Life on the Swingset - The Non-Monogamy Podcast

SS 121: Gender Play & Sex with Dylan Ryan

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 18 Jun 2013 07:55:25 +0000

We invite Dylan Ryan to join us for a conversation about Gender Play, fluidity, partner preferences, and gender dynamics. We look at strap-on play, sissification, power exchanges, efforts at education, and all in all… how much fun you can have fucking your partners while wearing a set of frilly panties. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out the soon to be renamed Hitachi Magic Wand! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed with Ashley! Dylan Ryan appears to have temporarily gone offline, we will post hard [...]

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SS 120: Soft Swap: Oral Sex II – Fellatio (Blowjobs & Deep Throating)

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 11 Jun 2013 00:09:44 +0000

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people’s sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We focus specifically on fellatio today, and … well Cooper’s metaphors are terrible but it’s ok… we’ll keep him busy with a big fat dildo. We discuss technique, accessories (lubrication, condoms, toys, etc…), communication and negotiation, and … get distracted. A lot. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, SWINGSET for a 10% discount! Check out Trustex Flavored Condoms, also available in multiple flavors! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, [...]

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SS 119: Soft Swap: Oral Sex I – Cunnilingus (Labia Licking)

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 04 Jun 2013 03:00:38 +0000

Oral sex, it occupies a very prominent place in most people’s sex lives, and for those of us who practice soft swapping, oral sex is often the main course. We’re focusing specifically on cunnilingus today, and while there are many cute metaphors for it, sometimes you just need to come out and say, “I want to eat your pussy”. So… dinner is served. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out Lixx Dental Dams, available in multiple flavors! You can find Ashley Manta at AshleyManta.com, on Twitter @ashleymanta and on Facebook at Sex Ed [...]

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SS 118: Playtime Troubleshooting: How To Be Successful Fucking When Details Get In The Way

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 28 May 2013 05:53:45 +0000

Lets Fuck. Yeah… that doesn’t usually work as a pickup line. But assuming it does, there’s a whole host of other things that can happen that require a little more communication than that! We deal with pre-playtime communication, getting all the details out in the open (and out of the way) with elevator speeches and negotiating consent and figuring out that playing and STDs are -not- mutually exclusive. We move into actually having sex where things don’t always go as planned. Where did the condom go? Where did the erection go? OHGOD A CRAMP! I’m not ok with this situation [...]

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SS 117: Hypothetical Anal Fisting, Swinging Lust, Bisexual Girl Dating, and More!

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 13 May 2013 20:49:53 +0000

Shira B. Katz has rejoined the swingset crew! We celebrate by playing catch up! We talk about whether Cooper has been fisted, talk about where the head space is between swinging and polyamory, about girls dating girls, and really… we just slide organically from one topic to another until we’ve burrowed so far down into the rabbit hole it feels like ages since we looked down and said “hey… that’s a big hole”. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the Cheeky-Boy Vibrating Butt Plug and Perineum Massager by Rocks [...]

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SS 116: Gang-bang The Mailbag 8 – Swinging With Herpes & Wanting Different Things from Non-Monogamy

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 07 May 2013 14:11:01 +0000

We’re back! All four of us! That’s right! We figured out how to fit Shira B. Katz into a canvas sack so we could all gang bang that mailbag together! We answer questions about couples who have an imbalance in how they play or practice non-monogamy or experience jealousy, swinging with herpes, and take praise from someone who never fails to make sure there’s a towel around… just in case. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out Hathor Organic Flavored Lube (Hazelnut Caramel Perhaps?)

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SS 115: How Not to be a Creep – Teaching Consent and Communication with Sex Nerd Sandra

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 29 Apr 2013 22:07:55 +0000

Sometimes it’s hard to be awkward and unsure. It can come out as endearing, it can come out as silly, and depending on what’s going on, it can come out creepy. Today on Life on the Swingset we explore creepy interactions and how they often originate with subtle but defined non-consensual behavior and that sometimes… it’s just a lack of information or a lack of experience instead of someone actively playing “the creep”. We… well thanks to Dylan, we start the conversation with single men being a little too eager to please and progress into communication in sexy interactions and [...]

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TKG 01: The Kinky Geeks Begin and The Status is NOT Quo

The Kinky Geeks — Sun, 21 Apr 2013 05:18:11 +0000

Ophilia Tesla and Miko Technogeisha begin The Kinky Geeks podcast by discussing their origin stories, involving fetish modeling, discovering their kinks, the crossover in the world of geeks, science, and kink. From Hellraiser’s Cenobites, to Goth Clubs, dungeons, bondage conventions, anime and the duality of the facehugger from Half Life to Alien, the girls run the gamut. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!

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SS 114: Nerding Out! How to be an Educator and Still Maintain Relationships with Sex Nerd Sandra

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 03:03:39 +0000

Sex Nerd Sandra joins us for a discussion on what it means to be an educator, a resource, or some jackass that wants to relay their own experiences as gospel. After Technogeisha and Ginger join us (a bit late) we move into how relationships can get a little complicated for us z-list internet celebrities when people we meet know, and potentially assume more about us than we expect. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the Je Joue Mimi for a rechargeable vibrator that has bigger power on the inside than [...]

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SS 113: CatalystCon East Decompression – Sexy Parties, Porn Stars, and Prostate Orgasms!

Life on the Swingset — Thu, 11 Apr 2013 17:31:56 +0000

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, sucked different cocks, cuddled with different people, met with various porn stars, and created our own breakthrough moments. We also passed up an opportunity to use the latest Njoy prototype. We truly are horrible people. Also, the hotel couldn’t wait to rid themselves of our presence. We made so many friends over the weekend, why couldn’t the hotel staff be some of them? Oh Cooper, my mistake, you DID make a friend over a discussion about anal play. Well done. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and [...]

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SS 112: CatalystCon East Decompression – From Boy Kissing to Blanket Forts

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 15:48:55 +0000

We all had unique experiences at CatalystCon East, we met different people, attended different sessions, kissed different boys, assembled different blanket forts, and… occasionally we all got in the hot tub together, sat in the lounge together, and you know… gave our presentation. We spend the time chatting about all that stuff with a little touch of lament at the end for what could have been if for not being limited to sixty minutes. Boy, it sure is a good thing we don’t have to worry about that here, right? … right? Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our [...]

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SS 111: In Bed With the Swingset II – Recorded Live at CatalystCon East

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 01 Apr 2013 17:11:00 +0000

Cooper, Ginger, Shira, Dylan, Miko, Ophilia, and The Professor ™ all get in one hotel room before their CatalystCon East session, hop on a couple beds, drink some wine, and have a casual conversation of how much they love each other in this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We discuss how consistently impressive Ginger’s panty selection is, and we touch… just barely touch on some of the mail that we’ve received and responded to, while Dylan falls completely off his rocker and rants about religion and politics the likes of which you’ve never heard on this podcast. [...]

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SS 110: Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, Recorded Live at CatalystCon East!

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 25 Mar 2013 18:15:10 +0000

We attended CatalystCon East last week. CatalystCon, as described by Dee Dennis the founder and creator, is a conference created to inspire exceptional conversations about sexuality. It is about reaching out and stimulating those who attend to create those important conversations in their own communities, changing how we as a society talk and treat sexuality. It is about stimulating the activist that is within all of us and sparking transformation in the way our friends, neighbors, children and even politicians discuss one of the most important aspects of humanity. In our session titled; Sex With Benefits: Progressive Swinging, we define progressive [...]

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SS 109: Reflections on Swingset Kinkery

Life on the Swingset — Wed, 20 Mar 2013 19:18:54 +0000

We brought Miko Technogeisha on for a discussion on our own personal kinks, and… ended up derailed when Dylan inevitably decided to use Ginger’s bedroom habits for his own personal scene. Upon attempting to get back on track Cooper sets up a second scene involving some fictional magical characters at a fictional wizardry school and… Ginger steps out for a few! After the break we go into what it can feel like for a “less kinky” person to encounter a “very kinky” person and all around just chat about how much fun it can be, to be kinky. Check out [...]

