Author: Harukifan

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Harukifan is the pen name of a happily married, ethically non-monogamous man. He writes about sex, relationships, swinging and polyamory at http://swinglifestyleblog.wordpress.com/

What do you do when one spouse needs the swinger lifestyle more than the other? My wife and I have recently been talking about this. I am very enthusiastic about polyamory and the swinger lifestyle. (Obviously, as evidenced by this blog.) I love group sex. I love getting to experience these other women. I want to do even more with the swinger lifestyle. I would love to have a polyamorous “girlfriend,” in addition to our swinger relationships. I feel like the swinger lifestyle has changed my life for the better. My wife is happy for me, and she agrees that…

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It’s been really interesting for me to see the types of search terms that people are using to find our website, and one of the most popular ones recently was “why swing lifestyle.” So I want to write about some of the reasons why my wife and I decided to explore the swinger lifestyle. Why did we decide to become swingers? It was not a decision we took lightly. We did a lot of research (we are geeky that way) and talked about it a lot, and as I think back on what we’ve learned from our time in the…

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I was thinking the other day, “What do I get out of the swinger lifestyle? Why do I love having sexual relationships with other women, outside of marriage?” Part of the answer is simple: variety. It’s really fun to get to experience different women. I love to kiss different women, taste them, smell their hair, appreciate the chemistry we have together. Every woman has her own unique style and rhythm of how she moves, how she kisses, how she touches, how she responds. Some women are more aggressive, some are more reticent, some women need to be coaxed out of…

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When you’re first time swingers, you are going to experience a lot of emotions, running the gamut from excited to scared to anxious. We recently met a new swinger couple named Katie and Kevin (not their real names) who are relatively new to the swinger lifestyle. We haven’t gotten to have sex with them yet, but we’re making plans for our next meeting. I was talking with Katie, and she mentioned that she and her husband feel rather nervous since they don’t have as much experience as we do. They both tend to be rather shy. Katie said, “It’s really…

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