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On The Wet Coast: Non-monogamous folx Kat Stark and Flick Morrison present a podcast about sexuality and ethical non-monogamy of every variety. We talk polyamory and swinging, monogamish and open relationships; from dirty, dirty sex to heartbreak. We share our personal experiences and philosophy, observations and theories, what works for us...and where we fucked it right up.

The relationships between women in non-monogamy are rarely discussed other than that bisexual babes are hot together. Women have been taught to compete & struggle against even our closest female friends so how can we connect when there are people we love openly together? And how does it work when we’re into each other too? The complicated dynamics that come from sharing partners as well as the grey area that is often present between metamour and partner (something Kat’s come to call metaMORE) are part of we discuss on this episode of On The Wet Coast. We also chat about how…

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One of the exceedingly fun features of non-monogamy can be group sex. Sexy, sweaty bodies writhing in a naked pile can be an outstanding experience, but it’s not without complications. There are different things to take into consideration whether you’re navigating a threesome, foursome, fivesome or six plus orgy. On this episode of On The Wet Coast we’re discussing Group Sex: We get into the nitty gritty & potential feels that may come up in Group Sex situations plus talk about the fun that can be had in Threesomes, Moresomes, and the amazing orgy. Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat…

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One of the exceedingly fun features of non-monogamy can be group sex. Sexy, sweaty bodies writhing in a naked pile can be an outstanding experience, but it’s not without complications. There are different things to take into consideration whether you’re navigating a threesome, foursome, fivesome or six plus orgy. What do you need to think about to have these sexy experiences go as smoothly as possible? What pitfalls can turn a group scene into a disaster? What risk-aware sex practices do you need to have in place? And no, we haven’t forgotten the fun, what kinds of crazy shenanigans can…

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All relationships require communication, but good communication is even more essential in ethically non-monogamous relationships where multiple people’s needs and wants intersect. Each partnership has its own needs & rules for disclosure. How & when to make new information known can be one of the big challenges in non-monogamy, especially when saddled with baggage from monogamous upbringing. On this episode of On The Wet Coast, Kat & Flick talk Disclosure Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts and more Like us on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/OnTheWetCoast/ Email your questions or comments to contact@onthewetcoast.com

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On this episode Kat & Flick are discussing autonomy in non-monogamy. How emphasizing autonomy for yourself and your partners serves your relationships, and the tricky situations and consequences that can come up related to owning your independent self. Even if it doesn’t seem like it, we choose how much we let other people’s needs and wants influence our decision making and how much autonomy we claim for ourselves. Romantic & sexual relationships challenge autonomy regularly and in non-monogamy that challenge can be ever-present. Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts and more Like us…

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On this episode we be discussing Triad relationships with special guest Iris @irisopens on Twitter Flick & I are podcasting from our first triad getaway (sorry about the unavoidable background noise) with our awesome girlfriend Iris and she’s joining us to talk about this unique & challenging non-monogamous relationship style. None of us expected to be in this relationship configuration and it has been a big learning curve. Join us On The Wet Coast to hear how we’re figuring it out as we go. Follow us on twitter @onthewetcoast @wetcoastKat @seriousFLICK Check out www.onthewetcoast.com for blog posts and more Like us…

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Hey Swingsetters, Cooper here – Today we’re running an episode of our new Swingset.FM podcast On The Wet Coast, where I discuss depression and other mental illness with Kat Stark and Serious Flick. If you like what you hear, head over to OnTheWetCoast.com to subscribe. On this episode we’ll be discussing mental illness in non-monogamy with special guest Cooper S Beckett from Life On The Swingset podcast and coopersbeckett.com Those of us in non-monogamous circles spend a unique amount of time relating with others in a very intimate manner. When we let go of the standard social narrative of one partner only…

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On this episode we’ll be discussing mental illness in non-monogamy with special guest Cooper S Beckett from Life On The Swingset podcast and www.coopersbeckett.com Those of us in non-monogamous circles spend a unique amount of time relating with others in a very intimate manner. When we let go of the standard social narrative of one partner only and admit our desire for intimacy with multiple others, we often let go of many of the other social façades in place and talk more honestly and intimately about other issues in our lives.  Issues such as mental illness. Before we start, we’d like to…

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On this episode we’re discussing Stress in ethical non-monogamy. There are so many positive aspects about open relationships but one of the negatives we’ve discovered is how stressful they can be. Everyone knows that jealousy, self-esteem issues, or mismatched levels of feelings can take their toll, especially when find ourselves managing them poorly or tamping them down in denial or shame. But it’s easy to overlook the emotional cost of GOOD stress, like the *excitement* of new experiences, meeting people, and New Relationship Energy. We’re breaking down a number of different sources of stress in non-monogamy as well as some…

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On this episode – originally released on the Gentle Perverts Social Club Podcast Episode 11 on Swingset.fm- we wade into the murky green waters of jealousy. We all know that as non-monogamous perverts, we’re completely above jealousy. It’s 100% full-time compersion up in here! Except we’re not, and it’s not. Jealousy affects all our relationships for so many different reasons. Different people and situations trigger jealousy bombs in sometimes unexpected ways. We’re discussing jealousy in many of its iterations, what it means, what it doesn’t mean, why some people cause you to Hulk out while others might inspire giddy compersion…

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