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Cooper’s Mea Culpa

Cooper — Wed, 13 Mar 2013 03:55:30 +0000

My name is Cooper Beckett, and I am a loudmouth. I’m extremely opinionated, and I use my little podcast as a soap box for my opinions. I’m also a snarky bastard, who enjoys giving shit to all. Just ask Dylan. This weekend, I got two emails, both taking me to task for my grumpery. I have snarked about “breeders” because I have no interest in having children. I have never seen this term as an insult, and have no issue whatsoever with children, or those who bear them. I like kids, I like people with kids. As a definite minority [...]

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SS 108: Gang-Bang the Mailbag 7 – Politics, Time, Consent, & Swinging

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 00:41:24 +0000

We’re taking another dip into the calm waters of the lake of reader submitted questions for our seventh Gang-Bang the MailBag episode! After what seems like thirty minutes of business and random thought salad, we discuss being a discerning connoisseur of swing partners, trying to find time to really meet minds with a group of progressive swingers while having limited amounts of time, discussing the old #1 rule that women make the rules, and politics and self-selection in finding playmates. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the Stand-To-Urimate “Spoon” Packer STP!

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SS 107: Parenting & Non-Monogamy: Sex Positive Parenting Continued with Guest Airial Clark

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 25 Feb 2013 23:30:27 +0000

Many of us in the lifestyle are parents and can sometimes feel alone when addressing issues regarding child development and age-appropriate ways of discussing sexuality. Airial Clark wowed us so much the last time she was on, we asked her to come back! Today, Dylan stumbles over trying to figure out how not to repeat the “find your father’s pornos” way of discovering sexuality, Shira appreciates the depth of knowledge Airial has on non-monogamous households and the benefits and extra issues that come with it, while Cooper just cracks a few jokes and laughs about breeders. Check out the Smitten Kitten [...]

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SS 106: It’s Naked Party Time – Throwing a Sexy Party with Guest Reid Mihalko

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 18 Feb 2013 22:21:33 +0000

Cooper and Dylan throw some great swinger parties, but not always by design. Much like their journey into non-monogamy, a combination of moxie, trial and error, and luck has combined to create some wonderful stories. Reid Mihalko on the other hand has spent time and effort learning how carefully crafting group dynamics create the best chance of worthwhile parties for everyone, and not necessarily just with swingers. He joins us tonight for a discussion on sexy parties! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the G-Spotter Pop Top Deluxe Silicone Hitachi Attachment! [...]

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SS 105: In The Butt – Prostate Play & Anal Sex – Guests: Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 18:23:48 +0000

We’re talking all about the rear, anal sex, from preparation to insertion to orgasm and beyond! Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian, authors of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure join us to chat about anal sex, and what it means for men to be on the receiving end of penetrative sex. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the Fuze Halo Buttplug! Check out The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, by Charlie Glickman & Aislinn Emirzian Come see us at Catalyst East! RSVP via Facebook and let us know you’re coming! Use Discount Code: swingset [...]

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SS 104: Confidence Is Like A Magic Wand – Building Confidence and Using It

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 04 Feb 2013 16:43:42 +0000

After Shira tells us a bizarre story of having her upper lip devoured by a creeper at a club, Cooper talks about falling in love. This leads to a discussion on his developing confidence, and then to the broader topic of how to be confident, how to build it, and how to wield it. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the Silicone Bit Gag by Spartacus Come see us at Catalyst East! RSVP via Facebook and let us know you’re coming! Use Discount Code: swingset for 10& off your ticket!

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SS 103: Sex & God – Religion, Swinging, Polyamory, & Sin with Darrel Ray

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 28 Jan 2013 09:17:29 +0000

“Hey Cooper… tell us how you really feel!” “Well alright then.” We’ve discussed organized religion and how it’s affected our own relationship with sexuality, how it influences our community as a whole and… at times, indelicately pointed out where we take issue with its monopoly on morality and its right to judge what’s acceptable and what’s not. We finally said fuck it, threw up our arms, and invited Darrel Ray, author of the books The God Virus: How Religion Affects Our Lives and Culture, and Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality to join us for a discussion on how [...]

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SS 102: Sex Positive Community Building & Conferences – Guest Dee Dennis from CatalystCon East

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 21 Jan 2013 08:40:48 +0000

Dee Dennis decided to join us for a discussion on building sex positive communities (and the perils within doing so), and how to translate that into a great conference experience! It’s apropos as she’s also the founder of CatalystCon so… we chat about that just a little bit. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the Aneros Helix Prostate Massager! Come see us at Catalyst East! RSVP via Facebook and let us know you’re coming! Use Discount Code: swingset for 10& off your ticket!

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SS 101: Introduction to Progressive Swinging

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 14 Jan 2013 18:19:33 +0000

For Episode 101 we thought giving a brief “101″ lecture on Progressive Swinging felt right. So, we reintroduce and define what we mean by Progressive Swinging, and give you the very basics; what you need, what to expect, and how to proceed. We’ve approached the basics before, communication, introductions, prep work, but this time with give it to you with a different goal in mind, how to enter into Progressive Swinging. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount! Check out the String Along Thong! Come see us at Catalyst East! RSVP via Facebook and [...]

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SS 100: Looking Back, and Forward to Another 100 Episodes

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 01 Jan 2013 05:58:05 +0000

This… is episode 100. We thank our guests, our previous co-hosts, we yell at each other, unbridled chaos abounds everywhere. It’s a full 90 minutes of the four of us enjoying each other. Pure joy, true love… To another 100 episodes we go! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!

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SS Origin Stories: My Journey into Non-Monogamy, a Dylan Story

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 31 Dec 2012 20:41:06 +0000

Not all of you have been listening weekly for three years (probably… maybe) so by extension, not all of you know how we got here and what we lived through before we discovered these lifestyles we lead. So I’m Dylan, and I’m telling you my story, now. It’s long, I spend the first ten minutes talking about pubescent erections but it all leads somewhere, and if you’re interested… I’ll take you on my little journey through the dark ages of my own sexuality and into my non-monogamy. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!

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SS 99: The Swingset Takes Desire Debrief – Sexy Times In Mexico

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 17 Dec 2012 20:06:15 +0000

After a slight delay, the Swingset crew talk Life on the Swingset’s first trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun and squick Shira B. Katz right the hell out. We lament the shortness of our jaunt to paradise, and talk about what we hope to do next time. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!

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SS 98: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular 2!

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 10 Dec 2012 22:02:48 +0000

Clare from Smitten Kitten returns to discuss bad toys with us, and our toy wishes for the holiday as we discuss sex toys even more! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!

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SS 97: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular!

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 03 Dec 2012 20:42:40 +0000

Hi everybody, it’s the Life on the Swingset annual Toytacular event! We’re in year three of recommending the best and most interesting toys we’ve played with, and laughing about the worst and worst designed toys we’ve suffered with. We bring Claire from the Smitten Kitten Online into the conversation and riff on… oh, something like 40 or more toys. Hop on and bring a pad of paper! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!

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SS 96: Sex Positive Parenting with Airial Clark!

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 26 Nov 2012 20:49:25 +0000

Parenting when you’re a swinger or a polyamorist isn’t easy is most definitely not a topic that’s well documented. Luckily Airial Clark has been picking up the slack! She joins us for a conversation on how to be a parent and straddle the line between too soon and not soon enough. We discuss the advantages and hurdles children may encounter when coming up against an aggressively monogamist society, and all in all, how to stay sex positive. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online‘s Intimate Organics Aromatherapy Massage Oils. They’re Dylan Thomas endorsed! (Don’t forget the discount code, “swingset” for a 10% [...]

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SS 95: The Swingset Takes Desire – Live With Tequila Body Shots

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 19 Nov 2012 20:17:59 +0000

Cooper, Ginger, and Dylan brought Marilyn, The Professor, Tonia, and 35 couples with them to Desire in Cancun, Mexico! 18 months of foreplay result in good feelings, a little crying, lots of sexy time, and a terribly unstructured but incredibly fun to record podcasting session where we discuss introductions, making moves, saying no, and just being part of the flow. This… is Life on the Swingset, recorded on-location, in paradise. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online store! (Don’t forget the discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!)

