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Ginger here, taking on a delicate inquiry about how to begin a dialog with a partner about open relationships. Dave asks: I’m happily married (for 16 years). My wife is great & I’m fortunate to have found her. However, I’ve begun to realize (over the past few/recent years) that I want experiences that I just don’t think we can achieve on our own. Until recently I’ve always felt like I was kinda being “unfaithful”/unappreciative for even having such thoughts. I’ve obviously looked at swinging before; I mean who wouldn’t want to more sex with more people? Then I struck a [...]

Cooper here with a new category. With our Ask Us Anything page up above, we’ve been getting questions that aren’t really appropriate for the Advice Column, so I thought I’d add a new category, just questions and answers from you, the reader. (If you have a question for us, you can use the form at the bottom of the page!) Today’s question comes from Kara: I have a question about soft swap. I get that it is giving oral sex and not vaginal sex. The question I have is when I give the male oral sex, what is expected? I [...]

Hey sexies! Ginger here dying to help out a swinger or two with some advice. Prof and I have been there…and there and there. You get the idea. Here are some thoughts for this hottie swinger looking to let some playfriends down easy. “If you have played with a couple once or twice, but then decided you are not interested in playing with them anymore for whatever reason, how do you let them know without offending them?  There is a couple that we met during our first experience and they are nice people, have lots of great advice and they [...]

Hey everybody, Cooper here, jumping in for Tyler who’s off conquering the world (yet again) this week. He’ll be back next time, but for now, I’m gonna take care of this time’s “Ask A Swinger” question. It has taken me a while to get around to this, but hopefully you might know the answer to an interesting challenge we have. We have been in the lifestyle for a few years now, playing when we can. We have one guy we play with regularly, the others have not been so ongoing. Recently, when discussing this, we identified an issue, which hopefully [...]

(flips two cards over, face down) (picks left card) “#&$*” Ok, looks I drew the “start blog with terrible pun” card. So I’ve been sitting on a review of a couple of very interesting male g-spot massagers. (pause) Mainly because I want to rate these massagers very highly, but at the same time I did not enjoy them. See, I’ve never been a fan of anal, receiving never, giving, done it, but never been a fan. I have nothing against it, it just didn’t seem to do anything for me. However, Cooper’s been trying all sorts of new toys and [...]

But, back to the history of the vibrator…. Once upon a time, many, many eons ago, women didn’t have orgasms; at least society tried to tell them they didn’t. If they did experience any type of pleasure from sexual congress they were told that there was something wrong with them, that they should stop enjoying whatever it was that brought them sexual pleasure since that was a sign of nymphomania or worse mental disorder (only women of ill repute and prostitutes did it…) Thus, women developed strange anxiety disorders that rendered them “neurotic”, and in more extreme cases hysterical, and in need of treatment. Sidenote: the term “hysterical” comes form the Greek “hystera” that means uterus; hysterical women were believed to have a traveling uterus that rendered them incapacitated and susceptible to unmanageable emotional disorders.

What do you do, when we both want to watch, but no one wants to play with anyone else? Thanks in Advance, and thank you for all your hard work on the podcast.

“Can I have your Mom’s phone number?,” is a question that should never, under any circumstances, be uttered at a swinger party. As a part of my costume for a Halloween party I drew up a poster of swinger urban legends. One of the legends, I included was the idea of key parties. For those unfamiliar with the concept, the popular notion of the key party is an adult party where the men throw their car keys into a bowl. At the end of the night the wives pick a random set of keys from the bowl, and proceed to [...]

This weeks question comes from a couple who are hoping their friends are into swinging like they are.

When someone is asking questions about my lifestyle, the one I get most often seems to be, “Isn’t love about commitment?” People can’t seem to fathom loving more than one person and still being committed to each one. First, let’s breakdown the definition from Webster’s Dictionary. a: an act of committing to a charge or trust 2 a: an agreement or pledge to do something in the future; b: something pledged c: the state or an instance of being obligated or emotionally impelled Where here does it say the commitments we carry in life or love have to be singular? [...]