The Swingset Takes Over Desire 2017

Less Than 5 Rooms Remain!

96% Booked!

We at Life on the Swingset (The Swinging & Polyamory Podcast) are hosting our sixth annual trip to the greatest place on Earth: Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Mexico. This is our second takeover, allowing us to bend and shape the trip to be most inclusive and spectacularly geeky trip in the resort’s history, bringing together nudists, polyamorous quads, triads, couples looking to explore, long time swingers, polyamorists, exhibitionists, BDSMers, and those just curious, whose sexuality run the gamut from straight, to bi, to queer, and pansexual.

We will be in charge of the evenings’ entertainment, the theme nights, activities, and DJ Dylan will run wild with the resort’s music. We will again host a dungeon night for kinky folk, including St Andrews Crosses and flogging benches, classes on squirting, fisting, pegging, flogging, and more, several gang bangs and orgies, dueling Sybians, and the freedom to truly be our gloriously varied selves in paradise.

This year Tristan Taormino, author of the non-monogamy bible Opening Up, filmmaker, and educator, will be joining us. There are few people out there who better represent our vision of inclusivity, exploration, and glorious sexuality, than Tristan. She will join us in providing classes and discussions, and helping us all push at those boundaries around us and experience a week of wanton abandon and hedonism.

On our trip you’ll be able to explore to your heart’s content, following your whims and desires to play parties both hosted and pop-up, evening themed costume nights, demos of sex swings, floggings, and pegging, live podcast recordings, karaoke, wine socials, cocktails, prizes and giveaways, foam parties, or just relaxing by the pool, beach, or in the hot tub. It’s all there for you to pick and choose.

Desire Resort and Spa is NOT a large resort, and the number of rooms available are limited, so if you’re interested in coming to paradise with Life on the Swingset, you should put down a deposit with our wonderful travel coordinators at Char Travel NOW! Our trip has sold out every year we’ve held it, and is already booking fast! We’re certain this will sell out again for 2017, and it’s hard as hell to turn people away, even though we can say “There’s always next year!”

To those who haven’t been to Desire before, close your eyes and picture the finest all-inclusive resort. See its beach and swimming pools, its fine cuisine, its top shelf booze, its beautifully appointed rooms and buildings…Oh, and did we mention it’s full of open-minded sexy people?! Every level of openness is welcomed here, from those just looking to watch, to those filling their suitcases with leather, whips, and chains.

Desire is a place to let go and be yourself, free from the confines of the boring part of the world, where we can embrace the fact that our lives truly aren’t like other people’s.

Come spend a week in paradise with Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, JV Altharas & Shara from Ending the Sexual Dark Age, and our special guest Tristan Taormino!

For a taste of what a Life on the Swingset trip to Desire is all about, check out the many articles and podcasts below from our past trips. If you have any other questions, please feel free to email Cooper at

Contact Char Travel to put down your deposit today!

Theme Nights

While Desire Resort and Spa has their own regular theme nights, these are the themes for our upcoming trip!

Pride/Rainbow/True Colors
Fractured Fairytales (i.e: Perverted Diznee)

Horny Holidays
Stage & Screen
Alt History/Steampunk
Bods in Space
Heroes & Villains


Here are some of the classes or events you’ll be able to participate in on our trip. (Or not, you do you!)

Speed Dating
Pegging Discussion and Demonstration

Themed Orgies & Gang Bangs
Fisting Demo
Flogging Demo
Live Podcasting
Wine Social
Foam Parties


These rates includes seven nights for two people, 1 room, food and drink included. Deposit is only one night’s stay

Deluxe Garden View room: $3,976
Superior Garden View room: $4,186
Deluxe Ocean View room: $4,438
Garden View jacuzzi room: $4,830
Ocean View Jacuzzi room: $5,334
Passion Suites: $6,958
Desire Suites: $11,840