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Marilyn & The Professor Talk Energy Play

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 16 Nov 2012 06:54:50 +0000

After an intense experience in the hot tub at Desire Resort & Spa with Life on the Swingset, Marilyn and The Professor sit down to talk about the role of energy play and Reiki, a trip to A Touch of Magic Massage by Claudia, and what a skeptic Cooper is in this special recorded in Desire!

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SS 94: Shira Takes Over the Swingset

Shira B. Katz — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 04:04:31 +0000

When the Swingers are away the Katz will play! Shira B. Katz has taken over the Swingset, and has enlisted her husband of mythical proportions Gavin Katz. The hosts of Pedestrian Polyamory (cheap plug) aren’t necessarily talking about Polyamory this week, but their ventures into a Swinger party. Comparisons are made between the two cultures, Shira wants to ride the Swing Train, and Gavin wants to hit her with one. Check out the Smitten Kitten Online store! (Don’t forget the discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!)

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SS 93: Gang-Bang the Mailbag – Double Penetration II!

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 29 Oct 2012 18:37:01 +0000

We’re up for a second round of double penetration! That’d be double, double penetration…. Hmm… Anyway, We’re back with questions about what to do about party invitations when you have a couple that breaks up, bringing up the cultivation of poly relationships with swinger friends, long distance relationships, partners leaving the lifestyle and potentially their relationships, being and dealing with self-consciousness about cock performance and size, the “genderless”, the difference between healthy and unhealthy swinger relationships, and… Equality in freedom to explore. We covered quite a bit of ground on this episode. Take a listen, strap on those thigh dildos, [...]

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SS 92: Gang-Bang the Mailbag – Double Penetration!

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 23 Oct 2012 17:40:03 +0000

Today on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast, we take your questions and give you sweet, delicious, custard filled answers. We talk about metamoures not getting along, reading your partners’ e-mails, the struggle to decide whether to let a swing partner cum inside your partner, swinging with a cancer conquering sexy body, our horrible, horrible fetlife profiles, our opi… well ok we covered a lot today and we’ll cover a lot next week as we run hot right up to the edge of our trip to Desire. Check out the Joque Harness by Spareparts at the Smitten Kitten Online store! [...]

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The Swingset Has An Orgy With Cunning Minx on Polyamory Weekly

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 22 Oct 2012 19:04:55 +0000

We’ve long been fans of Cunning Minx here at Life on the Swingset, and her long running podcast Polyamory Weekly. Because of this, we were thrilled to catch up with her at Open SF this past June and even more thrilled to start some cross pollination (that one is for you, Shira B) by first having her on our show to talk about the art of The Pick Up (but not pickup artists) and then joining her on her show to continue to flog our Progressive Swinging horse. So listen to it right here (and still subscribe to Polyamory Weekly, cuz [...]

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SS 91: Open Sex Positivity – Spreading the Good Word

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 15 Oct 2012 17:23:38 +0000

Kendra Holliday joins us in a discussion on how to be open and sex positive while still staying friendly and approachable. Our discussion heats up when Dylan suggests that he misses Rick Santorum competing for the Republican presidential nomination because it was such a great opportunity to discuss sex positivity in comparison to the extreme positions Santorum took on… well everything from sex’s role to women’s health, and cools back down once we all figured out that we’re all best served by having calm reasoned discussions with people we disagree with… Who knew?! Check out the Talula G2 Dildo by [...]

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SS 90: Two Years Out Of The Closet – Kendra Holliday is Open

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 08 Oct 2012 18:13:32 +0000

Two years ago a woman by the name of TBK visited us here on the Swingset to talk about her life, and her website, The Beautiful Kind. We heard back from her after she came out as Kendra Holliday and listened as she described the liberation of being out and the frustration of being under attack from all sides for her decision. Today she rejoins us and lets us know how she’s progressed on her journey from a simple webmistress to a founder of Sex Positive St. Louis, as an activist, as a mother, and as a woman. Join the Swingset crew [...]

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SS 89: Drama and Unreasonable Requests in Swinging & Polyamory

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 24 Sep 2012 22:17:06 +0000

A listener’s story about the unreasonable request from a swing friend for the husband in a couple to impregnate her, leads us into a discussion about what is acceptable and not to ask of your partners in swinging & polyamory, and also what to do when the dreaded drama rears its ugly head. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 88: Polysaturation and Swing Overload – Too Much of a Good Thing

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 17 Sep 2012 05:01:37 +0000

Our good friends SFCuties asked us, “Is there a swinger version of PolySaturated, and what would it be called?” We take on this challenge tonight, going through what it feels like to experience polysaturation and smitten with what we call, “swing overload”. Shira B. Katz regales us with tales of her time at Burning Man including good times at the indoor air-conditioned sex dome, which then disintegrated into discussion about body odors in the context of orgies. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 87: Gangbang the Mailbag IV: Divorce or Cheating, Nuclear Situations, New to Parties, and Escalating Friends with Benefits

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 10 Sep 2012 16:25:16 +0000

Once again Cooper shuffles over to the virtual Internet post office for the arduous job of sifting through all the spam, trolls, and coupon savers so that we can answer your questions as we gangbang the mailbag once more! Tonight we chat about the Bad-Dragon “Medium” sized Anthro-Dragon Dildo, a question about whether divorce or cheating is ever appropriate or “the right thing”, a question about averting a situation about to go nuclear, a question forwarded to us by J.V. Altharas from Ending the Sexual Dark Age about how to approach a new party situation, and a question about different types [...]

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SS 86: Beautiful Pornography and the Art of the Blowjob

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 03 Sep 2012 21:17:02 +0000

Amidst the endless bang bus, humiliation porn, and ass to mouth videos, one site stands out as something completely different: TheArtOfBlowjob.com, featuring a gorgeous redhead named Camille Crimson giving slow, artistic, fun, and sexy blowjobs to her man. The Art of Blowjob is leading a charge toward a different landscape of porn with more beauty in it. PR and Marketing Director for The Art Of Blowjob, Sophie Delancey joins us to talk about the beautiful porn she manages, what she thinks about the future of porn, and to get some advice on climbing onto the swingset from us. Shownotes: For [...]

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SS 85: Foreplay, Fiveplay, Sixplay, Orgy!

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 27 Aug 2012 05:35:08 +0000

Foreplay… it’s what we sometimes don’t have time for, but apparently what we all desperately want more of! Whether it’s giving, receiving, taking hours, or taking a few minutes, we take the time to discuss what we like, why we like it, what we do for other people and why we do for other people and figure out that sometimes all a situation can be -is- foreplay. Ginger reveals her secret mutant ability, the stealthy surprise orgasm, Shira reveals she’s only recently gotten into receiving foreplay, and Cooper THINKS he had a prostate orgasm. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa [...]

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SS 84: Cultivating Swinging & Polyamorous Relationships

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 13 Aug 2012 17:10:06 +0000

We explore cultivating relationships from both the swinging perspective and polyamorous perspective. Ginger feels ready to get out there and meet some women to date. Cooper has an important (and easy) relationship discussion with his girlfriend about their involvement level and expanding his dating. Time is a very important factor, as is relationship structuring, but it can be hard going in with very low expectations. Google Calendar again emerges as the cornerstone of non-monogamy. Shira talks about how poly relationships interact with her family. We round it out with a discussion of time management, and how different swinging and poly [...]

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SS 83: The Pick-Up In Non Monogamy with Cunning Minx

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 06 Aug 2012 18:27:35 +0000

The Pick-up, we discuss vanilla pick-up culture briefly while moving into how to be picked up, how to message people online, and meeting people in real life. The concept of a codex, or a user manual (RTFM!) for potential hookups and dating partners to use comes up and we spend a lot of time figuring out what goes into it and what it actually means. While we lose a Ginger this episode, we pick up a Cunning Minx and have a great time! Show Notes: Minx’s User Manual Cunning Minx on Twitter Polyamory Weekly Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort [...]

