Author: Cooper S. Beckett

About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.

Who is the father of lust? Satan – John 8:44
Who is going to remind God of all your sins when you die? Satan – Rev 12:10
“But the tares are the sons of Satan, the father of lust. Bind the tares and burn them. Cast them into the everlasting fire” – Jesus
“You shall not surely die” – Satan

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A simple admission that will hold most men in contempt is that they enjoy butt-play. It’s silly, as most scientists who acknowledge that the cluster of nerves known as the G-Spot in women is real, also acknowledge a striking similarity to the cluster of nerves that hang out with the male prostate. MEANING that similar stimulation produces similar results. I never fell into the trap of “it’ll make me gay” when it came to butt play, so I’d been experimenting on a low level with fingers all along. None of my girlfriends, nor my eventual fiancee and wife had any…

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I am the jealous one, when it comes to my husband being with another woman. My husband is completely fine with wanting me to be with another man. I have finally come to grasps with this and I am ready to try swinging. I however want to be able to please my husband in every way possible in the future

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So, it’s really no secret, at this point, that I may be a bit biased when it comes to the Great Sex Games products, mainly because of how highly I think of the Sex Is Fun crew and their fearless leader Kidder Kaper. But this bias should in no way take away from the validity of my comments on their product. The main reason I think so highly of Kaper and Kompany is because of the high level of quality, the attention to detail, and the overwhelmingly positive attitude behind everything they do. I was thrilled to receive the new…

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It takes a big man to admit when he is wrong. And ladies, Cooper Beckett is massive. 😉 Alright, flagrantly single entendre aside, what was I wrong about without talking about my huge, throbbing…mistake? Well, it wasn’t really a mistake, so much as a lack of the appropriate facts. There was information that I wasn’t privy to. I was going to make some shockingly narcisitic statements here, invoking great minds in history who simply weren’t privy to the information that would’ve elevated them from luminaries to simply bitchin’ guys, but it’s late and I can’t think of any, and at…

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I suffer from what Dan Savage refers to as “The Death Grip,” an (admittedly) self inflicted condition. While it may SOUND like a ninja-related issue, it’s much more mundane. I have a very specific masturbation method, and it has ruined me for other methods (even by other helpful participants) to the point where I occasionally will say: “just let me do it.” So, I find my choices to be: continue my self loving in my familiar (and oh so comforting fashion), choose Savage’s advice which is to just deprive myself forever of that specific stimulation whilst choosing one of the…

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Ending the Sexual Dark Age – Sex Podcast – SwingingEnding the Sexual Dark Age is a fantastic podcast hosted by JV Altharas and his companion Shara. On their 29th episode, Ginger and I sat down with them to chat about swinging, polyamory, and the joys of ethical non-monogamy. We get into the details about how to start swinging, avoiding newbie mistakes, going to swinger parties, cock size, finding playmates, and more in a wonderfully enjoyable discussion.

Head on over there to give it a listen!

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Q: My boyfriend and I are considering an open relationship. We are happy and in love and I am content with him as my only sexual partner, but he misses the freedom of being able to flirt and be a pick-up artist at the bars. I think I could get used to him having sex with other women, but I don’t feel the urge to explore sexually with other men. Could it work to be in a one-sided open relationship?…or is that doomed to lead to trouble?

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