SS 344: Kira Royale and Mike – A Café Swingset Interview

Kira Royale and Mike joined us in 2018 for our trip to paradise, and when Dylan Thomas put the call out for interviews, they physically jumped at the opportunity. They discuss swinger spaces and what makes a space truly great, connecting with other people, and their experiences in the lifestyle. Join us in Paradise from

SS 338: My Dinner With Swingset in Paradise – A Dinnercast

Join Cooper S. Beckett, Ginger Bentham, and Dylan Thomas, and Ophilia Tesla, The Professor, and Antonia Thomas, as they chat for nearly two hours over dinner at Sahlo, a restaurant at Desire Riviera Maya. We're thrilled to announce that we are ALREADY BOOKING for 2019's Desire trip! Join us from November 2nd through the 9th, 2019 for Life

SS 319: Total Desire Recall with Tristan Taormino, JV Altharas, and Shara Bono

Every November for the last six year, the Life on the Swingset has led a motley crew of wayward hedonists to Desire Resort on the Riviera Maya in Cancun. Tonight the hosts of our 2017 takeover, Cooper S. Beckett, Dylan Thomas, Ginger Bentham, JV Altharas, Shara Bono, and Tristan Taormino, talk about that trip; what

SS 310: Aging and Sexuality with Ken Haslam, Belle Sheperd, Joel Kann, and Duncan – Recorded Live at Desire Resort

Those of us young in the world and in non-monogamy don't spend a lot of time thinking about aging and in how it affects our play partners, our relationships, and our own sexuality as we progress. During Life on the Swingset's takeover of Desire Resort, Dylan Thomas sat down with Belle Shepherd, Joel Kann, Ken

SS 306: Live at Desire, A Restatement of Values – #ssdesire

Ginger Bentham, Cooper S. Beckett, and Dylan Thomas return to Desire Resort & Spa for Swingset's second full resort takeover and for their sixth annual pilgrimage to the sexiest place on earth. While the tequila flows, they take time to examine why pleasure, gratitude, compassion, and love are supremely important, and they take time to defiantly

SS 292: Building Our Sexy Community in the Most Pleasurable Place on Earth

Over the last five years, the Swingset has seen first hand the glorious moments and difficulties of building our own community on our trips to the most pleasurable place on earth at Desire Resort in Cancun. This year represents our second takeover, and our sixth trip, and tonight we're joined by all the hosts of

SS Special: Cooper and Ginger Talk Approaching the Swingularity

Ginger continues the two-year tradition by sitting down with Cooper for a frank and intimate discussion about his new novel Approaching the Swingularity: Tales of Swinging & Polyamory, toxic masculinity, inclusion and diversity, sexuality, and sexy vacations and resorts. You can buy the book now RIGHT HERE at – use promo code SWINGSET at

SS 279: The Allure of Paradise – The Swingset at Desire Resort

Tonight we celebrate two things, first, our 7th anniversary as a podcast, and second our first takeover of Desire Resort last November. It’s no secret that there’s been some…stuff…happening in the world. As that stuff started on our trip, we’ve been a little…loath to revisit. But now, to celebrate our anniversary, we have assembled an

Desire Week 2017! ESDA 080: Dungeon Desire DM Roundtable – Ending the Sexual Dark Age

Hello Swingset Fans and welcome to Desire week on the Swingset! The following podcast was recorded at Desire in November 2016 and features Duncan and Mrs. Duncan, Jeff and Francine, Swinger Doc and Sexy Pixie, Ropemaster and his lovely and of course, JV and Shara. If you want to join us in Desire from November

Desire Week 2017! GPSC 014: Closing the Deal, at the Swingset Desire Takeover – The Gentleperverts’ Social Club

Hello Swingset Fans and welcome to Desire week on the Swingset! The following podcast was recorded at Desire in November 2016 and features Dr. Liz Powell, Chris aka. Mister Pent, and myself, and it is The Gentleperverts Social Club. If you want to join us in Desire from November 4th to the 11th in 2017,