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SS 82: Geeksexuality – Making Porn, Bisexual Males, Bush, & Quantum Physics

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 23 Jul 2012 18:26:16 +0000

We are joined by Ned & Maggie Mayhem, geeksexual porn stars whose mantra is to just be themselves in porn. We gush over them a while, Cooper admits their site is the first porn site he’s ever paid for. The discussion leads to making porn, bringing toys into the bedroom, male use of the Hitachi Magic Wand, male bisexuality in porn, and identifying as queer. Show Links: MeetTheMayhems.com Professor Mayhem Tutors James Darling CrashPadSeries.com Jiz Lee’s Karma Pervs MissMaggieMayhem.com Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 81: Open SF Debrief III – Learning to Speak Up, Browsing SF, and a Farewell Lunch

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 16 Jul 2012 20:50:44 +0000

We finish our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, Dylan laments falling asleep, Cooper explains how The Brown Eyed Girl took them all out for a spin around town and how he learned to ask for what he wants, we break in the middle for a little discussion on companies who take public stances on issues, and we end with a farewell lunch on Monday with Pepper Mint. Donate to Open SF to help guarantee its return. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 80: Open SF Debrief II – Magic Brownies, Presentations, Hot Tubs, Flirting, & Sex

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 15:00:20 +0000

We continue our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, including Charlie Glickman, Tristan Taormino, and the presentation we gave. Cooper gets a magic brownie and tries to pick up a Brown-Eyed Girl, and talks about how incredibly charming The Professor is. The gang goes on a San Francisco odyssey to find a hot-tub in the hills, and Dylan gets a girl. Donate to Open SF to help guarantee its return. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 79: Open SF Debrief I – Dom/sub, Sex Parties, & San Francisco

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 30 Jun 2012 00:43:18 +0000

The gang begins their full debrief from the Open SF Non-Monogamy conference. Cooper experiences both Dom and sub play in a single night, and processes his feelings on Domination, humiliation, choking, as well as being flogged, spanked, and fondled. Dylan holds court and plays Cards Against Humanity with friends. Ginger and the Prof discover the fuck monster at the Pink Play Party. Shira brings a two boys to their first play party. Donate to Open SF to help guarantee its return. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 78: In Bed With The Swingset – Flirting, Drinking, Safe Words, A Sex Toy Box, & Chaos

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 25 Jun 2012 13:00:53 +0000

The Swingset crew is drinking in bed together at the Open SF conference. For a good long while we giggle and talk of almost nothing. Dylan shamelessly flirts with the ladies. We move on to talking about Dom/sub play, and Cooper’s fears getting into it. The discussion leads to relationship safe words and the Get Out of Jail Free Card in dealing with relationship conflict. We talk aftercare and then dig into Cooper’s sex toy box while Dylan just wants to make out with Ginger’s thigh. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 77: Sex With Benefits – Progressive Swinging – Live From The Open SF Conference

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 15 Jun 2012 16:58:05 +0000

The Swingsetters are live in San Francisco at the Open SF Conference on non-monogamy to discuss Progressive Swinging, where swingers are gradually sliding down the spectrum toward long term relationships, and even !!GHASP!! love. We take questions from the audience and Cooper gets all riled up. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 76: Gang-Bang The Mailbag III – Jealousy in Open Relationships

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 04 Jun 2012 16:13:55 +0000

We return to the mailbag, still full after last week to discuss a number of jealousy related issues. A newly poly girl is uncomfortable with her husband dating his monogamous ex girlfriend, what is the difference between different flavors of non-monogamy, is jealousy healthy, does it show your partner that you care? Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 75: Gang-Bang The Mailbag II – Oral Sex & Cum, Bad Swinging Experiences, Drinking, Chemistry, & Primary Partners

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 29 May 2012 17:00:40 +0000

To celebrate our 75th episode we go back to gang-banging the mailbag for another listener question episode. We get excited that Shira’s transient boy is staying in America and Cooper is narrating Tristan Taormino’s radio show. Our ire is raised that the Catholic church is suing about birth control. Then our listeners ask us to talk about spanking, kinks to watch, revisiting oral sex to talk about cum, the girls talk about how much they enjoy watching men ejaculate, how to bounce back from a bad swinging experience, to drink or not to drink at clubs, one-sided chemistry and interest, [...]

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SS74: Tristan Taormino Talks Kink, Anal Sex, Fisting, Pegging & Her New Project

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 18 May 2012 17:00:49 +0000

Tristan Taormino returns to the Swingset to give Cooper some advice on NRE, discuss her new book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and talk about her new project, a weekly live call-in radio show called Sex Out Loud on VoiceAmerica.com starting June 1st. Tristan Taormino: @tristantaormino PuckerUp.com Tristan Taormino’s Radio Show: SexOutLoudRadio.com @sexoutloudradio Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS73: Sex Positive Education Surrounding Swinging, Polyamory, & Other Non-Monogamy

Cooper — Mon, 07 May 2012 20:34:40 +0000

In this episode, Cooper asks for business and Dylan spills about a poly mismatch… and a breach of protocol. We discuss community around polyamory, forming communities around swinging, and moving into Pepper’s experience at various educational workshops and into what’s planned for OpenSF. Pepper Mint: @freaksexual, freaksexual.com Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS72: Hard Kink – Needles, Breath Play, Spanking, & More

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:00:21 +0000

Pepper Mint rejoins the Swingset for discussion on hard kink. We open with a discussion about mommy porn and Fifty Shades of Grey and move into discussion about the BDSM and kink communities, plow through into contracts, talk about our actual kinks. Dylan asks about punching, Shira emotes about being punched in the butt, and Cooper cringes when needle play is mentioned, and we end by talking about how wonderful the human body is and how people process histories of abuse and sometimes use kinks to help. Pepper Mint: @freaksexual, freaksexual.com Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, [...]

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SS71: Words Matter – Vanilla VS Swinging, Polyamory, and Open

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 23 Apr 2012 16:09:01 +0000

We are joined by The Professor and Boris & Doris of the Boris & Doris Podcast to follow-up on a discussion prompted by Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun on his Facebook page. We discuss the uniqueness of the term “Vanilla” as it relates to open relationships, sex positivity, BDSM crowds, and whether it is, in general a positive or negative. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 70: Ginger & The Professor In Paradise at Desire Resort & Spa

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 16:43:49 +0000

Shira talks about sapiosexual foreplay. Cooper discusses building an untraditional family and continues his baby phobia. Ginger and the Professor have just returned from the Swingercast Desire Resort & Spa trip and tell us about their time in paradise. (Ginger spends the VAST majority of this episode giggling.) The Professor paints a beautiful word portrait of a nude Shira B. Katz striding along the beach with glistening wet labia. And Cooper insists that geese are bastards. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 69: Oral Sex, Cunnilingus, Rim Jobs, Oh Yes

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 02 Apr 2012 19:16:33 +0000

Oral Sex. Cunnilingus. Rim Jobs. Today we discuss anything and everything oral on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We start with the basics, what we prefer, what we enjoy, and delve into different types of oral play. After a rousing instructional segment on how to suck Dylan’s cock, Shira B. Katz gives us both information and directions on better oral play with barriers. We also got a bit distracted thanks to Shira B. Katz. Here’s what was distracting us so much: Andy Warhol Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012! [...]

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SS 68: Ch-Ch-Changes – Swinging, Polyamory, & Non-Monogamy Explorations

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:20:19 +0000

In this show, we talk about one of our favorite subjects… ourselves! We’ve been steadily evolving and felt like keeping all of you up-to-date on where are we going, why we’re moving in that direction, all while throwing in a bit of misdirection with Metroid and Mega Man to keep you guessing. We address two listener questions / comments and all in all have a good time sharing our lives with each other. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

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SS 67: Newly Non-Monogamous – Do We Like New Swingers & Polyamorists?

