Browsing: coming out

One issue that everyone whom engages in alternative or counter-culture lifestyles will eventually have to face and come to terms with is whether or not to be open about their lifestyle, to what level, and to whom. It does not matter if you are gay, bi-sexual, non-monagamous, a fetishist, a swinger, or a polyamorist. These lifestyle choices are against the norm, and there is often a great deal of anxiety involved around the honest expression of our choices.

We continue our discussion with poly activist and organizer Pepper Mint, but first Cooper and Dylan blow a “fight” over the word queer out of proportion. We discuss eroticizing jealousy, Ginger gets hot over the idea of “straddling the line,” Pepper discusses polyamory and gay men. Cooper becomes militant about coming out and rails against the forces of “old and evil.” And of course, we all get silly many times.

The Swingset crew celebrates their 50th episode with reflections of how we can still learn new things in the lifestyle. We wish Shira a happy Swingset Anniversary. Ginger sends Prof to a sexy party SOLO! Dylan and Tonia explore polyamory and talk to their son about non-monogamy. Ginger yerns to come out as non-monogamous, so we discuss the levels of being out and the normalization of non-monogamy.

In a lot of cases with the non-monogamy lifestyle there are a lot of parents that keep that lifestyle away from their kids to the extent that they never let their kids know who they truly are and who they truly love. There are others that keep the lifestyle respectfully away from their children, but don’t hide who they are from them.