There are times in the Lifestyle when we are certain of things. Our choices and decisions are solid and we know what we need and want in any given moment. But, we also run into moments where we are uncertain. Times when we don’t know what to do and we depend on our partners to help us figure things out. But there are some things we can only count on ourselves for. One of them is knowing what we want and need in our relationships and if we are settling in the process.
Browsing: negotiated non-monogamy
Only fairly recently has polyamory developed an organized culture, and the language around it is still forming. Because of that, there is not complete agreement on how the words arising to fill the needs of the polyamorous are used.
As much as I am enjoying the lifestyle, it is starting to become a huge pain. I’m having an issue with one aspect of the life that I never even thought of at the beginning. I thought I might have some jealousy issues. I thought I might get weirded out by meeting people for sex. I worried about health and safety risks of screwing random people. I thought of creepy guys at swinger clubs hitting on me and having really awkward encounters with people we just weren’t in to. I never thought the biggest frustration would be cleaning!
Mr D are having a bad streak of lifestyle blues. As with many couples we have to really work to make time for lifestyle activities given our schedules, and especially since we need to arrange childcare to get out and about. Since we live way out there in middle America, the nearest club is almost two hours away (and no hotel nearby). So to get to a club we are either in for a very, very late evening….err morning. Or we need to plan a weekend away. Not an easy thing to do with young kids!
Before I had a chance to take in the amount of shit I was about to be in I was dragged off by the insatiable Miriam to a bedroom we found all to ourselves. True to form she had my cock in her mouth before I even got to the bed. She is one of those hungry playmates who demands to be remembered for how willingly and enthusiastically she gives pleasure. We writhed, licked, rubbed and sucked every part of each other we could reach until I needed her pussy like I needed air.
We’ve all heard the coined phrase seen in many swinger profiles, many of us have encountered it and even some have experienced first hand the concept of taking one for the team in the swinging community. But, what exactly does this mean?
One of the advantages of being the only player on my swinging squad is that I don’t have to take one for the team. There’s no one pressuring me to settle for something less-than-desirable so that he can enjoy a tasty morsel.
I posted how Anne and I have outed ourselves as swingers to our close friends.…
Just got back from a crummy meet and greet experience. Mr. Doubleplay and I ignored some red flags and just neglected to do our homework for this meet up. As a result, in many ways, I feel that we wasted an evening.
The couple that we met was sweet and good looking and discreet. We did right on those issues. But we skipped some steps.
Emma, why are you writing porn?” It whispers paternally. “You should be publishing erudite reflections on philosophy or culture.” Maybe I ought to be pouring my energy into more laudable writing projects. Then again, maybe not. The truth is that I can’t help myself from keeping this online journal, my attempt at critical-reflective, sex journalism.