Author: The Duchess

The Duchess is a radical feminist, tribe member, and bondage enthusiast living in the greater DC area. She has been some variety of ethically non-monogamous since 2000 including non-monogamy, swinging, solo-poly, hieracrhal poly, triad, poly groups, non-hieracrhal poly, and mono-poly. Since bursting out of the closet, The Duchess has presented at local/regional events, co-founded a monthly educational event/party, and lived in a dungeon. After moving to the DC metro area, she is taking her time exploring the community and finding her people. She lives in a mono-poly D/s relationship with The Monogamist and an open egalitarian relationship with The Mrs. With the free time she can squeeze out of her Google calendar, The Duchess enjoys activism for a variety of causes, making people cry, and spending time with the Tribe <3, her chosen family.

I meet people everyday that thank me for reassuring them that it’s okay to be themselves. I’d say that is the number one compliment I get…”Thank you for being so sex-positive, queer-positive, kink-positive…etc.” My reassurance is not profound or terribly eloquent, but here it is… Go where you are celebrated. Really let that sink in…go where you are celebrated. Our identities – poly, kink, and gender – do not have to be tolerated. They do not have to be endured. They do not have to be suffered through. They are not something we will grow out of or get over.…

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Disclaimer: These days, I don’t do much swinging. It’s probably been over a year but less than two since I’ve had group sex. The other day I was listening to Sex Out Loud with Tristan Taormino and she said, “I’m not monogamous, I’m just lazy.” I would say that’s kind of the place I’m at with the group sex thing. That and one of my partners is called The Monogamist. Side note: if you don’t already listen to that podcast, you should. Seriously, I have no idea how I lived without it. It’s like oxygen. Or a Hitachi. So while…

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I’ll be honest; this blogging thing scares me a bit. Don’t get me wrong…I’m happy to be here. I love Life on the Swingset. I love my life on the swingset. A platform to unpack my thoughts, process, and climb on my soapbox? Sign me up. Well, actually I think my exact words to Cooper and Technogeisha were “I’m very interested.”…lol So I gathered up my Mac, some tunes, and my last Sephora receipt…which for those of you who are just tuning in is clearly where this femme keeps the blogging ideas she brain dumped last week. *crickets* And panic…

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