Mr. D and I have been talking about contacting a single guy, but we were afraid to take that step. We certainly had been discussing it during our dirty talk in the bedroom. But in reality? A scary next step for us! Our thoughts were shifting from it not feeling right to being intrigued and realizing it might be a great option for satisfying my growing desires! Plus we hoped that perhaps making a plan with a single guy might offer less drama. No cancelling at the last-minute due to babysitting woes.
We looked through the profiles of local guys on our swinger website of choice. Some were downright frightening. Some appealing. Once we came upon the profile of a guy whom I’ll call Dear John, I felt he was the right choice. To our delight, he was able to meet us the following evening.
I always chuckle as we leave the house for a lifestyle evening. We tell the sitter, “Oh we are going out for drinks with friends. Will be back in about five hours.” Little does she know. I was dressed in my finest, nervous and hoping to impress. Mr. D was in sandals and a t-shirt, joking that he had no need to fully groom himself for a swinger evening.
We met Dear John at a local bar/restaurant. He didn’t have our face pics. Mr. D. said, “We don’t need to share our face pics for him to want to meet us. Let’s stay discreet.” I went and found him outside and brought him in to our table. He was polite, very humble, but also self-assured. He clearly had many experiences in the lifestyle but did not brag.
After a couple of drinks, we agreed to go to a local hotel. We got there first and texted him the room number. He discreetly came up the back stairs. We put on some music and I was delighted at how naturally he came right over and gave me a squeeze and a kiss on the neck as if we were old friends. Well, more than friends I should say. Nothing awkward about it or aggressive, but it was clear he was feeling comfortable, confident, and was going to be an incredibly sweet guy.
I was blown away by how wonderful the experience was with Mr. D and Dear John. I felt like a princess. So much attention and yet I felt so comfortable with this guy that I could just let myself go and enjoy it all. It helped that he had amazing skills. He knew were to lick, where to suck, where to caress. He would take charge, but in the most sensual way. He worked well with Mr. D, even suggesting that Mr. D. fuck me first. Mr. D and Dear John both enjoyed taking photos of the experience. I had so many orgasms my eyes rolled back in my head, and yet when the boys were both finished, I could have gone on for more. In fact, when we returned home I had the fun of corralling Mr. D for some extra action.
I have always thought of single guys as creepy. I have to admit that. And I’m sure many, many are. It never occurred to me that an MFM threesome could also be a total treat for the woman. Pure bliss in fact. We will still keep these nights as special treats for me though, as Mr D needs a pussy to call his own for the evening and I love watching him make a woman moan. But for special nights and for nights when no couples are available, a carefully selected single guy might be just want we want on the menu.
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I adore MFM but have found in the past that sometimes it has it’s own drama. In our case suddenly the other man got posessive, I don’t know if this is common or not. Since then my husband has been very leery about finding another man.
The man you invited into a threesome suddenly got possessive?
Yes, it started out with getting together every now and then to him asking for more and more of my time which I couldn’t and wouldn’t give…he would have preferred one on one … Do you think an ongoing threesome is possible?
I think it’s important to let people know what you’re looking for and what your boundaries are. But yes, this sort of thing is definitely possible.
I have been in an MFM relationship for almost 6 years now. We get together a couple times a week usually and sometimes I stay over and other times I do not. We have even gone camping for a few days a couple of times. A and I have actually have become really great friends going to sporting events working on cars etc. that J sometimes she feels like the third wheel and of course we know to respond before this goes too far. My point is respect A & J, we all have fun together enjoy each others company and have a connection together as well as separate lives.
I suppose that can happen with any encounter in the Lifestyle if it continues for a while. I am interested in calling Dear John back but want to wait a while to make sure this stays casual! We are not interested in emotional baggage with others.
I thInk people who engage in long term threesomes tend to be willing to allow emotional attachments to develop, which I guess is more of a polyamory situation. I have not found many (any?) examples of an extended relationship that stayed purely physical. We struggle with this balance because we are wanting more friendships in the lifestyle but neither Mr D nor I are comfortable with polyamory at this time (I say at this time because other hard lines have changed for us). We have found it hard to play with others more than two or three times without something feeling wrong to one of us. Neither of us has had feelings yet but we lose interest or things just get weird. So we don’t usually. Our main exception are couples that live far away from us who we try to see once a year. But distance keeps that simpler.
Thank you for showing the other side of swingle men – other than clueless. Why you describe is exactly what I aspire to be (and have been for couples in the past). Despite several experiences of different concoctions, MFM remains my all time favorite, by far! I just wish less people in the lifestyle were flaky in general.