Archive for category: Advice

Ginger tells poor J what to do when a first swinging date turns bad with broken rules and hurt feelings

Q: My boyfriend and I are considering an open relationship. We are happy and in love and I am content with him as my only sexual partner, but he misses the freedom of being able to flirt and be a pick-up artist at the bars. I think I could get used to him having sex with other women, but I don’t feel the urge to explore sexually with other men. Could it work to be in a one-sided open relationship?…or is that doomed to lead to trouble?

We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q: I am very interested in delving into a more open / alternative lifestyle with my partner. I’ve been listening to your podcast and the lifestyle resonates with me and in theory I can see myself going there with him (my partner) in the future. Right now we are looking for a woman for a threesome and would want to start out soft swap. Here’s my question…how do you deal with the jealousy issue as a newcomer? Like [...]

Ginger answers a couple whose question is about infidelity leading to swinging, and gives advice for those couples on how to transition.

We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q. We have gone to a swingers club many times and when things heat up and it’s time to get naked, my husband Tom will not take off his shirt. He’s overweight, but that’s not the problem. The problem is he has psoriasis and has patches of it on his belly and is embarrassed by it. He thinks other people at the club would be turned off by it and will not want to play with him or [...]

Sara Hedon fields an intense question about broken rules, boundaries being crossed, and inconsiderate playmates at a first soft swap experience.

We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q: What advice would you give to a single female that is interesting in entering the lifestyle – one that is not too interested in bi-sexuality but might be with time…and one that is interested in finding a partner that is also interested in the lifestyle. It seems that most information and advice is directed at people who are already involved in couples. It’s almost as if I would need to find a partner outside the lifestyle and [...]

Sara answers a reader’s question about body image, and whether she should wait until she’s lost weight to begin swinging.

A concerned newbie swinger asks Dylan if the fact that he is uncircumcised would be a problem in the swinging lifestyle, and when to mention that fact to prospective playmates.

A reader asks the Swingset what to do when a sexy night with a friend went farther than anyone expected, rules broken, lines crossed