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    Swinging Advice: Post Orgasm Etiquette

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    By Cooper S. Beckett on June 29, 2012 Advice

    swinging, polyamory, & non-monogamy adviceWe here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask!

    Q. We're off to our first swingers club on Saturday (inspired by your excellent podcast!). We've re-listened to your earlier podcasts and have a good idea what to expect, but Steve has a major question. . . .

    If we get lucky and end up having sex with another couple (we're up for full swap), what is the etiquette for a man AFTER you've come – ok, I know what to do with a condom, but what about cleaning yourself up? Do you go and wash, if so, where? Or do you use wipes of some kind?

    Help me Cooper Becket, you're my only hope

    A. One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was “don't put it away wet,” so I would suggest that, after he's cum (In what I'm sure was a wonderful full swap experience), he excuse himself to the rest room, as swing clubs will have plenty of them. Dispose of the condom, soap up, rinse off, wipe down and rejoin the party!

    As an aside, we always carry Afterglow Toy Tissues, as they're made to wipe down toys as well as your naughty bits, and sometimes it IS difficult to find an unoccupied rest room at a swing club.

    As ANOTHER aside, is it excessively geeky that the Star Wars quote is really doing it for me?

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    About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.

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    1. Sailorcat on July 15, 2015 5:59 am

      We had a full swap with a couple and I ended up eating sperm. At the time I did not realize it, being super turned on and just thinking she is really excited. But then thinking about it and the salty taste (I know what my own tastes like) I assume they must have had bare sex before hooking up with us. I don’t use condoms with my wife and this made me aware that one needs to be more considerate when you are going to be with others after.

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