Author: Angelica and Damian

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We are Angelica and Damien, a mature married couple who are equal parts nerdy, artsy, and hip. We are open minded and sex positive and have been exploring the Lifestyle for a year and a half and love the diversity of people we've had the privilege to meet. We're not experts, but enjoy sharing the lessons we've learned and the experiences we've had.

It’s Desire Week at Life on the Swingset, with 150 days and less than 25 rooms remaining for our 2016 Desire Takeover (November 5-12) we’re running Desire episodes of the podcast as well as blogs and articles. If you’d like to join us in Desire this November, head over to SSDesire.com! It’s booking fast! Ms A and I listen to The Life on the Swingset podcast whenever we can. We’ve found it chock full of inspiration and education and it has helped us immensely as we’ve navigated our year and a half journey into the Lifestyle. Though we’ve never met…

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As we write this, we mark the end of the first week home from our most recent trip to Desire Resort and Spa with the Life on the Swingset crew. Family and work obligations have sucked us violently back into our vanilla routines, and the events of that week’s trip are now fading into the warm glow of memory. Not all is lost though, that warmth is thankfully helping us fend off the cold and dreariness of the onrushing Canadian winter. Looking back, we are always amazed at how remarkable our trips to Desire are. They are a combination of…

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“Damien, you are an enigma and I don’t understand you.” – A comment during a performance review, circa 1990. Labels are awesome. Really they are. We use them all the time to simplify our lives and keep us safe. Our ancestors used them with great success. For instance, some animals can be labeled food, others can be labeled eaters of us. We can group labels into meta-labels too, eaters of us can be under the label dangerous things, and dangerous things can be under the label things to run away from. This however, is were we run the risk of getting ourselves into trouble. It is easy to allow…

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If you like games, have access to a large hot tub, and if sexy naked folk, snorts of laughter and groans of disgust, innuendo and double entendre, and stolen kisses all sound like an awesome time to you, please read on. Prior to the latest Life on the Swingset trip to Desire Resort and Spa, and continuing our tradition of bringing our own home-brew social lubricants, we decided to try hosting a game of Cards Against Humanity (CAH). The thing about Desire, is that the hot tub ends up being a social hub. Often the few hours from mid-afternoon until dinner becomes ‘Hot Tub Happy Hour’…

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Angelica and I are shy. When we tell people that they often look at us in disbelief. We just don’t match the socially awkward loner stereotype of the shy person they envision. We are not lacking for confidence, and we interact with others well. Angelica has a wonderful exhibitionist streak (as those who have been privileged to witness her hooping, poi, or burlesque performances can attest). I enjoy teaching and have no problem giving presentations to hundreds of people. In a room full of folks we know, we can be the life of the party. However, while the definition of…

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“So, how did you get into the Lifestyle?” That’s how it always starts doesn’t it? Like superheroes, swingers have their origin stories. It is such a given that asking for it is often the opening line in our small talk (either that or “Aren’t you funSxyCupl4U22Play on Kasidie?”). Some stories are full of adventure, seduction, intrigue, and drama. Others, are stories of awakening and rebirth. Here is ours. We were winding down for the evening a couple of years ago when Angelica nudged me and asked “Damien, what do you think of this?” handing me an issue of More magazine…

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