SS 267: Swingset Takes Over Desire

Life on the Swingset hosts its fifth annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancún, right in the heart of the Riviera Maya. Cooper, Dylan, Dr. Liz, Lyndzi, and Mr. Pent sit under the thatched roof and next to the bar of the rooftop hot tub and talk Fridays, resort staff, about the cosmic

IF 011: Swingset Takes Desire Recap – Intellectual Foreplay

Prof and Ginger sip tequila and espresso Martinis while reliving all the sexiness of Desire with the Swingsetters. Flirting, playing, and maybe a cheese plate or two later, Prof and Ginger resolve to come again and again…back to paradise. Interested in traveling to Desire with Ginger and Prof in April 2016? Email Ginger for details

GPSC 009: Spaces, Places, and Behind Enemy Lines, Live at Desire Resort & Spa – The Gentleperverts’ Social Club

Hello and many Greetings to all you perverts, I’m recording live from Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Mexico! Earlier today I sat down with upwards of thirty, and likely many less than two hundred perverts for a discussion about spaces. What makes a space special? What helps make people feel safe? What makes a

ESDA 075: Thirty Naked People and a Microphone – Desire 2015 Discussion Group

This year for Swingset Takes Desire we hosted a bunch of kinky events, and a great time was had by all. This discussion-group style episode was recorded live on our last full day at the resort, full of reminiscence of good times had and great ideas for next year’s full-resort takeover. Listen to this episode

SS 230: The Swingset Takes Desire IV – Where We’re Going… We Don’t Need Clothes

Desire. It’s an emotion, raw and real. It’s a place, warm and inviting, November 7th through the 14th of 2015, we made it our space. We brought 79 (and a half, thanks to the amazing Kendra Holliday) couples to Cancun, to the Riviera Maya, to Mexico, to the Desire Resort & Spa, and we collectively

SS 229.1: #SSDESIRE Rain Delay

  Hi Swingset Fans! We’re in Desire and we don’t have a new episode for you this week but we’re recharging, recording, and we’ll be back next week with another wonderful episode with Crista Anne on The Physics of Sex – Bodies, Positions, Objects in Motion, and Mad Mods. If you want more I suggest

SS 209: Swinging For Beginners IX – Sexy Vacations

Vacations. Aren’t they great? But you know what’s better? SEXY VACATIONS. The kind where you can be naked and flirt all day and have sex all night. Or maybe you decide on an afternoon delight. Of course, on vacation, you have time for all of the above! For those who’ve never been on a sexy

SS 185: Swingin’ Around the Swingset – Recorded Live at Desire Resort & Spa

Heidi and Danny from the Swingin’ Around podcast take Cooper aside for a little chat in the heart of paradise and discuss their experiences during their second visit to the resort. They talk massages, non-consensual choking, hot tubs, Cooper getting married, getting naked and all in all have a great time! Join us in Mexico

SS 184: Ending the Sexual Dark Age with the Swingset at Desire Resort & Spa

We took time out of our very hard and busy work schedules in Desire to record a discussion with JV and Shara of Ending the Sexual Dark Age as well as a couple dozen other sexy naked people, We discuss what Desire means to us, what having places where we can be our authentic selves

SS 183: A Swinging Vacation – Live from Desire Resort & Spa – Life on the Swingset

Ginger, Professor, Miko, Ronin, Ophilia, and Cooper are out of the office this week. They’ve jet off to paradise in Mexico at Desire Resort and Spa for a swinging vacation, the third annual Life on the Swingset Takes Desire. With 160 people along for the ride, they’ve spent a week of hedonism, debauchery, and drunkenness

SS 141: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise – Part 2 – Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun

This is Part 2 of my accidental roundtable discussion put together in the seaside room of one of our guests at Desire – Riviera Maya. We continue the discussion about bi-women, mansplaining, and puppeteering, and move into non-monogamy identifiers and why they were useful, but taking some time to talk with other people in a

