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When it’s time to go out at night and meet others, this is when you can really turn up the volume on your style. And this is when a bisexual person can really shine.

Cooper answers a question from Jenna about how to best get started doing anal play with her boyfriend.

Plenty of swingers like a little slap and tickle. If you’ve ever had a playmate begging to be treated like a slut in the heat of the moment, you’re already one of us. You’ve engaged in what we call “humiliation play.” If you’ve ever enjoyed a slap to the ass while getting fucked, you’ve engaged in pain play. We communicate about this stuff with a depth of understanding which causes us to need a big vocabulary that can seem very intimidating from the outside.

As educated, upwardly mobile, physically fit African-Americans, we’d both dealt with racial insensitivity throughout our lives. As the Lifestyle is generally just a microcosm of society in general, we weren’t necessarily surprised when those same types of experiences carried over to our Lifestyle lives as well.

We live in a digital world filled with handy, on-the-go devices such as personal computers, smart phones and iPads. Because of these devices social media has exploded and given people all over the world an opportunity to meet people they may never have met by conventional means and to explore areas of their lives in the safety of anonymity that they could never explore under the close scrunity of the people they know in the real world.

Polyamorous relationships are notorious for not making it past the three year mark.. and many polyamorous relationships fall much shorter than even that. For a long time, that knowledge was a source of frustration for me. Yet another reason why polyamory is a less ‘valid’ relationship style, right? However, maybe it’s not a bug in the system. Maybe it’s a feature.

Our new writing team explores male bisexuality and does a bit of research on their own into prevailing views on male bisexuality and exploration both in and out of the lifestyle.

With all of the lifestyle parties, social gatherings, monthly girls wine parties and the like, my husband and I occasionally ask ourselves, do we have any normal friends left? Should we seek out more vanilla friends for some sense of balance, or should we just enjoy that we are fully integrated into the lifestyle community and relish the friends that we’ve made here over the years?

I’ve been swinging on and off for years as a single guy. Just over a year ago I met a woman who’s kinky and pretty open minded and into trying BDSM. I hoped that I could draw her into swinging but she’s very reticent about getting started despite her wanting us both to try some bi fun. My best efforts in making her feel secure in our relationship don’t seem to be working as she still struggles with taking that first step. I’m finding it frustrating because I’m missing the lifestyle but don’t want to ruin what we have now.

I have developed friendships with many people in open relationships recently. I have relentlessly pursued them with questions of all sorts in my quest to understand.