Our first time at one of the local swinger clubs, my husband Flick and I had been pretty nervous and a little deer-in-headlights about the whole experience. Everyone we’d met had been very nice and respectful, but the whole evening had felt pretty surreal. It had culminated with me blowing him in a quiet corner of the upper gallery while he looked down over the dance floor below, which was really awesome. We decided to go again. This time we were going to meet up with a couple who’d messaged us on facebook and initiated a coffee date. They were…
Author: Kat Stark
Kat Stark
Kat (she/they) is a sex-positive, geeky, Canadian, pansexual, deviant, slutty, feminist pervert who came to ethical non-monogamy 21-years into her relationship with her husband. After a quick toe-dip to test the waters (and hours of obsessive reading and podcast consumption), they dove in and they almost can't imagine they ever lived any other way. Labels never give a totally clear picture, but they consider themselves non-monogamous and polyamorous, though they occasionally swing. She's also a podcaster - On The Wet Coast Podast - and audiobook narrator for Cooper S Beckett's novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching the Swingularity. onthewetcoast.com @WetcoastKat on Twitter. Their first book - Yelling In Pasties: The Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut - is available on Amazon.com, Amazon.ca, Inkterra, and Kobo.
It is probably something unique to those in open relationships that although you have permission from your spouse to fuck other people, they still sometimes get in the way of said fucking of other people. (Hey, sweetie, You might want to skip this entry. We’ve talked about it and resolved it, and everything is cool. I still wanted to blog about the experience.) I recently opened an okcupid profile and, after the flood of messages from straight guys that consisted mostly of variations on the words ‘Hey’ and ‘’sup’, limited it to be seen only by bisexuals, queer, genderqueer, or…