Author: The Salmon

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The Salmon is exploring swinging and poly as a married single. Married for over 20 years, he and his love explore non-monogamy together and in different ways.

I love Halloween, I love the somewhat naughty other worldly feel the holiday gives us, the license to do or be things that we cannot do in our day to day vanilla lives. In that sense swingers get Halloween all though the year with theme events at the clubs, parties, etc. But swinging and Halloween promised to be a truly remarkable experience, one I didn’t want to miss. Halloween is by far the busiest and most interesting night at the club all year long. I have had this date marked off on the calendar since I started down this path almost…

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On one of the Life on the Swingset podcasts, Cooper mentions non-monogamy as a paradigm shift; a different perspective as to how you view yourself, and the rest of the world; a non-binary neither 0 nor 1 answer that unlocks a whole new mindset. I interpret that to mean many people have been grafted to (some might use the word sold) the idea that we have one person out there that we should dedicate ourselves to, forsaking all others except when lying, cheating, paying prostitutes, or other unethical actions to stay “morally pure” (I really need ironical font for the…

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First time or last time You always remember your first: first car, first love, first sex and first time to the club. My love and I signed up to a club about 45 minutes away, close enough to get to easily but far enough not to meet the neighbors (we hope!). Together, we dutifully attended the initiation with the safety tour (gotta watch those fire exits) and the club rules (to avoid social faux pas.) Funny thing, she was totally relaxed. Nobody was going to try and fuck her without her consent, and it seemed safer than even a regular…

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What the hell am I doing??? Not the first time I have asked myself the question, and looking ahead almost certainly not the last. I paused for a moment, staring at the swing club door alone, kind of knowing that this was going be a biggie. One of those life changing/no longer in my comfort zone/sink or swim/grow or get out of the way moments; one of those things that changes how I think of myself. I adore my wife, happily married for over 20 years, monogamous for over 25. No affairs, no lovers, just the wonder of each other…

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