Archive for category: Swingset

We cold open with Cooper having a butt plug (hand crafted by Boris at BnDpodcast.com) inserted by Marilyn, then lead into a discussion of our kinks kicked off by a listener voicemail request. We round robin it for a while, discovering some of our surface kinks, resistance play, certain clothes, BDSM and pegging tops the list. Dylan spends much of the show insisting he doesn’t have any kinks before realizing time and again that he does. We also talk about being squicked out by some people’s kinks, and the difference between kink and fetish.

We wrap up our “Swinging For Dummies” primer for the swinging lifestyle with the future. We discuss the types of relationships you might want to have with your swinging playmates, how to discuss that with them, how to determine what you’re trying to get out of swinging, what websites you might use, and then shamelessly we implore you to join us in Desire this November.

We squick Dylan out with talk of dragon sex. Dylan vindicates himself with a listener voicemail about post vasectomy emptiness, then discusses his gigantic balls. Once we establish that Shira is the Dummy of the title, we begin by discussing the difference between soft swap and full swap, same and separate rooms, and group sex. We discuss developing community, not rushing, and rules, how being drunk is a turn-off. You’re dating as a team.

The Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we’ve talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.

We continue our “Swinging For Dummies” discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a “deal-breaker” for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it’s important to remember that you’re going to be okay TOGETHER.

We go back to basics in the first of our Swinging For Dummies episodes. But first, returning friend The Professor tells us about Ginger’s panty-less New Years Eve celebration. We talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

After a spirited reading of the suggested uses for the Hitachi Magic Wand, Cooper claims to be the Steward of Gondor, and Dylan and Cooper describe their swing party that went bad.

Cooper & Marilyn talk about their reconnecting hiatus, and their usage of Great Sex Games’ Unpredictable. The gang discusses some of their favorite sex toys including the nJoy Eleven, the Hitachi Magic Wand, and more with Clare from The Smitten Kitten, who also tells us all about running a sex positive toy shop, shopping for toys, the evolution of the industry and more. Merry Happy everybody as we close down the second season of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast!

Gavin is taking a stand in this episode of POSTULANT Polyamory. It’s time to welcome the newbs.. apparently. First, Shira talks about dating a swinger and Gavin talks about going to a kinky BDSM rope party and learning about Japanese rope bondage and other fun knotty origami ropey things. Then shit gets basic: What is polyamory? Who is polyamorous and who isn’t? How do you prepare yourself for entering the world of polyamory? Where do you find a community of poly peeps to get you started? How much does communication help in a relationship? How do you set boundaries? How do you convince your partner to go on this trip with you? What are the pros and cons of polyamory? Should you have veto power? What about tokens? Find out by listening to this episode of POSTULANT polyamory.

After Cooper talks about kissing a boy for the first time, the crew answers voicemails about dealing with penis size concerns while swinging, anal sex play for bi males, reactions to pregnant swingers in a party situation, and our biggest surprises in our time as non-monogamous folk.