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 17:49:29 +0000

After a detour involving Prof Stephen Hawking’s time spent at a sex club, we discuss new swingers, polyamorists, and non-monogamists. Cooper and Dylan both profess their affection with newbies, while Shira and Ginger confess they make them nervous. After the break we talk about our own experiences being newbies, and get sidetracked again by a discussion of Classic Chicago Commercials. Cooper closes the show by reviewing Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Pegging. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012! Classic Chicago Commercial Links: Eagle Man Celozzi Ettleson Chevrolet

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SS 66: Chemistry – Connections, Pheromones, & Animal Attraction in Non-Monogamy

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 05 Mar 2012 20:02:48 +0000

Dylan launches a custom sexy talk service. We discuss the ethics and reasoning behind wanting or not wanting to date someone you’re mentoring. Cooper and Dylan both want to fuck all their friends. We discuss what chemistry means to us all, the surprise of a chemistry blind side, and the difficulty of getting four-way chemistry in swinging dating. Cooper reviews the Nexus Revo. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012! Rock climbing sex

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SS 65: Friends & Lovers – Do We Want To Be Friends With These People We Fuck?

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 16:43:14 +0000

JV Altharas and Shara from Ending The Sexual Dark Age join us to discuss the dichotomy of being friends with your swinging playmates, and how we feel that enhances the value of the sex, but also how that can drift into other ares. We get sidetracked by the idea of writing directions on thighs, Cooper updates his Poly experiment, Dylan rants about politics.

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SS 64: Kink-O-Rama – Pegging, Voyeurism, Sapiosexuals, & Comfort

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 20:23:51 +0000

We cold open with Cooper having a butt plug (hand crafted by Boris at BnDpodcast.com) inserted by Marilyn, then lead into a discussion of our kinks kicked off by a listener voicemail request. We round robin it for a while, discovering some of our surface kinks, resistance play, certain clothes, BDSM and pegging tops the list. Dylan spends much of the show insisting he doesn't have any kinks before realizing time and again that he does. We also talk about being squicked out by some people's kinks, and the difference between kink and fetish.

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SS 63: Swinging For Dummies IV – Relationships, Websites, & Sexy Vacations

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:28:18 +0000

We wrap up our "Swinging For Dummies" primer for the swinging lifestyle with the future. We discuss the types of relationships you might want to have with your swinging playmates, how to discuss that with them, how to determine what you're trying to get out of swinging, what websites you might use, and then shamelessly we implore you to join us in Desire this November.

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SS 62: Swinging For Dummies III – Rules & Group Sex

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:42:26 +0000

We squick Dylan out with talk of dragon sex. Dylan vindicates himself with a listener voicemail about post vasectomy emptiness, then discusses his gigantic balls. Once we establish that Shira is the Dummy of the title, we begin by discussing the difference between soft swap and full swap, same and separate rooms, and group sex. We discuss developing community, not rushing, and rules, how being drunk is a turn-off. You're dating as a team.

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SS 61: Swinky – A Very BDSM Show Length Business

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 20:49:38 +0000

The Swingset crew gets quickly sidetracked by business that rapidly consumes the show. Dylan wants to be a Dom, Shira is enjoying being submissive. Cooper assigns the listeners the quest for a high quality strap on dildo that can squirt. We talk about being a switch, Cooper reveals his submissive tendencies, and we realize that we've talked far too long to continue the Swinging For Dummies show before next week.

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SS 60: Swinging For Dummies II – Talking To Your Partner About Non-Monogamy

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 18:57:02 +0000

We continue our "Swinging For Dummies" discussion by moving into how to talk to your partner about your interest in non-monogamy. We weigh the idea of non-monogamy being a "deal-breaker" for your relationship and the future. Also on topic is potential for jealousy, the importance of LOTS of communication, and the excellent resources Sex at Dawn and Opening Up. When all is said and done, it's important to remember that you're going to be okay TOGETHER.

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SS 59: Swinging For Dummies I – Realizing You’re Non-Monogamous

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 22:13:01 +0000

We go back to basics in the first of our Swinging For Dummies episodes. But first, returning friend The Professor tells us about Ginger's panty-less New Years Eve celebration. We talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin.

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SS 58: Bareback or Condoms: A Bad Swinger Sex Party

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 06:01:39 +0000

After a spirited reading of the suggested uses for the Hitachi Magic Wand, Cooper claims to be the Steward of Gondor, and Dylan and Cooper describe their swing party that went bad.

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SS 57: 12 Vibrating Yule Logs – Sex Toys, & The Smitten Kitten

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 22:44:53 +0000

Cooper & Marilyn talk about their reconnecting hiatus, and their usage of Great Sex Games' Unpredictable. The gang discusses some of their favorite sex toys including the nJoy Eleven, the Hitachi Magic Wand, and more with Clare from The Smitten Kitten, who also tells us all about running a sex positive toy shop, shopping for toys, the evolution of the industry and more. Merry Happy everybody as we close down the second season of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast!

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PP 10: Postulant Polyamory – A Roadmap for the Newbs Part 1

Pedestrian Polyamory — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 01:05:15 +0000

Gavin is taking a stand in this episode of POSTULANT Polyamory. It's time to welcome the newbs.. apparently. First, Shira talks about dating a swinger and Gavin talks about going to a kinky BDSM rope party and learning about Japanese rope bondage and other fun knotty origami ropey things. Then shit gets basic: What is polyamory? Who is polyamorous and who isn't? How do you prepare yourself for entering the world of polyamory? Where do you find a community of poly peeps to get you started? How much does communication help in a relationship? How do you set boundaries? How do you convince your partner to go on this trip with you? What are the pros and cons of polyamory? Should you have veto power? What about tokens? Find out by listening to this episode of POSTULANT polyamory.

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SS 56: A Voicemail Gang-Bang – Anal Sex Play, Penis Size, & Pregnant Swingers

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 06:29:57 +0000

After Cooper talks about kissing a boy for the first time, the crew answers voicemails about dealing with penis size concerns while swinging, anal sex play for bi males, reactions to pregnant swingers in a party situation, and our biggest surprises in our time as non-monogamous folk.

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SS 55: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella II – Swingers, Open Relationships, & Polyamory, 2gether 4 Eva

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 06:01:20 +0000

We continue our discussion with poly activist and organizer Pepper Mint, but first Cooper and Dylan blow a "fight" over the word queer out of proportion. We discuss eroticizing jealousy, Ginger gets hot over the idea of "straddling the line," Pepper discusses polyamory and gay men. Cooper becomes militant about coming out and rails against the forces of "old and evil." And of course, we all get silly many times.

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SS 54: The Non-Monogamy Umbrella I – Can’t Swingers And Polyamorists Get Along?

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 06:01:18 +0000

Pepper Mint, polyamory blogger, activist, & organizer joins us for a dialog on why the swinging and polyamory camps still have trouble getting along. We rant about a swing club that has been shut down by the authorities. Cooper doesn't want to "put baby in the corner" but finds it easy to shuffle Shira off to the poly side, but even she is shocked by the discussion of poly sex parties. Dylan is horrified to find that sometimes people want to move in after a month; and Ginger confesses her origin story involving Pepper.

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PP 7: Meeting Watson – A study in Virgins and Labels

Pedestrian Polyamory — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 17:33:18 +0000

Hey, look! Shira found a virgin to interview, but before that starts listen as Shira and Gavin discuss some hate mail they received. Find out where the Katz' stand on the issue of dating people with STI's and figure out what is causing the SEX DROUGHT. (One hint, parents: co-sleeping!) Then off to virgin land. How does one handle themselves before they have the labels of straight, gay, monogamous, or polyamorous? What can we do to facilitate our virginal friend?

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SS 53: Naked In Paradise II – The Swingset Takes Desire Resort & Spa

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 06:01:16 +0000

We continue our chat with Jim & Char of CharTravel about lifestyle vacations, focusing more on Desire as a whole as Shira asks a number of nitty gritty questions about passports, cost, and the nudity policy. Cooper rants about the foolishness of booking flights with Travelocity. Ginger gets lost in her own little world of Desire fantasies. We discuss food, alcohol, excursions and other things to do at Desire Resort & Spa.

