at monogamy" until about five years ago when she and her husband discovered the term that actually described her: polyamorous. Since then they have opened their family to other partners. Zoe is currently juggling relationships with her husband, their two kids, her husband's girlfriend, and a slew of friends/loves that she calls her tribal poly family. She can be reached on facebook or on twitter @ZoeHanis

What do you get when you cross Funfactory’s Share with Tantus’ Feeldoe? The Tango by Fuze Toys. Fuze Toys has a winner with the Tango double ended dildo. The Tango has the same basic shape as Funfactory’s Share, but with the firmness and optional vibrations of Tantus’ Feeldoe. The Tango is a black double ended dildo that can be used with or without a harness. One end of the double dildo is a traditional straight dildo for penetrative fun, while the other end has a curved bulb designed for g-spot stimulation which ends in a curve with three ridges contoured…

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My name is Zoe Hanis and I no longer have a boyfriend. Last night Guy and I broke up … and yet we didn’t. Redefining relationships was something that he had been talking about from the beginning – the idea that it is not necessary to end a friendship when a romantic relationship is over. Personally, I always thought his idea was full of shit. Whenever my relationships end, they end in explosions. Since one or both of us can’t stand the sight of the other, there is no possibility of a continuing relationship. Endings were true endings, not the…

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“I am not a sex educator,” I told her. “But you blog about sex positive topics and you review toys,” she countered. I nodded. “Why?” She asked. This question gave me pause. I bit back the flippant response “because Cooper asked me to.” Because although he did ask me to blog for Life on the Swingset, I had been writing/blogging elsewhere for a long time. And while it’s technically correct that he did ask me to write a review, I don’t think it was his intent to hand the review department of completely over to me. So it wasn’t Cooper’s…

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SpareParts Hardwear has always been known for its excellent harnesses. The Joque Harness has been one of our favorites since Ginger first wrote a positive review about it. It is always in use at our parties. So when SpareParts HardWear sent us the “new and improved” Joque Harness, we were skeptical. What was there to improve on? The simplicity of the Joque remains the same. It a jockey two strap type harness; which means it looks similar to a jock strap that men wear for sports. It still has the same great fully adjustable leg straps with movable sliders and the same…

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I will admit it; I love fur. Fur provides a sexy feeling; it is soft, silky and warm – very sensual. Last summer I ended up shelling out quite a bit of money for a sheepskin rug, simply because I wanted to be fucked from behind with my face against it. So when I found out that Crystal Delights made fur tails, I HAD to have one. I was thrilled when Crystal Delights sent us the Crystal Minx Tail Plug to review. When I reached into the shipping box and pulled out the tail, I was in heaven. The tail…

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Our friends at Vibrations Direct in the UK sent us the Realdoe by Tantus for review. As someone who is a huge fan of the original Feeldoe, I was very excited to get to play with a Realdoe. The Realdoe is roughly the same size and shape as the Feeldoe. It is a double ended dildo with a bulb on one end for vaginal (or anal insertion), a ridge designed to rest against the wear’s clit and a realistic dildo on the other end. In total it is 15.5” in length, with the shaft having an insertable length of 6.5”…

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My name is Zoe Hanis and I am an introvert by nature. I have major social anxiety. I get nervous in new situations and in meeting new people. The confidence I have is usually fake; fake it until it is real. Somewhere between “relaxingly tipsy” and “completely intoxicated” my social anxiety fades and my extroverted self lives. Unfortunately, it is sometimes difficult to stop at that stage. Hubby’s girlfriend smacked me upside the head yesterday. She was worried that I was spending far too much time intoxicated lately. “I wanted to shake you,” she said. “You are so much better…

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I like vibes that have something unique or special about them, but not gimmicky. So when I heard that the Ola by Minna did something that no other vibrator did, I asked to test it. Most vibrators come with patterns set by the manufacturer. Patterns with vibration levels that someone thinks will “rock my world”. They are usually wrong. Minna claims that they came up with a vibe that is completely controlled by the user. The Ola allows for the adjustment in the amount of vibration and allows the user to compose a pattern that will work for her. The Ola…

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She sat in her chair notepad shut. We had gotten past the “I may need to take a few notes, if that is ok” part of the session and were moving deeper. “I want this to be a safe place where you can get support and explore these feelings. We can discover what it is that makes you happy; help you communicate what it is that you need; and help you live life instead of escaping into the computer or sleep.” “I need to feel loved.” It is a simple statement; yet so very complicated. Feeling loved has, throughout the…

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My name is Zoe Hanis and I have trust issues. I extremely dislike being vulnerable and have a difficult time opening up to people about my own needs. I think this is why transparency and open and honest communication is extraordinarily important to me. In fact, it is the cornerstone all my relationships. Many people seem to have the mistaken belief that confronting someone about a behavior, attitude, or something that was said is a bad thing. They may be worried that they will hurt the other person’s feelings or they may feel that they wish to avoid an argument.…

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