Author: Life on the Swingset

Swingset does as Chicago does with a 3-peat dip into the mailbag! We discuss discuss shy male swingers, just starting out in the lifestyle, couples’ jealousy, frustration with people who don’t read online profiles in their entirety, and Christian swingers! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464. Warning: Dylan tells TWO stories, and neither are particularly sexy but both are fairly gripping! Question 1: I’m hoping for some words of wisdom for a guy in the lifestyle who struggles to be…

Welcome back to the Life on the Swingset mailbag where we’re reading listener questions! As always questions are edited for time and cohesion unlike this podcast. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or send us an email at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. Tonight we discuss partnering with a former swinger as a monogamous couple, holding out on ejaculation, coming out as an atheist, and trusting each other in the lifestyle. We also review the Fleshjack Go, we run a giveaway for Cinekink Chicago, and run a giveaway for free audible copy of My…

We’re dipping back into the mailbag for another Life on the Swingset gang bang of your listener voicemails and emails. As always questions are edited for time and cohesion. If you have a question for an upcoming mailbag show, please leave us a voicemail at 573-557-9464 or email us at contact@lifeontheswingset.com. We discuss swinging as a recovering alcoholic, discussing sex with vanilla friends, why men are / aren’t bad at sex in the lifestyle, sexy vacations … with kids?!, waning desire, and whether girl on girl play counts as full swap or soft swap! Plus… PLUS… We enjoy cameos by…

Everybody’s sex drive is different, and it’s likely that everybody who has ever had a sex drive has had assumptions made about it. Swingers, polyamorists, and other non-mono practicioners have had loads of assumptions made about their sex drive. So tonight on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast we’re going to discuss those assumptions, and how the concept of sex drive is often seen through gendered and socio economic lenses. Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are is wonderful. Go get it. Seriously. – Cooper S. Beckett 2015 Buy Cooper’s book My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging &…

Do white rocks in front of a house in the suburbs mean there might be swingers inside? Believe it or not, this is still a question we get, without fail, every month or so. This way of picking out swingers is a part of our history. Then history became legend. Legend became myth. And along with so many ideas about swinging, open relationships, and sexuality, they became part of the rich folklore that has accompanied our favorite past-time. We discuss swinger history and sexual folklore with guest Dr. Jeana Jorgensen. Buy Cooper’s book My Life on the Swingset:…

Recently, our own United States of America had a watershed moment. An injustice so deeply ingrained into what we’ve called society, what we’ve called family, what we’ve called “real and respectable” with one fell swoop, became righted as a matter of not just public policy, but as law. The Supreme Court’s decision on Obergefell v. Hodges granted marriage equality for all persons, and while the rest of the country’s legal structure catches up to the new reality, we’re seeing a vocal minority of polyamorous people… and a surprising amount of popular media address the possibility of multiple partner marriage… Poly…

We all go on dates. Maybe it’s a play date with another sexy couple. Maybe it’s a romantic getaway with a partner we only see every couple months. Maybe it’s a night of taking off your clothes and cleaning someone’s apartment for them while they watch you barely contain your excitement. We all date, and we all eventually have other relationships, people we’re making a life with, other people we’re fucking, maybe a daddy, and while what we’re doing is ultimately our business, we still want to do right by and be right with the people we choose to call…

We’ve all been in situations that we were really… REALLY eager to be in…. then realize in the moment maybe we don’t want to be in this particular situation but you like everyone involved and you don’t want to spoil the mood, and you want to step back gracefully and disengage. We discuss learning how to get a handle on your own emotions both in the moment and after, we relay some of our strategies in communicating lack of enthusiasm for the act without accidentally conveying lack of enthusiasm for the person, and take care of some “business”. Apparently your…

In the wake of both Fetlife and Adult Friend Finder getting their content and naughty secrets scraped and posted online, there has been a renewed discussion about secrecy and privacy in swinging & polyamory. Katie Mack joins us to discuss these topics and think about what it means to be secretive, how it relates to our own private closets and give you suggestions on maintaining your cone of privacy in the modern Internet age. Social networks, dating & swinging sites, privacy v. secrecy, photos, (more) secure payment methods, burner phones and email accounts are all on the table. Here’s a…

We took over #SexTalkTuesday to discuss sexual fuckit lists, answer questions about Risk-Aware Sex, explore the discussion about Bisexual Men in the lifestyle, how we define Orgies, and labels! You can find more at SexTalkTuesday.com! Head over to Reddit.com/r/SwingsetFM to dig deeper into anything we discussed here! [View the story “#SexTalkTuesday with Life on the Swingset!” on Storify] Cooper S Beckett Ginger Bentham Dylan Thomas Technogeisha