We had an oops this last Wednesday nite. We were supposed to meet a new…
Author Cooper S. Beckett
It’s some high and mighty spin with a buried lead. The jist of the article is that sex has become somewhat trivialized and non-romantic. People are having sex with more partners at the same time (which, according to the article is called “‘concurrency,’ in sexual behavior lingo” [And Isincerely doubt that a term like concurrency has EVER been able to be termed “lingo”]) and they’re doing it in so called “friends with benefits” relationships and “nonromantic sexual encounters.” So, what’s this doing? SPREADING DISEASE! LIKE HERPES! Run for the hills, swingers, our friends with benefits and other nonromantic sexual encounters, and dear god, our CONCURRENCY is going to kill us all!
When last we sat down for storytime, I talked about Marilyn and my first date with the swingers, and what an unusual experience it was for us, and about all the build up. Leaving the restaurant that night, we were like little kids again, giggling the whole way home, a “what are we doing?” sense in the air. And we’d actually not done anything other than talk to really for real swingers, but that was enough to remind us about how fun life could be again. We’d been married for a good long time, and had been together for just about 10 years at that point, and as often happens, we just sorta forgot what fun was. We forgot to enjoy sex. We forgot to be like young lovers. It wasn’t that either of us didn’t want these things, we just forgot.
Marilyn and I spoke briefly with Wendy Strgar of “Ask The Loveologist” on Care2.com about our swinging lifestyle and our desires for this site. We want it to be a beacon in the darkness to those who feel that their lifestyle desires are dirty and wrong. Thanks Wendy for mentioning us in your article (page two) and we agree with most everything you said in the article.
Today Marilyn and I decided to take a big step in our lifestyle. We have just booked a trip to Desire for next February. Why is this a big step? Well, to date our swinging interactions have mainly been with people we’ve met a few times and then played with, or people we know through others and are therefore sort of “vouched for.” (which is really a post all in itself…) Though we fully intend to give on/off site parties and clubs a chance, we just haven’t gotten around to it, which is really because we’ve never been that comfortable meeting people. So to now book a trip to a clothing optional and VERY swinger friendly resort….well, it’s a bold move for us, and one I’m proud of.
We’re lucky enough to have a local bar that, every Wednesday, is happy to host a small group of swingers. This bar is fully aware of who we are, and judging by the amount of traffic that the OTHER half of the bar gets on Wednesday nights, they were absolutely thrilled to have us there. I’m told we have even been offered porn on the small & curtained off VIP area.
I really did expect to ditch it sooner. Mainly because I have little sense of follow through, but also because I didn’t expect it to be nearly as good as it was.
Just over half way through my 30 day experiment to end masturbation death grip syndrome…