It Won’t Stop – The Epic Prostate Orgasm


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It Won't Stop - The Epic Prostate OrgasmI’ve been chasing the prostate orgasm for months, perhaps years now, the way many women chase that elusive first g-spot orgasm. And while some assholes may still question the existence of a g-spot, there’s no doubt that the prostate exists. The question is rather can it produce pleasure on its own.

I’d heard tell around the campfire, my friends, about the orgasm without ejaculation, drawn out by prostate stimulation. I was told it could be long, and multiple, and unlike anything I’d ever experienced. Namely short and single. After all our bodies are designed so once the cum shoots out, shop gets closed up, the lights get turned off, and our balls say “You don’t have to go home, but you can’t stay here.”

I think I’d come close, once, with a very special friend who was intent on focusing on me instead of her. She had me feeling all sorts of unique and new sensations before putting her mouth on me to finish the job. That orgasm had an ejaculation, indeed, but the erection didn’t immediately subside. Looked like someone forgot to turn off the lights. The factory was still producing.

This fascinated me, because that never happens. I’m one of those people that, once I cum, the chemicals being produced change my point of view so suddenly that I feel like I never need to have sex again. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt.

Unlike the g-spot, which was elusive to say the least, but fairly common practice amongst the open friends of my social circle, I’d never known anyone who’d actually managed a prostate orgasm. Not only that, most of them seemed not to care.

But I cared. I cared big time.

Much of my definition of sex (which as many of you know I’ve been trying to alter) has been caught up in that white jizzy final expulsion. Since I know (thyself) myself, and that I have that “closed for business entirely” sensibility after an orgasm, I tend to put my partner’s pleasure first almost entirely. Once she has had an orgasm, or many, only then do I allow myself to head in that direction. Because of that, the idea of an orgasm that wouldn’t end things is tremendously appealing.

The problems with chasing such an orgasm are many. It’s a sensitive area indeed. And the prostate orgasm, much like a first g-spot orgasm, requires a lot of time, concentration, and effort to go after. If they exist at all, that is. And Tristan Taormino has assured me they do, as not only has she seen one, but she’s CREATED one. Of course, if Tristan laid those beautiful hands on me………

But I digress.

All this talk about the possibility that they don’t exist is silly, though, isn’t it. Especially now that I’ve had one, anyway.

Oh yes.

Yesterday, on a bed near the rooftop hot tub at Desire Resort and Spa, as I enjoyed demonstrating the nJoy Eleven on a very willing volunteer, I asked if someone might insert my favorite butt plug, handmade by the incredibly talented Boris. A volunteer came forward, a beautiful woman whom I’d shared a lot of eye contact and some kisses with at our speed dating event. I was assured she was a professional (though I wasn’t certain what that meant at the time) and that I shouldn’t worry. As it was a fairly small plug, I wasn’t worried to begin with. I thanked her for her enthusiasm and continued with the nJoy on my lovely playmate.

After insertion, she didn’t step back, she continued to manipulate, pressing the plug, moving it in and out, circling it. Before long I was distracted. Before long after that I could no longer continue with the Eleven. (Which was alright, as my playmate had brought out her LELO Siri and had intoned that she might have had enough of the massive Eleven.) I continued to kneel on top of her as she played with herself, responding compersively to my spasms, that are quite common during anal stimulation.

Before long I could no longer support myself, the distraction was too great, and I asked if she would mind if I flipped over and lie down. She asked if I was doing alright, if it was too much, making contact on my arm and thigh with her hands as she asked. Tremendously comforting. I told her my stock response about safe words, as I’m not into the fake “forced pain” I’m perfectly comfortable with my safe word being “Ouch, ouch, that hurts!”

“But you’ll say that if it hurts?”

“I’ll say it,” I promised.

She became more aggressive, moving her whole body into it, gripping my thigh and my arm at times, putting her hand on my chest to gain leverage, to hold me down, to push the energy right into me.

Somewhere in there, it started.

I’ve always achieved small spasms during prostate play, the kind of spasms you hit as your cock is being played with, those early signposts that you’re going in the right direction. With prostate stim these moments were usually brief but very pleasurable. I found these spasms growing longer and closer together. Becoming full tremors, full body shaking. Bigger and bigger, closer and closer, until the gap between them disappeared.

And here’s where it all gets fuzzy and dreamlike. Once the gap vanished it was like a wave rushing toward shore that wasn’t breaking, and the shore just moved along at the same speed as the wave. On and on the shakiness rolled, spasming, rocking my body, I couldn’t breath, I couldn’t think.

“Shhh, don’t clench,” she whispered to me, running her fingers up and down my very tense legs. My hands were indeed clenched into tight fists. I opened them and put my head back down.

“Just breathe.”

