Not Looking For A Unicorn, I Want A Centaur


Not Looking For A Unicorn, I Want A CentaurYou don’t have to be involved with swinging for very long before you learn the term “Unicorn.” A single, preferably hot, bi-sexual woman. Some say they are named that as they are supposedly uncatchable. Some say they are named that because people think they are rare. They may be less common and they certainly have the advantage of getting in to the clubs for free or cheap but I’ve met several so it appears more likely that the issue is actually one demand greatly outstripping supply in that single guys want them, single girls often want them, and the vast majority of couples want them too.

Mr. Scarlet would love to get his hands on one and have a ffm. Actually he’d probably not stop at just one more female if given the chance. Personally that doesn’t appeal to me at all. It’s not that I have anything against threesomes. I think a mmf sounds great. And even a ffm with a straight chick sounds fine. I’m just not interested in a threesome with a bisexual women.

“Wait, how can that be?” you’re probably wondering if you’ve read my past posts and seen that I in fact do consider myself bi despite whatever fence sitting I may be doing on my profile. The problem is this: what I am into in a woman and what my husband likes are not the same thing. In the Venn Diagram of women personalities what he like and I like are barely overlapping except for a small sliver which would basically involve finding someone just like me.

On the butch-femme scale* which goes from EF (Extreme Femme) to EB (Extreme Butch) I’d rate as HA (Hard Androgyne) or as I used to say, the butchest straight woman you’d know. Mr. Scarlet prefers women of greater than or equal femininity to me. I however, prefer women who are feminine and generally more masculine to me. That is, I prefer butches. The more butch the better.

The problem is that butches tend not to be married to men. This presents quite a quandary since at this point we are not completely open to anything goes and sticking to same room full swapping.

So I have come to the conclusion that I need to find another mythological creature, which I have decided to refer to as a centaur as it has the properties of a unicorn, magical horse and all, and the masculinity that I’m seeking. What I want to find is a female-female couple where one is bi and into Mr. Scarlet and vice versa and one is butch and into me and vice versa. I really have no idea if such a couple exists in the lifetstyle but I’m guessing the prevalence is exceedingly rare.

And even if it was not rare, the various dating sites that I have frequented are not set up to find that type of situation.  Most of the sites are quite heterosexist in that the options given are single female, single male, heterosexual couple.  Apparently even with the prevalence of bi-women in the lifestyle the assumption is still that the natural pairing is male-female like from Noah’s ark or something.

Even SZC, which appears to have the option of signing up as a gay or lesbian couple, does not seem to have any way to filter on that. At least not from what I can see. And Craigslist, that bastion of freaky opportunity has under casual encounters: w4m, m4m, m4w, w4w, t4m, m4t, mw4mw, mw4w, mw4m, w4mw, m4mw, w4ww, m4mm, mm4m, ww4w, ww4m, mm4w, m4ww, w4mm, t4mw, mw4t. But mw4ww is not an option.

So I guess for now, I am left fantasizing about finding a centaur, but I really don’t see it happening. In the meantime, I will have to get my dose of masculine energy from males. Which seems to be working so far. But a girl can dream, right? Here’s to hoping I find a centaur or failing that, a hetero couple with a girl like me.




Ms. Scarlet is a newbie non-monogamist. She lives in a really Red part of fly over country, hence the name Ms. Scarlet. She likes contact sports, massages, rum, fast cars, ice cream, and good oral sex - not necessarily in that order. You can find her discussing the latest sex news and other things on Twitter as @MsScarletBlogs

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  1. So what is Mr. Scarlet’s zone of acceptable men? Mr. Scarlet might have a little bi streak in him, by the way. I didn’t find my bi streak until I was almost 40. Then my life partner and I found another husband who we lived with for a few years until life circumstances sent us apart. We still love him and keep in touch, he is still a dear friend. That, of course, is very different from a three hour three-way, just to check it off your bucket list.

    And remember to tell Mr. Scarlet that it’s not gay if it’s a three-way.

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