Browsing: ethical non-monogamy

I am fascinated by stories about polygamy, both fiction and non-fiction. I’ve watched every episode of the HBO television series “Big Love.” I’ve read the Brady Udall novel “The Lonely Polygamist.” I’ve read Irene Spencer’s harrowing account of her life as a polygamist’s wife in the 50’s, 60’s, and 70’s, “Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist’s Wife.” I have several other fiction and non-fiction pieces to read or watch in my queue that I haven’t gotten to yet.

The Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we’ve talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.

We continue our “Swinging For Dummies” discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a “deal-breaker” for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it’s important to remember that you’re going to be okay TOGETHER.

I tend to fall in love fast. Not necessarily hard, but definitely fast. I knew this about myself, but had honestly forgotten until Anne and I got into the lifestyle. After all, we had been happily dating/married for nine or so years before getting into the lifestyle, I was not actively seeking another life partner. I still wouldn’t say I am. Anne initially said she was interested in exploring polyamory if she found someone she had feelings for. I have stated before that polyamory freaks me out and, honestly, it still does.

Hello, my name is Star. I have a husband. My husband has a girlfriend. His girlfriend has another boyfriend, who has a wife, and his wife happens to also be her girlfriend. Yep. Need a diagram yet? Well, it’s a good thing that I happen to have one prepared.

When I first started engaging in non-monogamy, I was living in a big American city with a large, liberal social network. It wasn’t that hard to find like-minded people. We moved from the US to Europe over a year ago and we’ve been celibate ever since.

Ending the Sexual Dark Age – Sex Podcast – SwingingEnding the Sexual Dark Age is a fantastic podcast hosted by JV Altharas and his companion Shara. On their 29th episode, Ginger and I sat down with them to chat about swinging, polyamory, and the joys of ethical non-monogamy. We get into the details about how to start swinging, avoiding newbie mistakes, going to swinger parties, cock size, finding playmates, and more in a wonderfully enjoyable discussion.

Head on over there to give it a listen!