P-spot and G-Spot Orgasms – Flipping the Switch


P-spot and G-Spot Orgasms - Flipping the SwitchA lot has been said about g-spot orgasms and gushing orgasms. A lot by me in fact. Specifically, I’ve talked at length about the impressiveness of the gushing orgasm, something that seems to be directly connected to the g-spot orgasm, suddenly being achieved from clitoral stimulation, or even lighter, vaguer stimulation. I always referred to this as flipping a switch, because those women I know who have been able to transition from the gushing orgasm only being an occasional thing directly connected to intense g-spot stimulation (Usually with a brute force g-spot stimulator like the nJoy Eleven or Pure Wand) to a more and more frequent occurrence, not with any direct g-spot stimulation, have told me that they just started doing it. I’ve had a few women lament that once the switch was flipped there was no going back. Shira B once TXT’d me asking how to stop it! I don’t know why I didn’t consider that the same might be true for the type of orgasms achieved from prostate stimulation.

I suppose it’s partly because prostate orgasms are so rare in my experience, and in media, and conversation. They’re also fairly hard to describe. And let’s face it, we orgasming men are lucky enough to have VERY easy to describe orgasms. (Hint: It usually involves ejaculation.) The disparity of descriptions of prostate orgasms, both from givers and havers, is what partly caused me to still debate whether that was even what I had had last year in Desire, courtesy an amazing Blonde. But no, after talking to everybody (perhaps an exaggeration, but I talked to a lot of people) about it, the general consensus is that my tremor inducing, extended sequence was indeed that elusive prostate orgasm.

So a funny thing happened since then. I think the switch was flipped. I’ve had a few minor prostate orgasms since then directly resulting from prostate stimulation, not including ejaculation. These definitely felt the same as that major orgasm last year, but were a bit shorter and lighter. Both resulted in the uncontrolled tremors that only seem to increase in sensation. Both caused me to draw my knees up to my chest. Both caused aftershocks in the period afterwards.

Can I describe it? Not really. An ejaculation has always left me feeling drained. As though Brigadier General Jack D. Ripper’s crazy notions about the depletion of Precious Bodily Fluids was actually true. This was, in fact, what caused me to really work to please my lady first as a policy, because once that orgasm comes, I even find it difficult to focus my eyes occasionally. But these prostate orgasms, I find myself laughing through most of the tremors. Fascinating. Exhilarating.

So the switch?

Well, the tremors started appearing during “traditional” orgasms that include ejaculation. Often just after an orgasm, I’d be able to ride the wave for a good thirty seconds to a minute. Whereas I’m sure many of my male bodied friends out there will agree most of them are a “shoot-sensation-done” affair.

Now Saturday night I experienced something new. After a particularly vigorous play session of mutual oral stimulation (am I the only one who finds those specific words VERY sexy?) I came, a big traditional orgasm, indeed. So I lie down next to the amazing girl who brought me there, and started to shake. The tremors that are occasionally that final wave just lapped and lapped, rising and falling, hitting alternately heavily and softly, on and on. Fifteen minutes perhaps.

Now I’ve wondered about these tremors in the past, because occasionally I feel like I jumpstart them mentally. By just going ahead and shaking on my own, that can kick one out. This has led me to wonder if these were a set of mental gymnastics I was doing in order to convince myself I was feeling something. But then I discarded that thought, because if I can mentally cause an orgasm, does that make it less real? And if I can mentally achieve the sensation of orgasm without the stimulation, is that somehow fake? No. They ALL come from my head anyway. They all come from all of our heads, don’t they?

So, unsure where this leads now. Will the tremor orgasms be a part of all of my orgasms now? They don’t seem to occur when I’m taking care of myself, which might suggest an openness to them in situations. (I’m often just looking to shoot and go to bed when on my own.) All I do know is that a switch has been flipped. I have one very important woman to thank for flipping it the first time, and then all who have flipped it since.

I can’t wait to see how they grow and change.


About Author

About Cooper
Cooper S. Beckett is the co-founder and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast since 2010, author of swinging & polyamory novels A Life Less Monogamous and Approaching The Swingularity, and memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory. He teaches and speaks on swinging, polyamory, pegging, play parties, and coloring outside the boundaries of your sexuality. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino’s radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on two instructional non-fiction books, one about beginning non-monogamy, and another about pegging.

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