I just did two “relationshippy” blogs here, so I wanted to do more of a sexy-times post. So, I’ll just dive into the deep end here and talk about fisting. *blush*
First, here are the disclaimers. No, I do not have a stretched out pussy. I’m not a virgin and I don’t think my pussy feels like I am, but I am nice and snug. I’m grippy. Pussies are versatile. Pussies are elastic. The vagina is fantastic. We can hold a tiny vibrating egg with ease and accommodate an intense fisting with the same lovely pussy. Magic. I swear.
Secondly, yes it hurts a little. It doesn’t hurt like you’d think it would and it hurts so good. Trust me. And know that the knuckles are the hardest part.
I used to be ashamed to admit I liked it. If I could even bear to say it to my partner I’d whisper it like old New York woman whispering “the cancer.” I thought it seemed especially whorish and people would think I had a huge, somehow terrible, vagina. I’ve embraced my sluttiness though and I extol the virtues of a lovely fisting quite often. I feel like a fisting evangelist. It’s fucking marvelous. I’ve initiated a few women to it and had many of my bragged-to-friends come back and tell me they tried it with partners and express how much they loved it with glowing and giddy fervor. Fisting is… a wonder.
It’s intense. I mean that in the purest form of the word. Fisting can give mind-shattering orgasms. It’s very hard to be fisted quietly. It’s intense. It is “call a young priest and an old priest because we need an exorcism” intense. It dances on the line between pleasure and pain in a very good way.
So, how do you fist a lovely lass? *grin* I’m so glad you asked.
Well. First you get her excited. Fisting is not a step-one-activity. I’d recommend you go down on her or get her hot and bothered with your hand or a toy. I would get her nice and excited and very ready and then I’d use a LOT of lube. A good quality lube is nice. I’d recommend a silicone lube or something that doesn’t get sticky with time and is safe for condoms, especially if you have a penis and would like to have sex with her after you fist her. I recommend this. She will be sensitive and puffy and it feels so nice for both of you.
An exam glove can also be very useful when you try fisting. I use non-latex nitrile gloves, but really any powder free exam glove can work. It is nice for safer sex and it’s a little more slippery when lubed. If you don’t use a glove, make sure your hands are nice and clean and that your nails are groomed and smooth. If you have long nails, put cotton balls on your nails before you put on the gloves. This takes away your sharp edges.
Now, you’re ready to start. A nice slow build-up is good. Once she is good and relaxed and turned on, you can begin working a few fingers in and playing with her. It’s especially helpful if you can stroke areas inside her that she really enjoys. Maybe play with the area up behind her clit (sometimes the location of her g-spot)? A lot of women like that area, but I’d go with what she likes.
Now, work in another finger… another. To insert your hand, make it into a snake, or a duck bill shape, collapsing your knuckles to be as narrow as possible. (Width matters way more than length here). When you come to the knuckles, slow a little. This is the hardest part. You’ll notice that there is a sort of ring of tighter muscles up to a few inches in, but once past that her pussy is more elastic and you’ll fit more comfortably. If you have difficulty, try turning your hand a bit like you are screwing in a light bulb. This may make her cum (a lot) and her pussy will clamp down on your hand and may even push you out. If this happens, let her enjoy it, maybe turning your hand the slightest bit.
When she relaxes, slowly try again, turning your hand a little back and forth to get past the knuckles. This may make her cum over and over and you’ll never get in with her orgasming and clenching pussy. But is that really such a bad thing?
Assuming that she hasn’t had her orgasm yet, or she’s finished, push with a bit of oomph to get past your knuckles, and as you hit the back your fingers should fold to make a fist with your thumb on the outside. This is important to avoid hurting your thumb as women can exert a great deal of pressure when they orgasm. She will have to consciously relax to let your knuckles in. This usually feels AWESOME for her and is a relief because this area past the tight ring of muscles near the opening is much more accommodating and her tighter muscles can close on your smaller wrist and be more comfortable. To add hotness, you can play with her clit or her pussy with your other hand, and you can move your fist a tiny bit out and in and/or turn it in that light bulb motion. Maybe let her know how hot that is. Her passion is sexy, no?
If you can’t get your entire hand inside on her on the first try or two, do not think of this as a failure because a fisting attempt is every bit as amazing as a fisting. Sometimes it’s just so intense and so orgasm producing that I just can’t take it all. This is a VERY good thing. It’s about pleasure, right?
Afterwards, sometimes I’ve felt a little shy about the fact that my partner just had his or her entire hand in my pussy, so I like to be told reassuring sexy things, and I really like to have sex with my partner, especially since my pussy is now very sensitive and maybe a little swollen (in a good way). Your girl may feel similarly so some sexy talk and sexy times might be quite welcome.
There. There’s my little evangelical pussy fisting recommendation. Happy fisting everyone!
