Archive for category: Advice

Now I have a question. I recently met a woman and we have really hit it off on alot of levels. We’ve been out on “dates” three times in three weeks and has been great. Well over New Years weekend we spent almost 3 days together and finally slept together. Been a long time for her and for me. It was great except for one thing….she is a squirter. Now let me tell you I have no problem with this normally. It’s not a particular kink of mine but not against it. The volume of fluid was incredible and I had to pull out several times just to let her catch her breath. VERY sensitive and orgasmic. Now this may be some guy’s dream and I have to admit it’s a turn on to see a woman that excited, however it can be almost too slippery and I started to lose sensation. She is awesome and we are very compatible both sexually and as a couple. Kendra, I am a very sexual guy who is open to almost anything but I can see this becoming a distraction. A little goes a long way but alot can get in the way. What are your thoughts?

Cooper here with a question that has actually come up for Marilyn and I in the past. We have been in the lifestyle for several years and are a nonsmoking couple. We have met a very nice couple and enjoyed some fun play time with them but have one issue that we are not sure how to broach-both of these people smoke and while we don’t mind playing with people [...]

Hey, hotties! Ginger here with a perspective on a fellow swinger’s bump in the non-monogamous road with his partner. It certainly isn’t always easy, but here’s to hoping open, honest communication, attentive listening and empathetic understanding gets us back to smoother roads. “Here is my situation: I am a very happily married man that after 12 years, a year ago, talked to my wife about going to a party. She [...]

Hey, sexies…Ginger here. A Swingset reader asks a question about the ever-present scenario of uneven chemistry and attraction. If you are in an open relationship looking for couple lovers long enough, you have encountered this tricky scenario. We’d love to hear from all of you seasoned swingers about how you have handled it. Anyway, my wife and I just started discussing swinging.  We’ve been to two meet and greets…one was [...]

Ginger here, taking on a delicate inquiry about how to begin a dialog with a partner about open relationships. Dave asks: I’m happily married (for 16 years). My wife is great & I’m fortunate to have found her. However, I’ve begun to realize (over the past few/recent years) that I want experiences that I just don’t think we can achieve on our own. Until recently I’ve always felt like I [...]

Hey sexies! Ginger here dying to help out a swinger or two with some advice. Prof and I have been there…and there and there. You get the idea. Here are some thoughts for this hottie swinger looking to let some playfriends down easy. “If you have played with a couple once or twice, but then decided you are not interested in playing with them anymore for whatever reason, how do [...]

Hey everybody, Cooper here, jumping in for Tyler who’s off conquering the world (yet again) this week. He’ll be back next time, but for now, I’m gonna take care of this time’s “Ask A Swinger” question. It has taken me a while to get around to this, but hopefully you might know the answer to an interesting challenge we have. We have been in the lifestyle for a few years [...]

What do you do, when we both want to watch, but no one wants to play with anyone else? Thanks in Advance, and thank you for all your hard work on the podcast.

This weeks question comes from a couple who are hoping their friends are into swinging like they are.

The Swingset received a request for advice the other day, and since I’m not locked in the top secret Swingset toy testing lab all day, I thought I’d use it to launch an advice column.

So bring on the questions! I’ll do my best to answer them and provide any guidance I can. Just note that the advice free, and I really know very little about anything. Email to tyler@lifeontheswingset.com.