GPSC 002: Consensual Objectification, Kinky Jim, NRE, Navigating Alternative Lifestyles – The Gentleperverts’ Social Club

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Tonight, the social club hosts a discussion on consensual objectification vs. tokenization, a story that left the storyteller wondering, “Is he going to kill me, and is he at least going to get me off first?”, an intimate hot-tub side chat about NRE, Passion, and love for our existing partners and how they aren’t mutually exclusive, and a panel from CatalystCon East about navigating alternative lifestyles.

Head over to Reddit at http://redd.it/34e3wd to discuss topics from this episode!

Segment 1: Consensual Objectification vs. Tokenization

Dirty Lola, Katie Mack, Boris and Dylan got together to explore the dichotomy between consensually objectifying someone and tokenizing / objectifying people when being sexually open. Bro’ing up and bragging about popping that pussy and hunting for a certain color pussy end up being problematic while writing anonymously about our sex lives and prospecting for volunteers to spitroast our wives end up being ok; it’s all about intent, consent, respect and being willing to accept yesses as enthusiastically as accepting nos.

Dirty Lola is SELECTIVELY down to fuck, you can find her at dirtylola69.tumblr.com, on twitter as @DirtyLola, and find her podcast, Sex Ed A-Go-Go here on the Swingset network at swingset.fm/sexedagogo

Boris is a swinger, kinky as hell, an ex-podcast host and a maker of some wonderful custom metal toys. You can find him and his work at facebook.com/BnDStainless

Katie Mack is a blogger, a toy reviewer, co-host of Carnalcopia and an all around wonderful and insightful human being. You can find her on Twitter @ThatKatieMack and find Carnalcopia at www.thecarnalcopia.com and here on the Swingset network at swingset.fm/carnalcopia

 

Segment 2: Is he going to kill me, and is he at least going to get me off first?

Michelle Renee from SexAfterMarriage.org, A Real Woman’s Exploration of Her Sexuality, tells us a story about a date with a stranger she calls Kinky Jim and a first bdsm experience that made her wonder Is he going to kill me, and is he at least going to get me off first?

 

Segment 3: Intellectual Foreplay: NRE, Passion, and our Existing Partners

Ginger Bentham and The Professor sit in their hot tub and discuss NRE and passion for new partners v. passion for your existing partners / your life partners, they aren’t mutually exclusive. Sharing passion for new lovers sparks passion for each other and everyone can take pleasure when one takes pleasure.

Ginger Bentham is a podcast co-host and a long time writer, both published and virtual. You can find her writing at lifeontheswingset.com/author/ginger and at gingerntheprof.blogspot.com. you can hear her every week on Life on the Swingset at www.lifeontheswingset.com. You can find her and the Professor on Twitter @GingerNTheProf

 

Segment 4: Is There a Secret Handshake? Navigating Alternative Lifestyles

Many people are drawn to alternative lifestyles such as BDSM, polyamory, and swinging, because they are seeking to explore a different side of themselves. As part of the learning process, people often feel that it is important to find a community to help educate them on their new lifestyle journey. For some, seeking out a community for education and camaraderie can be the most difficult part of the journey. At times, it may feel as though you have joined a club, but never learned the secret handshake.

In this session, we will share ways to find your place within the alternative community that meshes with your needs and desire. This panel will cover topics ranging from appropriate lifestyle etiquette and finding a community, to negotiation and safety!

Andrea Renae is a sexuality educator and coach working in the kink and polyamory communities. You can find her at www.andrearenae.net and at sexedventures.com on twitter at @theandrearenae. She also works with the Sexuality in Communities Oral History Project based out of Philadelphia which you can find at www.scohp.org.

Rebecca Hiles aka The Frisky Fairy is a sex educator and dating coach out of the DC Region and you can find her everywhere, twitter, tumblr, etc… @TheFriskyFairy. She also has a book, Coming Out Poly, which you can find when it’s out at comingoutpoly.co!

We heard from Dirty Lola earlier but you can still find her on twitter @DirtyLola

You can search Twitter for #cconsecret to see all the awesome audience members’ tweets from the panel!

 

 

I may not have hacked the Gibson over at Life on the Swingset this month, but I did settle on a regular release day: The last Thursday of every month, and a consistent format: Two hours of whatever the hell we all want to hear.

That means everything here is a recording taken from The Gentleperverts’ Social Club’s membership, all of us. You can find more Gentleperverts podcasts every month at www.gentleperverts.com and discuss our latest episodes and topics at reddit.com/r/swingsetfm or on twitter at #GPSC and @GentlePerverts. You can find me, Dylan Thomas, on twitter, FacebookSpotify and Fetlife. If you have a submission, a story, a signal boost request, or an idea for a topic send that to dylan@lifeontheswingset.com.

Thanks for stopping in, come back soon.

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