This continued for the better part of an hour. At least I think so. Time lost meaning and I honestly have no idea. I may have been orgasming for decades there, or only a minute. Though I’ve since been assured it was almost fifty minutes from the beginning of the “clearly orgasmic” portion of my time on that bed to the end. When I threw the flag down and tapped out.

I thanked her muchly, and she assured me that I had indeed progressed through many and varied orgasms if my face and body were any indication. As I lie there, basking for just a moment, a curious thing hit me. An aftershock tremor hit, causing me to curl up my knees to my chest. This by itself was surprising enough, but when these tremors continued during the walk back to our room, during the shower before dinner, during getting food from the buffet (to the point where I had to ask a friend to get me a deviled egg because I couldn’t hold the tongs steady) and through on to eating. Only after sitting at dinner for a half hour or so did they finally begin to subside.

A nearly endless orgasm with the vast capacity for more. Without the standard feelings of “kay, I’m done.” A whole new world.

She made me promise to show her how the nJoy Eleven works. I asked her if she’s done any pegging. She admitted she hadn’t had much experience at all with a harness, but was game to experiment.

How thrilling that is. After all, I’m no longer chasing the possibly mythical prostate orgasm. Now I’m just chasing the very real NEXT prostate orgasm.

O happy day!



About Author

Cooper S. Beckett is a relationship coach specializing in non-monogamy, author of  My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory & A Life Less Monogamous, and the co-founder of Life on the Swingset & host of its swinging & polyamory podcast. He speaks and teaches classes on pegging, swinging, polyamory, play parties, and non-monogamy. He is a graphic & web designer, photographer, and voice over artist, has been a guest expert on Dan Savage’s Savage Lovecast, & is the announcer of Tristan Taormino's radio show Sex Out Loud. He is currently working on his next novel: Approaching The Swingularity.


  1. We need to invent a scientific breakthrough to transfer to men the multiple orgasmic gene that women have. We’d be rich! –Who wouldn’t pay, say, $10,000 for a small surgery that would give them the capacity to have multiple orgasms for the rest of their natural lives?

  2. Men have the gene already !
    They are just not interested in prostate orgasm !
    2 inches in and just some continuous stimulation is all they need !!
    Simple !
    All women should give their men both orgasms every session ! as women have the occasional multiple orgasm anyway ! fair is fair !

  3. Whoa. Was really fun reading this! I still wonder how hard that is to achieve one on my own.. Many people hurt their wrist if they do it with Their fingers.. So i guess toys are must have..?

  4. Sigh…..I’m still chasing it….starting to believe its one of those things that only some guys can do it. Charlie Glickman seems to agree. But I’ll keep trying!

  5. Every man is capable of a prostate oragsm. People who know that there is, in reality, no such thing as a g-spot may be assholes, but they are assholes who know what they are taking about. This group of assholes includes every physician, anatomist, biologist and sexologist. All of these scientist roll there eyes when someone starts talking about g-spots. The existence of the fabled g-spot was refuted decades before most lay people even heard the term. The only ones left promoting g-spots are the people making money by encouraging women to waste their time trying to have the g-spot orgasm. Usisally, they end in buying toys gauranteed to make this happen, but they never get the orgasm or their money back.

  6. Are you uncircumcised? My understanding is that only uncircumcised men can experience wave after wave over their body.

    I’m circumcised and prostate O is a HUGE explosion but it is still local (except my body shakes the local explosion down there is so strong and long).

    But never waves. I know uncut men who have waves during intercourse and prostate orgasm but I believe a tight circumcision like mine renders it impossible. After 50 years of trying, the pleasure has never spread from prostate/penis area to anywhere else.

    Sad to say.

    Cut or uncut?

      • Great! I have prostate orgasms (with help of my GF) that typically last a minute – body shaking, waves, explosions. I can’t think – which is different from my boring other-type of orgasms where my mind is focusing and can literally rattle off the alphabet during orgasm!

        For everyone out there: the prostate orgasm is real. It is easily done (I use a Aneros Anal Vibrator – or rather my GF does) and masturbate my penis (sometimes she does but it takes practice).

        Once or twice the TOTALLY AWESOME prostate orgasm lasted more than one minute – maybe several.

        BREATHING: that might be key. I tense up a lot during my prostate orgams. I suppose it is “natural” – my GF tenses and grasps the bed and pushes the head board during her orgasms. But sometimes it is better to avoid “natural.”

        You think the breathing was key?

        The trick is finding that spot in there…sometimes she gets it, sometimes she doesn’t. It is an art, not a science I suppose so I give as many directions as I can early on.

        Any other tips – breathing, relaxing during orgasm, what else?

        PO’s (prostate orgasms) – the best kept secret in sex. Sadly, many men and women are disgusted by it (straight folk). For all the talk about how people can’t talk about female sexuality (and then the media doesn’t stop talking about it)…improving male sexuality is low on people’s agenda. It’s simple, right? Short and to the point, right?

