My husband Jack and I have been discussing swinging for years now, but for one reason or another, nothing has ever come of it besides talk. It's probably fair to say that the lack of action was mostly because of me–I wanted to lose some weight before I could feel comfortable being naked with anyone but Jack, birth control pills were screwing with my libido, and so on.
Then, a few weeks ago, something happened with some friends of ours, and the possibility of swinging with them was raised. We discussed it, and wound up having sex, each with our own partners, but all in the same room, with a bit of limited touching inter-couple touching.
Later, debriefing with each other, Jack and I came to the same conclusion: we were interested in pursuing this kind of thing, but not with this couple. Discussion about our respective relationships had given my husband and I some concern that these friends of ours were not in a place in their relationship where swinging would be a good choice for them. In addition, their friendship means a lot to us, and we don't want to do anything that might jeopardize our relationship with them.
So Jack, as he does when he gets excited about something, went on an information-gathering bender. Websites, podcasts, everything he could get his hands on. I thought it was silly. “It's not exactly a difficult concept,” I said. “What is it that you think you're going to learn from all this?” I was also a bit irritated, because suddenly it felt like he was moving very fast with all of this, and I was still content to let that experience with our friends mentally simmer for a while.
I got him to leave the subject alone (more or less) for about a week. During that time, he was still busily listening to podcasts and such, but he was giving me some space to process. He was also, of course, getting more and more antsy for further discussion. So we talked. And I agreed to listen to some podcasts, since he felt it was important. I began poking around Life on the Swingset, and listening to the podcasts so kindly provided by Cooper and friends. It's been interesting and educational.
So here we are. We're not swingers yet, but we're finally taking our first steps down that path. And we want to invite you to come along with us on this journey we're beginning.