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Articles about swinging, polyamory, and non-monogamy Life on the Swingset

But, back to the history of the vibrator…. Once upon a time, many, many eons ago, women didn’t have orgasms; at least society tried to tell them they didn’t. If they did experience any type of pleasure from sexual congress they were told that there was something wrong with them, that they should stop enjoying whatever it was that brought them sexual pleasure since that was a sign of nymphomania or worse mental disorder (only women of ill repute and prostitutes did it…) Thus, women developed strange anxiety disorders that rendered them “neurotic”, and in more extreme cases hysterical, and in need of treatment. Sidenote: the term “hysterical” comes form the Greek “hystera” that means uterus; hysterical women were believed to have a traveling uterus that rendered them incapacitated and susceptible to unmanageable emotional disorders.

One wonderful thing about non-monogamous relationships is people are allowed the freedom to choose whatever rules make them the happiest. Whether people classify themselves as swingers, polyamorous, open or something else entirely, there are many possibilities within their chosen label to tailor their relationship to be exactly what they want it to be.

Mingling is challenging for even the most adept swingers. Given that Prof and I are in the middle of a long vanilla stretch, I’m finding that in absence of real social situations I’m daydreaming about what I would say to that spectacularly hot inked up woman or tall, dark and handsome bespectacled gentleman across the way.