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Multiamory’s mission is to provide awareness and education about the ethical practice of non-monogamy through entertaining and accessible content. Multiamory.com is an information resource, blog, and podcast created by Emily Matlack, Jase Lindgren, and Dedeker Winston. Our insights come from lots of research and years of personal experience with polyamory, but the information found here is useful for people in any type of relationship. Whether you are poly, considering diving into it, or just looking to have better monogamous relationships, our tips and ideas will help you to have the healthiest, happiest dating life possible.

We had a good ranting session during recording the previous episode in regard to gender specific experiences when it comes to having arguments and yelling. We chat about how raising voices and expressing ones self differs by gender and how it is percieved can be gender specific as well. We compare how yelling is percieved when a man yells vs when a woman yells. We also share some of our personal experiences. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content…

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Commitment is so often misunderstood when it comes to non-monogamy. We discuss definitions of commitment and identifying the traditional markers of commitment we’ve all grown up with. We realize that it can be difficult defining what it means exactly within the confines of non-monogamy as it doesn’t necessarily fit the stereotypical mold (but that is nothing new!). Infidelity seems to be the final end all be all when it comes to breaking common commitment rules in monogamous relationships so what are those rules in non-monogamy? In this episode, we get to the bottom of what commitment means in non-monogamy and…

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So what exactly is emotional support. How do you ask for it? How do you go about learning what kind of emotional support that you need. What kind does your partner need? Even not knowing what kind of support you need in the moment and admitting it can go a long way! On this episode, we explore what emotional support is, what it is not and learning what you need emotionally from a partner. We even cover co-dependence or emotional negligence in a relationship. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our…

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Jealousy happens in all types of relationships, but what is the science behind why we respond with jealousy to certain situations. What happens inside our bodies and minds in response things that make us feel jealousy. On this episode, we explore the scientific why behind jealousy and some ways to combat that internal struggle. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards and exclusive content and discussions. You can order Dedeker’s book, The…

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Are you suffering from a Monogamy Hangover? We’ll give you a dose of medicine to help cure what ails you. Many of us have been given a set of relationship expectations growing up and with changing those expectations, some pieces of those old beliefs and expectations are still left over. On this episode, we talk about some of the topics that can affect non-monogamous relationships when you or your partner(s) subscribe to beliefs from normative past. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue…

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What does Sex Positivity and Sex Negativity actually mean? There is a lot of confusion surrounding these terms. People have a tendancy to throw these terms around with little to no explanation which just seems to add to the confusion. On this episode, we attempt to help define these two terms as best as we can while identifying the potential problems with each definition. We also discuss some of the evolution and background and history of Sex Negativity and Sex Positivity in the process. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our…

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Conflict is inevitable, but conflict can be productive. Everyone gets into fights and arguments but that doesn’t mean your relationship is unhealthy or in trouble. On this episode, we talk about fighting fair instead of fighting dirty. Some of us fight with the misconception that we MUST win the fight to succeed. Sometimes we fight for no good reason at all. We take off the boxing gloves and talk about fighting best practices so you can make the most out of your arguments instead of keeping score or going for a TKO. If you want to support our show, the…

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Are you currently living together? Thinking about moving in? Why do you want to move in together? On this episode, we tackle some of the situations & questions that arise when cohabitation is on the table as well as statistics about living together for couples. We cover questions to ask yourself, actionable items to make your living situation great and cover special considerations for living harmoniously non-monogamously. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also…

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Failure is always an option, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. We hear about failure quite a bit when it comes to schooling and even jobs/career but failure doesn’t always get talked about in regard to relationships. It seems to be a dirty word when it comes to relationships because folks can feel ashamed or don’t want to drudge up the past. Failure can be scary but avoiding it altogether shouldn’t be the ultimate goal. It can sometimes prevent someone from taking action or pursuing a relationship because of the fear of failure. On today’s…

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Listen all ya’ll, it’s a sabotage! Okay this episode isn’t really about the famous Beastie Boy song, it’s about something much more serious. Self-Sabotage can be a vicious cycle. On this episode, we tackle self-Sabotage in relationships and in life. Procrastination, addiction, self-worth issues and so much more. We also provide some insight on how to recognize when it’s happening and stop the cycle. If you want to support our show, the best way is to become one of our patrons at www.patreon.com/multiamory. In addition to helping us continue to create new content and new projects, you also get extra rewards…

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