Author: Miko Technogeisha

Technogeisha is a sex positive kinkster with an insatiable curiosity. She and her husband spent lots of time hanging with the LA fetish crowd but never truly opened up. That all changed after finding Life on the Swingset. No longer content to be a virtual voyeur, she is actively pursuing the life non-monogamous. Having a passion for research (that apparently borders on fetish) has led her to mine the internet and devour books for information about all aspects of open relationships and sexuality. It’s wonderful to be invited to share that passion with all of you. Technogeisha not only writes but works behind the scenes on the Swingset.

I haven’t blogged much over the past couple of months. Yes, I’ve had articles and reviews but not much about what’s actually going on as we continue to pursue the life non-monogamous. Mostly it’s because it’s been slow going. Work, kids and being suddenly a little light in the pocket change department made it hard to get going in the lifestyle. This is why we decided to head into uncharted territory, the swinger nightclub. Up until this point we were meeting other couples one on one through Kasidie.com. I use the term “other couples” loosely as there wasn’t a deluge…

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In The Crash Pad Series Episode 135 we meet Devon Wipp and Vaughn Trapp. Vaughn arrives at The Crash Pad having just gotten in from the airport. Devon asks if there was trouble with the TSA at the airport. Vaughn receives some sympathy from Devon who would rather show them the Crash Pad.  They end their brief discussion to kiss. They quickly undress while they kiss obviously happy to be in each other’s arms. Moving on quickly, Vaughn gets on top, fingers pushing through Devon’s briefs. Vaughn then straddles Devon while playfully grinding and fingering. Vaughn’s hand goes to Devon’s throat…

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In Episode 134 of The Crash Pad Series we meet Kylie Liddell and Oliver Hyde. Kylie is a ferocious top while Oliver is a petulant bottom. They enter the Crash Pad with Kylie pulling Oliver, who is wearing a ball gag, through the door with an arm around their throat. Kylie pushes Oliver against the door, pulls up their shirt and rips off their top. She then bites and pinches Oliver’s nipples. Kylie knows Oliver is going to get top surgery soon.  She says, “It’s mine and their last hurrah. Might as well take advantage of it.” She is going to…

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I know what you’re thinking, neophilia? Sounds a bit perverse, right? Neophilia is not a fetish, it actually means the love of or enthusiasm for what is new or novel. It’s a concept I discovered recently and I’ve been curious to see if there is a correlation between an attraction to novelty and non-monogamy. I’ve always had an attraction to new things and would tire of certain things if they became too repetitive.  I will find several different ways to drive to a location and often change the route just for fun. I like to try new food and love…

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I love reading erotica and especially love anthologies. A well-crafted novel is always appreciated but there is a distinct pleasure in the quick short read. As editor, Rachel Kramer Bussel puts together some of the best erotic anthologies out there. She is a personal favorite both as editor and as author. Anything For You- Erotica For Kinky Couples is a BDSM smorgasbord. Rather than limiting it to just one branch of kink, as other anthologies have, this book gives you a wide variety to choose from such as spanking, male submission, female submission, voyeurism, bondage, oral sex and more. There…

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I recently realized I needed to look at a whole new aspect of travel, traveling with sex toys. For the first time I found myself with a couple of items I wanted to take on a trip. I wanted to learn the best way to transport these items within the limits of TSA regulations. I know there are others traveling who might want to bring some toys and accessories with them. Whether it’s a sex positive conference, a weekend get away, or even a trip to Desire, I hope sharing these sex toy travel tips with you will help. Let…

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I first experienced Liquid Nitrogen play at The Pink Party at Mission Control the first night of OpenSF. I received an email before the conference telling me that Ned and Maggie Mayhem were going to do a liquid nitrogen demo. I was excited about meeting The Mayhems and wondered how they could make liquid nitrogen sexy. It turned out to be a fascinating example of sensation play. At the demo, Ned filled an extra thick insulated styrofoam cup with the super cold liquid nitrogen, also known as LN2. Fog drifted along its top. Ned poured it over Maggie’s chest. The…

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In Episode 133 of The Crash Pad Series, J-Bird and Lyric Seal have stopped at The Crash Pad before going to a party. Lyric is trying to pick an outfit to wear. J-Bird chats while watching Lyric go through her outfits. J-Bird offers which outfit they like then, somewhat bashfully, also tells Lyric they would like to take them to the party as a date. It’s a bit awkward for Lyric who insists it’s not that they feel weird about J-Bird its they just don’t like the word “date.” Lyric would like to go with J-Bird but wants to considering…

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There are many of you who, like me, are trying to raise children in a society that often is not particularly accepting. Society, books and movies haven’t exactly paved the way to the notion of ethical non-monogamy. We may have opened up our marriage late in the game but we’ve always been open-minded about sexuality and gender roles.  We have been trying to keep the standard narrative driven drivel to a minimum since the birth of our first. It was easier in the early years then the real challenge began in preschool. The other little girls had been fed a…

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Episode 132 in The Crash Pad Series features the incredible Kitty Stryker and the lovely Betty Blac. Kitty and Betty are relaxing after having gone to a play together.  Kitty really liked the play and tells Betty that some people are into dirty talk but she’s into dirty political talk. Betty thanks Kitty for the pretty flowers she brought for her.  Kitty takes a yellow flower and softly strokes Betty with it as she asks her about what her favorite flower is. She runs the soft flower over her cleavage, along the neckline of her dress and over her face…

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