Close Menu
    Facebook X (Twitter) Instagram
    • Home
    • About
    • Contact
    • Terms of Use
    • Help Wanted
    • Advertising
    • Patreon
    • Merch
    RSS Instagram Facebook X (Twitter) YouTube
    Life on the Swingset
    • Podcasts
      1. Life on the Swingset: The Podcast
        • Episodes
        • Subscribe on iTunes
        • Subscribe on Google Play
        • Feed
        • Stitcher.com
      2. Intellectual Foreplay
        • Episodes
        • Subscribe on iTunes
        • Subscribe on Google Play
        • Feed
      3. Multiamory
        • Episodes
        • Feed
        • Subscribe on iTunes
        • Subscribe on Stitcher
      4. By the Bi
        • Episodes
        • Subscribe on iTunes
        • Stitcher.com
      5. On The Wet Coast
        • Episodes
      6. Sex Ed a Go Go
        • Episodes
        • Subscribe on iTunes
        • Feed
      Featured
      November 26, 20240

      #405 – Squicks or Turn-Ons?

      Recent
      November 26, 2024

      #405 – Squicks or Turn-Ons?

      November 17, 2024

      #403 – User Manual, or Dungeon Crawl? What’s Your Preference?

      November 1, 2024

      #402 – More Than Two, Second Edition – With Andrea Zanin and Eve Rickert

    • Blogs
      1. Cooper’s Blog
      2. Ginger & The Professor
      3. Technogeisha’s Blog
      4. On The Wetcoast
      5. Ms. Scarlet Blogs
      6. Swimming Against The Stream
      Featured
      February 28, 20211

      SS 389: Nerdy Banter with Simone and Malcolm – The Pragmatist’s Guide to Sexuality

      Recent
      February 28, 2021

      SS 389: Nerdy Banter with Simone and Malcolm – The Pragmatist’s Guide to Sexuality

      January 31, 2021

      SS 388: The Power of Witness in Relationship Therapy with Catherine

      November 23, 2020

      SS 387: Euretic Consent with Shawn Coleman and Kevin Patterson

    • Articles
      • Advice
    • Desire ’21
    • Reviews
      1. Product Reviews
      2. Book Reviews
      3. Media Reviews
      4. Site Reviews
      Featured
      8.7
      May 20, 20170

      Review: G-Spot Lollipops – Travel Edition

      Recent
      October 15, 2019

      Review: DiGiT, by Hot Octopuss

      December 19, 2018

      Review: Inside Out, by Womanizer

      10.0
      October 13, 2018

      Review: Blush Novelties Avant D2 and Avant D4

    • Support
      • Patreon
      • Merchandise
      • Tip Jar
    • Store
      • Swingset Stickers
      • Shirts
      • Cooper’s Books
    Life on the Swingset
    Chastity and Orgasm Control; Or, Nothing to Fear, but Fear Itself

    Poly D/s – BDSM In Open Relationships

    0
    By CJ Doe on November 15, 2011 MourningBeautiful

    Poly D/s - BDSM In Open RelationshipsA comment came to me on the last blog that I posted in regards to general BDSM. Jack Junior wanted to know if there was room for an Open relationship in the BDSM community. I informed Jack, that yes, yes there is Virgina, in fact, a Santa Clause. I am happy to report that even in the vastly limited experience I have, there have been multiple highly successful open D/s relationships that I have had the honor of being witness to, and in a case or two, participated in.

    Let's start with this; I am going to use a very typical idea of a relationship-male and female.

    Disclaimer!!! I am going to stereotype you to death in most of my writing. I do this because this type of generalization makes it easy to work with mentally. Yes, I realize that people of all sexual orientations read this blog. I welcome you, I back your choice, and am sympathetic to your plight, but for the few that stumble along who are just working their way into this, I am going to be as simple as I can. Thanks for understanding.

