This motherfucker right here…
One measure of a person is how they respond to feedback, how they respond to criticism, and how, if they realize they could have done something better, they learn from it so they can -do- better next time. If you say a lot of shit and attempt to say “It's cool, i'm just an asshole” or “Hey I'm just a comedian and i'm making jokes” it doesn't exempt you from critics or criticism, and it doesn't mean you have a built-in get out of free jail card for when you're an asshole.
This dude's been arguing with several people after saying some problematic at best shit, then he's been attempting to take conversations private to have a more “personal” discussion. Then… THEN when someone speaks up in public, engages him on his turf, he can't fucking handle it.
Billy Procida, go be an asshole, be a comedian, but don't expect people in the world to respect you as a member of the sex positive community. You do what you need to do for attention, for your podcast, for your business, whatever it is, but don't start whining like a child when you aren't let into our spaces.
Facebook conversation reconstruction below:
NOTE: We learned that comments were being deleted to alter the conversation, luckily a few friends took screen captures. This is the best reconstruction of the full thread.
Futher social media conversation regarding reactions to Billy's Harassment:
Just wanted to say in public in case it's unclear, I don't support harassment like this in any way, shape or form. https://t.co/HYhCDv50Ku
— Rachel Kramer Bussel (@raquelita) August 18, 2015
Yes, Rachel nailed it. When someone says “do not contact me any further,” you stop. https://t.co/2hRlIDvUMQ
— Kate Kenfield ☕️ (@katekenfield) August 18, 2015
When a woman tells you that any further contact will be harassment and you send her this message, you are #NotAnAlly. pic.twitter.com/smSmNg8UbN
— ella dawson (@brosandprose) August 12, 2015
These are all the texts Billy Procida sent me and my response before I blocked him. pic.twitter.com/ZWFwtHNmbL
— ella dawson (@brosandprose) August 18, 2015
Hey @thebillyprocida, You wanted people to teach you things, let's start by teaching you abt a real word. #mansplainhttp://t.co/zoOwxxVl7q
— The Frisky Fairy 👄 (@TheFriskyFairy) August 14, 2015
Now Billy is using the open contact form on my website to claim that I am harassing him. pic.twitter.com/QHBI2gdYKU
— ella dawson (@brosandprose) August 18, 2015
Taking screen shots of / retweeting / quoting someone's heinous tweet is not harassment. Don't believe the hype. #TurnOffTheGaslight
— Mrs. Dirty (@DirtyLola) August 18, 2015
However, to go so far as to use the comments section of someone's blog to get in touch with them because you're blocked everywhere……..
— Mrs. Dirty (@DirtyLola) August 18, 2015
I hope everyone is paying attention to this. You're watching #harassment in realtime. https://t.co/rabLvDmIqU
— Ashley Manta (@ashleymanta) August 18, 2015
I hope everyone is paying attention to this. You're watching #harassment in realtime. https://t.co/rabLvDmIqU
— Ashley Manta (@ashleymanta) August 18, 2015
Ashley Manta's Tumblr post on Billy Procida:
I think @Bex106 said it best… psa: calling out public displays of gross misogyny is a community service, NOT HARASSMENT
(however, continuing to privately contact someone who has asked repeatedly to be left alone is the literal definition of harassment)
— Mac Guffin (@Bex106) August 18, 2015
— Mac Guffin (@Bex106) August 18, 2015
Irony: When a man explains to you that mansplaining is not a word. #untilhewasnt
— Dee Dennis (@DeeDennis) August 19, 2015
@TheBillyProcida sent me a DM, then blocked me. Your sense of entitlement is disgusting. Examine your privilege. #untilhewasnt #notanally
— Lauren Van Camp (@TheLaurenVC) August 19, 2015
Sex-positive community folks: Check out #UntilHeWasnt. Billy Procida has been engaging in repeated private harassment. Do not engage.
— Alex Sebastian Morgan (@Alex_S_Morgan) August 19, 2015
Dirty Lola's experience with Billy Procida:
Photoset: I need to preface this by saying I do not feel threatened by Billy Procida. Creeped out and… http://t.co/g4bzIkik9r
— Mrs. Dirty (@DirtyLola) August 19, 2015
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Thank you for this, Dylan. Billy doesn’t realize we have no problem with him being a comedian or a cis man—we have a problem with him being a jerk.
And it looks like Billy deleted my comment where I informed him that I would consider any further contact from him to be harassment. Luckily for him I screenshotted it… as well as the messages HE CONTINUED TO SEND ME. You can see them here: https://twitter.com/brosandprose/status/631559947793272832
(nod) Yep… yep. (sigh) Sorry you’re still a target of his harassment.
Wow…thank you for standing up! I didn’t see what sparked all this, but based on the FB exchanges I’m not interested in getting to know that dude further.
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