The Great Fleshlight Experiment IV: The Final Chapter


Thirty days.

I really did expect to ditch it sooner. Mainly because I have little sense of follow through, but also because I didn't expect it to be nearly as good as it was.

On February 16th, I vowed to not have solo masturbation time with anything other than my brand new Fleshlight to see what happened. I saw this as a possible way to reduce my “masturbation death grip syndrome” and also a way to experience something new and different.

So where are we, a month later? Well, I can say without a shadow of a doubt, this is the best male masturbation aid I have ever come in contact with. You may be able to get a “sleeve” for $12 bucks somewhere, doesn't make it worth it. Most of the sleeves and “pocket pussies” are simply too short for me, and I know i'm just slightly north of average, so I'd say most people have this issue as well. This is not a pocket pussy, it's huge for one, you'd need (to paraphrase Dennis Leary) “a pocket the size of Detroit” to store this. It's huge and solid. And I don't see many guys needing anything longer than that (except maybe this guy)

As I talked about most of the pros of the Fleshlight in part III and talked about how to clean it in the sidebar, I'm going to finish this experiment up by talking about the purpose of it in the first place. As I mentioned briefly in part I, my issue from the beginning was delayed ejaculation, and the inability to cum from many simple standard sex play activities. So, has the Fleshlight been successful and helped cure me of that issue?


That's really all I can say just now. I haven't had as much of an issue recently, but it's still there. So therefore I cannot recommend the Fleshlight on that concept alone. (Though I can fully recommend it for the reasons already mentioned and for the fact that it really is awesome.) That said, though the Fleshlight adds a small bit of extra time and effort to masturbation, and though I have to use water based lube which I really dislike (silicone will degrade the cyberskin) I think I've discovered my new method and will be using it for quite a while. And that is a strong recommendation, after all, I've been masturbating for over 20 years now.

We'll see if, given enough time, my “death grip syndrome” does go away. If not, I've found yet another enjoyable way to pass the time.

Read Part I

Read Part II

Read Part III


About Cooper Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.


  1. ok Cooper. I’m gonna take this idea and run with it…..but take it a step further. I have 3 fleshlights (mouth, butt and Teagan Presley 🙂 AND a Tenga Flip Hole. Gonna shake things up and work with different sensations every night. I want to see if I can achieve any results like yours since I am completely sick and tired of having to “take matters in my own hands” most of the time.

    Not that jacking off in front of a playmate isn’t hot….it totally is. But I want to feel what it’s like when someone ELSE makes me cum for once. It’s been a LOOOOONG time.

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