        NO! 🙂

      • Have you experienced that long a prostate orgasm again? Or was it this woman’s technique? Every prostate orgasm is great but such long ones – wow!

        Also, what was the plug you used?


        • That was probably the longest I’ve ever had, but I’ve had ones lasting 20-30 minutes since. Just this past weekend I had one start almost immediately after she put her fingers in me and lasting for the next 20 minutes throughout our sex play.

          • You are a lucky guy. What does she DO exactly? My GF and I are trying but we are still in the short spasms that quickly pass. Then when she goes back to the same place where I went “OMG!” the sensation doesn’t repeat itself. (She is using an anal vibrator). Does the woman have to get real ROUGH? Deeper than 4″? We would both love any tips. It is helping to save our sex life so thank you for your article and feedback!!

          • Oddly it usually hits on her pulling her fingers out. So I think it’s not really thrusting or speed, it’s pressure that’s then released

  7. The Aneros wiki and forum areas are full of great examples of how men can achieve the best orgasms of their lives! I have had my own share of mind-blowing multiple orgasms that go for many minutes to hours if I desire! Achieving the prostate orgasm is a mind and prostate stimulation combination where, using a hands-free Aneros prostate massager, you allow it to stimulate your prostate using only the ability to contract and relax your anal and PC muscle groups! During stimulation, the mind should be focused on the sensations! With patience and practice, the mind learns to focus easier and easier, thus allowing the stimulation to grow beyond even what a traditional male orgasm can provide!

    The male multiple prostate orgasm is a VERY real phenomenon, and worth every bit of effort to attain!


    • “pressure and then release” – that makes sense. When she inserts the toy and then draws it out – wham! short sharp orgasms.

      ” During stimulation, the mind should be focused on the sensations!”

      I am very tightly cut and have to masturbate my penis very hard to keep it going. I know some guys have prostate O’s without any penis arousal but not me. Wish I had some of my frenulum, etc. left to focus on sensations. The sensations in the prostate are fleeting – pleasure at level zero and then a sensation…then gone.

      Circumcision sucks. I have no frenulum – just glans and shaft worn from the years. Prostate is only thing the periah/GOMCO cutters couldn’t cut. So I do the prostate. Not the most intimate sex but we all need a release. I enjoy intercourse but the orgasm feels like nothing.

      • I’m sorry for taking so long to reply, however…because you are sensing the prostate sensations, yes, they are fleeting…in the beginning, but, I can tell you from personal experience, these sensations groW, and grOW, and gROW, and GROW, with time and patience! If you haven’t yet, visit the site, read the WIKI, and visit the forums, and just read, with a very open mind for what others are saying. This is one of the single most significant sexual events in my life…being able to experience SUSTAINED and REPEATABLE prostate orgasms WITHOUT touching my penis! Yes, you read it…without touching my penis! It’s a retraining of the mind and body to accept and amplify the sensations that can be generated by the prostate and surrounding muscles! Like riding a bike…once learned, you’ve got it…FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE! Currently, my superpowers of orgasmic pleasure go with me 24/7, but only happen when I want them to happen! They were, for a while, nearly entirely autonomic…and would happen when I didn’t expect them…but, with time and patience, now we are completely synergized! My journey is on its 4th year, and it’s been amazing! Make the journey! Become the sexually whole man you’ve dreamed of becoming! The deeply fulfilling orgasms and sense of completely satisfying sexual release can be experienced nearly EVERY time you have sex once you train your mind and body to accept and generate prostate pleasure! Contact me if you have questions!

  8. My man will not admit he does this im a woman. He does this all day long but it makes him not want to have sex with me and he cant cum a lot of the time when we have sex. Id be happy to share this with him or be a part of but he is very secretive about this and it is going to end our relationship. Please any advice so welcome. Thank you

    • ENCOURAGE him to end that way after intercourse. That’s what I do with my GF. You both get intimacy and then you get your oral orgasm and he gets his prostate orgasm.

      Is he circumcised? Does he react at all to oral sex? If not, he probably has no frenulum left (or very little).

  9. Cooper, can you point us to more useful tips. I’ve been doing this for 3 years and can’t get beyond a super intense 1 minute orgasm. That woman did something different to you. Don’t know what but if women could do that to men, just like men are doing it for woman a la the Orgasmic Meditation movement:

    Our society is so focused on expanding female orgasms but so little attention paid to male orgasms. Can you even imagine something like the OM movement holding meetings in conference rooms for women to please men and expect nothing in return??!!

  10. been looking up info online about just wtf happened to me last night. it felt like i was throwing up from my groin and urinating at the same pace and volume as a horse. the giant puddle on the bed wasn’t like male ejaculate, but more of a liquid. didn’t smell like pee but i can’t really speculate. the stain on my sheets was like a foot across the second time it happened, and the other ones were smaller.

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