Author Cooper S. Beckett

About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.

Cooper's Blog My Dear Sir - An Open Letter Regarding My Condom Check
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It’s some high and mighty spin with a buried lead. The jist of the article is that sex has become somewhat trivialized and non-romantic. People are having sex with more partners at the same time (which, according to the article is called “‘concurrency,’ in sexual behavior lingo” [And Isincerely doubt that a term like concurrency has EVER been able to be termed “lingo”]) and they’re doing it in so called “friends with benefits” relationships and “nonromantic sexual encounters.” So, what’s this doing? SPREADING DISEASE! LIKE HERPES! Run for the hills, swingers, our friends with benefits and other nonromantic sexual encounters, and dear god, our CONCURRENCY is going to kill us all!

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When last we sat down for storytime, I talked about Marilyn and my first date with the swingers, and what an unusual experience it was for us, and about all the build up. Leaving the restaurant that night, we were like little kids again, giggling the whole way home, a “what are we doing?” sense in the air. And we’d actually not done anything other than talk to really for real swingers, but that was enough to remind us about how fun life could be again. We’d been married for a good long time, and had been together for just about 10 years at that point, and as often happens, we just sorta forgot what fun was. We forgot to enjoy sex. We forgot to be like young lovers. It wasn’t that either of us didn’t want these things, we just forgot.

Cooper's Blog Articles
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Marilyn and I spoke briefly with Wendy Strgar of “Ask The Loveologist” on Care2.com about our swinging lifestyle and our desires for this site. We want it to be a beacon in the darkness to those who feel that their lifestyle desires are dirty and wrong. Thanks Wendy for mentioning us in your article (page two) and we agree with most everything you said in the article.

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Today Marilyn and I decided to take a big step in our lifestyle. We have just booked a trip to Desire for next February. Why is this a big step? Well, to date our swinging interactions have mainly been with people we’ve met a few times and then played with, or people we know through others and are therefore sort of “vouched for.” (which is really a post all in itself…) Though we fully intend to give on/off site parties and clubs a chance, we just haven’t gotten around to it, which is really because we’ve never been that comfortable meeting people. So to now book a trip to a clothing optional and VERY swinger friendly resort….well, it’s a bold move for us, and one I’m proud of.

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We’re lucky enough to have a local bar that, every Wednesday, is happy to host a small group of swingers. This bar is fully aware of who we are, and judging by the amount of traffic that the OTHER half of the bar gets on Wednesday nights, they were absolutely thrilled to have us there. I’m told we have even been offered porn on the small & curtained off VIP area.

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