GPSC 012: Dating While Femme and Spoilers! – The Gentleperverts’ Social Club


Hello Perverts! We discuss online dating while femme with Flick, Kat, and Lola. We also fielded a light bulb filled response to our episode on Trigger Warnings from Nobilis Reed.

Online Dating While Femme

We discuss why men behave badly while trying to date women, including name calling, shaming, negging, as we try to figure out… what the hell is the expected return on messages like that? Are men just trying to keep women in line for the next man? Why can’t men take rejection gracefully? What do you do with “nice guys” when they just don’t know any better, can they be socialized into changing? While we briefly consider that public shaming can sometimes be a powerful tool we approach online discussions and how men can back women up when discussions start to go wrong.

You can find WetCoastCat at and on twitter @wetcoastkat. You can find Flick on twitter @seriousFLICK. You can find DirtyLola and her podcast, Sex Ed A. Go Go at and find her on twitter @DirtyLola.


Trigger Warnings and Spoilers

Nobilis Reed and D Dog discuss trigger warnings after making a connection between the the function of trigger warnings and the effort to limit movie spoilers.

Nobilis Reed is the creator and host of the best speculative fiction erotica podcast in the known universe. He’s also an author, anthology editor, and self-avowed social justice cleric. His podcast can be found at and you can find him on twitter @nobilis.



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