Author: Dylan Thomas

As a co-host on Life on the Swingset and creator of The Gentleperverts' Social Club, Dylan Thomas speaks candidly about nonmonogamy, kink, and non-normative sexuality to eradicate the stigma and shame that keep people from expressing and being who they want. He brings awareness to issues involving gender identity, equal rights, and intersectionality by creating discussions with people who feel unaffected by them. He also creates learning opportunities for men to become stronger allies and better people. Find and feel free to engage him on Twitter.

Dylan, Ginger, Tonia, and Prof get back together to properly toast Life on the Swingset's 400th episode! The crew invites back Lunabelle, Tyler, and Tonya, and welcomes D into the fold to discuss ReEmergence and discovering intimacy... again. The crew discusses what returning to normal might look like during a time ... very much not
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We are fans of our hands. It seems obvious, but our hands are the most versatile sex toys we have. With patience, care, imagination, and stamina they can do nearly anything any other part of our body can do, and almost anything a toy can do, …except vibrate at high speed. Over the years we’ve tried countless finger vibes and we’ve found quite a few to be anywhere from awful to useful to surprisingly good but most of those finger vibes were also pretty basic. Some vibes focus on being discrete, some on intensity, some focus for some reason on…

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It’d been a while since I attended an event at a local swing club; sexy travel, family obligations, local partners and sports ate up my free time. With 2019 being new, I decided to to get back in the club scene. I’d wanted to attend a Young Couples Party event for a couple years so
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Desire 2019 Spotify Collaborative Playlists (I will continuously curate these and lock them down before Desire happens) Privacy Warning: If you contribute, your Spotify tag will display next to your addition. If you want to submit anonymously, drop me a line @DylanTheThomas on Twitter or @DylanTheThomas@Swingset.Social on Mastodon and let me know! Desire 2019 – Gen X’s 90’s Jams Desire 2019 – Fuckin’ Beats (Smoooth) Desire 2019 – 80’s Chic Desire 2019 – Popular Jams! Desire 2019 – You’re so 2000 and late 🙂 Desire 2019 – With an Edge Desire 2019 – Party at the Poolside Desire 2019 -…

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I hosted a debate party last night. Some of the attendees of the debate party (and people who couldn’t attend) lamented the fact that I wouldn’t be live tweeting the debate so… I, being a service top, decided to give the people what they wanted. Below is a Storify I put together of last night / some of the back and forth discussion that went with the live tweeting. Enjoy… ? [View the story “Dylan Live Tweets the Debates (9/26/2016)” on Storify]

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I’ve been podcasting with Cooper and Ginger on Life on the Swingset for six full years. With Shira, Miko it’s been a little less. I’ve edited the audio for the podcast for more than five years, and we’ve gone from releasing whenever we wanted to every two weeks to every week, and while doing that I’ve learned to both clean up and bring out the shine in audio and optimize my processes. I went from taking six hours to edit an hour of audio, to taking two hours, to taking four hours, to taking two and a half hours, back…

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I am very lucky. I’m surrounded by amazing, fierce, articulate people who aren’t afraid to misbehave in the quest to fight for their own rights to exist as they are and as they choose. A majority of those people are women. It makes sense to me that the people most passionate about issues of equality, liberation, self-determination and more are the people still fighting to obtain those things. The Internet is one big megaphone and people who spend their entire lives under the lens of their opinions not mattering all of a sudden find their opinions make a difference. Women…

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Hey all, Dylan Thomas here from the future (January 2022): I have both a lot to say, and a lot i’d like to leave unsaid, so i’ll keep it very simple and say that this post of mine will stay up as a record of personal failures… and as evidence of real personal effort and growth. I reached out to Billy Procida. We spoke at length and I offered, without condition, an opportunity for him to write something for an update to this post. From Billy Procida, January 2022: Six years later, I see these screenshots and think, “What the…

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