GPSC 003: Bisexual Visibility, Pussy Confidence, Cheeseplate Dates, How to Hide a Sex Swing, and Swinger Complicity – The Gentleperverts’ Social Club

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Today we have five opportunities for you to sit down at the social club, relax, listen… and possibly disagree about every damn thing you year, but that’s ok.

We’ll start out with a discussion about Bisexual visibility, what it means to be queer, men losing their agency, and writing rules… because boobs. You can safely assume it’s from mens’ perspectives, specifically, Cooper S. Beckett’s and mine,

We’ll take a journey through pussy shame and into pussy confidence with Michelle Renee,

We’ll enjoy a bit of wine and cheese during a pre-date chat with Ginger and The Professor,

We’ll visit a live Chicago based sex-positive variety show, Menage A Hah, and listen to Cooper tell us How to Hide a Sex Swing,

… and we’ll listen to me draw a line in the sand on swinger complicity.

Discuss anything we talked about at the social club on Reddit at http://redd.it/38nu9l!

Segment 1: Bisexual Visibility, Queer, Men Losing their Agency, and Writing Rules… because boobs.

I remembered a conversation from a while ago with my friend and co-host Cooper Beckett about his choice to strongly identify publicly as bisexual male but not necessarily queer. Those terms not being mutually exclusive, I wanted to dig a little more into where the passion about bisexual visibility came from. We ended up having a pretty open conversation about what we understood queer to be (and what we didn’t understand), how unapproachable and understood it is to most of the rest of the world, and how visibility and normalization in general really moves people.

We ended up exploring why bisexual men are so scary to straight men in the swinging lifestyle and following the thread all the way into men being just as theoretically vulnerable as women are vulnerable every day. We touched on outdated consent protocol at some swinger spaces but recognized that there’s a universal acceptance that everyone is still responsible for protecting everyone in those spaces. We moved into flipping the script and power dynamics in swinging and why even that doesn’t make it all ok.

…then we talk about boobs, and about setting rules to avoid making long term commitments to said boobs without really figuring out whether we… ok I like the person who owns said boobs.

I spoke with Cooper S. Beckett, you can find him on twitter @CooperSBeckett and at lifeontheswingset.com/author/cooper and at a little known sister podcast of ours called Life on the Swingset. He also podcasts about Twin Peaks on A Damn Good Podcast and about Hannibal on Eat the Rudecast.

 

 

Segment 2: Pussy Confidence with Michelle Renee from SexAfterMarriage.org

Lack of pussy confidence used to get in the way of Michelle Renee really letting go and enjoying her experiences, she’s here how to talk about how changing how she looked at her pussy changed her life. Also #vulvashots

You can find Michelle Renee’s writing at SexAfterMarriage.org and on twitter @TheTrojanKitten.

 

 

 

Segment 3: Intellectual Foreplay: Cheeseplate Date Anticipation and Orgy 101 Signals

Ginger and the Professor decide to turn the recorder on while on the way to a multiple couple cheeseplate date and work themselves up about past experiences, future possibilities, and signals between each other and other couples. Mind reading apparently is not social lubricant.

Also, the stand-in for the hot tub as the determining factor in them closing their recording session down is a battery alarm.

Oh ginger… oh The Professor… J

Ginger Bentham is a podcast co-host and a long time writer, both published and virtual. You can find her writing at lifeontheswingset.com/author/ginger and at gingerntheprof.blogspot.com. you can hear her every week on Life on the Swingset at www.lifeontheswingset.com. You can find her and the Professor on Twitter @GingerNTheProf

 

Segment 4: How to Hide a Sex Swing Live at Menage-a-Hah

So a couple months ago a friend of mine asked, “Hey… are you going to the show later this week?” I asked what show and they told me about a monthly sex-positive variety show featuring comedy, song, burlesque, stories, games, and that it was right up my alley. So I went and to my surprise, Coop and the gang were there! I’d stumbled on him telling us about his first prostate orgasm.

Since none of us had a recorder out I rightly scolded him and told him to DO BETTER.

So he did. He stood up in front of that live and very lively audience and the wonderful Mary Zee and Eric Barry to tell us about How to Hide a Sex Swing.

 

Since I already told you where to find Cooper earlier, you can find information on Menage-a-Hah’s upcoming shows at facebook.com/menageahah and at @menageahah on twitter.

 

 

Segment 5: Addressing Swinger Complicity

Every so often I have to grab a soapbox and talk at people. Why? Well… I do a lot of trying to pull people together, showing everyone we all have common ground and that even if we’re building different trails into getting what we all want… they’re all eventually leading to the same camp.

Except for when they don’t.

I address a letter I received regarding an episode of Life on the Swingset I recorded in March immediately after the Religious Freedom Restoration Act passed in Indiana… and I call out myself for not hitting the right balance of acknowledging we all have roles to play in pushing progress… but that silence is very clearly complicity.

You can find me at www.dylanthethomas.com and @dylanthethomas.

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  1. Cooper: yeah, queer = non-normative.

    As far as identity, call yourself whatever you want, as long as we give each other big orgasms.

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