Swinging Advice: Post Orgasm Etiquette


swinging, polyamory, & non-monogamy adviceWe here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask!

Q. We’re off to our first swingers club on Saturday (inspired by your excellent podcast!). We’ve re-listened to your earlier podcasts and have a good idea what to expect, but Steve has a major question. . . .

If we get lucky and end up having sex with another couple (we’re up for full swap), what is the etiquette for a man AFTER you’ve come – ok, I know what to do with a condom, but what about cleaning yourself up? Do you go and wash, if so, where? Or do you use wipes of some kind?

Help me Cooper Becket, you’re my only hope

A. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was “don’t put it away wet,” so I would suggest that, after he’s cum (In what I’m sure was a wonderful full swap experience), he excuse himself to the rest room, as swing clubs will have plenty of them. Dispose of the condom, soap up, rinse off, wipe down and rejoin the party!

As an aside, we always carry Afterglow Toy Tissues, as they’re made to wipe down toys as well as your naughty bits, and sometimes it IS difficult to find an unoccupied rest room at a swing club.

As ANOTHER aside, is it excessively geeky that the Star Wars quote is really doing it for me?


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Cooper's life isn't like other people's. When he's not writing or podcasting at Life on the Swingset or his Hannibal podcast Eat The Rudecast, he's living it up as an evangelical swinger drifting toward poly, spreading the good word that "sharing is caring." He truly believes that a good many people would be open to exploring the fringe of human sexuality and relationships, knocking down the borders between orientations, and experiencing the most basic of human rights: great sex, if only they were told it's okay to do so. He has resolved to change the world, even if it's only one couple at a time. Buy Cooper's book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory Be his friend on Facebook – Follow him on Twitter

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  1. We had a full swap with a couple and I ended up eating sperm. At the time I did not realize it, being super turned on and just thinking she is really excited. But then thinking about it and the salty taste (I know what my own tastes like) I assume they must have had bare sex before hooking up with us. I don’t use condoms with my wife and this made me aware that one needs to be more considerate when you are going to be with others after.

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