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SS 52: Naked In Paradise I – Sexy Vacations and Desire Resort & Spa

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 18:52:21 +0000

Have your vacations lately seemed a bit too dull or full of minors? Well tonight we're talking about vacationing the sexy way and taking a lifestyle trip. We discuss the ins and outs of going on a lifestyle or nude vacation at any level of the sexually open lifestyle, about etiquitte, and how to protect yourself and your relationship. We also thoroughly discuss Desire Resort & Spa and our upcoming trip to this fabulous spot in Cancun, Mexico in November 2012.

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SS 50mk2: Our Evolution II – Anal Sex & Male Bisexuality, Getting Flogged & Opening Up

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 29 Oct 2011 05:01:36 +0000

We continue our 50th episode reflection of what we're still learning in the lifestyle when Cooper talks about his first one on one mandate and how he feels it pushed him back to a solid 2 on the Kinsey Scale, and Shira discusses an experience of being flogged, beaten, and spanked and how she's in an exploratory mood lately.

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SS 50mk1: Our Evolution – Polyamorous Leanings, Coming Out Sexy

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 23 Oct 2011 05:01:24 +0000

The Swingset crew celebrates their 50th episode with reflections of how we can still learn new things in the lifestyle. We wish Shira a happy Swingset Anniversary. Ginger sends Prof to a sexy party SOLO! Dylan and Tonia explore polyamory and talk to their son about non-monogamy. Ginger yerns to come out as non-monogamous, so we discuss the levels of being out and the normalization of non-monogamy.

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Ep 49: Unite The Clans! Coming Together on Swinging Sites & Sex Clubs

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 16 Oct 2011 05:01:54 +0000

After Shira horrifies us all by talking about a potential boy-toy's penile subincision, we manage to pull it together and discuss the changing landscape that is online swinger sites and sex clubs along with our special guest Emily from Kasidie.com. We talk a bit about the history of the website, and Emily's role there, but use it as a springboard to discuss the larger themes of how the word is spreading about non-monogamy, and how welcoming and accepting out communities can be.

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Ep 48: We’re Porn Again – Our Fetishes & Home-Made Porn

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 02 Oct 2011 05:01:38 +0000

Dylan asks Shira how polyamorists feel about one night stands. We all talk about the kind of porn that gets us going, then each of us admits to what our guilty pleasure porn is; Cooper feels very bad about his and insists everybody is judging him. After the break we discuss homemade porn, what we've all made, and why swingers take pictures and video.

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Ep 47: Naked People Doing Dirty Things – Porn All Around Us

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 05:01:37 +0000

We wonder if pubic hair is making a resurgence, find out that Shira has no tolerance for young people, discuss how we first encountered and discovered porn. We learn that Ginger didn't believe people actually had sex in porn. Shira talks about her past with jealousy over porn. The boys refuse to let Shira go into body negativity mode. Then we all talk about what we've learned from porn.

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Ep 46: Burning Man ’11 Pt 2 – Fear & Loathing on the Playa

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 18 Sep 2011 05:01:21 +0000

Uh oh! You heard the last podcast and were left wanting for juicy details? The second part of our Burning Man shows reveals exactly what happened between Dylan and the Majestic Woman he met at Burning Man 2011. You will also find out if there was love in the air for Shira B. Katz. Emotions run high in this heartfelt episode recorded just one week after Shira and Dylan return home from the Playa.

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Ep 45: Burning Man ’11 Pt 1 – Shira & Dylan’s Excellent Adventure

Life on the Swingset — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 03:00:34 +0000

Cooper & Marilyn take a vacation to visit sexy friends from the Great White North. Dylan & Shira B. Katz haven’t been about to shut up about Burning Man and now you finally get to hear why. Listen as the crew discusses what Burning Man has to do with non-monogamy, who they camped with, and what a non-monogamous person can expect on the Playa. Ahoy! Burning Man; land of The Human Car(cass) Wash, The Snack Food Glory Hole, and a place where even the monogamous have an opportunity to open up a little.

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Special – Dylan Crosses The Rubicon from Swinging to Polyamory at Burning Man 2011

Dylan Thomas — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 22:53:35 +0000

Dylan here - I visited Burning Man this year, and while I fully expected to have a mind-blowing experience, I found myself wrapped up in the loving arms of another woman, and unable to completely handle some of the consequences of that. I had my first little polyamorous experience, a "playawife" for a few days, but I needed to get some of what was on my mind out. So, this recording is me, on-site, at 8am the day after I decided that what I was doing wasn't going to last. Take a listen, and tell me what you think.

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Ep 44: Fucking Technology – Sexting, Cybersex & Phone Sex

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 05:01:08 +0000

We are living in the golden age of sexual communication. There are so many ways to have sexy conversations and interactions online, it's really rather amazing. We talk about our likes and dislikes, our enthusiasms and wants, and how we all get off online.

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Ep 43: Flirting as Swingers, Polyamorists, & Non-Monogamists

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 05:56:42 +0000

Flirting! It's like a gateway drug, and that gateway sometimes leads to all manner of sexual exploits. Tonight we discuss the importance and value of flirting and how it has helped shape the panel's sexual lives, as well as how Ginger & Shira flirted their way onto the show. And speaking of that, this is Ginger's anniversary episode, as she's been swinging on the Swingset with us for a full year now. All this, Cooper has sexy house guests, Dylan almost picks up a woman at a buffet line at a bowling alley, dead flies, bottles of wine, and more on Life on the Swingset: The Podcast.

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Ep 42: Kody Brown & the Polygamy Lawsuit – Legislating the Bedroom

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 26 Jul 2011 16:04:11 +0000

Dylan hosts this episode where we discuss Kody Brown's lawsuit, the fight for polygamy, and "Sister Wives." Shira has learned the power of selfish sex. Cooper rants against religion and oppression, but what else is new?

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Ep 41: Breaking Up Is Really Hard To Do For Swingers Too

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 18:42:19 +0000

Cooper tells the crew about the breakup he and Marilyn went through with a unicorn friend of theirs, their struggle with it, and how they've applied their feelings about polyamory and non-monogamy to the situation. The crew uses this as a jumping off point to discuss breakups in general in non-monogamy and how they differ from monogamous breakups. Then Dylan finally discusses his bisexual leanings.

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Ep 40: Slut Shaming and Anthony Weiner’s Penis on Twitter

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 19:25:44 +0000

The crew discusses the fact that girls need to ask permission to touch too, Shira is rejected for the very first time, Dylan talks about massages at strip clubs, and we get deep into the Anthony Weiner sex scandal, discussing whether this is an example of our society's extreme slut shaming, if it's possible he has an open marriage, and how we feel about this type of scandal in general.

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Podcast Special – Ending The Sexual Dark Age Question About Bisexuality

Life on the Swingset — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 04:52:06 +0000

In this short podcast special, the Swingset crew answer a question sent by a listener of the Ending The Sexual Dark Age podcast about how to transition yourself to being a bisexual male in the lifestyle when you'd previously identified as straight.

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Ep 39: Debauchery at a Swing Club – Couple’s Playhouse Swingers Club Near Chicago

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 05:01:35 +0000

Dylan and Cooper return to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago for part two of their discussion and description of their first trip to a swingers club. Shira and Ginger add their own thoughts about swing clubs and other kink friendly clubs. Cooper talks about how odd it is to wander around nude with an erection, and Dylan continues his epic flirt.

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Ep 38: Our Swingers Club Adventure – Living it up at Chicago Swing Club Couple’s Playhouse

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 08:40:36 +0000

After Shira discusses the wonderful world of sex and feeling better that came from having her IUD removed, Ginger talks about the benefits of hers, and Dylan discusses exploring his wife's...for science. Ginger regales us with Prof's solo date with a friend, Cooper and Marilyn take separate dates, and we discuss a wonderful trip to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago, and our experiences within in part one of our two part discussion.

