Author: Ginger

Ginger

As an oversexed, omnisexual castaway from the sexually-repressed culture, Ginger believes the next sexual revolution of total sex-positivity is just around the corner and it’s time for the revolutionaries to unite! Be her friend on Facebook - Follow her on Twitter

While the world has indeed shifted since Ginger and Ryan recorded this meandering conversation about plans for 2020, the commitment to personal growth is as important as ever. Enjoy this second half of their deep and optimistic musings on one lovely Sunday afternoon. Send feedback or suggestions for topics to Ginger and Prof! Email Ginger at ginger@lifeontheswingset.com. Review Intellectual Foreplay on iTunes! Connect with Ginger and Prof on Twitter @gingerbentham @gingerntheprof @intelforeplay. Find Ginger and Prof on Instagram @gingerbentham and @ryanakaprof. Also follow @swingsetlife and @swingsetdesire for all the Swingsetty goodness! Travel with Ginger and Ryan to paradise in…

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It’s a Sunday morning, well, afternoon actually after an especially adventurous night. Ginger and Ryan are lounging in the afterglow. The conversation then turns deep and introspective as they explore where their paths have taken them over the last year. From flogging to magic to future intentions, join Gin and Prof as they contemplate how they’ll continue to push their edges in 2020. Send feedback or suggestions for topics to Ginger and Prof! Email Ginger at ginger@lifeontheswingset.com. Review Intellectual Foreplay on iTunes! Connect with Ginger and Prof on Twitter @gingerbentham @gingerntheprof @intelforeplay. Find Ginger and Prof on Instagram @gingerbentham…

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Ginger and Ryan take you for another sail while they reflect on communication in relationships. Healthy and unhealthy, effective and ineffective, and strategies for moving through the simultaneity of emotion and challenging communication. In this longer episode the first fifteen minutes of the journey are breezier than usual, but hang with it, dear listeners, sailing season has come to an end. They play together with the concepts of intimacy and vulnerability and how to celebrate both in communication. Ginger and Ryan tell stories from life as examples of how to move toward the most loving and effective relationship communication and…

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When Prof and I are talking shop about our relationship on date night, I often wonder if the couple at the next table can overhear us. When it is just the two of us and we are sharing and visioning about our relationship, it feels easy and right. After all we have been open now since 2006, it doesn’t compute that is has been that long. The relaxed way we are able to ask about other partners, the smiles we share stemming from compersion, the encouragement for pursuing emotional connections, all of it feels like a simple manifestation of who…

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Here’s a newsflash: Your partners cannot read your mind. I repeat: Your partners cannot read your mind. A fundamental tenet of any satisfactory relationship is communication. The tricky part is even ineffectual, half-truths are communication, right? Too often we fall into the trap of sharing partial stories or saying only the things we assume our partner wants to hear. This communication strategy is guaranteed to wreak havoc. Imagine you are sailing with your partner and you are navigating. You are looking at the instruments and you are gazing ahead to assess your course. Now you see a huge log floating…

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Compersion. As I write this article, spell check protests every time I use the word. In fact, an attempt to look up the definition demonstrates that Merriam-Webster doesn’t even know what I am talking about when I say compersion. If you are a swinger, have an open relationship, or particularly if you are polyamorous, compersion is likely a regular part of your life experience. In swinger, open, and polyamory circles, compersion is often defined as a person taking pleasure in observing the romantic or sexual pleasure of their partner with another person. Some take the shortcut and say compersion is…

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Swinging, open relationships, polyamory, soft swap, full swap, same room play, vanilla, vanilla with sprinkles, threesomes, foursomes, orgies, taking one for the team, risk aware sex…so much lingo! Ethical non-monogamy is daunting enough to consider without guessing what the hottie you are talking to is actually saying. Let’s tackle soft swap! Soft swap is a term most often used in the context of swinging. Typically it is presented as a check box in an online dating profile. Often it is presented as an either/or question: Are you soft swap or full swap? Soft swap is a term to describe what…

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Consensual non-monogamy continues to trend in the mainstream media. Since Swingset began, we have been watching the coverage go from “look at these freakish people over here” to “maybe those freakish people are on to something.” Of course, we are just over here having a good time, so we aren’t waiting with bated breath for the media to take us seriously. But now that outlets like National Public Radio, The New York Times, and The Atlantic are running stories, it is time for us to weigh in. Let’s start with what we are even talking about here. The term consensual…

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