Archive for category: Cooper’s Blog

I’m going through a rather unique period of self discovery here. Swinging launched me through something similar, though not nearly as complex, in discovering a vast amount of new sexual ability and information. Now, the ability and go-ahead to build relationships with other people is re-defining me for myself. I find it fascinating, terrifying, exciting, a host of adjectives that can be applied to the course I’m on in this polyamory thing. Yes, that’s right, I think it’s time to retire the “experiment” and call it what it is. Though I think there would be many a polyamorous person who [...]

How upfront is upfront, and what is just rubbing it in people’s faces? It’s a dilemma I haven’t really faced before. How and when do you go about informing polyamorous partners about other partners. As a swinger, the thing people most want to know is if you play safe. If you take precaution. If you get to know people first. Rarely does the subject of numbers come up. Rarely do you feel compelled to disclose when and how many people you’ve been with recently. Rarely does it come up that you’re going to a sex club or sex party this [...]

I have a pretty active open lifestyle. Not as active as the peak activity time of, say, a year and a half ago, but quite active and satisfying. We have a few couples we see regularly, some singles to see independently, and now…well, this poly experiment, as I begin polyamorous dating. It’s going quite well, in fact. Due to an incredibly lackluster dating life in high school, I suppose I went into the new poly experiment (wherein Marilyn and I can and do date independently, and openly have “relationships”) with that same feeling of, well, apprehension that I approached all [...]

I’ve actually been asked the question a lot lately. The why do a podcast, why do a website question. Why did I start it? Etc. Etc. And there are many factors that contributed, to be sure, but foremost was the fact that, as a writer by nature and a blogger, I realized that my blogging stopped dead when Marilyn and I became swingers. It just ended. Not a card, not a note, just tumbleweeds blowin’ by blog-death. And it sure as hell wasn’t because I no longer had anything to write about. There was oodles. All these new emotions and [...]

I project well. By that I mean that I that I can appear to be something I’m not, to the vast majority of people who know the name Cooper Beckett, in fact. And what aren’t I? Confident.

Non-monogamy and swinging has allowed Marilyn and I to be exposed to a wide variety of sexual interaction that, had we continued upon our plain ole monogamous ways, we might never have seen. Among these things are the vast spectrum that is BDSM, anal play, bisexuality and other wonders of the sexual experience.

So, I made the mistake of announcing on Facebook that we’d booked our flights to Cancun for next February.  (Join Marilyn and I in Desire with the Sex is Fun Group!) And, so quickly that I’m shocked I didn’t realize that this might happen, I got several “where are you staying?”s from friends, family, my father.  Hmmm.  My parents are big believers in vacation, and have been to pretty much ever major resort area in this hemisphere (and many in Europe as well) so the question was not only not a surprise, it was a forehead slapping sonuvabitch! So, to [...]

“What’s on your list?” Sasha asked me. “I’m…um…my list?” “Your todo list, you know, lifestyle todos.” “Oh! I hadn’t really thought about it.” “Well, you should. Tell some nice people your list and they’re gonna want to help you check things off…” She winked. So, I thought, why don’t we, as a swingset, compile a “Master Swingset Todo List?”  I’ll get things started with some of mine and friends, and you guys can submit your own in the comments to help us all go from vanilla to sex god in a few easy checks! We’re gonna be getting graphic, so [...]

I was doing my daily reading over at Eden Cafe and I found an article that immediately caught my attention because I too felt the pain and terror of the “Is it Herpes” bumps! I had a nightmare scare recently myself. I’d been shaving my pubic region regularly for a while, and always got some ingrown hairs and bumps, but these weren’t going away. So I called my friend in Michigan who’s a doctor. “Were you watching House again?”

I’ve received a few emails now since starting my Fleshlight experiment about how to clean up after a session with the Fleshlight and it’s really a lot easier than one might think. Simply remove the Fleshlight from its container, spread it open and run hot water directly through it for a while. Once done running down, flip it over and run water through the other way. Then let it dry completely. (Overnight has tended to do just fine) Soap and alcohol (while advised for use on other toys) can break down the skin of the Fleshlight and will ultimately ruin [...]