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Ep 37: Gang Bang The Mailbag – Listener Questions on Swinging, Poly & Open

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 23 May 2011 06:39:08 +0000

In our first "Listener Mailbag" episode we answer several questions from voicemail and email, tackling such diverse topics as the hotness of swingers, sexual experience and prowess, how to swing when you have kids, going to swing clubs, male bisexuality, the HIV positive military man swinger, and more.

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Ep 36: Everybody Loves Orgasms – Swingers, Poly, and Open Cumming Together

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 09 May 2011 05:01:39 +0000

While Dylan fills his ass with first a vibrator, then a butt plug, we giggle our way through a discussion of our favorite thing in the whole world, orgasms. We discuss the differences in the many "spot" orgasms (G-Spot, P-Spot C-Spot U-Spot) and what orgasms feel like for us.

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Ep 35: Safer Sex, The Infections Formerly Known as STDs & Swinging – How Swingers & Polyamorists Handle Safer Sex

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 05:01:30 +0000

One of the most concerning topics for anyone looking to get into the swinging or other non-monogamous lifestyles is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, so we invite Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun, a HIV educator, on to discuss the concept of acceptable risk, how we all need to make the decision for ourselves if our lifestyle is worth the risks inherent in it, and ways to minimize our exposure risks.

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Ep 34: Breaking it Down – BDSM In The Swinging Lifestyle

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 04:01:44 +0000

Miss Ami, a full time Domme, returns to The Swingset to discuss how BDSM fits into the swinging and non-monogamous lifestyles, how these worlds collide, and being out as a kinky person. And Dylan's curiosity seems to be moving to full blown obsession.

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Ep 33: Spank My Ass! BDSM, Swinging and You

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 05:45:31 +0000

The Swingset crew invites Miss Ami, a full time Domme to join the discussion about what BDSM stands for, what it means to be Domme/sub, how her lifestyle impacts her life, and why swingers seem to have such difficulty feeling comfortable with those four letters. (Dylan also discovers he might be more interested in exploring this than he thought...)

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Ep 32: Cooper & Marilyn’s Excellent Adventure – Swinging at Desire Resort & Spa

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 05:01:41 +0000

Cooper and Marilyn just got back from Desire, but in between the nonstop playtime and suntanning and hottubbing and drinking and dining, they found time to record a full trip diary detailing their time spent at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun. (Well, they found time to record two out of the three trip reports, the third was recorded, sadly, in cold Chicago.) So here it is, in its entirety, Cooper and Marilyn's Excellent Adventure!

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Ep 31: Sex on the Swingset is Fun – Live From Desire, The Sexiest Place on Earth with Kidder Kaper & Lorax

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 05:59:38 +0000

In Ep 31, the greatest crossover since The Flintstones met The Jetsons happens as Cooper and Marilyn podcast with Kidder Kaper and Lorax from Sex Is Fun live from an outside bed at Desire in sunny Cancun. They discuss what it's like to be in a world populated by sex positive people, what may be the first publicly accepted bi male blowjob at the resort, the sometimes high tension and heightened drama that can result from such, the sexy times that have been had, first full swaps, newbies, and more!

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Ep 30: Love Thyself – Masturbation and Non-Monogamy

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 05:15:53 +0000

In Ep 30, we discuss masturbation, which Woody Allen called "sex with someone I love," and talk about why, in swinging and non-monogamy, we have all the opportunity in the world for sex and we still continue to jack off and jill off (is that a thing?) We discuss discovering masturbation, techniques, toys, and why we love ourselves.

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Ep 29: Porn, Bisexuals, Anal Sex, Opening Up, and Tristan Taormino

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 04 Feb 2011 06:01:28 +0000

In Ep 29, the Swingset tries very hard not to simply gush over their biggest crush, Tristan Taormino, as she joins us for a discussion of the time writing porn, her thoughts on bisexuality in the lifestyle and in film, her book Opening Up, and putting things in hers and other people's asses.

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Ep 28: Sexual Erotic Nutrition and Sex At Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 2)

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 06:01:09 +0000

In Ep 28, the Swingset's interview with Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings, continues. We discuss whether or not there's hope for America's dawning sexuality, tours, future books, swinger parties and more.

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Ep 27: Bonobo Porn and Sex at Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 1)

Life on the Swingset — Thu, 13 Jan 2011 20:55:37 +0000

On Ep 27, the Swingset interviews Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings. We discuss bonobos, a species that sexually is far more similar to us than chimpanzees, and the very porn-like videos of this species enjoying themselves. We postulate that the matriarchal societies described in Sex At Dawn are very reflective of the swinging and polyamorous lifestyles.

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Ep 26: Auld Lang Syne – An Orgy, A Game, An Epiphany, & A Ritual

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 02:10:28 +0000

Episode 26 is a time of reflection for us as The Swingset celebrates the end of its first year of existence. We discuss what we've learned along the way, talk about the orgy Cooper and Marilyn threw for Ginger and the Professor where the crew beta tested a new game from Great Sex Games, Dylan discusses his swinger epiphanies, Shira shares a New Years Eve ritual, and we enjoy each other's company thoroughly. Join us for the last show of 2010!

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Ep 25: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys? – Part 2

Life on the Swingset — Thu, 16 Dec 2010 18:01:49 +0000

The Swingset crew discuss their favorite sex toys of the year and the most unusual sex toys they've ever used in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast.

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Ep 24: Where Do They Get Those Wonderful Sex Toys – Part 1

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 06:01:05 +0000

The Swingset crew discuss their first sex toys and experiences and talk about their favorite sex toys of the year in our Holiday Buying Guide podcast.

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Ep 23: Coming Out With Kendra Holliday

Life on the Swingset — Wed, 24 Nov 2010 06:00:11 +0000

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast: Ep 23, we spend a long evening with our friend Kendra Holliday, who on National Coming Out day, revealed her identity to the world on her website The Beautiful Kind. Over the course of an hour and a half, we talk with Kendra about the time since she came out to the world, the difficulties she's had with her community and her ex husband, and how it feels to be a source of sex positive information in a difficult world. We then move beyond to our own feelings about coming out as swingers, polyamorous, non-monogamous, or even simply sex positive.

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Ep 22: Bisexuality and You – Part 2

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 06:01:19 +0000

In Ep 22, we wrap up our big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy to be its own subclass. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kidder Kaper

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Ep 21: Bisexuality and You – Part 1

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 12 Nov 2010 22:45:38 +0000

In Life on the Swingset, The Podcast, Ep 21, we begin the big discussion about male and female bisexuality, crossing our way into pansexuality and omnisexuality and everything in between. We discuss the journey of the bisexual male, the evolution of acceptance (and hotness) of the bisexual female, the stereotypes and biases against both and the growing need for non-monogamy to be its own subclass.

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Ep 20: The Sexual Costumes and Masks We Wear

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 05:01:56 +0000

In Ep 20, we talk about how, even in open relationships, even as sex positive people, we often hide our true interests, feelings, ideas from playmates and our partner. We discuss why this might be as well as talk about moving beyond it. We also talk about fetishes and role playing. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kidder Kaper Show notes: Check out our review of cum-like Liquid Silk lube!