SS 140: Dylan Hosts a Roundtable Discussion in Paradise – Part 1 – Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun

Dylan had an idea. He thought it’d be a great idea to sit down, two on one with couples while at Desire and interview them, ask questions about how their vacation was going, get some decent soundbites, and enjoy the calm warmth of good discussion and good company. This was anything but calm. What began

SS 139: Swinging In Paradise – Live from Desire Resort & Spa Cancun

Midway through Life on the Swingset’s second annual trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun, Dylan, Ginger, & Cooper sat down with many of the tour guests to record a silly podcast reflecting on the trip so far, and what lifestyle vacations can be. There’s a drinking game, there’s guests talking about what Desire means to them, there’s Dylan and Cooper squaring off the way they always seem to do in person, and there’s Ginger continuing to be the heart and soul of the Swingset. With tequila.

SS 99: The Swingset Takes Desire Debrief – Sexy Times In Mexico

After a slight delay, the Swingset crew talk Life on the Swingset’s first trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun and squick Shira B. Katz right the hell out. We lament the shortness of our jaunt to paradise, and talk about what we hope to do next time. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use

SS 95: The Swingset Takes Desire – Live With Tequila Body Shots

Cooper, Ginger, and Dylan brought Marilyn, The Professor, Tonia, and 35 couples with them to Desire in Cancun, Mexico! 18 months of foreplay result in good feelings, a little crying, lots of sexy time, and a terribly unstructured but incredibly fun to record podcasting session where we discuss introductions, making moves, saying no, and just

Marilyn & The Professor Talk Energy Play

After an intense experience in the hot tub at Desire Resort & Spa with Life on the Swingset, Marilyn and The Professor sit down to talk about the role of energy play and Reiki, a trip to A Touch of Magic Massage by Claudia, and what a skeptic Cooper is in this special recorded in

SS 53: Naked In Paradise II – The Swingset Takes Desire Resort & Spa

We continue our chat with Jim & Char of CharTravel about lifestyle vacations, focusing more on Desire as a whole as Shira asks a number of nitty gritty questions about passports, cost, and the nudity policy. Cooper rants about the foolishness of booking flights with Travelocity. Ginger gets lost in her own little world of Desire fantasies. We discuss food, alcohol, excursions and other things to do at Desire Resort & Spa.

SS 52: Naked In Paradise I – Sexy Vacations and Desire Resort & Spa

Have your vacations lately seemed a bit too dull or full of minors? Well tonight we’re talking about vacationing the sexy way and taking a lifestyle trip. We discuss the ins and outs of going on a lifestyle or nude vacation at any level of the sexually open lifestyle, about etiquitte, and how to protect yourself and your relationship. We also thoroughly discuss Desire Resort & Spa and our upcoming trip to this fabulous spot in Cancun, Mexico in November 2012.

SS 32: Cooper & Marilyn’s Excellent Adventure – Swinging at Desire Resort & Spa

Cooper and Marilyn just got back from Desire, but in between the nonstop playtime and suntanning and hottubbing and drinking and dining, they found time to record a full trip diary detailing their time spent at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun. (Well, they found time to record two out of the three trip reports, the third was recorded, sadly, in cold Chicago.) So here it is, in its entirety, Cooper and Marilyn’s Excellent Adventure!

SS 31: Sex on the Swingset is Fun – Live From Desire, The Sexiest Place on Earth with Kidder Kaper & Lorax

In Ep 31, the greatest crossover since The Flintstones met The Jetsons happens as Cooper and Marilyn podcast with Kidder Kaper and Lorax from Sex Is Fun live from an outside bed at Desire in sunny Cancun. They discuss what it’s like to be in a world populated by sex positive people, what may be the first publicly accepted bi male blowjob at the resort, the sometimes high tension and heightened drama that can result from such, the sexy times that have been had, first full swaps, newbies, and more!