    Okay. Now, lets start with Dick and Jane. Dick meets Jane, they fall in love and they get married. (How sweet…) They have their 2.5 kids, and everything that all good suburban couples have. One thing is different, Dick and Jane are actually practitioners of BDSM. Dick is the Master (or Dominant, Daddy, um…whatever other term you may wish to use here…those are the most accepted, though daddy doms have a whole different brand of dominance. Anyway…) Jane is the submissive (do not apply the word slave here, we will cover the difference next time around).

    Dick and Jane have some friends named Sue and Bob. Sue and Bob are in an open relationship; That is they have multiple sexual partners. Both Jane and Sue are bi-sexual, and have frequently spoken about the two lifestyles and about their attraction to each other. Both men are also interested in swapping partners, to whatever extent can be negotiated.

    Dick is obviously interested in seeing his wife top Sue, Bob is not interested in BDSM at all, and is concerned that he will not know how to function, but is satisfied with simply watching the interaction take place.

    Sue is interested in the sexual interaction, and feels safe with both Dick and Jane in a bondage setting. In this they have decided that Sue will be bound, and instead of Dick having any interaction with Sue from a sadistic standpoint (no flogging, no spanking, nothing that would be sadistic in nature) he will instead direct Jane, who is moderately sadistic, and will also be happy with the praise and dominance she gets from Dick in this interaction.

    Thus far, everyone is happy, and all parties are satisfied with the arrangements.

    This will continue for sometime, but eventually, Sue and Bob go their separate ways, and Sue will become part of the home that Dick and Jane share. In this instance, with Sue being the second woman, (again, this is the most common that I have seen, there are many other ways for this to work, so, remember, when in doubt, stereotype!) Jane will be the alpha submissive; she is dominant to Sue in any situation that would involve BDSM, or if the two decide to play in that manner with out Dick.

    The beauty of this is that all three partners still have the ability to have other partners. Sue and Bob meet up regularly, Dick submits to Sue when he feels like it, Sue sees someone else all together here and there. The possibilities for this dynamic working for these four people are endless. Simply infinite. The important thing is that you have four people who love and trust each other, and who are open to those possibilities. The element of trust comes from open communication of which roles are assigned, which roles are open to movement, as well as emotional aspects that have all been discussed, agreed upon and are all defined so that no toes get stepped on in the process.

    It is possible that all of these people have this life, and never sleep together, they could be room mates, they could be friends and nothing more, but still they could develop sexually to a place where they find only mental release with each other and little or no physical interaction between any of them occur. It is the love and trust that make a BDSM relationship a wonder to behold. The same can be said of open relationships, or Poly households. These things are truly a marvel to behold, because you find it so rarely, and you see this small group of people who love and care for each other so deeply. Neither is wrong, they can both be worked into each other perfectly, and fit like a glove.

    Tweet
    Share
    Reddit
    Buffer
    Pin
    Email
    0 Shares
    Share. Facebook Twitter Pinterest LinkedIn Tumblr Email
    Previous ArticleReview: The Swinger Manual by Just Ask Julie
    Next Article Review: Wedge and Ramp by Liberator
    CJ Doe

    Southern grown, Eastern Seaboard born, I am a crafter of words, painter of minds, and seductive succubus. Hell bound, sarcasm bent, cool, confident and super ninja awesome.

    Related Posts

    SS 398: Swingset as a Place… with Princess Vi

    SS 397: …and at least one amorous bird on this resort. – Swingset Takes Desire 2022, Part 2

    SS 395: The Trouble with Tribbing, a Sexy Story Share

    Leave A Reply Cancel Reply

    The Latest Life on the Swingset
    Become a Patron!
    Kasidie.com... Plays Well With Others.

    Copyright &copy 2010-2019 – Life on the Swingset – All Rights Reserved

    Copyright &copy 2010-2019 - Life on the Swingset - All Rights Reserved

    Type above and press Enter to search. Press Esc to cancel.