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Ep 19: Anal Sex & Double Penetration for the Non-Monogamous

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 05:01:32 +0000

In Ep 19, we talk about anal sex and its place in non-monogamy, how it’s often tokenized for significant other play only, the wonders and joys of double penetration, pegging, and male bisexuality. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & Kendra Holliday (Formerly TBK) Show notes: Buy the Nexus Maximus, our favorite dual dildo! Pick up a copy of Tristan Taormino’s wonderful Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women (2nd Edition) Check out Kendra Holliday’s website The Beautiful Kind

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Ep 18: Blurring the Lines Between Polyamory and Swinging – Non Monogamy Cums Together

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 16:30:39 +0000

In Ep 18, we invite two new friends onto the swingset for our discussion of the blurred line between polyamory and swinging. In this discussion we attempt to define the two terms and then break down our own definitions, we expand further with how we relate to friends and lovers. On this show: Cooper, Ginger, Dylan, Shira B.Katz, & TBK Show notes: The best book on swinging, polyamory and open relationships: Opening Up: Tristan Taormino Check out TBK’s website The Beautiful Kind

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Ep 17: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas IV: The Final Chapter

Life on the Swingset — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 04:47:37 +0000

In Ep 17, we bring it around with an all guys show for the final installment of our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. For this episode, the guys, led by Cooper, answer questions put to them by the girls. Up for discussion in this episode: Flirting, sexy clothes, imperfections, lifestyle advice, partner’s enjoyment, pursuit & capture, anal play and more. On this show The Guys: Cooper, Dylan, Professor, Rob, & Barefeatz Check out Barefeatz podcast Lifestyle Life

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Ep 16: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas III

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 18 Sep 2010 16:08:09 +0000

In Ep 16, we switch things up with an all girls show for the back half of our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. For this episode, the girls, led by Ginger, answer questions put to them by the guys. Up for discussion in this episode: “Why doesn’t size matter?” “What do you notice first about men? About women?” “How should we approach you at swing events without being creepy guys?” “How is it different seducing a woman as opposed to a man?” “Guys love watching bi [...]

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Ep 15: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas II

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 11 Sep 2010 16:19:43 +0000

In Ep 15, we continue our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. In the first two parts, the girls and guys answer the same questions and we jump back and forth between them. Up for discussion in this episode: “What are your favorite/least favorite lifestyle moments?” “Can you talk about a time you were jealous?” “What’s a no-play deal breaker?” “What’s the hottest thing you’ve seen your partner do with someone else?” On this show The Girls: Ginger, Sasha, Marilyn, Kylie, & Tonia The Guys: Cooper, [...]

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Ep 14: Guys Have Penises, Girls Have Vaginas I

Life on the Swingset — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 21:50:48 +0000

In Ep 14, we begin our four part Lost Weekendesque bender, separating the girls and the guys and running them through a gauntlet of questions about swinging. In the first two parts, the girls and guys answer the same questions and we jump back and forth between them. Up for discussion in this episode: “When did you first know you were non-monogamous?” “Do you think you could go back to monogamy?” “What’s on your to-do list?” “Full swap/Soft swap? Same room/different rooms?” On this show The Girls: Ginger, Sasha, Marilyn, Kylie, & Tonia The Guys: Cooper, Dylan, Professor, Rob, & [...]

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Ep 13: Threesomes, Foursomes, & Moresomes – Number Dynamics

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 02:38:24 +0000

In Ep 13, we discuss number dynamics in swing environments, from threesomes, to foursomes, to orgies. Sasha extols the virtues of odd numbers and the big pile, and Dylan discusses the house he wants to buy in a swinger friendly neighborhood, his greed knows no bounds, wanting a 10 seater hot tub. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, Ginger, & Kylie

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Ep 12: Under Pressure – Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Pressure For Swingers

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 15:54:58 +0000

In Ep 12 we talk about pressure, and how pressuring encounters can be as swingers. The first half of our show focuses primarily on male pressure to perform and erectile dysfunction, in the back half we talk about pressure to move beyond your comfort zone, pressure to not use protection and many other things, and we’re VERY happy that Sasha has returned to us! On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Ginger

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Ep 11: Bediquette – In Bed With Swingers

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 01 Aug 2010 23:20:26 +0000

In Ep 11, we discuss the ins and outs of bediquette when it comes to bringing other sexy folk into your bedroom for playtime. We also introduce the newest member of the Swingset family, Ginger!

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Ep 10: It’s Naked Time with a Live Nude Cast

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 04:15:25 +0000

In Episode 10 of Life on the Swingset the cast is naked! Not that it matters, because you can't see them. But just think of their sexy naked bodies....This episode is about being naked and all that goes with it, the nervousness and fun, the excitement and panic, the boys say that any size boobs are great, and Sasha bucks the trend and says size does matter with penises.

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Ep 9: Ins and Outs of Swinger Parties

Life on the Swingset — Sun, 04 Jul 2010 20:03:48 +0000

In Episode 9 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss attending a swinger party, Kylie admits her nervousness about them and asks questions, and Sasha proves herself to be a swing party guru and gives her hostessing tips. There’s strapon play, stadium seating and more in this episode. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

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Ep 8: Looking For Fun & Friends on Swinger Websites

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 05:01:11 +0000

In Episode 8 of Life on the Swingset, we discuss three major swinger dating websites, Adult Friend Finder, Swing Lifestyle, and our personal favorite, and Lifestyle Lounge. We discuss how to decide which site is right for you (despite being biased), how to build a profile, start your search, add pictures and have a great time with online swinger dating. Cooper also talks about using amazon.com to buy condoms.

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Ep 7: Swinging Couples, Taking One For The Team, & Erectile Dysfunction

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 05:01:52 +0000

In Episode 7, we discuss the difficulties inherent in finding a four way connection between two couples, how taking one for the team and playing with someone you’re not interested in can do more harm than good, and going on solo dates. Cooper also discusses a magical pill he took at his birthday party. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

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Ep 6: Those Are The Rules – Defining Your Rules as Swingers

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 24 May 2010 05:01:34 +0000

In Episode 6, the team discusses the importance of having rules in the swinging lifestyle, what’s allowed and what isn’t, what needs to be discussed beforehand and what doesn’t. We also talk about what to do when rules are broken, and how to decide you need new rules or have outgrown the old. On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

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Ep 5: Soft Swap VS Full Swap

Life on the Swingset — Mon, 10 May 2010 05:33:05 +0000

In Episode 5, we talk about the two major terms in the swinging community, soft swap (play but no intercourse with the opposite partner) or full (everybody gets laid) and discuss the complexities in defining each, and the pros and cons. Sasha also talks about her new website: pleasure-parties.com On this show: Cooper, Sasha, Dylan, & Kylie

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Ep 4: Compersion VS Jealousy – Swingers Deal With Jealousy

Life on the Swingset — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 14:19:09 +0000

In Episode 4, we discuss compersion, the term that finds you experiencing pleasure because your partner is experiencing pleasure, versus jealousy, a term we all know. The Swingset gang discusses how to overcome jealousy in many situations, all striving for that nirvana called compersion.

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Ep 3: Sad State of Affairs – Swinging in America

Life on the Swingset — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 07:47:49 +0000

In episode 3 we discuss the sad state of affairs American conciousness is at regarding sexuality, from the RNC's new lesbian-bondage-strippergate, to sex ed, to the pros and cons of staying in the closet as swingers, to sex toys, and the fact that everybody's really just jealous.

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Ep 2: Birds of a Feather – Finding Other Swingers

Life on the Swingset — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 17:08:14 +0000

In our second episode, we continue our logistics of getting into the lifestyle with a look at finding friends and admitting to them and yourself that you want to...well...have sex with them. We discuss first dates, where to go and most importantly how to be safe when opening yourself up.

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Ep 1: Dipping a Toe In – How To Start Swinging

Life on the Swingset — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 09:54:13 +0000

In our first podcast we discuss the very beginnings of what to do when you think you may want to have an open relationship. We talk in detail about dealing with that idea yourself and deciding if opening up is right for you. We also deal with the first stages of discussing this with your partner, dealing with the inherent issues, and finding your way to that next step. On this show: Cooper, Tyler, Dylan, & Kylie

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SS Zero: Swinging For Dummies I – Realizing You’re Non-Monogamous

Life on the Swingset — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 07:15:32 +0000

Realizing that our first episode doesn’t deal with the first thoughts about non-monogamy nearly as well as episode 59, released two years later, we thought we’d rejigger the episodes up and add a Swingset Zero episode. On this episode we talk about the moment when we realized we were non-monogamous and how we dealt with that paradigm shift, how it impacted our perception of ourselves, and where we take that. We talk about cheating and deception while trying to be monogamous. We discuss the impact of monogamy on bisexuality, the complexity of polyamory, and how to begin. For further adventures [...]

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